A First Timer’s Erotic Body To Body Massage

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Adultsmart has partnered up with UK’s #1 erotic massage finder Xmassage to talk about the first time experience of receiving a body to body massage. The article will go into detail about what is a body to body massage, why get this type of erotic massage and what you can expect to experience from a body to body massage.

What is a body to body massage?

A body to body massage is an erotic or sensual massage which is also known as a body 2 body massage or a B2B massage. It is a type of full body massage that is often given by professional erotic massage therapists in order to sexually arouse and excite which may lead to the receiver experiencing an orgasm. During a body to body massage both people in the experience are often completely naked at the very beginning and the masseuse will use his or her entire body to massage the most sensitive areas of the receiver.

Why get a body to body massage?

A body to body massage is considered to be one of the bestselling types of erotic massages as it is incredibly sensual, passionate, intimate and hypnotic. Massages are given to both men and women for both physical and mental health benefits. A massage can help keep the skin feeling supple and boosts circulation throughout the entire body. The boost of circulation around the genitals can help the receiver experience greater amounts of pleasure.

During the experience, people often feel like they can leave behind and relieve any stress and pressure from their day to day life which in turn can help aid in sleep. The skin to skin contact can encourage the body to release natural endorphins. The endorphins help a person to feel loved and cared for which will build trust between the two people in the experience. All of these benefits are said to enhance a person’s well-being and can make the receiver feel rejuvenated.

Start off with a soapy massage

The event may begin with a soapy massage where the masseuse will bring the client to a shower and wash their body clean with soap. The shower will relax the client’s body and the warmth will help increase blood flow which may help men to experience stronger, harder and bigger erections. A soapy massage will set the tone of the rest of the erotic experience. If you do not want a soapy massage the masseuse may request that you shower privately before the erotic experience to ensure that everything runs as smoothly as possible.

The room will be soothing and calming

The masseuse may bring their things to their client’s apartment, house, hotel or have a room already setup for the experience to begin. Soft and relaxing music will fill the room for a soothing and calming atmosphere. Candles may fill the room with soft flickering lighting and a gentle scent. The masseuse will bring towels to clean up any of the oil and a massage mattress that can easily be set-up in any room.

Both bodies will be lathered with oil and lotions

The masseuse can put on a personal performance by lathering their body from top to bottom in front of their client or they may allow their client to help them do so. This will be incredibly visually arousing to watch and do. The next step of a body to body massage is to lather the client’s body completely in oil or lotion. The touch will be gentle and soothing as they work their way over their client’s body building up the anticipation for full body contact. Building the experience visually and then through touch can be extremely commanding as it will immerse a person completely in the moment. It will be like bringing to life your very own personal fantasy.

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Image: Body to body massage

The massage oils and lotions used can feel slippery and wet but will be absorbed into the body the more it is massaged, rubbed and touched. The masseuse will rub their body completely against the receiver. The receiver will be able to feel everything from every delicate curve of the body, the softness of the breasts to the hardening of the nipples. The sensations of the masseuse’s thighs, stomach, feet, calves and arms will all bring a different feeling into the experience. The masseuse may also use her hot breathe against the oil or lotion which may have properties that help it heat up. Some massage oils and lotions are flavoured and can be licked off the body. With every moment, the experience becomes more and more exciting as the pace, pressure, strokes and movements change.

For men who receive a body to body massage the masseuse will focus on the male genitals. For women who receive a body to body massage the masseuse will focus on the breasts and female genitals. When the masseuse is ready, they may rub their genitals on top of their customer which may lead to consensual sex.

How to get a body to body massage?

There are many different ways to get an erotic massage. There are physical erotic massage stores or you can find a tantric erotic massage masseuse online. It is important for customers to specify what is included in the experience so that they don’t miss out on something that could completely change the whole outcome. A body to body massage may include mutual masturbation but that depends on what the agreement has been made between the masseuse and the customer. Each experience will be different depending on the masseuse and the customer. To gain the amazing benefits of a body to body massage the recommended time frame is one hour.

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Four Foundational Life Keys For A Man Seeking Healthy, Enlightened Sex

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If you’re like many guys, you have experienced, at least to an extent, some sexual frustrations or hang ups that you’d like to get a handle on. And if you’re also like most guys, you have all of the above and aren’t even conscious of it.

