My Male Chastity Story

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I want to explain how I use my male chastity device and I want to inform you guys about the pleasures you will enjoy with your manhood being under lock and key and it won’t damage your marriage or relationship. When talking about the intricacies of Male Chastity strategies most guys out there claiming to be experts are really online liars. The fact there are many guys who like to have a cock and balls locked up indefinitely by their wives, girlfriends or male partner is astounding. The numbers of these kinky guys I believe are very small, and this article will explain what I have learned about male chastity devices.

My First Experience Wearing a Chastity Device

A few days before I was to get married I purchased a CB3000 which seemed to be the most popular of chastity devices on the market. This I presented as a joke to my wife as a surprise present before our wedding as she had expressed to me doubt that I could remain faithful to her after marriage. I actually wanted to find how seriously she took this as she had been cheated on earlier by previous boyfriends and always seemed to carry that distrust towards me.  She actually started experimenting with it and although the first time she insisted we try it and put the device on me it came as a bit of a shock – although silently and subconsciously I was pleased. We experimented and found out ways that the use of the device actually enhanced our pleasure. She started liking it so much – and I guess the thought of being in control – that after some time she would keep me bonded in my device for weeks at a stretch which gradually increased to months at a time.


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The trouble was that I could not masturbate and I started missing this activity. I had to beg her to release me and let me enjoy my freedom for the bare minimum, just a couple of days but she begin to take great pleasure in punishing me and keeping me deprived from sensory pleasures without her permission. She is no longer afraid that I will fool around with other girls or guys. I have become more caring towards her as I shower her with more love and attention when my cock is locked up. I have actually caught her recommending a male chastity devices to her closest friend whose husband had been found to be cheating on her. She told her friend that she should to keep him locked up in one of these when you are not around and he will never cheat on you again. And if he refuses to wear it he is obviously going to cheat on you again.

The erotic denial a males chastity device gives is obvious. I first started with complaining profusely. But now I realise that I have actually started enjoying the situation and am now I am a chastity fetish fan. Having my cock locked up in a male chastity device actually has the effect of turning me on and I find it more exciting when my wife dominates me and I have to ask her to release me.

I wanted to know more about my kinky obsession and went to consult an urologist and know whether there would or could be any adverse impact on my health if I used these male chastity devices. He let me know that there is not even a single resource or place for doctors which gives information on this condition or in all the medical and urological writings.So I went and did a bit of research on my own and got my male chastity device customized so that there would be a reduction of the amount of compression on my organ when I had an erection. As I am not a newbie now in the game and I did not use it for short periods of time I wanted to make sure all would be well and my health would be taken care of.

I searched a lot of sites and finally found a male chastity device that was perfect for me. The chastity devices here have great names also! The names serve as a turn on. Some of the product names include Torture Puzzle, Tigers Cage, Hell’s Dungeon, Grinder or Exoskeleton just to name a few which I looked up. These are all sold by quality vendors and not only are much more safe but the cock cage also cannot be removed without the help of a key. I finally purchased a silicone cock cage which is made of flexible material and partly adjustable and can be worn for prolonged periods of time.

With my wife’s permission and after consulting with my doctor I selected an expensive chastity device which had no rings and did not have the cock rings which are the cause of tissue compression. The Doctor told me that erection was a natural process and night time erections may help the flow of blood and also exercise the erectile and vascular tissues to keep them healthy and ensure that the cock does not waste away, atrophy due to non-usage. The cock is just like any other muscle and if not used for protracted periods of time it is bound to wither away. So I am very alert as I hope to have many more healthy erections to live for.

But the fact remains that doctor’s advice, however frightening and scary like causing cancer and impotence does not stop the addict from smoking or stopping or my wife from locking my cock a male chastity restraint for protracted periods. I was scared about the Doctors warnings so I went and took some second opinion.

Male Chastity Devices are a Type of BDSM Foreplay

What I found out was that like all other sex toys the chastity device which I purchased was a much sought after bondage item which is not controlled nor certified as safe by the FDA or other regulatory bodies. Obviously there are little or no known complaints of guys becoming impotent due to their squeezed up cock and balls due to wearing chastity restraints, because nobody is unhappy when wearing them and everyone is enjoying the tightness and restrictive pleasure of wearing them. My Doctor also helped me by consulting with his friend who was a specialist on urological trauma and told me that the fact is that are not too many reports of people being injured by wearing or because of over use of male chastity restraints.

