VIP Interview With Jaiden Lillith Escort, BDSM Professional And Lifestyle Switch

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Jaiden Lillith is a gentleman, lady, escort, professional Dom/me, educator and a Shibari artist. A BDSM switch who delves into the world of both feminine and masculine sexual identities, the name Jaiden Lillith is divided into two worlds with Master Jaiden and Mistress Lillith. With an open mind and sex-positive views on life, they enjoy the idea of exploring and experimenting with all the facets of a person’s sexuality while placing an important emphasis on the beauty of connection in all the possible ways.

Jaiden can be found in Sydney at Temple 22 or in Melbourne at Fetish House and can be booked for private sessions, lessons and public performances. Jaiden is a sadist, inflicting pain and humiliation for pleasure with experiences that are indepth, seductive, subtle, theatrical and exotic. Jaiden has a large selection of BDSM toys to choose from ranging from crops, whips, ropes, restraint systems and so much more. Most importantly Jaiden Lillith is in complete control of all encounters with years of experiences and knowledge that has been gained from training with the best within the BDSM, fetish and kink community. All professional business is handled with complete discretion.

This is a VIP interview with Jaiden Lillith which explores Jaiden’s inspirations, gender fluidity, BDSM play, shibari and exploring the world of people’s sexual lifestyles.

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Image: Jaiden Lillith at Temple22

Tell me about yourself

My name is Jaiden Lillith, I am an escort, BDSM professional and lifestyle switch, kink educator, Shibari performer and musician.

What inspired you to become a professional BDSM practitioner, performer and educator?

I’ve always been inspired to connect with others and create a unique intimate space in art as a musician, creator and performer, to be able to deeply affect others and to take people on a journey. I’m also a very sexual, passionate and sensual person with a love of pushing boundaries and exploring the edges of the human mind, psychology and desire. Sex work and BDSM have given me the opportunity bring those passions together and to deeply affect, explore and enter people’s minds and bodies on a very intimate level.

In terms of education I love imparting knowledge to people and helping them on their journeys. I get a deep satisfaction from seeing others take the knowledge and becoming proficient with it – their victories feel like my victories. I also feel like I’m corrupting the world, which makes me happy, haha!

What inspires you?

Everything! Talking to my fellow practitioners about their own experiences as well as having the honour to witness them work and play is definitely something that inspires me on a day to day basis.

“Nothing is true, everything is permitted.”

I first read this in William S Burrough’s “Naked Lunch”, itself a great inspiration to me with its mixture of surreality, alien sexuality and evocative language. This quote to me embodies our essential freedom of self and also the responsibilities inherent in that – that we are the creators of our own destinies and are free to explore the possibilities – the only barriers in many instances are only those of our own creation. That always inspired me to seek out alternate means of existence, of connection, of sexuality and ways of thinking – of stepping outside of the codes of morality by majority and the cultural norms.

The same transcendent feeling I get from experiencing great art, and especially the visceral and dynamic nature of music is something I try to bring to my sessions. Jung and Nietzsche have also shaped my philosophies and attitudes with their writings on the subconscious and power dynamics respectively, which gives a lot of meaning to what I do. There is an amazing quote from Dune by Frank Herbert which is something that I think of often.

 “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

I think there is a lot of bravery involved in submission, and I have respect and empathy for those who choose to truly submit, and honor their trust and gift with the utmost care and compassion, even and especially within the most extreme of sessions.

What is it like being gender fluid mistress and master?

There are different energies and headspaces inherent in whether I am Mistress Lillith, Master Jaiden or Sai Jaiden Lillith, drawing varying amounts of feminine and masculine embodiment – but all of my faces are true, they are aspects that I can bring to the fore as opposed to masks that I wear, like my own spirit animals that I can call upon for their strengths, my others.

There is a history within many ancient cultures of those existing outside the binary norms of gender and identity taking a shaman-like or spiritual role in their society and I like to think that in some way I am a part of that tradition. Being an outsider frees you from many of the societal constraints that identifying with a binary can make you feel compelled to do which is liberating but can also be isolating.

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How does being Gender Fluid benefit affect your BDSM practices?

It gives me a range of interactions and experiences as well as a play partner/client base which I wouldn’t find as otherwise. As someone who has found submission as well as dominance in both masculine and feminine oriented roles, I can draw on from many different perspectives with an understanding of how energy flows in different configurations.

I see a lot of feminisation clients who wouldn’t be interested in a CIS presenting male or aren’t interested in that kind of interaction with a female. They choose me because they can see that I understand in a way that many practitioners don’t from an experiential sense. There are also those who don’t want a hyper-masculine master interaction, but find something enticing and seductive in a biological male who embodies many feminine aspects. Those who feel themselves to be more fluid or identifying as a gender other than they were assigned at birth also find an immediate sense of identification and rapport with me.

In terms of play, my stance, affect, voice, bearing, the way I touch, the way I hurt, it all changes between those selves. It’s not a series of small things that I do consciously, but it’s more that when I inhabit those personas it changes the way I do things.

