6 Different Styles of Dominance in BDSM

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If you’re new in the world of bdsm hookups, when you hear the word “dominant” you have a specific image in your mind of what it is. And this is entirely normal, considering popular culture focuses heavily on the dominant stereotype. But if you’re just starting to dip your toes into this world, you’ll realize that there are different ways for a dominant to express themselves with their submissive. This is the beauty of the BDSM world; you’re free to express and explore your dominant energy without judgment. Of course, you need to find a submissive who’s connected to the same pleasure as you, but that shouldn’t be too hard.

 

If you’re interested in exploring dominant energy, the good thing is there’s no “right” way to do it. We recommend taking the time to try out different roles, seeing which ones suits you best. So, let’s look at the different styles of dominance in BDSM.

 

The Mentor

A mentor is someone who sees themselves more than just a positive aspect in a submissive’s sexual life. They also find pleasure taking on the role of a teacher in and outside of the bedroom. Of course, mentors make sure they sexually dominate their submissive, but they also take the time to guide them through life. This includes teaching their submissive about exercise, financial management, nutrition, and self-care. The mentor can come in a variety of styles. Whether it’s teacher, Mommy/Daddy or ABDL (Adult Baby/Diaper Lover), they treat their submissive as someone who needs to be nurtured and guided through life.

 

The Sadist

Sadists are technically dominants who receive sexual pleasure from causing pain to their submissive. This pain can be either mental or physical. There are a couple of forms of sadism. For example, laughing sadists are dominants who crack jokes and laugh as they perform on their submissive,whereas sensual sadists are dominants who match pain with pleasure. You also have the classic sadist who doesn’t find pleasure in emotional domination. Instead, they’re focused on the physical actions.

 

The Owner

Some dominants just want it all, and this is where the Owner comes into play. They may feel they encapsulate more than one type of dominant or find that none of these types really suit them. Be that as it may, their main goal as a dominant is to have complete ownership over another individual. This level of control can extend to monitoring their submissive’s diet and exercise. This form of dominance isn’t usually something you start off with; rather, it’s a goal. It requires a lot of communication; if you’re a beginner, this isn’t something you should start off with.

 

The Royal

Well, the title of this dominant is probably a giveaway. To keep it gender inclusive, we named this dominant the Royal. Even though, it’s also commonly known as either “Gentlemen” or “Gentlewoman.” The Royal is a dominant who is well-kept, elegant, and self-controlled. The best example of a Royal would be Dr. Hannibal Lecter. Of course, minus the cannibalism. But if you simply focus on his behavior, the level of self-control and refinement he exudes, he’s a perfect example of a Royal. But, don’t be fooled. Yes, a Royal may be highly controlled and sophisticated, but they’re shockingly intense.

 

Controlled Dominant

A controlled dominant is someone who’s under the control of another dominant or mentor. This usually happens because the controlled dominant is learning a new technique or set of rules. But this only occurs during a scene. It’s not long-term. A junior top is a dominant who’s learning under the guidance of a mentor for a longer period. If you’re a beginner, you’ll most likely be a controlled dominant at one point in time.

 

The Leather Classic

The BDSM world is rich with history. This isn’t something that’s just been developed. Sure, it’s gaining mainstream popularity, but BDSM has been around for a long time. The leather classic dominants are those who are deeply involved in the culture of BDSM. They’re well educated on the rituals and the hanky code. Though this isn’t something you become overnight. In the beginning, if you choose to be a student of a leather classic, you’ll learn the codes of behavior and how traditions are kept. This role is a little more complex than the others as you’re more involved in the traditions and deep culture of BDSM.

 

The beauty of BDSM is there are no set limits as to what type of dominant you can be. There are many more styles of dominance, so if you don’t connect with one from this article, that’s okay. It’ll take some time to figure out what you enjoy, and that’s half of the fun in BDSM.

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The Ultimate Guide to Sensual Domination

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If you’re like most people with a profile on a BDSM dating site, you probably find domination both intimidating and exciting, but when you really think about it, domination doesn’t have to be scary at all. It can be pain-free and pleasurable in more ways than you can possibly imagine if you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to experimenting in the bedroom. If whips and chains don’t do it for you, there is still one form of domination that you can practice to give your man an orgasm to remember without leaving your comfort zone, and that is sensual domination.

