Sex After Pregnancy!

Post Pregnant Sex
Well, I have recently returned to work after giving birth to my third baby, I wrote an article about sex and pregnancy on this site a while back, before I gave birth about having sex during pregnancy,  so. I thought I would do a follow up on sex ‘ after’ having a baby. Now I know some of you boys out there might want to switch off, put your fingers in your ears and sing “la la la” really loudly!  Some of you girls may even want to switch off now! It isn’t something that gets talked about often. I can honestly say in all the baby groups and library sing-song  sessions I attended over the last 10 months, not one lady has come up to me and said

” hey how”s ya vagina?”

So sit back, get comfortable, and get the popcorn out!….
The truth is after expelling the equivalent of a watermelon out of my privates…Even I couldn’t bring myself to touch or look at my vagina, let alone let anyone else near it! It felt like a god damn crime scene!  Joking aside though, Most nurses advise at least 4 – 6 weeks before you have any kind of sex, it actually isn’t safe, so I think the thoughts and feelings I had was just my body telling me to hold off….and maybe spend a bit of time bonding with baby, which obviously is amazing.
Then the next set of untalked about thoughts and feelings kicks in. What if I don’t ever ever feel like sex again? Well, that is a normal and natural thought too. Libido is scientifically lowered and as well as being completely emotionally overwhelmed, you are really bloody exhausted! The lower levels of estrogen you now have cause vaginal dryness, on top of that, breastfeeding can cause dryness as well.
Boy oh boy, that was depressing! The good news is that we are made to make babies! it is what sex is for. Thankfully there is now contraception to make sure the whole baby thing only happens when you are ready for it, and we can have recreational fun! I can tell you though, I had anxious feelings about my sex life post-pregnancy all 3 times and every time I have been amazed by how the body and mind heal. I would like to be able to say I still have the vagina of a 16-year-old…I maybe should have asked the doctor to pop a cheeky couple of extra stitches in for hubby! For me, thankfully it is all well that ends well.
It can be emotionally and physically  consuming and may require some proactive measures, Go down to your local Ohzone store for some decent Lube, Superslyde is great and maybe for Mum, a new toy to play with, just to get yourselves back into the mood without having pressure from each other… and  most importantly  some Kegels to strengthen the muscles down there! There are plenty of articles on Kegels and the benefits of using them on the Adultsmart Blog. I can’t stress the importance of these, especially as you have more pregnancies and get older. When you piss every time you sneeze, it t sure isn’t sexy!  Kegels should be mandatorily prescribed pre and post pregnancy.
Sex After Birth
Baby Jealousy
The other thing that can be challenging, is your partner’s jealousy over the bond you have with the new baby. Try to find time for each other, even if it is just a kiss and a cuddle. A baby can make a couple more intimate but sometimes it does the exact opposite, so, on a daily basis both parties need to make a bit of an extra effort in thinking about each other’s feelings.
Just when you thought it was all dry vaginas and bad moods, there are the leaking breasts! Now there are a whole lot of men out there paying good money to watch lactating women. I know that for a fact, but it can be a bit strange for a couple to associate where the baby feeds from to something sexual. It becomes less of an erogenous zone for a woman, but at the same time, they can squirt if intimately touched. My advice about that one is if it isn’t your “thing”  to have a good laugh about it.
So whilst I was convinced I would never be able to have enjoyable sex again, I can vouch for the fact that it happens. Slowly but surely the mind and body work in ways that can be beyond our control, although we can certainly help the process with some decent advice and products.
About the Author: Emily is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Sex Toy Stores

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Being A REAL Red-Head – Ginger Baby!

Red Pubes

The things people say and do when you have red hair!

I spent many years of my life changing my hair colour often weekly, much to the horror of my hairdresser. As a self-confessed commitmentphobe, I never allowed myself the chance to really love a colour before moving onto the next colour on the chart, I’ve literally have been every colour possible. However, I have had vibrant red hair for about 4 years now, I will agree this colour choice is not for the faint of heart.

Vibrant red hair will inevitably attract the crazies,

the questions and unfortunately a horde of creeps. There are plenty fallacies surrounding redheads and trust me strangers are happy to discuss them with you given the chance.