In a more practical sense, it means I have at least two, if not three entire wardrobes of clothing to maintain….

How did you gain skills for BDSM, shibari and kink play?

I’m an intuitive person and I pick things up very quickly. I’m a big believer in experiencing things first hand – as a switch I’ve experienced the delights and power of submission and I’ve found that that has given me some of the best insights into how I choose to engage. Play parties, learning with people and growing with them personally, on the job experience, training sessions and skill exchanges with other BDSM professionals.

Being an empath, I’m very sensitive to the emotions of others and this helps me to create connective sessions and to keep things safe. I began shibari as a rope bottom, and experiencing the intoxication of subspace was crucial to me in understanding the potential of the rope, and having found that space I love leading others into it and enjoying the energies from the top side of things. I was very lucky to have begun my rope journey with an incredible female rigger, whose style greatly influenced and still influences my shibari.

Attending workshops and being trained by places such as Sydney Rope Dojo, Studio Kink and intensive workshops with international shibari practitioners such as Nawashi Kanna and Osada Steve have also provided me with a swift growth in my shibari skills. I’ve also been lucky to have been friends with, worked with and have drawn on the knowledge of some of the great professional and lifestyle dominants in our local scene such as Tallula Darling, Artemisia DeVine, Penelope Dreadful, Domina V and Mistress Tokyo. There have also been a lot of transferrable mental skills from creative aspects such as being a performer and a musician and composer in terms of creating and holding a space.

I am always learning, always growing.

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Image: Jaiden Lillith and AmirahKitsune at Inversion

What are your favourite memories from working as a BDSM practitioner?

My best memories as a BDSM practitioner are those sessions which take people deep, and leave them (and me) strongly affected. Being with them laughing, crying, holding them, that sense of aftermath is beautiful. Stroking the head of a man who was so affected by their experience that they were thanking me in tears as I stroked their head. Those so affected by the rope that they just lay in my lap smiling for a good long while after the session ended. The face of a man who upon opening their eyes in front of a mirror, was deeply and beautifully affected to find a feminized self-staring back at him. A hardcore interrogation session where all of my electro toys were and a large number of medical implements were used, and a person who embraced their role with gusto so that we had an amazingly fun experience together. An interrogation/sexual training/shibari session where the person who entered the room shy and feeling guilt about their kinks was by the end gleefully lost in abandon. All these moments and more are some of my most treasured memories.

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Image: Jaiden Lillith With Bondage Ropes

Performance highlights would be performing at OzKinkFest – it was an amazing experience to be alongside such great performers and artists like Avalon, Mistress Tokyo and more. I also pushed myself and my rope bottom to the limits during the performance, which is always an intoxicating feeling.

I think the workshops at OzKinkFest have to be the highlight of my educational career so far, especially the Genitorture workshop. It was delightful running through free flowing mini sessions, and the class cheering on as I made my workshop partner electrocute herself on the anus by making her press the button of the shock device was great! That also ranks as one of her favourite memories, by the way.

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Image: Jaiden Lillith and AmirahKitsune OzKinkFest

What do you find satisfying about being in sex work and being a professional dominant?

In both, it is sharing the moments of vulnerability and making a deep connection with them. Being a professional dominant allows me to explore the inner workings of people. It is a privilege having them open up to me, finding their personal blueprints and the road to their desires, the frisson between what they think they need and what they actually need.

Finding that moment of vulnerability, seeing the look of surrender and the intensity of the sensations and feelings, the satisfaction of unlocking someone’s authentic self and helping them find that moment of release. Feeling like I’ve helped someone overcome their own barriers.

Being able to witness and hold people in these incredibly cathartic moments, walking them through these intense experiences, getting to unleash my sadist, parts of myself which could manifest in negative ways but within these contexts are positive is incredibly liberating and affirming.

You are known for your shibari work, what do you find satisfying about shibari?

I love the ropes! They provide a tool of sensual/sadistic/sexual connection that is so versatile. You can wrap someone entirely, embracing their entire being with the ropes. It’s something that you can put together in so many different ways, from the simplest floor ties to the most complex suspensions – I love being able to free form with the rope, being able to flow with them. There is something very personal to me about layering rope, about taking someone deeper and deeper into bondage. With rope I can control an entire body, what it feels, how it looks, what shapes it is making. I am always holding them. It is wonderful and intoxicating.

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Image: Jaiden Lillith and AmirahKitsune at Rope Chill

What have you found that people need to do to be happy with their sexual lifestyles and sexuality?

I think people definitely need to be open minded and open hearted, being open to new experiences is one of the best ways to grow as a person. Being honest and authentic with yourself and others – if something doesn’t cause harm to another person, or irrecoverable harm to yourself then I believe that exploring both sexual/kink worlds and your own sexuality is a great way to be happy and comfortable in your own skin. There is nothing more damaging than hiding a part of yourself, and feeling alone and isolated with that feeling. There is nothing more liberating than being authentically true to yourself, and finding those who not only accept but revel in the same. Society has a way of imposing norms and expectations that don’t always line up with the true self that people are.

