12 Causes of Low Libido

Low Libido
This afternoon at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre in Kogarah, a women came in with some questions regarding medication resulting in loss of libido. She was quite concerned and was seeking advice on whether this was normal and what you can do to prevent this from happening. We talked for a while about sexual dysfunction and the causes of this as well as bonding over similar experiences. As someone who has previously been on medication that has effected my libido, I knew how frustrated this woman was.  So I took to the internet and did some research on the medication this lady was taking, as well as other causes for sexual dysfunction.
A sexual dysfunction or sexual disorder refers to experiencing difficulty during any phase of the sexual response cycle that prevents an individual from experiencing desire, physical pleasure, arousal or achieving orgasm.  HealthDirect Australia says that 30% (!!!) of all women have difficulty reaching orgasm. This can be linked to a number of things, some of which I have previously touched base on (certain birth controls such as the pill or the implanon), as well as some causes being as simple as feeling stressed. There are a number of Physical, as well as Psychological Causes of Loss of Libido in women.
Physical Causes:
  1. Vaginal Dryness: The number one cause of Sexual Dysfunction is improper lubrication or the inability to self lubricate. You can naturally enhance your ability to self lubricate by eating foods that are rich in estrogen. Foods that are high in (o)estrogen are foods like trail nuts, dried fruits, flax seeds, beans, tofu, soy milk and salmon. In the mean time, don’t be afraid to grab a bottle of SuperSlyde!
  2. Depression
  3. Anxiety
  4. Medications for Depression & Anxiety
  5. Other medications like contraception and antibiotics


Woman with Low Libido
Photo: Causes of Loss of Libido – Unhappy Woman
Psychological Causes:
  1. Stress: From being stressed at work, to carrying the world on your shoulders every day it’s no wonder you’re having trouble unwinding and concentrating on yourself during sex. If you’re stressed you should try to do something relaxing before intercourse. Try have a cup of green tea, or a bath, or even getting a massage from your partner.
  2. Mental illness: having a mental illness can distort the way you are thinking with your physical response. Once you’re convinced that you’re not going to be able to achieve orgasm, it is very difficult to get out of this mind frame. An option that you could consider is seeking advice from a sex therapist/sexologist.
  3. Emotional, Physical or Psychological Sexual Abuse: You should consider seeking counseling if you’re experiencing traumatic stress. The emotional toll of a traumatic event can cause life long emotions that can make day to day life frightening – if you’re experiencing traumatic stress you can call helplines 24/7 to help (Ph: 1800 18 7263 Australia) or visit BeyondBlue.
  4. History of Poor Relationships: Closely linked to the above as well as the fear of the relationship or experience turning out the same as previous relationships.
  5. Substance Abuse: Any substance that changes your state of mind can effect your sexual response.
  6. Emotional Response: A females emotional response to the ability to orgasm is also a massive factor contributing towards Sexual Dysfunction. How frustrating – it’s like a never ending circle!
  7. Inability to relax – Refer to #1
Treatment of Sexual Dysfunction often combines medical and psychological approaches. If you are on medication that is affecting your libido, contact your doctor and ask for a review of your medication. You can ask to change doses or change medications completely if you so wish.  If you are experiencing depression, anxiety, or traumatic stress, seeking professional advice is highly recommended. More often than not, behavioral approaches that promote an attitude shift, encourage relaxation and reduce stress will be recommended. Try increasing the amount you exercise, or do more things that help you to relax and make you feel good like taking a bath or listening to a certain type of music.
The brain is a wonderful, yet extremely complex thing and more often than not we have just conditioned ourselves to believe that we can only do a certain thing or are UN-able to achieve or do a certain thing, such as the inability to achieve an orgasm. But hey, realizing that you’re doing this is the first step to getting out of that rut – so go you!  Maybe even just try something new, you never know it just might work! I hope these Causes of Loss of Libido help you learn what is happening in your body.

About the Author: Chloe a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres


When a Man’s Libido Decreases…

Upset Couple Photo

First, even if you don’t feel like, just have sex anyway. I know that this sounds absurd but the truth is that once you get into action, your body will switch on. I am not disputing the fact that your body is going to require sometime before catching up but once you are into the system, believe me that you will be dying to have it. The more you have sex, the more you will start craving for sex. If your man is not satisfying you enough, I advise that you visit the best adult stores Australia and get some toys and supplements to give yourself a treat.


If you are still not coming, ask your partner to extend the foreplay session and not get into penetration first. Introduce some stimuli like massage to boost your intimacy and ensure that you have warmed up properly before getting it in. you can find a wide of gels and massage oils at any online sex shop and this will make all the difference and be able to fulfill your fantasies. Ranging from the happily married to fledgling lovers, decreasing libido is a recipe for problems in a relationship. It usually leads to a strained sex life coupled with daily arguments and hostility. There are so many reasons that can lead to decreased libido including age, depression and stress but this doesn’t mean that it’s the end of your sex career. The best adults stores online have solutions to your libido issues ranging from toys, supplements and advice on various techniques that ensures your relationship is not affected. If you have been suffering silently with low libido for a long time and you fear that it has affected the quality of your sex life, there are some ways to increase libido and enjoy sex once more.

But what accounts for the loss of libido in men?  The reasons for this intricate issue range from the physical and restorative to the mental and social. Sometimes it can a combination of multiple factor’s as to why someone could lose their libido over a long period of time. It is important to understand that fast fixes don’t tackle everything.

  • Erectile Dysfunction Causes Loss of Libido: Barrenness, or ED, erectile brokenness, is not the same as loss of drive, but rather when you encounter one, at some point or another you are liable to feel alternate also. “Just 7% of young fellows report being not able keep an erection,” Laumann says. In spite of the fact that ED increases with age: “It’s 12% by age 40, 18% for a very long time 50-59; and after that a sharp ascent by age 60 to 25%to 30%,” says Laumann.
  • Execution Anxiety and Loss of Libido: Men report two noteworthy issues – nervousness about execution and peaking too soon, as indicated by Laumann. Very nearly one in three men report untimely discharge, while under one in five are agonized over execution, as indicated by Laumann.
    What’s more, the nervousness doesn’t stop there. Numerous cutting edge, cherishing, and scrupulous spouses feel they have not genuinely “performed” unless their accomplices peak amid sex, as well. Furthermore, as Laumann’s insights appear, just 26% of ladies report that they generally encounter climax amid sex, contrasted and 75% of men. No big surprise men feel the weight – and performing under weight can bring about loss of moxie.
  • Stress Leads to Loss of Libido: Work anxiety and self-regard are additionally huge elements. “On the off chance that a man’s execution at work is tested, and he doesn’t feel he is accomplishing or doesn’t feel self-esteem, he frequently numbs himself sexually,” says Perel, “Longing is a sound type of qualification – when you don’t feel meriting, you close down.”
  • Therapeutic Conditions Can Cause Loss of Libido: An assortment of therapeutic issues and ceaseless physical conditions can lessen a man’s sex drive. Genuine sicknesses, for example, tumor and discouragement, can absolutely hose any musings of sex. Cardiovascular ailment, hypertension, and diabetes can lessen blood stream to the body, including the privates, wreaking ruin on moxie too. Interminable liquor addiction and even infrequent unnecessary liquor utilization are famous for arousing want however hindering execution. Conditions, for example, thyroid issue and tumors of the pituitary organ (which controls most hormone generation, including sex hormones) can likewise bring down moxie.