I was able to get hold of a blogger Metal who Incidentally told me that he was also a renowned consultant for cocks which had been locked up for years together. Bondage and Discipline coupled with Sadism and Masochistic leanings were Metal’s area of expertise. He reassured me that he had a lot of clients with locked up cocks who had no difficulty in getting an erection when their devices were removed. The pain of the erection in the beginning always turns into pleasure.

Metal advised me that play with my custom chastity device is a kind of foreplay, which is really, really long and prolongs the pleasure to give a kind of tantric euphoria which passes on to transcendence. But there are rules that are good and need to be followed. Maybe you must strictly not allow yourself to be unhooked before being chained to the bed posts. A second useful rule suggestion by Metal and endorsed by my wife is that if I am allowed to cum then immediately afterwards my cock would get a sound spanking for being naughty and would get locked up in my chastity device for long stretches to which I happily agreed.

I have finally come to the conclusion that wearing a male chastity device enhances my marriage and would recommend to my friends that this is how I use my male chastity device and if they want to live a less kinky sex life they could always do so too.

Chastity Device Rules

First we should get this straight a cuckold’s role in any relationship is that of a support person. His wife of better half needs come before all his own needs. So at the earliest time after the roles are determined and you choose to live a cuckold lifestyle he should be introduced to a male chastity device. The obvious reason for this is there is no place for him to waste time stroking off his own penis as it will deter him from the more important task of keeping his wife happy and serviced. It is my opinion that the chastity device be used even before marriage, whilst dating even so that the boundaries can be set early in the piece and the cuckolded man, if you wish to call him that does not take advantage of any situation especially when it comes to masturbation or sex.

As the key holder in my relationship I will not allow my cuckolded man to ejaculate at any time without my permission and this includes when I choose to take the chastity device off too. There is nothing more empowering to have his penis enclosed for a long period and then after release still deny him his release. It will only make the moment you do allow him to to be all the more exciting and rewarding. My husband begs me for sex that I permit him to have about once a month. To see how excited he gets when the time approached is in some way pathetic but in other a real turn on. Knowing that whenever I want it his cock will be erect and ready to service me empowers me and in most cases denies him. Chastity can be an important part of teasing and denial play. Teasing and denial is a form of Discipline where the wife takes pleasure in purposely teasing her cuckold both physically, verbally and even mentally. I love a cuckolded lifestyle and my husband does too!

Early on, before we got married, I let him know that I would be permitted to have affairs outside out marriage but that I would never cheat behind his back. In fact all the affairs I have had I have explained to my lovers the situation and I have brought them home for him to watch. For him to know his hot wife is desired by other men but that I choose to stay with him, as he is convenient for me. My husband kept pestering me to put him in chastity. He had one of the plastic belts from before we were married, which I didn’t like the look or design of so I went all out and got him a steel cock cage. I put him in under one condition: That he stays is going to stay in it for six weeks at a time, only being allowed out when I choose to allow him. He agreed although the first time he was only in one for a month. He constantly begs me to let him out and let him cum, but I won’t break our agreement now and I’m going to see to it that he doesn’t and keep my man in chastity.

I love the look of it on him, the way steel chastity cock cage contains & looks on my man’s big dick and he has mentioned to me that he loves the feeling of the cold steel around his cock and balls. I don’t get why men like to have that part locked up, but I certainly love it when he wants me with his whole being. It is great to be the key holder and in charge and certainly he is more receptive and kind to me. I also make his hands cuffed to our bed and legs shackled to the bed once or twice a week while I tease and shave his dick hair. This way there is no chance of escape of the chastity and I further enforce my dominance.

He only gets to have 10 sexual encounters with me per year. He is usually let out for 1 day for each encounter. Last night because he was really good I had him serve dinner to me and my 3 girlfriends who were in sexy short skirts and high heel sandals and he was stripped naked with only the cage on and out of his g-string that he always wears for me. We all grabbed his cage and his butt while he served us dinner. After we were done and he cleaned up we decided to only shackle his legs, free his dick out of the cage and he had to have sex with each one of us. He pleased each of us and to keep him horny we pleased each other too. He got drained good and when we were done he got locked back up in the cage for the next fun encounter.

My man loves being locked up in his male chastity device and it is great to know that if or when he is to see someone else it is at my command and will.  I love keeping my man in chastity and he loves it too.