Within this freedom though, boundaries become ever more important – finding and standing by what feels ok to you and what feels like it is having a negative impact on your wellbeing, and being able to communicate this clearly and honestly – and respecting those boundaries and needs in others.

An awareness that there are behaviours and ways of thinking which are unacceptable and unhealthy in the everyday world which can be extremely hot and liberating in the kink/sexual world – when it is in a defined boundary and space. Things like consensual non-consent, sexism, role play scenarios can all be deliciously fun and even healing in some situations. It’s only when something imposes negative harm on another that it becomes a problem that you need to address and work through.

What services do you provide?

So many! Haha, my most popular ones would have to be shibari, forced-bi, feminisation, role play, CBT/Genitorture, electroplay, sexual training, and cuckolding.

Visiting my website Fields of Lillith which provides a comprehensive list of such.

I also am a full service escort, providing companionship and intimacies of all kinds from conversation, cuddles, massages to sex.

Where can people find you?

I mainly session through Temple 22, although I do work with other independent workers for doubles sessions like cuckolding, as well as outcalls. I do travel to QLD and VIC as well – in Melbourne I tend to session from Fetish House.

Is there any questions or information you would like to add?

Jaiden Lillith is also an event organiser and promoter for the Sanctuary BDSM club in Sydney, as well as the vocalist and co-writer for the Industrial Electronic band Z(Cluster)

Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

VIP Interview With Executive Director Dr. Victoria Hartmann At The Erotic Heritage Museum

Board certified clinical sexologist

The Erotic Heritage Museum which has been made in the dedication to the freedom of sexual expression and education through the preservation of sexuality throughout history. From exhibitions on sex in space, sex bicycles, the evolution of human sexuality, sex in the third riech and the art of porn, the Erotic Heritage Museum has it all. The Erotic Heritage Museum is located exactly where you would expect it to be in the heart of Las Vegas.

The co-founder Harry Mohney who’s venture into the world of strip clubs and pornography began in 1987. Harry Mohney founded Déjà Vu, which has now turn into a franchise of well over 132 strip clubs and adult businesses. He has also been one of the largest distributors of porn and adult material in the world.

Harry Mohney co-founded the Erotic Heritage Museum with Reverend Ted McIlvenna who retired from the United Methodist Church. Rev. Ted McIlvenna has earned the title of the ‘Porn-again Minister’ from the Telegraph. He has owned one of the largest erotica and pornography collections in the world which was originally stored in a library at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, California. He then learned that people’s sex drives and sexuality cannot be changed. Harry Mohney and Rev. Ted McIlvenna worked together to form the Erotic Heritage Museum.

This is a VIP Interview with executive director Dr. Victoria Hartmann at the Erotic Heritage Museum. This is a must read VIP interview full of depth and insight into the world of sexuality and sexual wellness!

Tell me about yourself

I am Victoria Hartmann, Ph.D., M.P.H.; I am a board certified clinical sexologist currently serving as Executive Director of The Erotic Heritage Museum in Las Vegas. I am also a workshop facilitator, researcher, published author, speaker and consultant on women’s sexuality, and an advocate for transgender rights. I hold a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality, with an emphasis on Clinical Sexology, from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (2012), as well as a Master’s Degree in Public Health (2012), and am board certified by the American College of Sexologists with Diplomat status (DACS), as well as an Official International Delegate and Consultant of the Chinese Sexology Association. My expertise is in paraphilic sexual behaviors and recovery from sexual trauma.

What inspires you?

People. I worked as a group therapist for several years at a rape crisis center. The kind of growth I was witness to was powerful and deeply emotional for me as a counselor. People who came from severely violent backgrounds found their truth and shared it with others during each 10 week, closed therapeutic group, and the strength found by each client had a profound effect on me. I see inklings of that at the Museum, when people complete a tour with a bit more knowledge (and hopefully self-acceptance) about sexuality and themselves.

What inspired the creation of the Erotic Heritage Museum?

As our Grand Patron, Harry Mohney, describes it, he and Dr. Ted met during an obscenity trial many many years ago. Dr. Ted was an expert witness in that trial. Harry and Dr. Ted discovered a mutual love of Wine and Women, and became fast friends. They have also supported one another throughout the years, when facing legal challenges related to adult material.

What is the importance of building an Erotic Heritage Museum?

Sex Museums encompass a particular kind of museum experience: they respatialize and recaption sex, while reorienting bodies in a curatorial space. With so much of global erotic heritage undervalued, criticized, or even lost over time, the EHM is dedicated to the preservation of as much erotic heritage as is possible to display.

What is the size of the museum?

Total square footage of the EHM is 27,000 square feet, with 24,000 dedicated to the main Museum space and lobby area. We are the largest Erotic Museum in the World.

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What are the co-founders Harry Mohney and Rev. Ted McIlvenna’s backgrounds?

