This Happened the First Time I Had Strap-on Sex with My Girlfriend

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My girlfriend, Sarah, and I were sitting in bed one night when she started to talk about her friend, Cheryl. We both work long hours at the office, and even though we work in the same building, most of our conversations happen in bed. You know, we ask each other about our days, how horrible our bosses were, everyday couple talk. But I never thought we’d talk about strapon dating.

 

“Cheryl had strap-on sex last weekend with some guy she met online!” she said with bewilderment.

“Oh yeah?” I replied, my eyes glued to Antman playing on the tv. Man, if I could shrink like that, the first place I’m going is Area 51.

Sarah’s body turned towards mine, demanding my attention. “Yeah, she said it was a little weird at first because she never had to thrust like that before, but it’s apparently a really fun experience.”

I knew where she was going with this. Sure, Cheryl had a good time, but my butt is a no-go zone. What straight guy would allow their ass to get penetrated by a giant dildo?

 

“Are you sure the guy was straight?” I asked.

“Of course, he was straight. Strap-on sex doesn’t mean you’re gay,” she replied offensively.

I took a deep breath, “is this something you want to try?” I paused in silence, waiting for her answer.

“Well,” she said nervously, “I am really curious about it. I thought we could try something new – it sounds like a lot of fun.”

“Why this? Out of all the things we could try, why this?”

“Why? Why not. We’ve never done it before, I would love to try role reversal, and the male G-spot is in the anus.”

Really? I didn’t want to look curious, so I told her I’d think about it. That night while she was asleep, I did a little research. What sparked my curiosity is the male G-spot; I didn’t know it was in the anus. Does this mean it’s going to feel good? Are my orgasms going to be even better?

 

Sarah had the day off the next morning, so I wrote her a note and left it on my pillow, “To do list: go get a strap-on.” A couple of hours later, she sent me a photo of the kit, with the message, “can’t wait to see you!” To be honest, I was really excited. The minute I got off work, I basically ran home.

 

When I got home, Sarah was on the bed, waiting for me. I climbed on top of her, kissing her passionately. She sucked her finger and then slide it into my ass, massaging it slowly. I could feel my body loosen up; I was excited to give this a try. After a couple of minutes, I got off the bed, grabbed the kit, and handed it to her.

 

Sarah came out of the bathroom with the strap harnessed around her waist. It wasn’t so scary as I imagined. “Listen, I’ve been doing a lot of research about it today, so I think I have a pretty good understanding of it. The most important thing is you tell me if it’s uncomfortable or painful. Don’t try to “take it like a man,” got it? Use the safeword red if you want to stop.” I nodded in agreement, “got it.”

 

She lathered the dildo up with lube and laid on her back. “Wait,” I said, “aren’t we doing it in doggy style?”

“No,” she shook her head, “that’s for more advanced people. I read that doing it cowgirl is the best for beginners.” I climbed on top of her and straddled her with my legs, we both giggled. “I’ve never seen you from this angle before,” she said.

 

I took a deep breath and slowly slid the dildo inside of me. Was there pain? No, but it definitely didn’t feel comfortable at first. Sure, she did everything right and used lots of lube, but nothing can explain the initial feeling of something going up your ass. I didn’t move for the first couple of seconds; I was adjusting to the new feeling. Then slowly, I slid up and down the dildo; not too deep, just enough to ease into it. Sarah had her hands on my thighs, lightly pressing into me.

 

I picked up momentum; a tingling feeling ran through my body. So, I started to go deeper and faster, the sensations streaming up my body; I couldn’t stop, I was jumping like a yo-yo. I knew I was about to orgasm, and that’s something I didn’t want to miss out on. “I want you to come for me,” I heard Sarah say, and that was all I needed to hear. I expected a usual orgasm, but this one was different. It exploded throughout my whole body, paralyzing me for a moment. I had reached pure bliss, something that’s never happened to me before.

 

Sarah looked at me, and I looked at her in silence. I didn’t know what to say; I couldn’t think of words at that moment; I was emotional. “So, how was it?” she asked. I removed the dildo from me and laid next to her on the bed, “Amazing.”

 

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8 Things to Discuss with Your Partner before Engaging in Strap-on Sex

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This probably isn’t your first time having sex with your partner. But it is your first time talking about strap-on sex. It’s great that you’re interested in exploring different sexual activities, but it’s also important to talk to your partner beforehand. Not everyone likes surprises, and when it comes to sex, those surprises won’t necessarily end well. Talking to your partner before trying out a new activity in the bedroom will give them time to process and decide if it’s something they’d like to do. Sitting down for a strapon chat is crucial, but what are you going to talk about? Here are eight topics to discuss with your partner before having strap-on sex.

 

Have they tried it before?

Unless you ask, you don’t know. Maybe your partner has already tried strap-on sex before. If so, ask them how they felt about it and their experience. Their past experience has a lot to do with how they feel about strap-on sex in general. If they had a negative experience, then they may not be up to try it again. Knowing their history with strap-on sex will give you a better idea of how to approach the subject.

