Mutual Masturbation

Masturbation has long been proven to be an effective tool in our arsenal for self care, self exploration and all things considered.  Mutual Masturbation is very safe sex alternative.

 

Recently with social media, gaining trends and more positive discussion and open sexuality; masturbation is rising above the stigma that has unfairly surrounded it in the past decades. And so it should be, Masturbation is amazing.

 

A very under-rated facet of masturbation that does not get anywhere near enough of the spotlight is Mutual Masturbation.

 

When we think of mutual masturbation what first pops to head is long distance relationships, sharing that erotic phone call or scandalous skype/Facetime video call in nothing but your very intimate of wears. Or at least that is what most people thought of when I asked them as I went to write this article.

 

True.

 

These forms of mutual masturbation are very mutual and very sexy, hot and heedy. I love them, I love the ability that it brings to long distance relationships, or even not to long distance ones. Out for the night? Send something sexy and masturbate together. The principle of finding each other simultaneously arousing enough to bring you pleasure and climax even though you’re apart- bellissimo.

 

There are even more and more toys that are tailored to making the most of long distance masturbation like Lovense, Kiroo and We Vibe.

 

But that was not the type of Mutual Masturbation I am referring to. The type that definitely should be explored more, talked about more and definitely used more. Mutual Masturbation in real life involves more than one person enjoying themselves, together in the same room. It may sound like an oxymoron, but trust me, it isn’t. If anything, it may be one of the most intimate things you can do with your partner(s). It is watching your play partner giving themselves pleasure, while you give yourself pleasure, and they watch you.

Let’s start by looking at why this is such an intimate mode of sexual exploration. Yes, sexual intercourse is very intimate, it is the joining of your bodies, it is creating connection. When we masturbate however, we masturbate usually with thoughts or stimuli that turn us on. These can be various such as porn, videos, stories, memories, fantasies, dreams. How often can you say though, that the object of your arousal is in front of you, a breath away, watching you pleasure yourself, watching you get aroused by their presence?

Intimate right?

Mutual Masturbation also brings out that tiny little piece of us that some may be curious about Voyeurism and exhibitionism but without the crowded audience or public. Voyeurism is the act of watching others participating in sexual exploits, Exhibitionism is enjoying being watched.

Mutual masturbation is a brilliant avenue to learn about your play partner and for them to learn about you too. What better way to learn what a person likes, how they get off, what their spots are, how they like being caressed, then to actually see them doing so. To make matters even sexier, you can hear it too. No need to hold back, using your words to help tell the story, can only enhance your experience. Expressing gratitude at the sight, the sound, the enjoyment of the moment or the sight of certain things either of you are doing may be enough to tip you over the edge.

 

This can also be a wonderful foray into using toys. Have you been nervous about using toys during sex? Using toys during mutual masturbation may be the key. This is your time to showcase your tips and tricks, heck, if you wanted to, you could even request your play partner to use something. The reason this is a good and neutral ground to try out incorporating toys can be numerous. Some partners may feel intimidated by the use of toys in their usual repertoire, using toys during mutual masturbation will highlight the pleasure but also highlight that that pleasure is not taking away from the connection and the intimacy with your play partner. It is an extension. If you have been worried about the logistics, this is also a trial run in how you can figure out how to best incorporate the toys into your routine.

 

And just think, how sexy is it to say or hear “Oh I wish I could taste you while using this toy.” or “I want to feel you inside me while using this”. I can definitely see how a person would feel aroused at these prospects. Again, it is a beautiful and exciting notion that toys are an extension of our sexual intimacy, they are not replacements.

Mutual Masturbation doesn’t need to end here though, it can be part one, the first course. You don’t simply need to strictly never touch each other, that is the beauty of this. It may evolve organically into sharing the touch, sharing an orgasm, together, helping each other orgasm. Who says you can’t kiss while you share this intimate experience? There are no rules, you make them yourself. This is a type of exploration that demands more positive discussion.

