Nude Taking For The Self Conscious

Nude Pics

Not always being able to love your body is a hard thing to go through, sometimes seeing photos and having to take a minute to think “is that really what I look like?” before being sad for however long it lasts, not understanding how people look at you and think you’re not hideous. It can really take a toll on your mental health, your self worth, even your social life if it’s really consuming.

Taking nudes and feeling sexy with this kind of mindset can be a really tiring and depressing experience, if the attempts don’t work the way you want it can throw you into an even deeper pit… This is where I’m coming into help, running an OnlyFans has actually helped me to see how sexy and desired my body is, even when I think it’s undeserving of such attention (and I’m quite good at hiding my flaws now, or embracing them, depends on the day!).

 

Know Your Angles

What works for my body won’t work for yours, the same way what works for most insta models won’t work for me. You need to know what flatters your shape, whether that’s squatting down and taking photos of your butt to bring out those curves, or contorting in a way only you can to have that waist absolutely snatched.

My angle is anything whether I’m twisting and turning to show a more defined waist and butt, but some days even that doesn’t work and I need to go back to the drawing bored.

 

Don’t be afraid of your flaws

I remember thinking I needed to have every roll, stretch mark and wrinkle covered when I was younger… WRONG. Your flaws make you sexy, they make you YOU. Believe it or not people really do love all those kinds of “imperfections” it’s such a natural thing to happen to the body and no one is as out of love with them as you are. Chances are whoever is looking won’t even notice, and if they do they will love them.

 

But if you are, hide them!

You don’t need to be in love with those things to still take good nudes. Personally I still have days where I hate my stomach (almost everyday, but I’m working on it lol), but that’s nothing a strategically placed hand/blanket/scarf/ribbon/rope can’t fix.

Draping over your body between your hips and ribs will cover any roundness, rolls, or (in my case) flab that you don’t want seen while still showing a gorgeous silhouette of your figure, rotating your hips jus slightly while standing will create amazing lines through your posing, uncomfortable with your stomach? Take photos from behind, no one needs to know!

Whatever works for you and makes YOU feel best, because while you might be taking these photos for other people it is about how you feel about them first and foremost, you need to feel sexy for that to come through in the shot.

 

If all else fails, dim the lights.

I recently bought strip LEDs and let me tell you, nothing hides flaws better than red lighting on a low setting, you can’t see a single issue, these are a god send.

I usually flip between all the colours just to keep it fresh, but if you find a colour that works for you stick to it, no one’s gonna care that your nudes are all blue/green/red, they’re just going to be excited that you’re nakey on their screens.

 

Get some new outfits and accessories

Buy some new lingerie, get some new toys.

I recently bought the Honey Bunny set from the Play by Fantasy Lingerie line (which comes complete with bunny ears, a tail, cuffs, and a collar with a bowtie, which is ADORABLE), this added to red lights is a stunning combination, swap out the collar that came with the outfit for a Scandal Collar with Leash or The Scandal Wide Tip Crop and you have a range of fun things you can do.

Whatever makes you feel sexy, pull out all the stops, you don’t even have to show full nudity for the pictures to be stunning.

 

Don’t be too hard on yourself

I know I can be the toughest critic for my own photos and in the moment will beat myself to a pulp with criticism, but try to avoid it. Try a few different poses, don’t check the photos in between, just go as many as you can, be positive, feel sexy. If you check them after and don’t like them, do not dwell on it, do not delete them. Give it 5 or 10 minutes, try again, take some more.

If you don’t like them still leave them for a while, sometimes it takes calming down and being out of the moment to really appreciate what you’ve taken, I know if I leave them for an hour and come back I can usually find a few that I like. Probably because the expectation of looking like a bloody model is gone, so I can see myself through regular eyes and actually take in me for me.

 

End on a high note

As long as you have one photo you’re really happy with, you’ve succeeded, sometimes I stop a shoot when I’ve only got one good photo, but it’s strategic.

I know that if I keep going and none of the other photos turn out well I’ll end up finding a reason to hate that one too, making all that work go to waste, sometimes you decide to quit while you’re ahead and that’s completely fine! If you know you’re having a day where you can’t handle too many bad photos, stop the second you find a good one, however, if you really like that photo and think you can snap a couple more similar and be happy with them keep going.