 

Do they want to try strap-on sex?

Before you even think about anything else, you need to get their consent. Is your partner even interested in strap-on sex? Though you may want to give it a try, it doesn’t mean they share the same interests. Before ordering your strap-on kit, sit down with your partner, and see how they feel about this. Enthusiastic consent is essential. If they’re not excited to try it, then don’t push the subject further.

 

Their thoughts about it

You need to know how they honestly feel about trying it out. Your partner deserves a chance to express their feelings. Yes, you brought it up, which is courageous, but if this is an equal relationship, then they need to be able to speak their mind. Who knows how they feel; perhaps they’re curious to give it a try, but they’re scared. Or, they could be entirely on board with the idea.

 

What are their boundaries?

Remember, sex is different for everyone. Though you may be more open about strap-on sex, your partner may not share the same feelings. If they’ve agreed to give strap-on sex a try, then the next step is discussing the boundaries. Since they’ve never tried strap-on sex before, their boundaries may not be solidified. But, there may be some acts which are off-limits for them. Regardless, a safeword should be picked beforehand; giving both people an out if one of you reaches a discomfort.

 

Why you want to try it

There are many reasons why people want to try strap-on sex. Some are curious, others are interested in a role reversal, and others want to try a sexual taboo. It doesn’t matter why you want to explore strap-on sex, but you should explain your reason to your partner. It’s very easy for people to assume the reason their partner wants to try strap-on sex has something to do with their lack of sexual performance. Make sure your partner knows exactly why you want to give strap-on sex a try.

 

Talk about the fears involved

Up until now, strap-on sex was seen as a taboo. This is because there are a lot of myths surrounding it. For example, men who enjoy strap-on sex are gay, strap-on sex is really painful, if a woman likes it she’s secretly a lesbian, and so on. So, your partner may be curious to try strap-on sex, but these myths may be preventing them from trying it out. By talking about these fears and discussing them with your partner, you’ll put these fears to rest.

 

The importance of communication

Even though you’re excited about trying strap-on sex, you’re probably a little nervous as well. And this is completely normal when trying something new. However, the difference between a positive and negative experience is communication. If your partner is interested in giving it a try, then you two need to agree on communicating during the experience. If you’re not expressing what’s feeling good or bad, it can ruin future experiences.

 

Respect their boundaries

If your partner isn’t into strap-on sex, you need to respect their decision. Sometimes people just need space to think it over, in that case, give them the space they need. Strap-on sex could be overwhelming for them as well, try to start off with small sex toys such as butt plugs or your finger to let them test it out.

 

Strap-on sex can be a great sexual experience, but only if your partner is interested. This is why it’s crucial you sit down with your partner and talk about it. No one said the conversation was going to be an easy one. But regardless of the answer, you’ll be able to learn more about your partner, and vice versa.

 

 

6 Interesting Facts about Pegging

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These days, we see a lot of pegging personals and pegging dating sites, which means only one thing – heterosexual men are enjoying anal sex with their girlfriends. Pegging allows them to experience the role of a woman during anal sex and they find this very exciting. Also, this type of sex provides women with a chance to see what it’s like to be a man. In fact, pegging or strap-on sex is one of the most popular sex trends these days and heterosexual men are the ones who are enjoying it the most. With that in mind, we are going to talk about 6 interesting facts about pegging.

 

What Is Pegging?

 

The name “pegging” might sound confusing, especially to men who are used to traditional intercourse, but the definition of pegging is actually very simple. Pegging is a type of sex during which a woman penetrates a man’s anus with a strap-on dildo. Lesbian couples also enjoy pegging, but believe it or not, it’s more popular among heterosexual couples.

 

Why Men Love It So Much?

 

You probably know that women have something that is called a G-Spot, right? It is a spot inside their vagina that, when stimulated, makes them cum. Well, men have this too. It’s an erogenous zone called the “p-spot” and it is located inside the rectum. By touching the p-spot, a person stimulates the prostate gland, which allows them to have more intense orgasms. Stimulating the prostate gland with a strap-on dildo is easy and that is why men love pegging so much.

 

Pegging Helps Lovers To Experience Each Other’s Roles In Bed

 

Most men and women don’t know what it’s like for the other person during sex. Pegging allows them to change the roles and experience sex from their lover’s perspective. This is one of the main reasons why strap-on sex is so popular these days. When she straps on a dildo, a woman gets to experience the excitement of thrusting and dominating her boyfriend. On the other hand, a man gets to see what it’s like to be penetrated. This type of sex helps lovers understand each other better during sex and that is why men and women enjoy pegging.

 

It Makes Men Better At Anal Sex

 

Most men are trying their best to make anal sex pleasurable for women, but to be honest, this is a very difficult task. It requires a lot of lube, a perfect technique, and patience. Most women would agree that horny men don’t bother with these three things during anal sex. However, when a guy tries pegging, he gets to see what anal sex is like for a woman, which things feel good and which don’t.