 

This being said, it can be very daunting to expose yourself during your most private pleasures, even to your closest person. If you would like to try mutual masturbation but your play partner is hesitant, do not be disheartened. Take it slow, try broaching the subject such as would you like to watch me masturbate (or cum). You could try watching porn/videos together, reading salacious stories together and inviting them to show you what they like. Like all acts, consent is important, but it can also take time. Remember, we are coming out of an era where masturbation was still taught as bad, so for many people, masturbation was a private act and when they masturbated, they kept it private so that they would not be reprimanded or judged. Being public about masturbation, even in your relationship may be a big step for some people. Be kind. Be open. Be understanding. Show them this article, and let’s start the conversation and bring masturbation and mutual masturbation out of the darkness.

 

At your Service,

Tiffany

OhZone Sales Consultant, Educator and Promoter of Masturbation

What are Common Fetishes Seen in Porn?

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There are a lot of fetishes out there. It doesn’t matter what anyone happens to be into, they can find a whole array of porn videos to see it play out. A fetish, by the way, is “a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.” That means that a person can fetishize basically anything that they want, although it’s almost never a choice. A fetish is something that a person can’t control, but needs nonetheless. Here are some of the most common fetishes that can be found in porn.

Foot Fetish

By and large, the most common fetish out there is the foot fetish and it comes in many different forms. You can find foot fetish videos where feet are simply displayed for the camera. Then there are foot fetish videos with feet being licked, smelled, and even having sex with someone. The feet can be naked or they can be in stockings or shoes. If there’s a way to show off feet, there are hundreds or thousands of porn videos with it happening to find.

Nylon Fetish

Next up is the nylon fetish. It’s just as common as the foot fetish, but it doesn’t have to be as obvious. Nylon fetishists can find their subjects in almost any porn video that they see. There’s almost always a part of the video that has the model in nylons and that’s all it takes for some people. Of course, there are also plenty of porn videos that take it to an extreme. You can see nylons getting ripped apart, used as a restraint, and even being forced on someone who does want to wear them. It all depends on how deep the fetish goes.

Ageplay

Ageplay really has two different forms, but if we’re talking about the most common fetishes in porn, then we have to talk about age difference porn. It’s all over the place and can come in the form of an older woman with a younger man or an older man with a younger woman. It’s where the whole MILF thing comes from. Younger men tend to fetishize older women that they see as sexually experienced seductresses. Any porn search on any site is going to bring up lots of age play videos with some other fetish thrown in.

Voyeurism

Voyeurism is also very high on the list. It’s the basis for an entire industry of reality porn videos. It doesn’t matter how realistic it actually is. If you’re told that people are having real sex and not performing for a camera, a fetishist can lose himself in anything he sees. Naturally, actual voyeur porn is next to impossible to find. That’s because it’s very illegal to record someone without his or her consent and sell it as adult content. Even so, the fantasy is being sold all over the internet and it’s not going to be going anywhere.

Bondage

Getting more into the specialty aspect of porn, you can find bondage. This is a common one, but it usually requires porn that’s focused on it. You can’t really just add in a little bondage to a vanilla sex scene and think it will satisfy anyone. The bondage needs to be front and center and it usually requires special equipment. That’s why you won’t find quite as many bondage porn videos as foot or nylon fetishes, but it’s still extremely common. A little rope can go a long way if you know how to use it.

Role Playing

Finally, we get to role play. This is a fetish that you can find anywhere at any time. All it involves is someone playing the role of someone else during sex. This can be a woman pretending to a college student, a man pretending to be a plumber, or any person pretending to be a fictional character. It’s as common in porn as it is in the actual bedroom. Any porn site that focuses on role play can expect to have a whole lot of traffic and it doubles as a great way to learn how to play at it in real life.

How I Met My Boyfriend

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It was a crisp September morning, I’d come into work hoping to make a few sex lives better, help a people achieve the orgasms of their dreams… Not expecting to meet the man of mine.