In 1962, the United Methodist Church, in cooperation with the United Church of Christ, the United Presbyterian Church, the American Baptist Church, and the Southern Presbyterian Church, commissioned a study of the nature and needs of persons in early adulthood. Four cities were chosen to field the study, and The Rev. Ted Mcllvenna, a United Methodist minister with considerable social research background, was chosen to direct the San Francisco arm of the project. The issue of sexual identity, especially homosexuality, was a primary area of the project’s research. The main conclusion of the findings was that one cannot understand homosexuality without understanding human sexuality. Further consultations were held at the Institute for Sex Research in Bloomington, Indiana; at the headquarters of the United Methodist Church in Nashville, Tennessee; at the National Institutes of Mental Health in Washington, D.C.; and in London, England, with representatives from the Dutch Ministry of Culture, World Council of Churches, the British Department of Health, a representative from the Vatican, a Bishop of the Church of England, a representative of the French Ministry of Health and five delegates from the United States. At the London meeting, it was decided that persons in the helping professions were woefully lacking in knowledge about human sexuality, and that a center specifically designed for training professionals should be initiated.

In the spring of 1967, a meeting was held at the Institute for Sex Research in Bloomington, Indiana, which included representatives from the original sponsoring church bodies, the National Institutes of Mental Health, the Glide Foundation (an operating foundation), and four other funding foundations. It was concluded that the Glide Foundation in San Francisco would be the home of the National Sex Forum (NSF). The Forum would have as its main tasks the study of what helping professionals needed to know about human sexuality, and the development of effective educational methodologies and design of innovative training materials. The National Sex Forum began officially in October 1968, as part of the Glide Urban Center. This later became the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality.

Harry Mohney’s legacy was launched on a lone drive-in movie screen in a Durand, Michigan, a cornfield in the 1960’s. Anyone who watched an adult film at a drive-in can thank Mohney, as he’s the man who set the table for drive-in owners all over the U.S. to pack their lots with patrons looking for some cinema skin. Mohney is the “Daddy of the Adult Drive-In,” starting with the Screen Drive-In in Durand in 1966. For a brief period in the late ‘60s through the early ‘80s, the adult drive-in was a staple of the American cinema landscape. It’s gone the way of the typewriter and the Walkman, but like any nostalgic treasure, it’s still fondly recalled, discussed in chat rooms and on Twitter. It’s also sent Harry into a lifestyle most only dream of. Today he is the figurehead for the largest Gentlemen’s club chain in the World: Deja Vu. He retired in 2017.

How did polar opposites Rev. Ted McIlvenna and Harry Mohney adapt their work to preserve erotic history?

Around 2006-2007, Harry and Dr. Ted decided to collaborate on the Museum. Harry had collected mountains of erotica, dating back to the 60’s, including his “Durand Dirties” and “Beaver Reels.” He also funded and produced some of the biggest adult films of the 70’s, and had discovered such iconic adult stars as Hyapatia Lee. Dr. Ted had collected erotic art and artifacts for the Institute’s archives for the same length of time. Preserving this material in a Museum seemed to make sense.

What can people expect from visiting the Erotic Heritage Museum? What are the permanent exhibits?

They can expect an unfiltered view of sex across cultures and time. Social influences, biology, sexual orientation, taboos and fantasy are all represented in erotic art. Generally these expressions were done in private, or as a commissioned work for a secret collector and thus often free of external judgment or structure. We get to learn through sexual art many different feelings and thoughts around sex, and often find that while the expressions of fantasy are varied, and underlying influence of sexuality in our personal lives includes each one of us and unites us in our humanity. Some permanent exhibits include the Sex in Space exhibit, exploring our potential for sex and reproduction on other astral bodies in our Solar System and in Zero Gravity environments; the Evolution of Human Sexuality exhibit, where we look at how our species evolved and reproduced, as well as the Worlds Largest Sex Bike and the Sex in the Third Reich exhibit which features one of only three pairs of Hitler’s Mistress Eva Braun undergarments.

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Who should visit the Erotic Heritage Museum?

Anyone over the age of 18 can and should visit the Museum. We are a great place to learn, explore, bring a date or take in a show!

What are the most interesting exhibits that the Erotic Heritage Museum has ever displayed?

As we have been documenting sexuality since our inception, it’s our belief we have been a force for social awareness and activism just by the very nature of what we do. What has changed is the political climate. Before the 2016 election we were just a fun oddity in “funky” Las Vegas; following the election the general public reclassified us as a space for social justice. We haven’t changed; the view of us by the public has. We have hosted and supported organizations such as the Desiree Alliance, Gender Justice Nevada, SWOP, Planned Parenthood, the Green Party and countless other social and reproductive justice organizations over the years.

What are the Erotic Heritage Museums favourite sexual wellness, health and lifestyle facts?

That’s a difficult question to answer! The Museum has been made and remade so many times and each exhibit is carefully thought out and attended to. I have a hand in them all and get attached to each one. That said, I think what matters more to me is which one each guest is the most drawn to. I love asking people about their experience here and why a particular exhibit affected them.

