Turning the Tables – Defining a Switch

When we think about BDSM we have long thought of Dominance and submission but what is Defining a Switch.   More recently we have thought of Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele whether we agree or disagree with E.L James’ portrayal of the kinky genre. Surveys have shown that worldwide over 90% of people have thought more than once about BDSM. But there is an aspect of the kinky rabbit hole that seems to go unnoticed, left in the dark or does not get as much attention, recognition or information.

 

Switching.

 

More often than not, people will often label themselves as Dominant or Submissive. Not all of the time though, they are not 100% on that scale. Let me paint you a crude expression in the form of a picture.

Most people will fluctuate somewhere along this rudimentary scale. There will be Submissives who are more submissive than others, and Dominants who are more overtly dominantly foreboding. It comes down to the same way that no two personalities are going to be the same.

And then there are Switches. Switches are not those who cannot decide, so let us quash that myth right here and now. They are also not greedy and want to both. Another myth that we can dispel. Switches can be submissives and can also be dominants.

But, ultimately, switches like the power exchange, switches enjoy both taking power and humbling themselves to power. And each switch may look different depending on their own dynamic.

SWTICH

When a switch is in a relationship with a dominant, they may take on a role as a submissive. As that person’s submissive. But it does not make them submissive. It makes them that person’s submissive. Not one in general. When a switch is in a dynamic with a submissive, they will assume the role of the dominant and protector, but they will still identify as a switch, not as a dominant.

When a switch is in a dynamic with another switch, they can switch between the power dynamic, taking turns in asserting dominance whether sexually, day to day, financially or however. I once had a friend who explained being a switch sexually as a tug o war that you never knew the winner. Sometimes he would begin as the alpha, tying his partner up, taking the lead, and halfway through she would surprise him, and turn the tables, and she would take the reins, take control and put the moves on him and make him putty in her hand. I would love listening to his exploits, because it wasn’t that he let her. Never let her win, or let her take control. Sometimes, he would try to keep the upper hand, and sometimes he would win, pull the right moves that she would moan and fall under his spell of ecstasy, but not always. That was their dynamic, the power between them. He called it an art form, to perfectly execute a perfect power exchange halfway during play and sex.

Other switches will take turns being “in charge”, sometimes it may involve noone being in charge. During one of my many discussions amongst friends I had someone tell me it all sounded rather exhausting. As I am writing this, I guess that it does sound exhausting but in the heat of the moment, it is as much a part of my personality that it doesn’t require something that needs forethought or added mental strain to need exhaustion.

How do you know if you’re a Switch?

I don’t know if it was gender norms or stories or what that first allured me to the position of fantasising about being the submissive, about wanting to be the one who was dominated, who did what was asked of them. And I liked it, don’t get me wrong, but it didn’t take me long to work out that that wasn’t me. Not all the time. My mother had always told me I would never be happy taking orders from anybody, and in a way she was very very correct. Throughout my sexual awakening I realised I liked to push back, I liked to give as much I received. But just as I realised that I liked to push back and be in charge, I realised that I also like to humble myself, to be subservient to give up control and do as I was told. Other times of course, there were times I loved nothing more than being sassy, defiant and bratty or to go all out with a tug of war of my own and fight fire with fire with a worthy adversary.

Of course, some acts or limits a person may feel more or less switchy/dominant/submissive in. It is a scale. There are also people, who I would never dream of dominating, out of respect but also-they just don’t seem the type. I wouldn’t impose my own lifestyle on them. Consent is everything. You wouldn’t force someone to be submissive to you, or to dominate them when they are not into it.

How to talk to your partner about Switching

Communication is the key with any and all fantasies. Carve out some open and comfortable time to discuss your fantasies, do not bombard or surprise them out of the blue.

Reiterate how attracted and secure you are in your relationship.

Link it to something you have seen in a movie, or a book or porn if you are open about watching those together but ensure that you tailor it to you and your partner “I saw this scene and I was really turned on thinking about you doing this to me”

Explain why it turns you on. “I like the idea of being at your mercy, and you being at mine.” or “I want to try taking it in turns who tops.” or if you can, use the tug o war metaphor.

It could be starting out with who is literally on top during sex, or who picks the position. Use dirty talk, tell each other what you want to do, up the game by using real or verbal restraints, “If you move – I will stop.”

