Top 6 Exercise Tips For Improved Sexual Health

Sexually healthy woman

It is possible for people to improve their sexual athleticism via training. There are exercises that function to develop a solid core, boost stamina and improve flexibility. This allows you to easily co-ordinate flexion as well extension of the hips and spine with the help of glutes, hip flexors, and abdominals and erector muscles. This is why it is important to learn a few tips to guide you to improved sexual health.

The following are some top tips that can help to give your sex life a significant boost:

Kegels

Kegels is a common exercise that both men and women can perform in order to strengthen the pubococcygeus muscle (popularly known as PC). This muscle acts as a hammock to support pelvic organs such as the rectum, reproductive organs and the bladder. Because the PC muscle is responsible for contraction during orgasm, it can tremendously improve the sexual function in women as well as men. In men, it can result in erections that are stronger and longer-lasting. Kegels are beneficial because of their simplicity and you can do them literally anywhere. The aim should always to focus on the PC muscle rather than the other muscles around it. For women, this can be achieved by inserting a finger in the vagina or by using a Kegel exerciser and trying to contract and release all the muscles that are around it. Starting and stopping urine flow is also a good way of achieving this. However, Kegels should not be performed when urinating after the muscle is identified because it weakens it. Hold the contraction for 5 seconds then release for ten repetitions daily.

Strengthen the core

Strengthening the core involves muscles at the pelvis, abdomen, lower back and middle back. All these muscles are essential with regard to sexual positions. This is because they contribute to thrust. Exercises that can be performed to strengthen the core are crunches; the quadruped is an ideal manoeuvre. You can start out on both the knees and hands, the hands should be aligned beneath the shoulders while the knees should be aligned with the hips. Remember to tighten the abdomen and breathe. Proceed to lift as well as straighten the right leg and arm to make them level with the spine. This functions to work the trunk and abs muscles as you attempt to maintain balance. This position should be held for a while, release then alternate with the left leg and right arm. Working on holding it for much longer.

Cardiovascular exercise

All exercise routines should incorporate an aerobic or cardiovascular activity that is performed at a pace that is both moderate and continuous for 20 minutes at a go. It functions to raise the heart rate for long periods while strengthening the body, inclusive of the lungs and heart. If these organs are conditioned, the more the efficient they become. This will increase your sexual endurance. Some simple forms of cardio are cross-country skiing, bicycling, running or speed-walking. Indoors, you can use a stationary bike or a treadmill.

Yoga

Yoga can improve your flexibility; this will provide you with better balance, energy and strength for sex. The cobbler’s pose also known as the baddha konasana can improve sex life through stretching of the groin and hip muscles. There are many sexual performance boosting yoga positions to try out.

Leg strength

Legs that are powerful and strong form the body’s foundation. All types of sexual positions can greatly benefit from good leg strength. Leg exercises target the calves (lower legs), the hamstrings and the quadriceps. Lunges are good because they target all leg muscle groups. It involves putting 1 foot forward from a standing position and lowering your body until the front knee is at an angle of 90 degrees. The back knee should be parallel to the floor.

Lift weights

Weight-lifting is good because it functions to strengthen the bones and exercises all major muscles in the body. Lifting weights has also been associated with increased levels of testosterone that in turn increases sex drive. This exercise will require you to either visit the gym or buy some workout machines like dumbbells. Form is important for weight lifting or you risk getting hurt, start with light weights and work your way up. Lifting weights goes in tandem with eating healthy food.

Other top tips to exercise for improved sexual health are:

  • Flex your hips.
  • Maximize your gluteus.
  • Build upper body strength

Most of the above tips to exercise for improved sexual health can be provided by sports. However, it is good to remember to rest comfortably using a comfortable mattress.

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Image: Womens Sexual Strength

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A First Timer’s Erotic Body To Body Massage

B2B massage

Adultsmart has partnered up with UK’s #1 erotic massage finder Xmassage to talk about the first time experience of receiving a body to body massage. The article will go into detail about what is a body to body massage, why get this type of erotic massage and what you can expect to experience from a body to body massage.

What is a body to body massage?

A body to body massage is an erotic or sensual massage which is also known as a body 2 body massage or a B2B massage. It is a type of full body massage that is often given by professional erotic massage therapists in order to sexually arouse and excite which may lead to the receiver experiencing an orgasm. During a body to body massage both people in the experience are often completely naked at the very beginning and the masseuse will use his or her entire body to massage the most sensitive areas of the receiver.