 

Best Positions For Pegging

 

Considering that most straight men are not used to being penetrated, finding the most comfortable position is very important. These days, doggy style is the most popular position for pegging, but that doesn’t mean it’s the best for strap-on sex. Therefore, here are the three best positions for pegging.

 

Doggy Style

 

We know we said that doggy style is not the best position for pegging, but it’s one of the best. It deserves a spot on our list because it is perfect for beginners. This position allows a man to control how deep the dildo goes. Also, a woman can easily play with the man’s anus.

 

Face-To-Face Missionary

 

This is undoubtedly the most intimate position. In a face-to-face missionary, man and woman can explore each other’s bodies during sex. Also, this position allows a woman to see her lover’s face during intercourse meaning she can see when he is enjoying himself and when he is in pain. One of the best things about this position is the fact that a man’s penis is easily accessible. It is literally up for grabs.

 

Cowboy

 

The cowboy position is on this list for the same reason as doggy style. It allows a man to control penetration during sex. The man does all the work here, while a woman can simply enjoy the show and play with his penis.

 

Pegging Doesn’t Make You Are Gay Or Bisexual

 

In today’s society, pegging is still a bit of a taboo. Most heterosexual men think that putting things in your butt makes you gay simply because that is what gay men do. However, this is not true. You don’t have to question your masculinity just because you like to play with your own anus. As we said, a man’s anus is full of nerve endings and stimulating the prostate can help a man experience intense orgasms. If a man wants to enjoy some anal play, that doesn’t make him gay or bisexual. It just means that he knows how to pleasure himself.

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7 Surefire Ways to Enjoy Strap-On Sex

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Strap-on sex or pegging is something a lot of people want to try out these days. However, there are a lot of stigmas and misconceptions that are harming the strapon dating scene. Namely, there are a lot of people who are trying to label it as “unnatural”. And while there’s nothing unnatural about it, pegging is probably the most unique type of sex a man and a woman can experience together. The act of switching the roles in the bedroom turns people on, but you have to know what you’re doing in order to have strap-on sex in a proper and safe manner. With that in mind, we’re going to talk about the 7 surefire ways you can enjoy strap-on sex with your beloved partner.

Invest your Time and Money into Buying the Right Kind of Equipment

A positive strap-on experience may come with a hefty price tag.In other words, you need to invest in some quality equipment. However, finding good equipment isn’t as easy as you would assume. There are a lot of online stores and sex shops selling rubbish dildos you should never use with your significant other. All in all, the search for the perfect strap-on might prove to be a long and expensive one.However,it’s necessary, especiallyif you wishto find the kind the best possible equipment that will suit your needs.

Do Other Things with a Strap-On Before You Try Penetration

A lot of strap-on sex beginners go straight to penetration once they get their equipment. Now, this is a common mistake you have to avoid. It doesn’t matter if it’s your first time or not, you should never go straight to penetration. Your bodies have to relax and get used to this new sex toy. That said, you should probably try a lot of other things with a strap-on dildo before you try penetration. For example, you can cuddle and kiss while one of you wears the dildo. This way, you’ll get into the sexy mood and your bodies will get used to the equipment. Once you’re all relaxed and horny, you can “cut to the chase”.

Make Sure You Use a Lot of Lube

Having intercourse with your partner while they wear a strap-on dildo can be uncomfortable and painful if you forget to use a lubricant. Most of these dildos are very dry, so in order for your partner to enjoy being penetrated, you will have to use a lot of lube. Furthermore, these things can dry out additionally during sex, so you’ll have to ask your partner to tell you when to apply more lubricant.

Try All of Your Favorite Positions

The switching of the roles in the bedroom can be super fun because men and women sometimes want to see what sex is like for the other person. So, if you have a few positions you enjoy during regular sex, you should also try them out with a strap-on dildo. For example, if you and your lover enjoy the doggy style position, you have to try it with the switched roles. This will provide the girl with a feeling of power and it will show the man what it’s like to be a woman.

Make Sure to Communicate with Your Partner During Sex

As we said, strap-on sex can be uncomfortable, painful, and dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing or how your partner is feeling. Therefore, we have to say that honest communication is paramount in these situations. If you’re penetrating your boyfriend with a dildo, he might be too proud to admit that he’s in pain. So, you have to ask him how he’s feeling every few minutes. Remember, communication during sex is crucial for successful and safe pegging.

Ask Your Boyfriend to Give You Thrusting Lessons

Considering you’re a girl, you probably don’t know how to thrust properly. Don’t be ashamed, this is not something a lot of women have a chance to do, well, not until they try strap-on sex. So, if you’re not good at thrusting, feel free to ask your boyfriend to give you some lessons. This way, you will know how to please him and you’ll feel very powerful doing it.

Talk About Your Impressions Afterward and Make Sure to Clean Your Dildo

If you want to be better and enjoy this type of sex for years to come, you have to talk about it afterward. Share your impressions and give suggestions to each other. Also, make sure you clean your dildo and strap-on equipment every time you finish using it. The strap-on equipment is very expensive, so you have to take good care of it. We suggest you read the instruction manual and follow the rules.