What can we learn about the history of sexuality?

Making ourselves vulnerable, especially sexually, leaves us open to have the most sensitive parts of us judged and shamed. It’s what nearly 100% of people I’ve worked with and studied have expressed – fear of sexual judgment and the unmet need to be accepted for who they are. Here at the Museum we believe health and wellness starts with sexual self-acceptance.

Is there any questions or information you would like to add to the article?

Sexual expression crosses all cultures, genders and time periods. We learn about ourselves as social creatures and how our inner and outer worlds affect our sexuality. We see sexuality without moral judgement. We learn that sexuality affects us all.

Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

VIP Interview With Dr. Eduardo Gómez De Diego Founder And CEO Of Andromedical

Dr. Eduardo Gómez De Diego the founder of Andromedical and the Andropenis

Dr. Eduardo Gómez De Diego is the founder of Andromedical®. Andromedical® is a urology laboratory which researches issues with men’s sexual health. Andromedical® look for ways to manage and treat men who have erectile dysfunction, Peyronie´s disease, micropenis and prostatectomy.

Andromedical’s main focus is on finding different methods of penis enlargement to improve the sexual function of the penis. This was the main reason why they had designed and developed the penile extender known as the Andropenis® in 1996. The Andropenis® is famously known for its ability to increase the penis’s length and girth. It is made from high quality materials that are made to last. The Andropenis® now has well over 1,000,000 satisfied customers.

The Andropenis® follows the medical protocols of the American Urological Association, Sexual Medicine Society of North America and the British Association of Urological Surgeons. It has also been widely spoken about in popular media outlets like Men’s Health, Telegraph, Time and CBS News.

This is a VIP Interview with Dr. Eduardo Gómez De Diego founder and CEO of Andromedical. Within this interview you will be able to read about what inspired the creation of his company Andromedical® and all the information you need to know about how the penis extender works.

Tell me about yourself

Dr. Eduardo Gómez De Diego Founder and CEO of Andromedical® and Andropharma®. Medical Degree from University Complutense of Madrid, Spain-Europe, specialized in Andrology with over 20 years clinical experience in the field.

What inspired you to create Andromedical and the Andropenis Penis Extender?

I was inspired by my patients, as I was getting my specialization in Andrology, the number of patients with issues regarding anatomical variations and diseases such as Peyronie’s and the impact this causes emotionally, inspired me to create a device that would help correct these problems and after proving that the device worked with clinical studies, the company was founded.

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What inspires you?

At the risk of sounding cliché, my patients and people that have used Andropenis® are what drive me. To improve men’s health through penis health. It is such a fundamental issue and one that has been much ignored or forgotten within the medical community. My goal is to provide safe products that can be as widely available as possible. We hope to provide solutions to these “forgotten” issues, thus providing alternatives for patients to improve on and that can impact positively on their sex life and consequently in their overall wellbeing.

How does the Andropenis® work?

Andropenis® is an external medical device that attaches to the glans penis supported at the base and exerts a gradual mild traction force on the shaft. This principle of traction results in the expansion of tissue by gradual stretching and then allowing the body to remodel naturally. Continuous use of the device has been proven to increase size from de 1st month of use onward. It is recommended for medical, post-surgical and aesthetic reasons.

What is the Andropenis® made out of?

Andropenis® is composed of a high quality plastic base ring, two metal shafts with internal springs, and an upper plastic support with a silicone band, with the option of adding a soft sponge around the silicone band for extra comfort.

How much can the Andropenis® increase the size of a flaccid and erect penis?

Studies conducted unveil the efficacy of penis-stretching physiotherapy using Andropenis® showing a stretched flaccid penis augmentation of +1.8 cm (range +0.5 to +3.1 cm) after 4 months of use for at least 6 h/day, and +2.3 cm up to 4cm after 6 months of continuous use. We also have reports of +1.5cm gain in girth.

Are the results long lasting?

In follow-ups with patients included in the clinical trials, results were the same and still present 6 months after treatment had ended and not having used any treatment methods during this period of time.

How long is it recommended that people use the Andropenis® for?

It really depends on what kind of result he patient is expecting and the result that he wants. We recommend the continuous use of Andropenis® for 6 months for optimal results. We have had patients that decide to pursue the use after this time and results have been the same, with a mean gain of 0.5cm in length per month.

Do people need maintenance sessions?

The way Andropenis® is designed; it can be used without supervision with patients pursuing length gain for aesthetic reasons. There should be no reason for follow-up sessions with your doctor during the time of use of Andropenis®, unless it is for reasons regarding post-surgery applications or any other situation where medical supervision is required.

Andropenis® is made to help people who have Peyronie’s Disease which is a curvature of the penis caused by the hardening of tissue. What are the impacts of Peyronie’s Disease when it is left untreated?