Why get a body to body massage?

A body to body massage is considered to be one of the bestselling types of erotic massages as it is incredibly sensual, passionate, intimate and hypnotic. Massages are given to both men and women for both physical and mental health benefits. A massage can help keep the skin feeling supple and boosts circulation throughout the entire body. The boost of circulation around the genitals can help the receiver experience greater amounts of pleasure.

During the experience, people often feel like they can leave behind and relieve any stress and pressure from their day to day life which in turn can help aid in sleep. The skin to skin contact can encourage the body to release natural endorphins. The endorphins help a person to feel loved and cared for which will build trust between the two people in the experience. All of these benefits are said to enhance a person’s well-being and can make the receiver feel rejuvenated.

Start off with a soapy massage

The event may begin with a soapy massage where the masseuse will bring the client to a shower and wash their body clean with soap. The shower will relax the client’s body and the warmth will help increase blood flow which may help men to experience stronger, harder and bigger erections. A soapy massage will set the tone of the rest of the erotic experience. If you do not want a soapy massage the masseuse may request that you shower privately before the erotic experience to ensure that everything runs as smoothly as possible.

The room will be soothing and calming

The masseuse may bring their things to their client’s apartment, house, hotel or have a room already setup for the experience to begin. Soft and relaxing music will fill the room for a soothing and calming atmosphere. Candles may fill the room with soft flickering lighting and a gentle scent. The masseuse will bring towels to clean up any of the oil and a massage mattress that can easily be set-up in any room.

Both bodies will be lathered with oil and lotions

The masseuse can put on a personal performance by lathering their body from top to bottom in front of their client or they may allow their client to help them do so. This will be incredibly visually arousing to watch and do. The next step of a body to body massage is to lather the client’s body completely in oil or lotion. The touch will be gentle and soothing as they work their way over their client’s body building up the anticipation for full body contact. Building the experience visually and then through touch can be extremely commanding as it will immerse a person completely in the moment. It will be like bringing to life your very own personal fantasy.

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Image: Body to body massage

The massage oils and lotions used can feel slippery and wet but will be absorbed into the body the more it is massaged, rubbed and touched. The masseuse will rub their body completely against the receiver. The receiver will be able to feel everything from every delicate curve of the body, the softness of the breasts to the hardening of the nipples. The sensations of the masseuse’s thighs, stomach, feet, calves and arms will all bring a different feeling into the experience. The masseuse may also use her hot breathe against the oil or lotion which may have properties that help it heat up. Some massage oils and lotions are flavoured and can be licked off the body. With every moment, the experience becomes more and more exciting as the pace, pressure, strokes and movements change.

For men who receive a body to body massage the masseuse will focus on the male genitals. For women who receive a body to body massage the masseuse will focus on the breasts and female genitals. When the masseuse is ready, they may rub their genitals on top of their customer which may lead to consensual sex.

How to get a body to body massage?

There are many different ways to get an erotic massage. There are physical erotic massage stores or you can find a tantric erotic massage masseuse online. It is important for customers to specify what is included in the experience so that they don’t miss out on something that could completely change the whole outcome. A body to body massage may include mutual masturbation but that depends on what the agreement has been made between the masseuse and the customer. Each experience will be different depending on the masseuse and the customer. To gain the amazing benefits of a body to body massage the recommended time frame is one hour.

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Dr. Stacy, My Husband Won’t Speak About Our Intimacy Issues!

Sexless marriage

This month Adultsmart’s clinical sexologist and certified sex coach Dr. Stacy Friedman has answered three questions which were anonymously sent in to askasexologist@gmail.com. Be sure to read them, who knows she may have answered one of yours!

Question

My relationship with my husband has gone cold.  There is little intimacy and our bedroom is all but dead.  Our kids are now older and our discussions regularly turn into arguments.  I have seen a counselor but when I suggested he see one or we see one together he says we don’t need too.  How do I get him to see that things are not that good and we need help?