Chastity Devices Explained

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Many people will ask what a chastity device is, how it works and how to choose the best one available out there in the marketplace that is right for them. A chastity belt is a harness,or belt or cage, even a ring or clamp that is fitted with a locking mechanism that is used to stop the wearer from having sexual intercourse or masturbating. It is said that such belts in Medieval times were used for protecting the wearer from temptation or rape whilst their husband or betrothed was away for extended periods visiting other lands or fighting wars. The steel belts enforced strict denial of all forms of sexual stimulation including the ability to masturbate and achieve an orgasm. More recent chastity devices, especially those designed for men have been provisioned with additional features from punishment, to stop masturbation and more and often the wearing of the device is controlled by a ‘keyholder’ whom determines when, where and how the device is to be worn. Others who are part of the NoFap community believe that by controlling the penis and its desires allows one to think with the logical head and allows them  to live a better and more empowered life.  Of course finally there is the distrusting spouse, whom may have been cheated on before, that requires the use of such a device so that they can better ‘trust’ their partner not to be unfaithful again.

Chastity refers to a sexual behavior of people (whether they are men or women), acceptable to the moral standards as well as guidelines of a religion, civilization or culture. In Western Culture, it’s also referred to as Sexual Abstinence especially before marriage. Chastity restraints are devices that are used to control sexual behavior for men as well as women. These devices are also used to safeguard their virginity as well as people also use these devices for sexual pleasure with the involvement of their intimate partner or without involvement of a partner. There are varieties of such products available in terms of design & shape for men well as women and they can use them as per their special needs and requirements.

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There are many companies that manufacture chastity devices, each having their own specific design or trademark. Similar attributes are shared by most devices however small changes in build quality and style can create a huge differences in the manner of how the human body responds to them. Diversified materials are used to create these products and they include stainless steel, polycarbonate, silicone, glass, chromium, rubber and even titanium. So it is important for you to analyze various factors such as intention, cost, comfort, safety, convenience and aesthetics before you go out and buy a chastity device.  It is also very important for you to know how to size your chastity device.

Some chastity devices and belts are quite difficult to get off and on while others are relatively easy going. The thing to be considered here is that if you want to wear a device for extended periods it has to be comfortable to wear, easy to clean whilst worn and allow the user to take care of their bodily functions whilst it is being worn.. Although convenience and comfort are essential factors for long term wear, safety has its own area of importance that cannot be overlooked. Some of the devices might be dangerous because of poor quality in build or materials while others may be inherently dangerous because the fit is too tight or material toxic. Although you might experience a little chafing and soreness initially with any device – if it is the right size and a quality device that should be the extent caused by it being worn.  If you are planning for long term use, you ought to make sure that you are not potentially taking the risk of getting abrasions and cuts and check the device thoroughly for any scratches, indents or other potential areas that may cause injury..

People are learning to open up about their sexuality. These are some encouraging signs that a broader acceptance of sexual health and wellbeing and the FetLife community becoming so large it has instilled in people notions have led to such devices becoming more acceptable and common place in their usage. Every advantage comes with a series of disadvantages and so is the case with chastity belts. No chastity device as of now is completely safe or secure. Most of them can be removed with simple tools that are available in most home garages, however removal without using the key or proper tools has its own inherent dangers of physical injury. But with enough determination and effort, most men or women can cheat and get themselves to orgasm even when they are wearing chastity devices.

Wearing a chastity device can feel really odd to start off with. When you first begin using it your feelings may be imbalanced as it is not usual to not have control of your own private parts. It will be quite a shock to not be able to touch or pleasure yourself down there. Many devices are designed to allow a flacid penis in them but when a man becomes aroused whilst wearing one it will cause extreme discomfort and even pain.  This is exactly what the people in the NoFap Community want – they want to train themselves to be able to control their erection. A lot of people who are accustomed to this lifestyle (cuckolds), love the amount of control and power another human being has over their sexual needs (the keyholder).  It is good to get familiar with these terms and this can easily be done by reading a chastity guide.

A male in chastity will often experience a sense of relief relinquishing control to the person who holds the key to the device. If you are wearing a chastity device for the first time it can feel a bit uncomfortable depending on the material that it is made from though you will get used of that feelings. With a combination of not being able to fulfill your own needs and the uncomfortable nature of the device you might have trouble falling asleep the first night. Ensure you and your partner, take the time to study and pick out a chastity cage that fulfills both of your needs. For example, some devices allow you more movement so you can easily clean yourself without having to take the device off. With the right device your will feel unbelievably sexual!

You can buy from trusted adult and bondage stores online products that include chastity restraints, male masturbators, CBT gear along with many other types. Male Chastity online resources would be helpful for you to make a more informed choice in selecting the right type for you.  These things will be helpful for you in choosing one of the best places to get your device according to your sexual needs and requirements.