Peyronie’s disease is problem caused by scar tissue, called plaque, which forms inside the penis at any age during adulthood. It can result in a bent, rather than straight, erect penis. In some cases, the curvature is so extreme that erections can be painful resulting in erectile dysfunction and all its connotations, as well as impacting negatively on the patient’s wellbeing and sex life

How does Andropenis® help Peyronie’s Disease?

Andromedical® has developed a special device for penile traction therapy called Andropeyronie® that helps with this issue. Studies have found that it can correct up to 50% of curvature depending on the severity of the case and the time of use of the medical device. This treatment can be used in combination with other treatments (depending on the treating urologist) to get more effective and optimal results.

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How can a lover support someone who is using the Andropenis®?

If your significant other chooses to enhance themselves or improve on a negative issue, an understanding and supportive partner makes all the difference. We assure that the device can be used without having to intrude or impede a healthy, active sex life. We only recommend that the device be removed for 1 hour prior any sexual activity and be used 1 hour after sexual activity has ceased, to give the tissue adequate rest and time to return to resting state.

What are your favourite stories or quotes of hearing how the Andropenis® has helped improve people’s sexual lifestyles?

We have over 20 years of experience in the field, so stories are plentiful. Although since it regards sometimes an issue regarded as shameful and taboo most of our customers guard their stories and only a few contact us directly. I have to say that probably my favorite stories are regarding post-surgical rehab, patients having gone through prostrate surgery for a number of reasons can experience either erectile dysfunction or penile retraction due to scar tissue. Andromedical® has helped these patients regain their confidence and sexual function thanks to its products, and the gratitude shown is so great that it inspires me to continue and strive to reach as many people as possible.

Is there any questions or information you would like to add?

Patients should not feel ashamed for wanting to improve themselves. Striving to be a better version of you is not only a healthy pursuit but also a right that everyone should have. I hope that one day all prejudice regarding penis health can be brushed aside and patient that wish to correct Peyronie’s disease can do so without the need to feel ashamed, erectile dysfunction is no longer a death sentence to your sex life or simply to pursue a gain in length can be regarded the same as dyeing ones hair.

Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

VIP Interview With Katrina Bos Founder Of Fusion Tantra!

Fusion tantra founder

Katrina Bos’s interest in tantra began when she met a man named Jim who had died and came back to life, he had claimed he could walk around in an orgasmic state all day long. After spending years learning about tantra and the healing experiences it provides alongside other treatment plans Katrina Bos created the company Fusion Tantra.  Fusion Tantra uses ancient wisdom and applies it to today’s world to explore love, intimacy and the path of melting bliss.

With Fusion Tantra you are able to develop the skills needed to:

  • Experience unparalleled connection to the divine through the intimate connection of making love
  • Establish a connection with your body, your lover and the world
  • Experience tantric sex that lasts for hours at a time

Fusion Tantra offers personal consultation sessions, book clubs, study groups, classes and workshops. With Fusion Tantra you will be able to learn about the foundations of tantra, path of the mystic and the importance of studying tantra at home. This is a VIP Interview with Katrina Bos founder of Fusion Tantra.

Tell me about yourself

My name is Katrina Bos. I am the founder of Fusion Tantra where I teach tantra through online courses and workshops around the world. My passion is applying the spiritual teachings of tantra to our day-to-day lives in ways that truly transform us – within the lives that we are living.

What inspired the creation of Fusion Tantra?

It was the deep knowing that there is so much more possible in relationships and life. Even within the most functional relationships, we are just scratching the surface of what is possible.

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I always had the feeling that deeper intimacy was possible. That “just loving” someone wasn’t enough. I felt like even the best sex that we were having was just the beginning and that all the “How-to” sex books were so focused on the physical bodies and immediate pleasure, that they were missing 90% of what was possible.

When I discovered tantra, I experienced the magic of true, deep intimacy. I realized that “normal sex” is like walking up to the door of a castle and hanging out on the porch. But if we step through the door, everything we ever dreamed was possible is right there. And the amazing thing is that there are no tricks, no fancy breathing or ritual. We just need to unlearn a lot about what we “know” about sex. Our tantric potential is right within us.

What inspires you?

My greatest teachers were the mystics of all traditions. It was always those who sought to have a direct experience of the Divine in their lives – no middle men. This has always been what brings me to centre and helps me to hear my own wisdom.

I am always inspired by the works of Albert Einstein, Viktor Frankl, Gandhi, Osho, the Tao te Ching, Rumi, Thomas Merton, and so many more.

What is tantra to you?

Many people’s lives are completely focused in the physical world. We are consumed by our jobs, relationships, kids, money, politics, sports, fitness, and whatever else entertains us. Then, there are others who ONLY believe that spiritual paths are worthy. They could be religious or meditators. The belief is that all the trappings of the physical world are simply distractions from their spiritual path.

The foundation of tantra is bringing these two worlds together.

It is fully embracing our physical lives with the awareness that we have infinity flowing through our veins. It is walking through our challenges knowing that there are 100 possible solutions and choices in each moment (not just one way or the other). It is knowing that we always have guidance in every moment – at work, in relationships, and also in the bedroom.