People will ask you if the carpets match the drapes, seriously. You’re out enjoying a bevvy with your friends, minding your own business and next thing you know some dude is in your face asking about the shade of your pubes – something that never happened to me as any other colour. Which leads me to my next point: ‘What carpet’ is not a good response – ever! Seriously, trust me, ever.

You will be touched and as a person who does not liked to be touched this bothers me highly.

Dude at bar: “Can I touch it?”

Me: “No.”

Me: “Dude, no… and you’re touching me anyway.”

The touching is followed by several stupid questions: Is it real? What? My hair? Yes. The colour? No. Can you touch it? No. Can you call me Red? No. (Despite your response, your new nickname is forever Red) Oh, you always wanted to fuck a redhead? That’s nice. Please go away.

At this point you’re annoyed and people will just assume you’re feisty and fiery, even if you’re not. And if you are feisty, people will assume it’s your hair making you feisty. Yes, the dye magically seeps into my skull and makes me perpetually angry, it’s not your bullshit questions.

People assume you’re a freak in bed and will ask about your sexuality, I might be a freak in the sheets, I might be a dud root… You’ll never know.   Dude, walk the fuck away.

Red Hair Sex
Red Sexual Desire

Did you know that in medieval times red hair was associated with moral degradation and intense sexual desire?

If you see a natural redhead out and about, just know they now automatically hate you, particularly if you’re at bar fending off creeps. You see because natural redheads are seeing you getting positive attention from men for a hair colour they’ve had since birth and were mocked for relentlessly throughout puberty so natural redheads everywhere now hate you – don’t even bother trying.

                Being a fake redhead you will also never be mocked like a natural redhead, names like ‘ginger’ and ‘ranga’ never will be bestowed upon you, you also get to keep your soul, winning!

The Red hair accompanied with my blue eyes is like the rarest combination in the world – I am a walking anomaly, which every dude wants to get on top of apparently. #WERK!

People will compare you to Ariel from the little mermaid. Yep, and I am totally okay with this. You can touch my hair. What carpet? Didn’t you just say you wanted to fuck a redhead? God, I am such a Merslut.

So basically, to sum up, if you chose to come to the red side. Prepare to be touched a lot, be prepared for lots of people to tell you they’ve always wanted to fuck a redhead – seriously, I was not prepared for this. It’s a lot of people.

So if you’re thinking of being a red head – do it, be the object of everyone’s desire!

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Pearl2 G-Spot Vibrator That Will Sync For Your Lover!

Kiiroo Sex Toy Review

Kiiroo Pearl2 is designed to fulfill sexual desires by allowing users to experience a new era of erotic pleasures. It opens the door to interactivity and allows everyone – no matter where they are – to share pleasures and connect with their lover and feel their embrace. Its design and technological innovation allows the fulfillment of our most intimate needs. As it reacts to our body’s natural movements, we can easily control the intensity of the vibrations it produces.

The Kiiroo Pearl2 comes with vibrations that stimulate the G-spot. Vibrators are touch-sensitive and Kiiroo is waterproof and this itself widens its usage. We can use and enjoy it whenever and wherever we want to. It is highly recommended for those that like to watch porn, those that like deep rumbly vibrators and to all those who are in a long-distance relationship. The couple set’s design allows us to feel and touch our partners the way we never could before. The best aspect about it is that we do not need even to be in the same room yet experience intense sexual pleasures controlled by our lover.

Manufacturers Description

The world’s most technologically advanced G-spot vibrator, designed to fulfill your most intimate needs.  Pearl2 is a technologically advanced G-spot vibrator enabled with touch-sensitive technology. It can be used for solo play, couples play from a distance or you can connect it to your favorite videos. Pearl2 is compatible with all existing and future Kiiroo devices, as well as with content sites and existing video, VR, 3D gaming and device partners of Kiiroo.