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Sensual domination focuses on pleasure and sensation rather than pain and punishment, and you can practice it if you’re interested in introducing some BDSM into your sex life or to break up a more hardcore session with your partner. Although sensual domination is a form of power exchange, it focuses on all the senses for full-blown arousal that ends in toe-curling orgasms.

Keep the Props Simple

In sensual domination, you take charge over your partner by using blindfolds, light bondage gear, ice cubes, fur, lingerie, and costumes. You can use an actual blindfold or you can roll up a t-shirt and put it over your partner’s eyes so he has no idea which part of his body you’re about to touch next. Rolled-up t-shirts can also be used to tie him up to the bedpost or you can invest in fur-lined cuffs to make the scene just a touch more sensual. Put an ice cube in your mouth and rub it against his skin, especially focusing on his nipples and genitals as the most receptive areas. Use fur to create a super soft sensation, and stimulate your man visually by dressing up in the sexiest lingerie or costumes that you can find.

Plan your scene in advance, and have all the items handy. If you plan to use cuffs, have an extra set of keys at hand just to be safe. Speaking of safety, you and your partner should have a safe word in case one of you gets uncomfortable. Using traffic lights or green, yellow, and red to mean ‘go’, ‘caution’, and ‘stop’ is a good idea, even if you don’t think you’ll be stepping into the danger zone where a safe word is required. It’s better to have one and not use it than to need one but not have it.

Pleasing Your Partner Senseless

Essentially, your role as the dominant partner is to use sensual domination and give pleasure to your submissive. You need to figure out what your partner wants and provide that, and you’ll actually discover how powerful and arousing it is to hold someone’s pleasure in your hands. Sensual domination is far more romantic than other forms of BDSM, and it can strengthen the bond between two people. Like other BDSM activities, sensual domination requires you to communicate your desires openly and focus on your partner’s needs, which can lead to a more fulfilling relationship altogether.

If sensual domination alone turns out to be too vanilla for you, you can pair pain and pleasure, and see how your partner reacts. As your partner is nearing an orgasm you can bite or pinch him to up the ante as he’ll have a much higher tolerance to pain. Also, keep in mind you should do some aftercare to remain grounded and check up on your partner to make sure you didn’t misinterpret some of his signals. He may not look physically or emotionally tired but a gentle hug or merely asking him what he thought is a good idea.

Switching Your Roles

When it comes to kink, some people like to stick to their role and always be either on the dominant side of things or on the submissive. Others don’t mind switching their roles and sometimes letting their partners dominate them while at other times they take full control over the situation. Such people are called switches and they know the perks of either side of the sensual domination coin. Switching up your roles can be incredibly exciting if you let your partner surprise you with what he’s come up or if you sneak up on him with a scene you’ve spent weeks planning.

Sensual domination can be a mind-blowing activity if you want to impress your new crush, get into dominance and submission with your long-term partner by using something less intense than full-blown BDSM, or it can be used as a striking power exchange between two people looking to have some fun. Whatever your personal reasons to try it, if you do it right chances are you’ll get your partner addicted to you sexually, plus you’ll never go back to having regular sex again!

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Bondage Hoods and Masks

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Many of the BDSM hoods and masks come with really convenient attachments and accessories. Making them highly effective in bondage play,  There are no limits to the different types of BDSM hoods and masks. From a simple cloth hood that can be made at home to elaborate leather and PVC ones that you can buy from the market. Like everything else in BDSM, individualism is the key. Innovate by yourself to make your play and lifestyle more enjoyable.

 

If you wish to purchase from your local BDSM store Australia, you will generally find BDSM hoods and masks made of three different kinds of materials.

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Hoods with Eye and Mouth Holes: Of all the BDSM hoods and masks, this is one of the most popular. They can completely remove a sub’s identity in a matter of seconds. Turn a human being into an object. To be cherished or to be used.

Ponytail Hood: This is usually a hood with eye and mouth holes. However it also has a hole on the top from where the hair of your sub can be pulled out to make a really beautiful ponytail.

Hoods with no Holes: This is highly popular because it completely deprives the submissive of his or her sense of sight. The sub will not know what is in store for him or her. Another added plus – this also completely gags your sub (quite a relief with some really talkative ones). So there is no chance that she will even be able to protest when you establish control over her. A simple word of caution – not all subs are quite ready for this. When choosing from the range of BDSM hoods and masks available, make sure you choose wisely. One that is right for you and your sub.