 

Learning to love your body for all of it’s features is a hard journey, it can be draining, tiring, and down right heart breaking some days, but we can get there in the end… Even if it’s just 5 out of 7 days (or 3 out of 300 photos) it’s better than 0 and it gets easier over time. Remember that you are a magnificent creation to be loved and adored, by others, but most importantly by yourself.

 

Now get out there and take some nakey photos.

Consent – There Are No Blurred Lines!

Sexual Conent

What does this word consent mean?

And look like anyway?

 

So let’s break this down, waaaaaay down. You’ve probably heard about consent by now. It is becoming a bigger part of our society so it’s time we added some easy to understand information about it for you.

 

Consent is actively (and hopefully enthusiastically) agreeing to any sexual activity with someone.

 

Not agreeing, or being forced to participate unwillingly in any sexual activity (including oral, penetrative, phone, photo sharing, sexting, groping/genital touching and verbal) is sexual assault and/or rape.

 

Pretty serious right?

 

Planned Parenthood describes consent as easy as FRIES

 

Freely given – it cannot be coerced

Reversible – you can change your mind anytime

Informed – you need the full story

Enthusiastic – only do what you’re excited about, not what you’re expected to

Specific- yes to one thing does not mean yes to everything.

 

You can always change your mind during any sexal act if you start to feel uncomfortable. You can even ask to slow down. The big ticket is communication. Make sure that you are comfortable enough to speak your mind with whoever you are being intimate with. If you don’t feel comfortable it might be an indication that you should wait. Go slow. Take your time. Check in with yourself frequently.

 

Now we’ve looked at ourselves and consent, time to look at the people we are with. We are not mind readers, and sometimes people don’t speak their minds, we get it, so it is very important to take everything into consideration in the heat of the moment even when you are super excited. What is their body language like? Are they leaning closer or leaning away? Are they hesitant? Are they excited? Check in with your partner? Ask them if they like this or that? Ask them if you can kiss them here, or touch them there. Remove this piece of clothing. If they say yes, green light. Do it. If they say no, stop. Ask them if they are ok. If they pause, slow down, check in, see if you need to slow down or stop altogether. They might just need to catch their breath. But you won’t know unless you ask. Communication is the key.

 

Consent violation is more and more pressing and recognised in society and comes in many forms. For years the topic of clothing and how a person dresses has been portrayed in news and headlines as “asking for it.” BBC’s Quickies portrays it quite well that what we wear does equal skiing for anything. We see one of the actors barging into a conference room, dressed professionally and saying “i’m here for my promotion. Clearly I’m asking for it.” or another dressed for vacation and leaving work stating that they didn’t need to clear it with HR because, I mean, look at what she was wearing. Her intent was clear. Wasn’t it? The clip sends a resounding message that what we wear is not consent. It’s a no.

 

 

Over time, many have felt the need to be silent about their consent being violated. But this is not the case. It is important to confide in people you are close to, and if it is a serious offence, to contact the local authorities to ensure that this behaviour does not continue.

 

Violating Consent can look like:

  • Refusing to acknowledge “no”

  • Assuming that wearing certain clothes, flirting, or kissing is an invitation for anything more

  • Someone being under the legal age of consent, as defined by the law

  • Someone being incapacitated because of drugs or alcohol

  • Pressuring someone into sexual activity by using fear or intimidation

  • Assuming you have permission to engage in a sexual act because you’ve done it in the past

#Thisdoesntmeanyes

World famous photographer Perou started the campaign #Thisdoesntmeanyes, photographing 120 women in london at random to outline the rape culture that was happening in London. Their website could not be more accurate when it comes to consent:

A SHORT SKIRT IS NOT A YES.

A RED LIP IS NOT A YES.

A WINK IS NOT A YES.

A SLOW DANCE IS NOT A YES.

A WALK HOME IS NOT A YES.

A DRINK BACK AT MINE IS NOT A YES.

A KISS ON THE SOFA IS NOT A YES.

WHAT I WEAR AND HOW I BEHAVE ARE NOT INVITATIONS.

THERE’S A MYTH THAT SURROUNDS WOMEN, A MYTH THAT EMBROILS THEM:

WOMEN WHO DRESS OR BEHAVE SUGGESTIVELY,

WOMEN WHO ARE PLAYFUL OR WHO ACT PROVOCATIVELY,

WOMEN WHO FLIRT OR OPENLY DISCUSS SEX – THEY’RE ‘ASKING FOR IT’.

IT’S AN INSIDIOUS FABLE, AND IT NEEDS TO STOP.