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Kiiroo System

Kiiroo is a system that allows users to connect Kiiroo and their partners sex toy of choice. Kiiroo Pearl2 is one such sex toy. This vibrator helps us to enjoy and experience the fun that is controlled by remote controlled action. You can also appreciate and relish this sex toy in sync with interactive porn. Kiiroo Pearl2 can stimulate the G-spot so is the one of the best choices to be used for vaginal play. Do not use it for anal play, due to the absence of a flared base. Kiiroo system is safe and secure. It grants access to *FeelPorna that allows the toy to operate in sync with adult movies. You can get an idea about its functionality and interactivity when coupled along with such erotica.

Teledildonics (also known as "cyberdildonics") is technology for remote sex where tactile sensations are communicated over a data link between the participants
Pearl 2 Sextoy Review

Specifications of Kiiroo Pearl2

Kiiroo Pearl2 is the latest model launched by Kiiroo and is an innovative vibrator when compared with their old design. Its design promises complete satisfaction and this is what makes it special and stand out among the crowd. It is unlike any other vibrator and has everything that a luxury vibrator can provide. It is aesthetically pleasing and is equipped with all the functions and controls that make it user-friendly. Instructions are provided or accessible online and the added bonus that it is waterproof  gives one peace of mind that we can use it whenever and wherever we want. It is USB rechargeable and comes with a warranty period of 1 year.

The appearance of Kiiroo Pearl2

Kiiroo Pearl2 is appealing and seductively coated with silicone that is soft in texture. This coating is present in most of the Pearl2 and that is what gives it such an alluring look. Silicone coating makes it soft, safe and secure and can be used without any concern. It is compact and non-porous and is free of phthalate. On its back, it is equipped with ABS section which aids in the control location that are easy and amazingly candid to operate. Pearl2 can be used as a solo sex toy, couples play or can be connected to other devices.

Vibrations of Kiiroo Pearl2

Vibrations of Kiiroo Pearl2 are strong and effective and will easily content and delight size queens. Vibrations are quite deep, rumbley and when it is inserted or applied to any part of the body the vibrations will satisfy with abandon. It can be inserted in the vagina for G-spot stimulation and can also be used externally for clitoral pleasure. In either of the cases, it does not disappoint and gives great realms of pleasure. It guarantees the ultimate sexual pleasures and sense of excitement leading to the ultimate climax.  Easy to use and with a head that has enough width to cover the clitoris and labia portions. This enables enjoyment with clitoral stimulation and amazingly delightful orgasms never experienced before.

It is wand-intense. It is equally effective when used with wands that are of mid-sized. It begins with gentle vibrations and this pace enables us to have a control over the speed. This mechanism prevents the inharmonious vibrations that are annoying and not so compelling at least for the new users. It is of perfect depth and that’s of great significance when keeping in account intensity of vibrations.

Design of Pearl2

Pearl 2 is designed keeping in mind the needs and necessities of its potential users. It has a compelling design which is what makes it popular and well recognized. Pearl2 is relatively large in size when compared with the original Pearl. Head is slightly more protuberant. It provides a perfect profound angle that helps in the G-spot stimulation. The angle that it provides facilitates perfect distribution of the pressure. It is coated with silicone and that is what makes it a substantial rigid dildo and we can use it by applying the pressure as per our needs and demands. We can use it with a liberal amount of lubricant alongside some warm up to reach the peak of pleasure and climax. It is easy to insert and it causes perfect thrusting that instills a sense of confidence coupled with excitement.

Product Specifications:

Materials: ABS, silicone

Finish: Matte chrome for ABS, matt finish for silicone

Size: 200 x 39 x 36.5 mm

Weight: 139 grams for device, 159g for device + USB cable

Battery: Lithium-ion 540 MAH 3.7V

Charging: 2 hours

User time: 1 hour

What you get in the box:

· Pearl2 device

· USB Charging cable

· Authenticity Card

· Quick Setup Manual

Kiiroo Pearl2 versus Other vibrators

Other luxury vibrators available on the market do not come with so many wonderful aspects, options and features that Kiiroo Pearl2 provides. Many do not provide connectivity to other users digitally and can cost up to twice the amount of the Pearl2 .  Kiiroo Pearl2 is the perfect luxury vibrator that presents value for money for those that want to experience a VR sexual experience.  Kiiroo Pearl2 is a *teledildonic luxury device and it simply means that it allows the connection to other Kiiroo users digitally. It has many notable extraordinary aspects and innovative features which make it popular. Its design is efficient, powerful and comes with a deep thrusting intense vibrator. It is intelligently shaped and its big head design coupled with intense vibrations can effectively be used to stimulate G-spot for vaginal play and can also be used for clitoral stimulation and excitement. Kiiroo Pearl2 is an excellent toy and is highly recommended to all the people who want to experience ultimate excitement and reach orgasm easily.