Padded Hoods: (Also known as Isolation Hoods): This too is a hood with no holes. And does exactly what a hood with no holes does. But in this case, a padded hood goes one step further. It completely deprives the submissive of sound as well. Which means that she will not be able to either speak or hear what you are doing. It is complete isolation inside her own head. Of course as any Dominant can well imagine what this can do to a sub’s other senses. The significance of even a simple touch becomes so much more.

Straitjacket Hoodie: Essentially this is a straitjacket with a hood attached. Many dominants like to leave face of the submissive open while using this. However if one wishes the hood can easily be pulled down to cover the face and act as a blindfold.

Gimp Mask: Remember Pulp Fiction? Well, who doesn’t? This mask immediately skyrocketed in popularity after this movie was released. The term too came into popular usage because of the movie. Gas Mask: Gas masks were originally used – yes you got it right – in chemical warfare. But somehow along the way they became popular in the BDSM lifestyle. However the gas masks used in BDSM are often modified to suit the needs of the lifestyle and can be used in breathplay, enclosure etc.

Female Mask: The Female Mask completely hides the identity of the wearer and can be used to give a female appearance to the submissive. In recent years great improvements have been made on their design and some of them look quite realistic.

Head Harness: Though technically not a mask or a hood, the head harness can be used as one. Head harnesses often use different kinds of gags – ball gags are popularly used. They not only help objectify the sub but can also perform many practical functions like providing attachment points and gagging.

Strap Mask: A strap mask is somewhere between a harness and a mask. There are many straps to this harness which covers most of the face making it look more like a mask.

 

So when shopping for BDSM Australia hoods and masks, choose judiciously. Remember your personality and tastes and that of your submissive as well. And choose one that is practical and also sets your heart racing.  We trust this information from BDSM Australia helps you in your bondage choices and lifestyle,

Top 6 Nipple Clamp Styles

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Ouch! Might be the first thought you have when you hear the words, nipple and clamp in the same sentence but let me assure you that nipple clamps can bring a whole new level of fun to your sex life and a great addition to any BDSM activity especially if you understand how men and women really feel about nipple play.

Nipple clamps come in sooo many different styles and variations, magnetised clamps held together purely by magnetic force, some that electrify and some that vibrate, some styles joined by chains, attached to collars, some free standing some with decorations, weights, and even jingle bells. Some improvised household items like clothes pegs and chop sticks are popular DIY clamp options. So whether you’re new to clamps of a seasoned veteran there is an Ouch! clamp for you, so here are some styles of clamps from Ouch! A fantastic range of clamps, with lots of choices, they are available here at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres and on our online store Adultsmart.

Adjustable – Alligator Style

These Ouch! Adjustable Clamps are the perfect place to start if you’ve never used clamps before, they are easy to use and adjust with the little screw on the side that you just twist and adjust to as tight or loose as you’d like, they are also quick release unlike some of the other adjustable clamps out there, they are just a pinch away from coming off.

This style is also great for beginners because they have that traditional nipple clamp look your partner should hopefully know what’s up just by looking at them, so they are less intimidating this way.

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Sex Toy: Ouch! Adjustable Nipple Clamps

Pincette – Tweezer Style

The tweezer style clamp Pincette is another easy to use style of clamp but a little fiddlier in my opinion than the alligator styles, the tweezer style is preferable if you enjoy how these look, they are long and slender and very nice to look at. To use this style of clamp you move the little rubber stopper up the tweezers to tighten their grip on the nipple. They are adjustable and include the rubber tips on the end for a less intense style of clamp.

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Sex Toy: Ouch! Pincette Nipple Clamps

Vice – Barrel Style

Barrel style clamps like the Vice clamps are easy to adjust, all you do is twist the barrel to release the pressure the clamps have on the nipple, these are great for the extra weight the barrel part adds to the clamp without technically being weighted clamps and they also look great!

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Helix – Mandible Style

The Ouch! Helix clamps look amazing and a little complex but don’t let their looks put you off, they are easy to adjust at their base with a twisting motion, these style of clamps are something to go for if you’d like something a little more advanced than the standard alligator style. They are deceptively intimidating to look at but not as harsh as they look (because they are still adjustable, unlike the very similar looking clover style nipple clamp, which is considered to be the harshest of them all).

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Sex Toy: Ouch! Helix Nipple Clamps

​Pinch – Clip Style

Now if you’re after something with some bite, something on the harsher end of the scale, try the Pinch clamps, they are not adjustable and therefore clamp super tight. Not for the faint of nipple.