EVERY WOMAN HAS A RIGHT TO FREEDOM OF EXPRESSION.

NO WOMAN DESERVES TO BE RAPED FOR IT.

NO ONE SHOULD BE ABLE TO BLAME RAPE ON A SHORT SKIRT.

A SHORT SKIRT CAN’T TALK – A SHORT SKIRT CAN’T SAY ‘YES’.

THE ONLY YES SHOULD BE AN ACTIVE AND EMBODIED ‘YES!’

 

But it is not only Women. Consent is important regardless of gender, sexuality and diversity. Too often we disregard a no and even degrade the importance of such topics because men have been seen to “handle it”. Not only is it important to be respectful of ALL consent. It is important to remember that many people have also been taken advantage of saying that consent has been violated when in fact it wasn’t the case. So now in society not only are there Consent Violators, there are also False Stories of Consent. Both can gravely hurt and injure a person’s psyche, mentality, self esteem and trust.

 

So How can we tackle consent?

The above video is a brilliant representation of thinking of consent like offering a person a cup of tea. That you can’t force a person to drink tea if they say no. You cannot get an unconscious person to drink tea. A person can say yes, and then choose not to drink the tea once it arrives.

 

We can talk about consent. Make it normal and break the stigma around keeping silent. If someone discloses a moment when they were uncomfortable or their consent was compromised or broken, listen attentively and supportively. Sympathise and ask if there is anything you can do to help them, or get them in touch with someone who could help. Please try not to be dismissive when someone is visibly hurt or upset by something that has happened to them.

 

We can teach consent, constantly and consistently with everyone. Everyone benefits from talking about consent. The more we talk about our own experiences of asking consent in situations, the more we will all learn different ways to practice asking consent. And it can be sexy.

 

Consent Examples everyone can try:

 “Can I touch your arm.”

“Can I kiss you?”

“Can I take off your shirt?”

“Can I hold your phone to look at that picture?”

“I would love to hold you closer, is that ok?”

“Would you like to try anal play?

“Want to see some pictures of me naked?”

“Is this ok?”

“Does my ***** feel nice?”

 

Consent can be sexy and inviting when you use your imagination, when you’re enthusiastic and when you’re respectful.

 

At your Service,

 

Tiffany

OhZone Adult Shop Sales Assistant, Educator and Consent Advocate.

6 Couples Sex Toys Which Will Transform Your Love Life

toy sex

So the time has come where you have decided to step things up in the bedroom, whether it is to heighten your own personal pleasures or you and your partner want to explore your sexual connection through trying out some new things. Many couples find themselves at a point where the idea of introducing sex toys and accessories is somewhat intimidating however; we have put a sensual list of sex toys together to help you feel more comfortable and get excited for the surge of intriguing pleasures that come with adding a little spice into your love life.

Evolving in the bedroom is an exciting commitment which can boost your own understanding of how you would like to receive or experience pleasure as well as opening up an adventurous side to your relationship. So let’s get saucy with this list of six couples toys which will transform your love life and bedroom into a boudoir of heightened arousal and sensual connection.

1: GOOD VIBRATIONS

 

The stimulating sensation of a vibrator and introducing it into the bedroom can certainly spice up your sexual experiences; whether you are focusing on yourself or bringing it into your relationship. It is recommended to start small when introducing sex toys into your boudoir therefore opting for a sleek and sensual bullet vibrator or perhaps even a vibrating cock ring for your male partner; you are bound to experience heightened external and even internal climaxes. The vibrator is designed to stimulate the clitoris and with so many various types on the market, from the design to the materials they are made from; it is best to do some research and see what you and your partner feel comfortable with and what types of vibrators will intrigue you both the most. Remember, this is all in the name of experimenting and exploring one another so there is no need to shy away from what could potentially bring you both closer in pleasure.

2: ALL ABOUT THE DOWN UNDER

 

For those who enjoy oral sex but tend to have limited experiences in the bedroom due to a partner not being quite comfortable with the idea or perhaps not entirely experienced enough to pleasure you down under; then looking into the oral sex stimulators and simulators is an exciting new avenue to embark on in the bedroom. With almost any sex toy imaginable on the market, it is no wonder that now you can find a toy that helps simulate the experience of oral sex whilst keeping within the boundaries of your partner. Although the real deal will always be the best deal, especially as it is all about connecting and exploring your partner and their sexual desires, there is no harm in finding alternatives that work for you both. Oral sex is always better with a partner but at least going down under can be a pleasurable solo experience too.