Living the life of a sexually and spiritually healthy and fulfilled man is your birthright. However, it’s something that you have to cultivate.

To make sure that you’re not settling for sex that doesn’t serve the greater good for your life, you’ll need to apply four life changes that will help you out exponentially. Below we’ll dive into these four staples, so apply them and never look back!

Live Your Life Based On A Purpose And Mission

This might not seem like the sexiest topic on the surface, but it’s actually the glue that holds it all together.

Both spiritual experts and scientists assert that your sex life reveals who you are and is a microcosm of your internal life. In this sense, this part of your life requires you to get naked in both the literal, and figurative sense. It’s important to continuously work on yourself, because the hangups you have in your head will also manifest in the bedroom.

For instance, a person that is afraid to speak up and express their ideas may also feel stifled and shy during sex. Money problems, stress, shame and other blockages can also lead to hangups with sexual dysfunction.

So when you base your life on a higher purpose of living your dreams, becoming the strongest version of yourself and sharing that energy with the world, you’ll be sexually free and won’t have feelings of inadequacy and lack. David Deida, author of the bestseller “The Way of the Superior Man”, stresses a man living on his purpose, so that he can move past fear and into love, which he’ll then share with his sexual partner.

Spiritual journeys aside, science backs the importance of a healthy man to live his truth. Studies indicate that men who had heightened testosterone levels are less likely to lie, or if they do lie, get significantly less satisfaction or gratification out of it than men with lower testosterone levels. In a sense, not living your truth lowers your testosterone, which diminishes your virility and sexual energy.

When you’re on a mission to become the strongest you, it’s much easier to approach women with confidence and explore the depths of your sexuality in the bedroom, without fear and hangups getting in the way. Make sure that you know what you want out of life and that you carry yourself accordingly, and you’ve won half the battle of achieving a high quality sex life.

Get Your Ejaculation Under Control

This is another foundational key for taking control in your sex life. Studies show that some 30% of men deal with premature ejaculation. Dealing with this situation significantly reduces a man’s enjoyment with sex, since he either can’t last as long as he would like, or worries that he won’t.

There’s a certain level of punchline surrounding this issue throughout society, which can cause a man to feel shame, which is the emotional death knell for sexuality.

Because of this, it’s important that you solve ejaculation issues if you have them. There are many exercises you can practice, but also make sure to dive into the psychological and emotional contributing factors.

Ejaculation issues aside, consider practicing sacred sexuality by learning the ejaculation-free orgasm. By managing your ejaculation in this way, as practiced for ages in Eastern practices and religions, a man can achieve multiple orgams that are fuller and deeper.

This way, you can have sex for as long as you want, with a deeper and more meaningful connection.

Make Sure You’re Living With Peak Health And Physicality

If you really want to live your best sexual life, it’s important to pay close attention to your health and build. You need to maintain a certain level of muscle tone, so that your body continuously produces high levels of testosterone as you age.

There are many different trains of thought when it comes to health and nutrition, but a few basics can transform your life. Engage in any exercises that help you build muscle and strengthen your heart, four to five times per week. You’ll have more endurance, better erections and clearer functioning brain — all of which are key skills to have in your toolkit.

In terms of nutrition, make sure to eat lots of healthy fats, which contribute to the production of testosterone and heart health. Give yourself a cheat day, but make it a life goal to eat clean, so that your signal remains clear and so that you maintain your energy and passion.

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Image: Happy and healthy man

Control Your Mind And Feelings

Finally, it’s important for you to continuously live in the moment and feel the depth of your emotions.

Skill and technique are great, but a man that can stay present with his lover, while feeling and giving emotion, will also be great in the sack. This sets a man that lives and embodies his sexual energy apart from a man that just pulls off a few cheap gimmicks that he doesn’t really believe in.

This is easier said than done, since our minds are built to wander, and society has kept men from their emotions for so long. When you quiet your mind and own your emotions, you’ll wield them both with power and discretion, rather than letting them run you.

You can master this by using meditation in your life. It teaches you to be still and feel the present moment, so that you can act with authenticity, rather than simply being triggered by past trauma and future anxiety.

It builds a healthy brain as well, which enhances your sexual creativity.