Switching and power exchanges can ebb and flow over time and are open to experimentation. It can be harder to grasp for men than for women as there is often the notion that men must take charge in the bedroom, but that is the glorious thing about sexual exploration, and about switching, or being a switch, it is enjoying both, experimenting with both and being open and present to both sides of the pleasure coin.

At your Service,

Tiffany

OhZone Sales Consultant, Educator and Dedicated Switch.

Beginner Guide to Choose a Pocket Pussy In Male Sex Toys

According to a survey done, the average man frequently masturbates in a time frame of once a week or more times in a week. Another survey showed that the percentage of men who masturbate is between 55% and 78%; that is a significant number.

Masturbation is a very healthy and natural way of releasing stress. Also, when you orgasm, you remove an immune-boosting chemical called Oxytocin. There are so many other positive effects of the feeling of you reaching a climax or ejaculating.

Among the 78% of guys masturbating, 80% use their hands to ensure that they reach climax. What they don’t know is that there is a better and improved way to climax –male sex toys.

Manufacturers have now embraced producing several brands and products as sex toys for men. They are making jerking-off better for you.

If you are new to the world of male sex toys, there is no need to ret because there is a lot of information for you from Sex experts on male sex toys. Here is also a comprehensive guide to you as a beginner on getting yourself a pocket pussy.

What is a Pocket Pussy?

First and foremost, what is a pocket pussy? A pocket pussy is a sex toy for men that comes in various designs, shapes (to fit your needs), size, and a pleasant spot. They are becoming popular over time because of their almost similarity with a real pussy. Their portability and mimicry to the pussy are the reason behind the name pocket pussy.

They are conveniently easy to use. All you need is a lubricant for your penis and an erection. You slowly slide your penis to the gadget and allow the magic to happen. You will be able to reach levels of climax you may not have gotten to with just your hand.

Types of Pocket Pussy

Every man is different. One man craves for one thing while another the other, tastes and preferences differ. Even the shapes and the sizes of penises are different. For this reason, pocket pussy has very different designs.

Materials are different, so spot. Some men prefer complex, others soft spots. Features, to accommodate every man, the quality is varied. It could look like an anus or a pussy. Any way you like it is how you will have it.

Here are some of the divisions of Pocket pussy:

Sleeve Male Masturbater

The sleeve male masturbator is not enclosed. It has an open ending that allows one to cum externally. It is a device that you rub your dick with, instigating a feeling of tightness.

Enclosed Pocket Pussy

The enclosed pocket pussy is closed up at the ending, meaning that you cum in the device. It also brings a tightness and feels like a pussy.

Automatic Pocket Pussy

From the name automatic, you can tell that t is a high-tech sex toy for men. The upside with this sex toy is that you don’t get to do any hard work. You relax and control it.

Vibrating Pocket Pussy

With a vibrating pocket pussy you allow yourself to get an intense sensation. Vibrating pocket pussies come with different vibration patterns which you can choose from and see. Your hand cant vibrate. Sex toys are lifesavers.

Realistic Pocket Pussy

A realistic pocket pussy looks exactly like a real pussy. It could come with hair or without, in a variety of colors and shades. It gives you an original feeling.

 

What to look out for Before Buying a Pocket Pussy

Materials

It is essential to be careful before buying a male sex toy. Some may make you feel intense pleasure like never before, but jelly-like masturbators are dangerous and unhealthy for your penis.

The most dangerous material is one that has jelly. The best materials are; Thermoplastic elastomer, thermoplastic rubber, and of course, the best of all these options is silicone.

Silicone is the best because it is easy to clean and does not form mold and fungal-like the others do when not washed and dried well.

Under materials, one must use a water-based lube. It helps preserve your sex toy

Reviews

Unfortunately, there is no trial and error with a pocket pussy. Once you buy it, you cannot return it if it doesn’t please you.

Research is therefore paramount. You need to have read reviews of other people on websites such as men’s sex toys or from shops such a sohimi. Research on the pocket pussy concerning what kind of simulation gets you ready.

Reviews will tell you of a product that looks good but probably doesn’t feel as good as it seems. You will also be able to see which product is selling more. It is a guarantee that it is giving the pleasure needful.

