Tips for First Time Gay Anal Sex

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Anal sex is often perceived as the ultimate type of gay love making, it’s even more important when you need Tips for First Time Gay Anal Sex. Everyone has to start from somewhere, but it’s the best if you have the knowledge before you progress into anal sex, so you know what is going to happen! Anal sex surprise can hurt at first, it will be a surprise to your organism, and might well be termed as something uncomfortable at the beginning. If you want to try it though, here are some tips on how to begin and how to experience it. You might think that if you’re not doing it correctly, or think negative thoughts like

“you are not normal”.

Even though many gay men have loving relationships and excellent sex life’s even if they don’t engage in anal sex. You will find yourself asking the questions:

“Is gay anal sex really for me?”

It is important for you to spend time on discovering your anus before having sex with others. Have a relaxing bath and stay naked. Go to your bedroom and put some lube on a finger, work it around the outer side of your anus, while relaxing, and start pushing it in. Sometimes watching a porn video, is the perfect sex education.

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The sensations at the start might already be quite intense but relax. If you want, use your other hand to masturbate and remind yourself some feelings which you’re familiar. Allow yourself to enjoy all the feelings. Relax and feel free to fantasize anything you want. Explore the new experience and get a sense of the muscle inside you. Make sure your fingernails are trimmed if you are using fingers and that all anal sex toys don’t have any sharp edges on them especially when using metal butt plugs or dildos. Then, when you’re comfortable, try inserting a second finger. Rest assured that your anus can certainly receive 2 fingers. When you withdraw your fingers you might feel uncomfortable and that you want to go to the toilet. This is normal as it is just a reflex reaction.

You might also want to experiment with something more life size. If so, use a proper dildo and not homemade products or a cucumber. You don’t want to scratch the thing membrane of your anus or have something nasty break off in there. When using the dildo, begin again with your fingers and use a lot of lube. Silicone based lubricants is the best for anal play as water based lubricants are absorbed into the body through the rectum so I advise not using them. As soon as you bring silicone anal toys into the equation you will have to stick with Superslyde as most silicone lubricant’s will deteriorate silicone toys due to chemical interaction.

Relaxation is key to anything anal, the fact that something going into an area that society says


can be a bit daunting but once you’re past that you will be fine and dandy, the stigma alone attached to anal play can be enough not to relax someone, but research and relaxation are the only things that will calm you down. You need to find a relaxed position and relax the muscles of your anus. Sitting with your ass to one side can work well. Try laying on your left side and bring your right knee up to your chest and keep your left leg straight it will make it a lot easier for a toy or penis or anything like that to slip into the anus. If you’re standing, make sure your legs remain relaxed. If they tense, the sphincter will tense too. Push it in slowly and let it slide.

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When you feel resistance, pause and relax. If you push your anus towards the dildo, as if you were pushing faces out, you might find you open more easily. Still, however gently you go, you can expect a discomfort. There might be a moment of pain. After this, the rest will probably slip in a lot more easily and everything will be better. The sensation from anal sex can feel intense, as if every part in your body and brain just started firing. Your instinct might be immediately to masturbate and cum in a way more exciting than you ever have before. Enjoy the experience of gay anal sex, it is a comforting and mature gay experience.

With anal toys I tend to lean towards more intermediate toys over beginners anal sex toys because unless they only pass stools like a rabbit they have the ability to easily take more than a small finger sized toy. Some people might disagree with my stance on going to intermediate rather than Beginner anal toys but my reasoning is solid, start with fingers, warm up to it then move onto bigger and better items. For instance, I  started on the Rocks Off  “Naughty Boy” 7 Speed prostate stimulator. I thought this was the bees knees when beginning and now I’m already up to our UR3 Straps and Hoodlums!

If you are using a dildo, move the dildo slowly and give yourself time to get used to it. It might be that’s enough for the moment, or it might be that you want to experience a faster pace and for as long as it would take you to cum. If it’s the second you want, be careful. The dildo can go as fast and as hard as you make it and experience no pain of its own. In other words, a dildo does not feel the same as a penis. Also, the loose skin around the shaft of a penis will lessen the friction on the anus. The feelings may become intense and surely unique. You might start groaning, moaning and change facial faces. There comes a point when it is as if there is a barrier to cross. The feeling of being about to explode might make you stop. Or you can cross that barrier to find a further degree of elation.

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Finally, there is the point where you finish out. It is as if a plateau has been attained and no further level is possible. You might want to stay there a little while, as it were to admire the view, then pause and prepare for the final excitement, which is when you withdraw. It is possible you might make a mess. In order not to feel anxious about this, have a towel down or do it over a toilet or an easily cleaned surface. Keep in mind thought that, after the high, there is a downside. After using a dildo, just as after having sex, your anus might take time to close. You might need to spend time sitting on the toilet relaxing and calming down. Also, the mess you might make risks leading to feelings of shame and humiliation. Mentally, you might feel unfocused and ‘spaced’ for hours to follow.

Especially when you first have anal sex be prepared to make further discovery. On the one hand, if you’re the bottom, you are showing something intimate about yourself. You are experiencing ecstatic sensations and making those noises and faces again with your partner watching you. And you have to want him to do that. On the other hand, you’ll be seeing someone else working his way towards orgasm differently from what you’ll have seen and shared when masturbating or giving and receiving head.

If you are going to have anal sex with a lover, there is a massive array or douches and enema kits available and you want to clean out as much fecal matter as you possibly can, not only does this make anal play feel a lot better it will clean you out and remove the fear of poo or anything like that coming out Be prepared for the feeling of passivity if you are having anal sex with a lover. If you resist being passive and wanting him to do it to you, perhaps thinking that makes you less of a man, then, no matter your preparation, you’ll be in for a bad time. But if you accept all the feelings involved in having gay anal sex, then it can be something unique.  Exploring each others body is a personal and very sensual thing and anal is fantastic when it comes to bringing that next level of intensity to a relationship, you will feel closer not only physically but emotionally. So choose the right toys, the right partner, the right time and anal will be a blast.

I hope you enjoyed this article series. Now you are ready to experience gay orgasms the way it’s meant to be.

About the author: Nick is a sales consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres





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