What are the lifestyle, relationship and sexual benefits of tantra?

The greatest benefit is that we finally feel like the incredible beings that we are. When we live only in the physical or only in the spiritual, we are living less than half-lives. We always feel like we’re lacking – like we don’t know where we’re going. Like there is always something better.

But when we truly bring these two aspects of ourselves together, we walk around feeling completely radiant. We are strong, confident, centred, passionate, excited, peaceful and effortlessly loving to everyone.

In relationships, we learn how to truly love and connect with each other. We learn how to connect with our children in trusting, honest ways so that those relationships are deep and fulfilling for everyone. We connect with our lovers in a way that you are always building and exploring together. Many relationships are always “fighting fires”. They are struggling with issues that all come from a lack of heart-felt connection. And so, they can’t openly explore together because they have walls up to each other… and so there is a ceiling on how much happiness is possible.

In a tantric relationship, there is no ceiling. The exploration possibilities are truly infinite.

Sexually, just imagine what happens when you bring infinity into the bedroom! Now, you have two infinite beings with these incredibly sensitive bodies. You have no goals or preconceived ideas about where your adventure is going to go. You simply connect effortlessly and let the bodies make love. It is a bliss that cannot be felt any other way. It heals our broken parts. It creates a bond between you that is beyond this world. It is everything that we imagine love and intimacy is meant to be… and so much more that we just don’t have the words to describe.

What does it feel like to experience tantra?

In our everyday life, we feel calm, peaceful inside while fully engaged with whatever we are doing.

Mentally, we are focused and clear.

Emotionally, we are free to feel everything that comes. If we are angry, we dive in. If we are sad, then we fully feel it. If we are grieving, then we grieve until the end. If we are happy, then we are incredibly happy!

Sexually, we feel warm, loved, and completely fulfilled in ways beyond words. (When I was writing my book “Tantric Intimacy”, I was constantly running out of words for ineffable/indescribable, etc).

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What are your favourite tantra tips?

The tantric experience always starts with love because love is how humans connect to each other. The foundation of this love is Agape – the Ancient Greek word for “God’s love”. This is the connection that we have with all people. It is understanding that we are all bumbling along, doing the best we can. It is total kindness and respect.

This lack of Agape is the foundation for all of our suffering in relationships (and within ourselves). It is the first thing that I teach my students – to create a sadhana (daily spiritual practice) of being 100% kind to their loved ones every day. This is a step that CANNOT be skipped, even if it is hard. Because if we skip this step, the magic of tantra will always elude us because there will be walls up in all of our relationships. The walls must be allowed to come down, if true connection is going to happen.

This might not sound like the sexy answer… but tantra is a personal, spiritual journey of healing. It is the journey to becoming 100% kind that will heal your life. And when that healed, radiant person makes love, everyone present will feel the difference.

What types of people would benefit from tantra? How can it be used for sexual improvement?

Although many people think that they need a partner to study tantra, this isn’t true at all. In fact, it is important to study tantra as an individual either first, or while studying with a partner. Tantra transforms us personally into who we truly are. It can be very confusing to have this transformation when we are focused on fixing a relationship.

For couples, tantra is best for those who have a strong foundation and both people are wanting to explore equally.

For couples where one person is interested, but the other isn’t, they are best to study as an individual and shift within themselves… and those around them will shift in their own ways.

Tantra is for all orientations and genders. It is the magic that happens when two humans truly connect and merge. This can happen fully clothed or in full intercourse. Our sexual orientation is irrelevant.

Tantra is wonderful for young people to create an amazing foundation of love and connection so that they can find incredible satisfaction and love in their adult lives.

Tantra is great for all adults who feel the call that there is something more… That it’s time to learn something new.

How can people become involved in tantra?

There are many schools of tantra out there to try. The key is finding out if what they are teaching resonates with you. Some schools are very focused on the spiritual side (white tantra). Others are very focused on the sexual side working with genital healing, relationships, freedom, etc (red tantra).

I offer a great online course “Foundations for Tantric Intimacy” which starts at the beginning of your tantric journey creating a new foundation either within your current relationships or for future ones. There are two versions – one for individuals and one for couples.

My recent book “Tantric Intimacy: Discover the Magic of True Connection”, recently released in August, takes you deeper into redefining love and connection, the blending of spirit and matter, the union of masculine and feminine, sexual intimacy, and living a tantric life.

How can people integrate tantra into their personal lifestyle?

This is why I love offering my online courses. It is taking the philosophies into our day-to-day lives that truly transforms us. It is doing the exercises after a long day at work where we feel the most impact and change within. When you learn within your life, everything naturally becomes integrated into how you talk, eat, go to work, dress, argue, and make love.

The integration happens with each small change. Every time we fully embrace one of the teachings, we start to experience it in little ways in our lives. There is a ripple effect within all aspects of our relationships. Soon, we can’t remember our life being any different.