The best way is to avoid the flashy names and flashy looks. Get to know a sex toy through other people who have used it.

The pocket pussy ought to be durable, tight, with unique internal texture and overall cohesiveness. Again, you do not want to be using a pocket pussy that keeps getting off and loose.

Where to Buy Pocket Pussies

If you are a newbie in the world of men’s sex toys, you might be lost and wondering where to get these devices. The good thing is that there is no shame nowadays in buying these gadgets. What was seen as a taboo a while ago has now been vastly embraced.

With the era of online buying and selling, you can get anything discreetly. You only have to identify a reliable online shop that sells authentic pocket pussies at an affordable price and make your order. Such a shop is like Sohmi, which has competitive prices, and their pocket pussies are high-quality silicone materials.

I bet by now you are ready t get yourself a pocket pussy and rock your world with intense pleasure and as much cum as you can.

Bottom Line

When choosing pocket pussy, many people like to choose the most expensive one right away. In their eyes, the more expensive the better, but do you really think the quality of Zara must be worse than that of Hermès for the clothing? It’s hard to say that it is made of gold thread… In fact, all products that can leave the factory have undergone strict quality certification, so there is no difference in material. The real difference is whether you can make real choice.

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5 Tips: How to Flirt in a Successful Way?

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Flirting is one of the most important skills when it comes to attracting people. Typically, you can see more or less successful attempts of flirting almost everywhere: from movies, through songs, to even public places such as the metro or a bus.

 

As experts from Beyond Ages say – Good, successful flirting can be seen from afar – typically, you can sense the chemistry between people, and observe certain signs of reciprocity. Similarly, bad flirting will give you second-hand embarrassment, and the feeling of sympathy towards one person that is trying to attract the other.

 

Flirting is an art. And as an art, it may get a bit complicated, especially if you don’t have a lot of experience in it. Luckily for you, we decided to reveal the mystery of flirting and show you how to flirt in a successful way in our short guide.

Initiate Physical Contact

By limiting physical distance between you and the person you wish to charm, you will be able to start flirting in the most successful way. But don’t take it too far: an occasional touch on the hand or an arm while laughing will be just enough to make the other person interested. Think of your body as an instrument able to attract the other person.

Keep Eye Contact

You should remember that eye contact is powerful, when it comes to flirting. Keeping eye contact will tell the other person that you’re confident, calm, and collected. You shouldn’t stare, though: keep the eye contact for a few seconds, look away, and then let your eyes come back to the person.

Be Subtle

Flirting is not about openly admitting “Hey, I think you’re hot. Wanna get out of here?” (although in some situations it would probably pass). It’s more about giving the other person signals that you find them attractive.

 

As research conducted by the Social Issues Research Center based in the UK showed, the initial impression is based in 55 percent on appearance and body language, 39 percent on the style of speaking and tone of voice and only about 7 percent on the words said. So, whenever you are meeting someone, you need to pay attention to your nonverbal communication, as it is much more important than the words ydaou utter.

Smile

You should start smiling more if you want people to perceive you as an interesting person that feels good to be around. A true, genuine smile or sincere laugh will make them attracted to you and your positive energy, and leave them wanting more.

 

Smiling makes you look younger, more attractive and full of positive energy. It creates positive vibes that affect the whole room and everyone in it. Also, smiling makes you more approachable and likeable to others – a person is a lot more willing to talk to you if you have a smile on your face than if you have a frown or an emotionless expression.

Be Attentive and Interested

Above anything else, people want to be heard. To flirt in a successful way, you should give them a lot of attention, show true interest in what they’re saying, and engage in their jokes and stories.

 

It doesn’t mean you can’t yourself crack a joke every now and then, but remember not to focus on yourself too much in the conversation. Take a balanced approach of focusing on the other person and yourself if you want your date to be a success!

 

If you’ll feel like the conversation is going to die out, try to keep it going by asking questions in regards of what has been said so far – it will not only give you a chance to learn more about that person, but will also show them that you are genuinely listening to what they are saying.

Always Be Accountable

As much as you want to be successful at flirting, don’t lie. If somebody asks you what you’re up to, don’t tell them you’re at work if you’re out with your friends. A lie has no legs – at one point or another the truth will come out.