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Sex Toy: Ouch! Pinch Nipple Clamps

Pincers – Non-Adjustable Alligator Style

Shaped just like the Adjustable alligator style clamps these are the extreme version, with no way to adjust them just like the Pinch clamp you’re feeling the full force of its clamping ability.

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All of the Ouch! clamps and chains are made of stainless steel and aluminum and are completely nickel-free for those with allergies.

Before you rush out and buy your very own Ouch! clamps please read these safety tips about using them:

If it’s your first time using clamps try using them in 5-10 minute intervals and no matter how many times you’ve used clamps please never leave them on for longer than 20 minutes this will cut off circulation and can cause permanent nerve damage to the nipple.

Remember the most painful part about using nipple clamps is when you take them off, so be aware of this and careful when using them on yourself or on a partner.

Read the complete guide on nipple stimulation on our blog for some fun tips and tricks.

Author: Erin is a consultant at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Control Your Sex Slave With A Leash

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XR Brands brings us this chain leash from their Tom of Finland series, XR Brands are the people who bring us some amazing lines that you may have heard of including; Master Series, CleanStream, STRICT, Strict Leather, Prostatic Play and of course Tom of Finland, all six of these lines being available here at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres or on Adultsmart our online store.

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About Tom Of Finland

Touko Valio Laaksonen, a Finnish artist known for his stylized highly masculinized homoerotic fetish art, and better known by his pseudonym Tom of Finland produced over 3500 illustrations in his 71 years of life, mostly all of them featuring men wearing tight clothing, fetish gear or little to no clothing at all with exaggerated sexual features.

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Photo: Touko Valio Laaksonen

He has been called the “most influential creator of gay pornographic images” by cultural historian Joseph W. Slade and has had a big impact on gay culture throughout the 20th century and continues to, to this day with the Tom of Finland Foundation and his artwork still inspiring, turning on, reassuring and unifying its viewers.

“Tom of Finland is one of the five most influential artists of the twentieth century. As an artist he was superb, as an influence he was transcendent.”- Harvey S. Shipley Mille

Obviously the Tom of Finland series has a lot to live up to, luckily XR brands have created some wonderful and quality items in their Tom of Finland range including collars, leads, restraints, clamps, insertables and more.

Tom Of Finland Leash Packaging

The Tom of Finland Leash comes in wonderful packaging featuring Touko Valio Laaksonen’s artwork on the box that is metallic and reflective in places, it is so nice you may have the urge to preserve the packing itself like I considered doing but to my delight I discovered that inside as a bonus each product in the Tom of Finland range includes a collectable, exclusive art print with a portion of proceeds going to the Tom of Finland Foundation, dedicated to protecting, preserving, and promoting erotic art.

Tom Of Finland Leash Design

Now for what’s inside the box! The leash is a lovely gun metal grey colour of the chain is beautiful and different to other leashes I’ve seen out there that tend to just come in either black or silver metal, I adore this colour and it really set this leash apart looking incredibly stylish with the black neoprene hand strap that is soft yet sturdily made, there is a silver metal look plastic plate on the handle embossed with the Tom of Finland logo.

 

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Sex Toy: Tom of Finland Leash Material

Neoprene is a synthetic rubber that resists degradation more than natural or other synthetic rubbers and is easy to clean if the need arises just use a warm wet cloth to wipe down the surface of the leash and its handle with water only as neoprene is sensitive to household chemicals and urine, so if golden showers are your thing be careful to not be wearing any of the neoprene range when participating in those activities. Neoprene is also vegan-friendly making the entire Tom of Finland matching collar, leash, ankle and wrist cuff set the perfect choice for those who wish to avoid purchasing or using animal products or if you simply do not like leather or silicone it is a good alternative.

The Tom of Finland gun metal chain leash is 42 inches (106.68cm) in total length, the chain without handle being 30 inches (76.2cm) this is a good length in my opinion for a leash intended for human use, when using my leash I’ve never thought it was too long which can be a pain having excess chain in the way or too short which can cause unwanted tugging on the person who has it attached to their collar being led around.

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My Final Thoughts

This leash is an excellent addition to anyone into or considering collar and leash play, stylish, high quality and with a rich history behind it, you will feel confident and in charge with its bold dark metallic grey glinting as you show off your submissive or as you’re being shown off. Using the Tom Of Finland Leash is an incredible way to introduce dominance and submission into your sexual lifestyle.

Author: Erin is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle CentresSave

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