3: WET ‘N WILD

 

So you and your partner have booked a weekend getaway and of course, you booked the lodge with a private hot tub. There is something so sensual about getting sexy in water, whether in a swimming pool or Jacuzzi but if you have already been there you will know that sometimes the water can actually limit the experience and how it feels. Adding silicone into saucy mix will not only keep you wet where it counts most but it will certainly keep you and your partner going for longer. As silicone lube is hypoallergenic, using it will provide a silky smooth application, perfectly suited for those who tend to be a bit more sensitive at the naughty bits.

4: A SEXUAL BOND(AGE)

 

So you might have heard the term bondage or perhaps BDSM, which for beginners, can be somewhat intimidating. This is why we recommend starting out with a light tough and a little restrain. Grab yourself and your partner a funky or sexy leather pair of hand cuffs and experiment with tying one another up. Most handcuffs are adjustable, so you can pick and choose how tight you may want it or feel comfortable with. This is a great way to push one another boundaries, tease and tantalize your way to a climax whilst strengthening your bond, so to speak.

5: GETTING UP, CLOSE AND COMFY

 

Up until this point, some of you might have already tried out one of the sex toys we have recommended or perhaps you are not quite there in the relationship to introduce vibrators and cock rings. Why not try out a little interior decorating with a twist in the bedroom by bringing in a sexy chair or couch. If you are not quite sure how to go about choosing the right chair or perhaps you are interested in finding out a bit more of the various types and how they can be used to spice up your love life, then see these reviews for some of the top rated chairs and couches. You can use them to encourage different sex positions, experience other forms of climaxes as you maneuver your body around and on some sensual furniture.

6: FUN FROM BEHIND

For the couples who have reached ultimate comfort levels with one another or who are keen to push their boundaries to the backdoor; getting up close and personal with anal sex is a great way to take your love life and sexual relationship to the next level. There are a variety of anal sex toys available for personal desire or for couples who want to add a bit of vibrating thrill to their anal pleasures. From beginner or entry level prostate massaging vibrators to the more advanced anal plugs or beads. Find out what works for your comfort level and of course, what feels good because at the end of the day; exploring can only lead to new discoveries.

 

Some of the above mentioned sex toys can seem a bit out of your comfort zone or perhaps you are intrigued but you are not sure how to get your partner on board. Why not start with a little research, just like reading this article, and get yourself excited first. See what tickles your fancy, consider what yours and your partners’ comfort levels are and engage in an open discussion about how you both are ready to take your love life and transform it into the fantasy you’ve both desired.

These Feet Were Made For Loving

Kinky Feet

Do you or your partner have a foot fetish? Having a foot fetish is more common than you may think. Most of us have fetishes that we would like to express. One of the most common fetishes is a foot fetish. There are numerous reasons why a man or a woman may have a fetish. Here are a few interesting facts about foot fetishes. Carry on reading to find out what is so special about feet.

Is It Okay To Have A Foot Fetish?

Yes, it is perfectly okay to have a foot fetish. It is perhaps the most common fetish. Playing with the feet is a concept that has been around for thousands of years. The ancient Romans did it, so why should we not do it?

Playing with the feet is an intense erotic experience for some. For others, it is just a pleasurable experience. Many of our most essential nerve path ways end in the feet. When stimulated in the right sort of way, our feet can bring us enormous pleasure.

That is not the only reason people get turned on by feet. Others simply like the look of feet. Eventually that can trigger a foot fetish.

A foot fetish is not something that is likely to go away. Once you have it, it will be with you for the rest of your life.

Does A Foot Fetish Always Involve Sex?

That is the funny thing about foot fetishes. They do not always lead to you having to act them out as part of a sexual scenario. Some men and women can control their foot fetishes. Regular pedicures may be enough for some while others may just need that little bit.

How Do You Tell Your Partner You Have A Foot Fetish?

That could be the tricky bit. Women are not normally turned off by foot fetishes unless they have a thing about not touching the feet. But, if a man’s foot fetish involves vaginal or anal sex, women may put the brakes on.

When you a serious about pursuing your foot fetish with your partner, it is a good idea to get her involved. You can introduce her by starting to massage her feet. Most women like it when a man massages their feet. Don’t forget that women often walk around in high heels all day. It is not unusual for a woman to come home with aching feet. Treat her to a foot massage and see where it takes you.