 

You have to be smart about how you say things, and do it in a way that gets you the most positive attention possible. As long as you hold yourself to a high moral standard, flirting will come easy.

The Bottom Line

Don’t be so hard on yourself if flirting doesn’t come easy to you. Remember, practice makes perfect. With enough time, flirting will become a natural process for you and you won’t have to think about it at all – it will be second nature.

 

Now that you know some of the best ways to successfully flirt with another person, there’s nothing left for you to do but get out there and start meeting new, exciting people! Don’t stress too much if you don’t find the love of your life right away — people have different tastes, and some couples just simply don’t click. Most importantly, don’t try to pretend someone you’re not, if you want the relationship you are trying to pursue to work out.

Hitting On Women, A Guide

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So we all love going out and trying to find someone, whether that be a romantic partner (or partners, am I right?), or just a cute little one night stand. But with COVID-19 and the constantly growing and evolving of dating apps, we all might be a bit out of touch with how to hit on each other, keep it appropriate, and make sure everyone is comfortable. It can sometimes be a super fine line between having a good flirt and a laugh and being called the harasser of the day in the group chat. I’m going to go through a few “safe bet boundaries” where you can safely bet that it’ll come across creepy if you cross them.

Cat calling:


You’ll get the occasional woman who says they love being cat called and that it let’s them know they look good that day. But I can tell you right now the majority of women purely feel uncomfortable in this situation, it’s not fun to have people yelling at you from a car in any circumstance, but being yelled at purely to be objectified? It’s not gonna get you laid… As much as you think it might the chances are super unlikely. There’s something about men yelling out of a car window at me that just makes my blood boil, and the amount of times I’ve heard them yell out “she’s a bitch bro” after not responding or giving them the finger. Don’t be that guy.

Grabbing a Woman’s Ass:


Look, I really wish this was common sense but the number of times this has happened to me is simply unbelievable. I don’t particularly want to be grabbed anywhere without being asked first… Especially not my ass. This is a certified way to get hit in most regards. It shows a clear lack of respect for the person you’re grabbing, and honestly, I don’t know why people think that they have a right to do this.

Starting Up A Conversation:


This one is all dependant on how you deal with it honestly. If a girl’s busy doing something, probably not the best way to go about it (I’m talking to you: dudes who hit on women in the middle of a gym sesh, just trying to do their job, have headphones on.). If someone looks like they DO NOT want to be interrupted just ignore the urge to chat, you’ll probably not get a great response anyway due to taking them away from what they were doing. However, if you do go for it be mindful to respect their boundaries and take no for an answer if that’s what you’re presented with.  There’s only a few things worse than having a man not take no for an answer, and while you may think it’s cute and showing “persistence” this isn’t a job interview, persistence isn’t always good in the situation… A lot of women I know will start to feel incredibly unsafe in this situation and will not find your persistence charming at all.

AT HER JOB:


I just really want to make sure this gets through everyone’s head… We are there to do our jobs, we are being nice to you because customer service is what we get paid to do, we are not here to flirt with you or be flirted with, unless you have the CLEAREST of signals just let us work in peace, please!  Maybe we sell sex toys but we are not there for you to live out your fantasies on us.

Social Media:


This is all so dependant on how you go about it, for example: hearing someone’s name once while you’re shopping at their place of work and then proceeding to find all of their social media’s, their phone number, and messaging them 3 times, not getting a response, messaging another 4 times, and then messaging over 20 times through other socials and then finally finding their phone number and messaging them via that when you don’t get a response is not the way to go about it. Yes, I am speaking from personal experience here, it just makes us very uncomfy, and even unsafe in our own work place sometimes, it’s not fun or flattering.

I’m not saying don’t ever try to flirt with a woman, but honestly almost any of these methods are going to get you a swift no or a pissed of look. Just learn how to read the room, don’t assume a lady is enjoying the conversation and interaction just because you are, that’s not how it works.

It can be a weird and difficult field to go through, but honestly as long as you’re respectful of women and boundaries it isn’t too much to handle! Best bet, compliments (not about tits and ass), be respectful, be nice, take no for an answer if need be, and just don’t be a dick, plain and simple.

 

Happy flirting!