When you build your life around these four tips, it’s much easier to own your sexuality and live a peak life as a superior man.

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Edging 101: What To Do and How To Get Started

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“When you are pulling against the restraints… when your back is arched and your hips are writhing… when your mouth is open in a silent scream of tortured rapture… you will know that my work has begun”. – Pleasure Torture

Edging or orgasm control can be achieved through masturbation or help from a partner. We have partnered up with Bait’D Designs BDSM, Sex, and Jewelry Blog to teach you how to get started edging for your first time.

What is Edging?

During sex, BDSM, and kinks, achieving orgasms is not the only thing that can bring you or your partner pleasure. Edging is a popular method that involves controlling orgasms by bringing you or your partner to the brink of orgasm, and then right before it happens, you back away. Then you repeat this process over and over again, building up your sexual energy until you or your partner finally allow you to achieve an orgasm. The sexual energy building up to an orgasm can be similar to the sexual energy you build from celibacy. You can repeat the edging process multiple times to intensify you or your partner’s orgasm. For men, this exercise can increase the volume of ejaculation and force of ejaculation. This can be effective especially for men who suffer from premature ejaculation. Other popular terms that can describe the act of edging are peaking, surfing, or riding the edge.

Edging For Women

Edging for women is a difficult process to master. You want to focus on getting her to approach an orgasm, but don’t let it actually happen. Some people find it beneficial for the women to alert their partner when they are getting close to an orgasm so that their partner knows when to back off. When men typically hear that their women is about to ‘cum’, their usual instinct is to go harder, but in the case of edging, this requires some discipline from both participants. It is important to remember that as you are edging a woman, the smallest change can make a huge impact. Sometimes change will make a women lose the build up to an orgasm, or it may bring her over the edge. Losing an orgasm will send her into the refractory period, and then you will have to start over to build up that orgasm again. Staying consistent is key and the lighter touch, the better. In fact, 70% of women who like edging say lighter touches help to reduce the pressure when climax is near. Everyone is different so what works for one women may not work for another.

If you are going in solo you will also need to have some discipline as well. Our natural instinct is to keep going when something feels good, so you will need to be able to slow down and prevent yourself from orgasm, especially since you know your body best.

There are a variety of methods you can use to perform edging on a woman, but the easiest would be with the external clit (or clitoris). You can perform edging on your lady partner by rubbing, licking, and other movements. For a more advanced way to edge a women, you can try G-spot stimulation. The G-spot orgasm is harder to control because you are dealing with the sensitivity of the vagina walls, as well as vulva stimulation. It is recommended that you start out with a vibrator or dildo instead to stay more consistent in this area if you are just starting to learn how to edge.

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Image: Dom

Edging For Men

Benefits for edging men include increased testosterone levels, lasting longer during sex, and self-discipline. Edging for men also helps to minimize or overcome premature ejaculation when done properly and consistently. During the edging process you are training the brain to be comfortable achieving a high level of sexual pleasure without ejaculating. Much like edging for a women, edging a man also follows the same principles. The giver and receiver must be disciplined and not get over excited during this process.

Edging for a man can occur with a hand job, blow job, vibrating cock ring, or whatever tickles your fancy. Let your imagination explore the possibilities. It is recommended that edging is done without the use of porn for a more controlled environment.

For men, there is also a popular ballooning technique that is similar to the edging, but a lot of men who have done it feel it is better than edging. Ballooning begins by masturbating and gently rubbing the sensitive part of the penis until full erection is achieved. Continue to stimulate and then just before ejaculation, you slow down the stimulation. At this time, you should incorporate medium Kegels exercises as you inhale, and then release the Kegels as you exhale. You should increase the intensity of the Kegels upon every inhale, and repeat this process just like you are doing reps in the gym. During intercourse, this technique can also provide a stimulating effect for the women.

Edging As A Dominant

Edging is often used as a way for a dominant to take control of their submissive by using erotic denial as control. Some masters allow their slave to masturbate without orgasm. Masters will usually give their slaves tasks and will tell a slave how many times during the day they should take themselves to the edge of orgasm and stop. The slave learns that their orgasms are owned by their master and practices control and discipline. The master can also incorporate punishments when they orgasm. Beyond edging, orgasm control for a dominant or master can also mean not allowing your slave/submissive to stop cumming until they beg you to stop.