  • Feelporna is a proprietary interactive porn video that allow an immersive video experience that interact with an interactive sex-toy like Kiiroo Onyx and Pearl.
  • Teledildonics (also known as “cyberdildonics”) is technology for remote sex where tactile sensations are communicated over a data link between the participants.

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Maid To Order

Slave to Bondage

My willingness to serve

 

Throughout my life I have always had a willingness to serve, the word no is not an easy word to say for me. I have always enjoyed creating a meal for my partner, small tasks like making the bed, cleaning, washing clothes and other domestic duties. I have a sense of feeling proud afterwards and showing my partner that I have made our house a “home”, which is cringe worthy for most feminists. I have never understood why these tasks give me such a feeling of achievement in my relationships.

 

For the most part it has been taken advantage of, as with most people, in most situations someone who says yes, all the time becomes an “easy” person to deal with or someone who most will call upon in times of need as they always know they will say yes.

 

A people pleasure, a slave, a yes person, but today I learnt that in the BDSM world this set of attributes is a fetish; servitude- This is a service orientated submissive.  It is a relationship within the BDSM lifestyle where the passive partner is both physically and emotionally “in service” to the dominate partner. It’s not all about sex though, these relationships might not even involve sex and romance but focus on pleasing their dominant in any way they wish to be served.

Sexy Bondage Maid
BDSM Maid

Several couples add this type of play or practice into their everyday lifestyles, examples of ways such as; housework wearing a particular outfit or in nothing at all, fetching drinks, meal planning or cooking of meals, personal assistance. Very often outfits such as nurse and maid, are worn to bring a more realistic sense of the service orientated submission.

Think more personal assistant instead of slave.

 

This is a part of the BDSM world that I can resinate with, which has surprised me. Not many things shock me anymore, I have come to appreciate and accept the different ways in which people will express their passions and desires.

 

My desire for service and pleasing my partner has become something that I have always thought was just the way in which I loved and showed love. It is something that unless it is understood can be very dangerous and damaging to a person, for someone to fully understand they need to respect and without respect a person will feel as though they are a slave and not understand why they are constantly taken advantage of. My pervious partners have all seen these particular attributes as a weakness in my personality, constantly they would ask me to do things I may not be comfortable with doing, knowing full well I won’t say no to their request, and if I was to say no it wouldn’t be hard to change my decision.

 

As someone who isn’t involved into the life of BDSM and only dabbles into certain areas, learning that the world is more about respect and appreciation rather than dominance over another person makes it a little less scary and a lot easier to understand.

 

To the outside world BDSM is full on, and to some the deeper you get the more that is involved but to those on the outside even the art of cuffing can be scary. The biggest misconception that I see from working in this industry is that an uneducated person believes that because it is depicted a certain way it must be ok. Truth is to serve someone or to allow someone to tie you up can be the most frightening thing, to some it can be amusing, and to others it can be a way in which they express their sexual desires.

 

Servicing your partner should always be done in a way that does not hinder your confidence or respect in yourself, to allow someone to be dominate over you is a huge power play and you and your partner need to understand the boundaries and respect those boundaries. You must first be dominate with yourself, and after that having the ability to selflessly serve your partner with the only satisfaction being how happy you have made your partner and the feeling of being useful in a task done well, is enough to give you happiness.

 

Exploring this way of life in a new light is exciting and makes me feel more Intune with my body and the way in which I express myself. I feel as though I can understand the reasons why I do things the way I do and why I feel happiness after doing something my partner has asked, even more so when I do something in which my partner enjoys and is proud of without him asking. To have someone who respects you is the biggest achievement in life especially if your someone who struggles with trust. Being able to express yourself fully and without the fear of being hurt or taken advantage of is a right every person should have, we need to respect each other more and take more time to show respect for ourselves as well.