So I had a younger couple come in, sweet and friendly, they wandered for a bit before timidly accepting defeat and asking me for assistance (it’s always the way, they always come to us in the end). The girlfriend was definitely more outgoing just confidently stating that they wanted to try pegging but had no idea where to start as beginners, much like first times for most things.

I took them for a wander through the store, while advising they were living my dream, after all Peg All Men 2020 has been my motto all year (haven’t been successful but we’ll talk about my failures another time.)

I asked the standard questions, what textures do we like, hard or soft, have we tried any buttstuff before, looking back the poor guy was probably getting a bit of a brain overload with all of my questions. He wanted a realistic feel, he wanted something not too big, we wanted a bit of flexibility.

With all questions asked I showed him our ranges, the King Cocks, the Colours, the Maias, each one bringing it’s own qualities to the table. King Cock had realist dicks down to a science (veins and all), not to mention options.

Brown dicks? You got it.

Black dicks? You got it.

Beige dicks? You got it.

Balls? No balls? You bet.

Clear dicks that would produce a lovely holographic look when held to light? Absolutely.

They weren’t it.

 

Colours had a nice size and colour range but it wasn’t quite was he was after either.

 

And Maia, they were almost there but the experience wasn’t exactly the realism that he wanted, this guy was after a penis but without the men… Aren’t we all 😉

 

We had just gotten the RealRock Silicone Dildos in… I’d heard some about these before but hadn’t gotten the opportunity to look at them properly or feel a tester so I suggested we take one out of the packet and feel it with gloves on (don’t be silly, wrap your willy).

We get to the counter, pop on our safety gear and I’ll be honest… It was love at first handful, he was thick, details in all the right places, we had gotten the 6” for the young man because as I said you can always insert less of a bigger dick, but you can’t insert more of a smaller one.

The RealRock dong is thermoreactive, if you microwave for 30 seconds or throw it into hot water it will soften up, giving more flexibility and a real deal kinda feel (good rhyming, I know).

On the other hand if you pop this bad boy in the freezer he will get absolutely (real) rock hard, which is an entirely different experience again.

The ability to switch up how you play with this one was mind blowing to all parties, we were stunned it was like buying multiple dildos at once.

And like Goldilocks, this one was just right. This man had found *The One*, and he was on his merry way.

 

But I was left in a state of shock, what had just happened, there’s no way I had just met the love of my life… It wasn’t possible, I wouldn’t believe it.

I spent weeks in denial, I had bought the Maia Kyle not long ago… He was the one for me… I couldn’t be unfaithful this early on, it was only fresh.

Sleepless nights, all I could think about was the feeling of the dildo, like a playdough that had been left out just a little too long, the flexibility, the idea that you could just pick the firmness depending on the day, I wished longingly to have him be mine. But it wasn’t meant to be… It couldn’t be.

 

But alas, I had to go into work every day and see him, hanging across the other side of the store, taunting me with his versatility, his size range, “I could be whatever you want, whenever you want” I could hear him calling to me. It was torture, having to turn him down day after day, when all I wanted was to be with him.

Having to watch customer after customer cop a feel and take one home, having to list all the reasons he was a catch, having to feel him with them… I couldn’t do it anymore.

 

  • Finally, I cave, “I’ve gotta do it, I can’t keep denying our connection and a shot at real love” I thought to myself. I have the talk with my Kyle, “You’ve been great, I’ve loved the few weeks we’ve spent together… But I need to explore my options. It’s not you, it’s me”. Obviously, it’s a dildo so it was a very short one sided conversation, I don’t know if it was amicable, but it doesn’t matter, I was about to take the plunge.

 

It’s been a few months now, my RealRock and I are going steady. I found out we’re more compatible than I’ve ever been with anything else (man or silicone). He makes me happy, he keeps my needs met, I don’t think I’ll let him go anytime soon.

I still keep Kyle as my side piece, every now and then I like to dip back into the simplicity of him. But that’s a secret (again, they’re dildos, how would they know).

 

I think I owe it all to the couple who wanted to try pegging, they’ve given me this happiness and I’m very thankful.