It’s always beneficial to spice up your sexual routine. Now you know the basics, so get out there and experience edging for yourself! Whether you are going in solo, edging your partner, or receiving, the benefits from edging will help enhance you and your partner’s sex life for the better.

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A Beginner’s Guide To Getting An Erotic Massage

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Have you always wanted an erotic massage but have no idea what to expect? Well if you are stressed out at work, dealing with problems at home or struggling to feed your sexual cravings it might be exactly what the doctor ordered. Though it’s sometimes painted with sleazy connotations, the bodywork actually has much more depth than horny middle-aged men getting their fix. In this day in age erotic massage therapy could be a benefit for everyone. And here I am to tell you more…

Massage parlours are everywhere…

If you live in a city centre you probably walk past an adult massage parlour on a daily basis, built up areas are saturated with them! Some salons you may even be familiar with and can’t help but wonder what goes on behind closed doors. Erotic massage is often seen as a taboo subject but I can’t stress more that despite contrary belief it is NOT illegal! The service is popular with businessmen, who often opt for an erotic massage on their lunch break and after work.

They often blend into the surroundings

One of the reasons erotic massage parlours are discreet is to protect their clients. Many maybe married, have kids and are thriving professionals who obviously don’t want to be associated with sexual services. Therefore many erotic massage providers are often masked as ‘Thai massage shops’ or are based in private houses to blend into the surroundings

They destroy any evidence of your booking

Most erotic massage parlours advise you to call to book before your session, but don’t worry about any information being leaked – evidence of your booking is usually erased straight after your session! You can always give a fake name and hide your number if you really want to.

You get the choice of girls

The first time you arrive at the parlour might be nerve-wracking. A delicious mix of masseuses will stand in front of your very eyes waiting to be chosen for your hour of thrill – you’ve probably never felt as overwhelmed!

It’s ok to be nervous

Don’t worry if you’re feeling shy, erotic masseuses are used to first-timers on a daily basis and will do all they can to put you at ease. Some parlours even have a reception where you can sit down and chat to the girls to get a feel for your favourite beforehand. You might even be offered a glass of wine to steady your nerves.

They will adjust your massage to your personal preference

Once you’ve selected your gorgeous therapist you will be shown to the bedroom. Your gorgeous girl will discuss with you beforehand what you want from your session. The beauty of erotic massage is that the style can be moulded to suit your personal preferences, whether you fancy some relaxing romance or something more adventurous.

All erotic massages are performed with the receiver and therapist both naked, but if you’re feeling a little nervous then do inform your masseuse –they’ll be able to undress to the comfort level as the session gradually progresses.

The session starts with a non-sexual full-body massage

The masseuse will place a towel down on the bed and lie you down as she warms your skin with massage oil. Though the purpose of erotic asian tantric massage is to arouse, the massage doesn’t actually start sexual. The masseuse will commence with a full body massage, similar to the soothing strokes derived from the classic style.  She’ll begin to work on your tension built in your neck, back and shoulders which will calm release all the unwanted stress within your muscles. This part of the massage is considered as the starter, there’s plenty more of this sensational feast to come!

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Image: Asian Massage Therapist

More sensual strokes will be introduced

As your masseuse gently moves you onto your front from your back she will use what is known as an ‘edging’ technique. To perform ‘edging’ she will start to run her tantalising fingertips from your chest to erogenous zones (sensitive points), getting closer and closer to your manhood each time.  As your toes begin to curl and your body starts to shake she will manoeuvre her soft hands back to the top of your physique. This will send rushes of orgasmic pleasure down your spine and will be repeated until you’re at a point of no return.

The session does include sex

How sexual does the session get? Will I get a happy ending? Does the massage involve sex? These are common questions surrounding erotic massage and the answer depends on which masseuse or parlour you go to. You may-be familiar with the terms ‘happy ending’ and ‘full service massage’ but are maybe unsure what they mean. However, once you’ve had an erotic massage you’ll become accustomed to the services. Erotic happy ending generally means the naked massage with hand relief, while full service is exactly what it says on the tin and is the full she-bang. Not only will the masseuse pleasure you with her hands, she will also introduce oral and penetration as part of your experience.