Dr. Stacy Friedmans Answer

I am sorry to hear things are not so good on the home front and it’s unfortunate that you don’t seem to have a partner that understands the urgency of the situation.  I try to tell people that if you have a partner asking for help or to get help, it is usually a dire situation that can go downhill fast if not taken care of. If your partner isn’t willing to do anything for the marriage and you have expressed concern and desire to seek help, there isn’t much you can do other than work on personal growth and start weighing your options of what you want for your future, to stay and do nothing or go.  I would ask him why he doesn’t feel that you need to see a counselor, what scares him about going, what does he think is going to happen if  you go as well as what could be the worst and best scenario if he did decide to go.  If he still says he doesn’t want to go then try to have a conversation with him and ask him if he is happy with the way the relationship is and if he says no, see what his suggestions are to work on things.  Maybe if he sees you are open to listening to him, he will make some suggestions that could be helpful.

What about getting away together for a weekend where it is just the two of you and you have an opportunity to connect and talk?  Are you having any intimacy or sex?  If not, ask him if he wants to improve that, see if he thinks that could be better.  If so, you need to try to work on things together to make it happen.  There are many people that don’t believe in therapy or counseling and for some people it doesn’t work because many times they have waited too long and there is no turning back. Sometimes it makes a huge impact and saves a marriage but also, people may be afraid that by going to therapy they may eventually have to make a decision on their future and it is scary so people would rather just ignore and not go.  Find out what his fears are and then find out what his future goals are and if he wants you to be a part of it, he needs to tend to your fears and goals to make the marriage work.

Question

I come from a large immediate and extended family but to my knowledge not one of them is LGBTQIA+ nor do any of them hang out or have friends that are gay or queer.  I am 21 and know in myself that I am homosexual but have not come out.  It is like a big, dirty secret that hangs over my head as I feel that my family will not accept me if I do come out.  A couple of times I have gone out by myself to some gay bar I know about but as soon as anyone approached me I felt revulsion about the whole gay thing and rushed home. It is overwhelming and sometimes I feel incredibly sad and frustrated. What should I do?

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Image: Coming out

Dr. Stacy Friedman’s Answer

It is a completely normal to feel confusion, frustration and potential revulsion because it is something that is still taboo in society and can make you question who you are and what you believe.  Since you aren’t accepting of yourself, you see the disgust that others may see in your own eyes but that isn’t reality.  Loving someone for who they are is a beautiful thing once accepting that within yourself. In order to be comfortable coming out to others, you need to first be comfortable in yourself and the understanding that you are perfect the way you are and that there is nothing wrong with being gay.  You are attracted to whom you are attracted to and that is nothing that you can change.

What makes you think they wouldn’t be accepting of you?  Do they not believe in the LGBTQIA+ population? Have they said things offensive? Are you close to at least one of your parents that you can have a talk with? What about another trusted adult or maybe a therapist near you that can help? I do Skype calls for people that aren’t local and I would be happy to help you get the confidence you need to be who you are, as that is one of my specialties so let me know if you want to make an appointment.  In the meantime, surround yourself with others that are gay, support groups, maybe a local place that has resources.  That way you aren’t in an environment where it may be more “sexual” such as a club so you can get to the point of acceptance and self-love and then be able to move forward.  You need to have support and you shouldn’t have to lie to get it so maybe slowly breach the subject to your family by bringing up someone else in the media to gage what they think about the LGBTQIA+ population and go from there.  I am here of you wanted to make an appointment for extra support.  You shouldn’t have to go through this alone.

Would you like free professional advice from a Clinical Sexologist & Certified Sex Coach? Dr. Stacy Friedman may answer your question for FREE in a featured article on Adultsmart’s Blog! If you would like to send in a question please email askasexologist@gmail.com.

A Beginner’s Guide To Getting An Erotic Massage

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Have you always wanted an erotic massage but have no idea what to expect? Well if you are stressed out at work, dealing with problems at home or struggling to feed your sexual cravings it might be exactly what the doctor ordered. Though it’s sometimes painted with sleazy connotations, the bodywork actually has much more depth than horny middle-aged men getting their fix. In this day in age erotic massage therapy could be a benefit for everyone. And here I am to tell you more…

Massage parlours are everywhere…

If you live in a city centre you probably walk past an adult massage parlour on a daily basis, built up areas are saturated with them! Some salons you may even be familiar with and can’t help but wonder what goes on behind closed doors. Erotic massage is often seen as a taboo subject but I can’t stress more that despite contrary belief it is NOT illegal! The service is popular with businessmen, who often opt for an erotic massage on their lunch break and after work.