The other thing you can do, is to buy her some nice foot care cream. Peppermint based creams smell nice and is easy to apply. Start by massaging her feet and then gently suggest she massages your feet.

Is It Safe To Play With Feet?

That is a good question. Before you start playing with your partner’s feet, you should check them out. Make sure that he or she does not suffer from any foot problems.

Broken skin and redness in between the toes, may indicate the present of a fungal condition such as Athlete’s foot. Also check for warts and cuts.

Once you have established there are no problems, start by giving your partner’s feet a wash. Let them soak in a nice warm bowl or foot spa for about 10 minutes. Towel them dry and then proceed to apply foot cream. The experience can easily be turned into a role playing or foreplay session.

Fun Things To Do With Feet

Massaging is a great way to play with someone’s feet. When you do so, make sure that your massage the entire foot – not just the underneath of the foot. The upper part of the foot has many nerve endings that can do with stimulation.

However, there are many other ways in which to have fun with feet. Kissing and licking are two experiences many lovers of foot fetishes enjoy.

And how about sending up some good vibrations? Using a vibrator to stimulate the foot and ankle area is a great way to get someone going.

A foot fetish is not something you need to be ashamed of at all. Just make sure that you play safe and have fun doing so. Remember that couples that play together, are often the couples that end up staying together.

Human Public Puppy Play

puppy play party

What is a human puppy public play?

Public play is a type of human puppy play where members of BDSM community use to come together and play scenes while socializing a lot and creating tight bonds of friendship. These events are also meant to introduce the new submissives and dominants to the entire community. A public play party has a set of strict rules that have to be complied with by anyone attending the event.

What rules must public play party attendees follow?

While each organization has its own protocol defining to the finest detail how party attendees should behave, there are still some broad rules that are applied to any public play event. Here are some of them:

1. Appropriate attire

The color and style of your attire are highly important when attending a public play party. So if you don’t want to be escorted out of the dungeon, you have to dress appropriately. First of all, you must wear dark clothes. If you put on a black attire you will be a welcomed guest at the event, since black is the most preferred color by most of the organizations. Also, your clothing style should be street appropriate, which will help you not stand out from other pedestrians and trigger suspicions.

2. Non-expository behavior

Your arrival at the party should be as invisible as possible. Most of the dungeons are located in residential areas and dungeon owners don’t want neighbors to know about the party. This is why, attendees should behave in a non-expository fashion, wear casual clothes at arrival, hide the toys in a bag, and even sometimes park in specially prepared places to not bother the neighbors.

3. No alcohol

Generally, alcohol is not totally forbidden at a public play party. You will be let in, but you will be not allowed to play in scenes. Exaggerate drinking leading to inappropriate behavior can make the party Master cast you out of the dungeon. Moreover, it does not apply only to those who drink. The host supervises the play scenes and if you behave in a way that violates any of the dungeon’s rules, you will be escorted immediately out.

4, Being courteous is a must

At arrival, you should greet the host and it is also recommended to offer him or her a gift. If delving deeper into the greeting topic, dominants are allowed to greet each other, while greeting a submissive is not appropriate for a dominant. A dominant can greet a submissive only when puppy’s dominant gives permission. You are also not allowed to touch a foreign submissive, and it is highly inappropriate to approach a naked puppy in any way.

5. Public nudity is something common

If you take on the role of a submissive, expect to be required to take off your clothes by your dominant. It is a common act for public human puppy play so you don’t have to feel strange or embarrassed. Usually, you will be required to leave on only the cuffs and collar. It may be challenging for the first time, as you have to be ready to experience some humiliation, and, generally, you will have to get used to acting submissively like a puppy in scenes and conversations.

6. Look up to your dominant and listen to his advice and directions

In any situations you don’t know how to act, you need to listen to the indications of your dominant. Since the dominant is more experienced, he will guide you through the first meetings with the community members and help you get accustomed to the dungeon’s rules and not screw up.

7. Pay attention only to your partner when playing

When you start playing the scene you need to literally forget that there is someone else around you. Imagine that you are alone with your partner in the performance room and focus only on his or her actions. Whether you are a handler or a puppy, avoid listening to audience’s advice and directions which are considered highly inappropriate by the protocols of many dungeons, and are generally expressed by novices that are not familiar yet well with the rules.

If you are viewing a scene, keep yourself from commenting, speaking loudly, and shout indications to the performers as you risk to be punished by the party host.