You should always remain respectful

Although an erotic massage often progresses to being super sexual it’s important you are respectful to your masseuse at all times. French-kissing, pleasuring your therapist and oral without condom are often considered as extra and should be discussed with your therapist at the beginning of your session. They’re usually more than happy to adhere to your requests! Many erotic massage parlours also operate 24 hour hotlines where you can ring and discuss your queries before making your appointment.

Everyone should get an erotic massage..

You may think it’s a little naughty but there are SO many reasons why everyone should get an erotic massage. It can boost your sexual stamina, provides escape from life stresses and unwinds your tired and worn out muscles – it really is a no brainer! There’s guaranteed to be an erotic massage parlour in your area, so why not try a session today?

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9 Hot Ways To Spice Up Your Love Life

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If you have been married or dating for a while now, you probably would not describe your sex life as being what it used to be.  Chances are, it’s not quite as exciting and fulfilling as it used to be.  Though your sex life might have started out as hot as a habanero pepper you have likely ended up in the pepper range. However, the good news is you do not have to stay in this range.  You can add some heat, excitement, and fun to your love life.  “Dinner and a movie” is the classic date, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t get boring. Whether you’ve been dating your partner for weeks or for years, it’s important to make sure to spice up your relationship every once in a while.  Even if you’re just friends with benefits, you can look to one of the below suggestions to help keep things spicy.

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Always doing the same thing? Try something that you both have never done before, like scuba diving or even a painting class. It doesn’t have to be something scary like sky diving (although that’s a great option!) but anything out of your normal routine will be exciting and feel sexy.

Repeat The Past

Remember your first date? Of course you do, and you probably remember all of the feelings and emotions that went along with it. If you’re trying to keep things interesting, why not repeat that first date? It obviously worked at the time, so who knows how much you’ll enjoy it now.

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Image: Couple Eskimo kissing

Change Something

Most spouses fall into a habit of doing the same old thing all the time, for instance, having sex in the bedroom.  This is not good, repetition gives way to boredom, mix things up.  Every time you have sex, change something, perhaps the location.  You don’t have to go to a hotel, you can have sex in the dining room or on the floor!

Introduce New Sex Toys

If you’re stuck in the same routine in the bedroom you can get really bored and introducing something different like sex toys can really spice things up.  You don’t have to jump straight into whips and chains but start somewhere.  Buy a vibrator or a dildo and test it out.  Just have a play with it, make it fun.  Buy a fantasy costume like a nurse or French maid.  If it’s with someone you trust, why not try some fluffy hand cuffs and let the other person do whatever they want to you (within reason obviously).

Make Sex Fun With Public Play

Vibrating panties can be a great way to spice things up.  Vibrating panties allow you to have your partner control a vibrator that’s hidden in your panties either via a remote control or a phone app.  That way you could be in a park or anywhere public and your partner can give you an orgasm.  I wouldn’t jump straight into this though, test out some vibrators and dildos before you move on to something a little kinkier like vibrating panties.  To find out more about vibrating panties, check out Vibrating Panties – The ultimate guide.

Talk About It

This might be hard but it can bring you closer together to open up and talk about your sex life.  Poor communication has been the source of many problems in a marriage.  So don’t go bottling things up, let your partner know how you feel and what you think.  This will show them that you value the marriage as well as your sex life.  Also, listen to what they have to say. It is not good to assume what the other feels.

Channel Your Inner Artist

Feeling creative? Picking up a sketch book and some pencils makes for an inexpensive date, and you already have the best looking model at your disposal.  Taking turns posing for a sketch is exhilarating and will definitely open up the rest of the day to more fun.

Do Some Reading

Looking to keep the passion alive? There’s no harm in picking up some spicy books to inspire you and your partner.  From steamy romance novels to sultry how-to guides, there’s a whole world of reading out there for the two of you to enjoy.

Pretend To Be Strangers

Perfect for the couple who has been together for a while – pretending to not know each other. Dress up and arrive separately at a bar with pseudonyms and back stories already created. There, you “find” each other among the crowd and allow your alternate personalities to hit it off.

No matter which one of these date ideas you decide to try, spicing things up if you’ve been together a while is important.  With these simple tips, you can get the ball rolling.  Remember all these cannot be accomplished by only you, it requires your partners help as well, what you can do is take the initiative and as I said talk about it!

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