 

Morgan x

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Gentleman’s Guide: Sex On The First Date

Sex on a first date

To many guys, sex on a first date seems like it will only happen with a big amount of luck. And all because they don’t know how to seduce girls, and occasional success is just a matter of chance. However, there’s the good news: you can easily make your companion want sex on the first date. You just need to approach this process more consciously.

You probably don’t even suspect that there are several critical moments your success depends on. And knowing how to act in these moments and a small change of behavior can completely change the course of seduction from long (and annoying) courtship to sex in a couple of seconds. Use these 4 rules to seduce beautiful women.

When you don’t need to put in any effort

Sometimes it happens that you go on a date and see that the girl actively supporting your desire to drag her into bed by touching and hugging you or showing other signs that she’s interested in you. Such moments scare the hell out of some guys, so they start acting incorrectly.

Even a small interest at the beginning of the first date can lead to sex. All you need is to take advantage of this and be more active and decisive. Just imagine that this girl is your old friend. If she’s interested in you, then she’ll easily accept (and support) your courtship. This approach will work.

Seize the moment

Let’s say you got caught in the rain, and it happens so that you’re not far from your home. You should take advantage of the moment and invite her to your place for a cup of tea. For example, the same thing works if it’s already too late, and you’re a couple of minutes away from your home.

Let’s say you asked her out on a date in the evening, she wanted to go home early, but you persuaded her to stay, promising to call her a cab. Keep the promise. But before making a call, say “Let’s go to my place! It may take a while until the cab arrives, so why wait for it outside?” That’s what we call “taking advantage of the moment”. If you manage to get into a similar situation and use it (and such situations happen pretty often – you just need to spot them), then it will be easier to get sex on a first date.

“3 in 1”

For some reason, most guys are guided by the principle of “one date – one place”. Usually, after spending a few hours in a café or restaurant, they take girls for a short walk, and that’s all. Here’s how you can make a few adjustments to your plan and get her into your bed. If you visit more than one spot with her during the date, both of you will have a feeling that you already had a few dates. After all, the main barrier that prevents a girl from agreeing to sex on a first date is a lack of trust.

When you visit several places at once, she’ll begin to perceive you as someone she knows well. It’s better to take her to at least three different spots. But you can make it “4 in 1” or “5 in 1” if you want. It all depends on what kind of places you take her to, and how tired both of you become in all of them.

Try to make it so that the next place contrasts with the previous one. For example, if you were engaged in something active in the first one, than the second spot should be relaxing, and so on. And the last place should be near your house (plan ahead).

Keep a conversation going and listen to her carefully

To establish an emotional connection with the girl, show her your true self, tell interesting stories with a smile on your face. Let her know that you’re a cheerful person. Thus, you strengthen confidence, and the more she trusts you, the more she will open to you in return. In the end, this leads to a feeling of deep connection, which makes your companion more liberated in your company.

Every time the girl tells you something about herself, you must remain silent and listen. If you’ve never been particularly interested in the thoughts of women, with whom you went on a date before, then you’ve missed a lot. If you like this girl, she’ll help you seduce her. She’ll give you a couple of tips you can use to make her want to have sex with you.

Why sex on a first date is so important

So what is the reason for such a rush? Why not wait? After all, there’s still so much time ahead. The fact is that sexual desire, as well as any food product, has a shelf life, which is pretty short. It’s like a carton of milk: if you don’t drink it in time, the milk will turn sour, and you’ll have to throw it away. Aside from that, women usually treat men according to 1 of 3 categories that they will fit into:

  • Lover
  • Sponsor
  • Friend

And, as a rule, the longer the process of seduction lasts, the less chance you have to get into the first category, and the higher the risk of ending up in the third one.

Seducing date to have sex
Image: Couples first date sex

Bottom line

No matter whom you’re dating – nuns, MILFs, or Russian girls for marriage – these tips will work. Remember the main thing: even if you fail to make your companion want to have sex with you, there’s no reason to give up. With experience, you’ll learn to feel what exactly you must do or say to achieve what you want. Just act more decisively and quickly – your determination to succeed will increase your chances dramatically. Most importantly, always bring a condom with you so that you are always covered!

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