They often blend into the surroundings

One of the reasons erotic massage parlours are discreet is to protect their clients. Many maybe married, have kids and are thriving professionals who obviously don’t want to be associated with sexual services. Therefore many erotic massage providers are often masked as ‘Thai massage shops’ or are based in private houses to blend into the surroundings

They destroy any evidence of your booking

Most erotic massage parlours advise you to call to book before your session, but don’t worry about any information being leaked – evidence of your booking is usually erased straight after your session! You can always give a fake name and hide your number if you really want to.

You get the choice of girls

The first time you arrive at the parlour might be nerve-wracking. A delicious mix of masseuses will stand in front of your very eyes waiting to be chosen for your hour of thrill – you’ve probably never felt as overwhelmed!

It’s ok to be nervous

Don’t worry if you’re feeling shy, erotic masseuses are used to first-timers on a daily basis and will do all they can to put you at ease. Some parlours even have a reception where you can sit down and chat to the girls to get a feel for your favourite beforehand. You might even be offered a glass of wine to steady your nerves.

They will adjust your massage to your personal preference

Once you’ve selected your gorgeous therapist you will be shown to the bedroom. Your gorgeous girl will discuss with you beforehand what you want from your session. The beauty of erotic massage is that the style can be moulded to suit your personal preferences, whether you fancy some relaxing romance or something more adventurous.

All erotic massages are performed with the receiver and therapist both naked, but if you’re feeling a little nervous then do inform your masseuse –they’ll be able to undress to the comfort level as the session gradually progresses.

The session starts with a non-sexual full-body massage

The masseuse will place a towel down on the bed and lie you down as she warms your skin with massage oil. Though the purpose of erotic asian tantric massage is to arouse, the massage doesn’t actually start sexual. The masseuse will commence with a full body massage, similar to the soothing strokes derived from the classic style.  She’ll begin to work on your tension built in your neck, back and shoulders which will calm release all the unwanted stress within your muscles. This part of the massage is considered as the starter, there’s plenty more of this sensational feast to come!

Chinese tantric masseuse
Image: Asian Massage Therapist

More sensual strokes will be introduced

As your masseuse gently moves you onto your front from your back she will use what is known as an ‘edging’ technique. To perform ‘edging’ she will start to run her tantalising fingertips from your chest to erogenous zones (sensitive points), getting closer and closer to your manhood each time.  As your toes begin to curl and your body starts to shake she will manoeuvre her soft hands back to the top of your physique. This will send rushes of orgasmic pleasure down your spine and will be repeated until you’re at a point of no return.

The session does include sex

How sexual does the session get? Will I get a happy ending? Does the massage involve sex? These are common questions surrounding erotic massage and the answer depends on which masseuse or parlour you go to. You may-be familiar with the terms ‘happy ending’ and ‘full service massage’ but are maybe unsure what they mean. However, once you’ve had an erotic massage you’ll become accustomed to the services. Erotic happy ending generally means the naked massage with hand relief, while full service is exactly what it says on the tin and is the full she-bang. Not only will the masseuse pleasure you with her hands, she will also introduce oral and penetration as part of your experience.

You should always remain respectful

Although an erotic massage often progresses to being super sexual it’s important you are respectful to your masseuse at all times. French-kissing, pleasuring your therapist and oral without condom are often considered as extra and should be discussed with your therapist at the beginning of your session. They’re usually more than happy to adhere to your requests! Many erotic massage parlours also operate 24 hour hotlines where you can ring and discuss your queries before making your appointment.

Everyone should get an erotic massage..

You may think it’s a little naughty but there are SO many reasons why everyone should get an erotic massage. It can boost your sexual stamina, provides escape from life stresses and unwinds your tired and worn out muscles – it really is a no brainer! There’s guaranteed to be an erotic massage parlour in your area, so why not try a session today?

Adultsmart welcomes Guest Bloggers to submit 800 word articles with original content about topics relating to sexual lifestyle, health and wellness. If you would like to participate, send an email to rick.xsales@gmail.com with your ideas or an article that you wish to submit. If you publish multiple articles on Adultsmart’s Blog you will become an Adultsmart Expert.

Dr. Stacy, Help Me! I’m A Sexless Cuckold Wanting Sex

Man in a chastity device

This month Adultsmart’s clinical sexologist and certified sex coach Dr. Stacy Friedman has answered three questions which were anonymously sent in to askasexologist@gmail.com. Be sure to read them, who knows she may have answered on of yours!