The integration is gradual but permanent – and blissful.

What classes and workshops do you offer?

My online classes are my number one offering. I also offer workshops and retreats all over the world. I am based in Canada, so many of my retreats happen near Toronto. But when people have a group who would love to learn, I love travelling around the world to meet, teach and share these wonderful teachings.

The best place to get started is to sign up for Fusion Tantra’s email list at You’ll get some introductory videos and information about upcoming trainings and retreats. Plus I love to write articles, create new courses, and make videos, so you’ll be the first to know!

“Tantric Intimacy: Discover the Magic of True Connection” is available in paperback and ebook through all online bookstores.

Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

VIP Interview With Somraj Pokras Co-Director Of Tantra At Tahoe And Author

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Somraj Pokras is a Tantra teacher who works alongside Jeffre TallTrees at the Academy of Supreme Bliss Tantra from Tantra at Tahoe. Supreme Bliss Tantra is a carefully constructed brand of Tantra which focuses on the oldest living spiritual disciplines. Tantra is unique when compared with other organisations since it can be full customised to each individual, so people are able to follow Tantra with a wide range of approaches. This means that they are able to use Tantra in such a way that it is best suited to their individual lifestyles so that they are able to find out what best works for them.  The common themes that Tantra includes is:

Supreme Bliss Tantra combines all of these core philosophies to assist people with western background to be able to follow. It uses sexual and orgasmic energy to form a deep level of expanded consciousness which will:

Tantra At Tahoe have developed eBooks, teleseminars, workshops and coaching sessions. This is a VIP Interview with Somraj Pokras co-director of Tantra At Tahoe. Somraj is also the author of over 10 books including Female Ejaculation, Male Multiple Orgasm, Long Hot Tantric Love Making and Supreme Bliss Tantra Guide to the Ecstasy of Spiritual Sex.

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Tell me about yourself

Somraj Pokras co-director of Tantra At Tahoe, author of 10 Tantric Sex books, sexologist, author, blogger and trainer.

What inspired you to become a sex educator, sexologist and a Tantra expert?

I always had a strong sex drive but little understanding of how it really works. When I met my wife she was studying Tantra so we did a yearlong program together.  It transformed our sex lives individually and collectively so thoroughly that we started teaching others to follow a similar path.

What inspires you?

Books, articles, music for sure.  But even more so from applying consciousness and mindfulness to sexual encounters. My central interest is the anatomy and dynamics of sexual energy. So after we make love we talk and analyze what happened.

How has Tantra developed from Buddhist and Hindu teachings?

Not very accurate. Tantra came first as a grassroots rebellion against these and other organized religions. The earliest Tantra writings created a path to enlightenment without dogma or intermediaries like priests or holy men.

Why is Tantra important to Buddhism and Hinduism?

Buddhism and Hinduism aren’t anywhere near as sex-positive as Tantra has always been. In contrast Tantra doesn’t separate sex and spirit. Though it wasn’t originally a sexual practice, it advocates the awareness and application of the physical, especially lifeforce energy, to spiritual growth. That’s so different from modern religions that in the West it’s become identified with sacred sexuality.

What is the difference between Tantric sex and regular sex?

First, Tantric lovers treat their beloved as a reflection of the divine. A god or goddess. Next, love making happens in a sacred space with ritual practices like meditation, eyegazing, and intentionally calling in desired energies. Tantric sex is more conscious, more communication, more cooperation instead of male dominated. It’s longer because it’s focused on heightening sexual energy and amassing more pleasure instead of the goal of orgasms. Tantric lovers have multiple orgasms, many of them energy based instead of purely physical and triggered by more of the 31 erogenous zones than average lovers contact. When Tantric lovers choose to climax, women usually come first and many times. Many say it’s slower which is true at times. But Tantric sex is changeable, sometimes slow, sometimes fast, and often interrupted by application of hands and mouths.

How can people experience the best orgasms with Tantra?

By taking time, building energy together, targeting erogenous zones, and synchronizing their motions to reach a series of pleasure peaks, first alternately and eventually together.

What are the best Tantric sex positions?

The classic position is yab-yum, with her on his lap with her legs wrapped around his hips. The name means mother father because it depicts the Tantric creation myth, far removed from Adam and Eve. The Tantric view is that the divine beings Shiva and a Shakti create the world by making love in this position. Their secretions overflowed and solidified into the physical  universe. But to ask the question actually shows confusion with Tantra which rarely specifies postures and the Kama Sutra which has a chapter focusing on sex positions.

What can people do every day to experience Tantra?

Become more aware of their bodies, its sensations, its energies. They can do this my meditating before and during sex, practicing relaxation, and breathing more consciously.

Tell me about your product range?

We offer Tantric sex ebooks, long-distance coaching, and live private workshops. We have hundreds of free articles on our website and a steady feed of sexual news, techniques, and discoveries on our blog. Our latest ebook is Long Hot Tantric Love Making available at Tahtra At Tahoe.

Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.