Question

So for the last few years, my wife and I have been in a cuckold relationship that started with my chastity fetish and she escalated it.  A year and a half ago, she decided that I would be sex free besides using my tongue.  I was upset at first but she convinced me it was for the best.  My problem now is that I don’t think I can handle never having sex with her again as I ache for it constantly.  My question is after all this time of being pussy free and her fucking whoever she wants, how can I talk her into letting me have sex again?

Dr. Stacy Friedman’s Answer

For those not aware, a cuckold relationship is one where a man encourages his wife to have sex with other men because it brings him pleasure. The husband’s “victim” role is definitely a major element of the kink. Communication is very important in any relationship, so if something bothers you about your sexual practice it would benefit you to bring it up in a conversation about your needs with your partner.  If she isn’t willing to listen or respect your concerns then you aren’t in a balanced relationship and someone will be settling or continue to feel unsatisfied. When in a cuckold relationship, the person who is the cuckold (meaning you) can feel pleasure by being humiliated and submissive but only if both parties consent to this agreement.  This fetish fantasy doesn’t work when the cuckold is being humiliated against their will and their own needs are not being met.  If your marriage will continue to work without resentment or frustration, your concerns need to be discussed and a compromise found.  If you still want to be in a cuckold relationship then discussing some changes that can help both of you be satisfied can be imperative or unfortunately your marriage may not end well.

Question

I cannot satisfy my wife, as my penis is too small.  I have tried penis pumps but the result did not last.  I tried stretcher too but it was painful and nothing was different after a month.  Is there a way to get a bigger penis?

Dr. Stacy Friedman’s Answer

Unfortunately, you have the size that you were born with unless you try a few things such as what you have mentioned.  The penis pump is not meant to have a lasting effect, it just offers enough help for the time you are being intimate.  If the stretcher is painful then obviously you shouldn’t continue to use it but even if you do use it, you probably won’t get much larger than another inch or so.  Most women appreciate the girth more than the length so it is more filling in their vaginal canal.  You can use a cock ring on your penis which can help keep the blood blow in which can help with some thickness.  Make sure to use lube prior to putting the ring on so you don’t pull your skin.  Also, it isn’t all about the size that makes a woman happy or pleased.  You can learn different techniques that will help increase her satisfaction such as working on oral, using your fingers more by touching in a soft and slow way.  While you are having intercourse you can also help with pleasure by using a toy to stimulate the clit at the same time so it isn’t as focused on the penis size.  There are some adult products such as penis sleeves that are made with silicone or jelly material that can increase some length or girth during intercourse so maybe try some of those.  Make sure to try and communicate with your partner as to what they like and need to feel satisfied and you may be surprised that it doesn’t have as much to do with a larger penis but the way you take your time and focus on foreplay and allowing your partner to enjoy the connection and touch between the two of you.

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Image: NU Sensuelle Remote Control Rechargeable Cock Ring

Question

During oral sex, can sperm be swallowed?

Dr. Stacy Friedman’s Answer

Yes, it is safe to swallow sperm (also called semen). The choice to spit or swallow is a very personal one and there is nothing wrong with either answer. Before you do decide to swallow semen, you should make sure your partner is safe from any sexually transmitted infections so you aren’t taking the chance to transmit any infection to yourself. Semen is mostly water and also contains some amino acids, protein, zinc, calcium, sugars such as glucose and fructose as well as Vitamin C and a few other nutrients. The different diet that someone has will determine the taste or lack of taste that it can have.  The more fruits and vegetables you have, the better or more mild the semen will taste, such as pineapple or fruit juices. Some studies have even shown that semen, when entered through the vagina into the bloodstream is actually considered an anti-depressant so swallow away if you want to feel happier! I don’t know how true that really is but it doesn’t hurt to try.

If you would like to ask Dr. Stacy Friedman anything about sexual lifestyle, health and wellness, be sure to send in your question to askasexologist@gmail.com and she may answer one of your questions in a full length article that will be published anonymously on Adultsmart’s blog.

Would you like free professional advice from a Clinical Sexologist & Certified Sex Coach? Dr. Stacy Friedman may answer your question for FREE in a featured article on Adultsmart’s Blog! If you would like to send in a question please email askasexologist@gmail.com.