Ciao From Stephanie Curtis – Adultsmart Sexologist!

I have loved my time working at the Oh Zone stores and helping so many people with their intimate lives.  One of the things I most enjoyed was tapping the keyboards and  hoping to share some useful information with the adultsmart community in my articles and stories.  For now I am off to take on sexology as my full-time profession so the articles will no longer be as frequent and the time I enjoyed meeting everyone face to face in the stores has come to an end.  This here is my final article whilst working in an adult shop.

For all those that have visited me in store, ciao, it has been a pleasure.  For everyone on adultsmart I will still publish the odd article.  But for now, farewell my life, living and love provide you with the best they can!!!!

 

What working at an adult store has taught me:

 

I cannot believe it has been two whole years that I have worked in the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres! If you had asked me 10 years ago, it certainly wasn’t a job I could have imagined I would be doing yet I am so grateful I took a chance and did something so different. As I prepare to move onto my own work as a Certified Sexologist & Intimacy Coach, I thought I would offer some of the things I will be taking away from this job which will benefit me in so many ways throughout my life

 

Communicating about sex

Talking about anything related to sexuality is such a difficult thing for so many people. We live in such a sex-centric world yet as a culture are challenged by frank, honest discussions around sexuality. Coming into this job, I knew I was a sex positive person yet didn’t realise the challenges I would face opening up to strangers very quickly about such an intimate area of their lives. Working at Oh Zone has given me incredible experience in being able to talk about sex, pleasure and genitals in a very matter of fact way.

 

Making people comfortable talking about sex

Similar to the above, working at Oh Zone has given me great experience in getting others to open up about sex. I have learnt to take note of body language and other cues to say or do the thing that will make the customer feel at ease opening up to me. I have found that finding comfort within myself puts people at ease as well as outwardly naming the elephant in the room (i.e. the discomfort around talking about sex) which breaks the ice for most people.

 

Communicating boundaries

As with anywhere in life, you will always encounter people that try to cross boundaries. There are some people that make assumptions about me based on the fact that I work in an adult store so I have had to get really clear with what is and isn’t ok. I have been explicitly asked what my personal sexual preferences are and have had countless people overshare about their own sex life which to many people doesn’t sound so bad but you wouldn’t ask the woman working at Harvey Norman what she’s into so why should it be any different for me? I get that few people have a space where they can open up to about sex & in the right context an adult store is just that but I cannot stress CONTEXT enough. I am grateful that 99% of people that have crossed some kind of boundary are apologetic when I communicate that it is not appropriate so it really has been a good lesson in communicating clearly and in a way that doesn’t shame the person because they usually just don’t know.  

 

Knowledge of Sex Toys

For those around me, I am now the official go to person for sex toy knowledge! Prior to working here, I was only aware of the very basic products such as vibrators and cock rings, thinking that sex toys were all about having an orgasm. I now know that there exist so many products out there that can be used by all kinds of people from all walks of life. From penis pumps for post-operative prostate surgery recovery to Kegel trainers to prevent vaginal prolapse, products in an adult store are about so much more than pleasure (There’s plenty of that too, don’t worry!!).

 

Awareness of the extent of sexual shame (and penis shame)

I have met countless people coming into the Oh Zone store and if there’s only thing that is extremely noticeable is how much shame we as a culture carry when it comes to sex. This plays out in so many ways, from young guys laughing and making crude jokes to mask their discomfort to people who won’t even make eye contact with me when entering the store. I also hear way too many jokes about penis size and male sex toys which is a whole other story of shaming!!  I have been in a great position to question some of these reactions at times and unburden people of the shame of sex and visiting an adult store. 

 

Happy Oh Zone Customers

For many people, working in an adult store carries with it a myriad of ideas of what it is all about as well as judgements of the sex industry. I have felt really lucky to have an insight into this work as it really is much deeper and fulfilling than an average retail job. The satisfaction you receive from seeing the effects of people opening up to you about such an intimate area of their lives compares with nothing else for me.

Best Quality Sex Toys!

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Purchasing sex toys is one of the hardest and yet easiest ting to do. This is mainly because of the controversies that surround the purchase of these gadgets. Most people prefer buying these gadgets in privacy so as to conceal their identity. Due to the considerations that need to be made when purchasing sex toys, the best adult stores are your best choice for quality toys at very affordable prices. There are set of tips that you need to put into consideration before purchasing these toys. This is so that you only purchase what you need and at the best prices. The easiest way to buy the toys is from best adult stores online. This presents you with outstanding benefits and advantages.

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Why choose online shops over local shops?

Other than quality, the best adult stores online are more advantageous as compared to physical shops and stalls. For starters, the internet based shops source their products from leading manufacturers all over the globe. As such, you get a great chance of being able to get the best quality product; toys that are guaranteed to offer you a great deal of service for very long time duration. Adult novelty stores found in the internet are well stocked and as such, you are guaranteed to get all you need all under one store.

Advantages of the best adult store online

There are a million and one advantages that are associated with the purchase of sex toys from the best adult stores online. This is mainly because these are very unique type of best adult stores; stores that mainly prioritizing on the supply of the best quality sex toys. The nature of sex toys is quite important in that it helps in ensuring that the toys are bound to be effective for a very long duration of time. Poorly designed and developed toys are also quite defective in a way that makes them not fit for use.

How to find the best adult store online

There are numerous adult novelty stores in the internet today. Not all of these shops offer the best quality products and or the best services. As such, there is a great need to ensure that you are as careful as possible so as you are able to identify the best adult stores online with much ease. Always consider the reputation and recognition that the store has among other buyers. Considering reviews left for sites is an easy of identifying the best store.

Get the best quality at affordable prices

Most   of the best adult novelty stores sell their products at generally harmonized prices. This is set to ensure that it becomes easy to get the best products at averagely the same prices. Even so, there are still some adult novelty stores that have essentially prices. Such stores make it expensive to purchase sex toys while in real essence, the purchase of these gadgets needs to be affordable. By making your purchases from the best adult stores, it becomes effortless to spice your sex life to great heights.

Thanks to sex shops and online adult shops, it is now possible to enjoy sex with different sex toys that are available at reliable adult stores. It will not be rational to deny that some online adult shops are scammers which are only in place to lure genuine customers. However, there are several adult shops, both online and offline, which offer authentic services. The main question you need to ask yourself is: how genuine and secure are these online stores? Consider the following tips which will not only save you money, but also effort and time.

Rely on other people’s reference

Referencing is the first thing that assures the authenticity of any object or shop. Get authenticity reference is to pay attention to the people who speak about online adult stores, and what experiences they have had with some of the shops. If you need to buy sex toys, consult people who have used them and get a clue of where they might have obtained them from.

Shop in person

Most people take sex as a derogatory topic; more specifically the use of any sex toy can make them feel ashamed. However, it is time when you realize that sex is God-given, and that different sex toys as good as the human partner. Never feel embarrassed and let a different person do the online shopping for you because if you feel shame, you might end up with a defective tool. Remember, shopping in person gives you the opportunity to evaluate the different stores, so that you avoid potential scammers.

Test their customer services

Before purchasing any toy from any store, make inquiries regarding the different toys that you require and watch out the kind of response that you need. Ask for a quotation, and see whether they will present you with the most expensive products, or a detailed comparison of the different adult materials that they offer.

Return policy

An online adult shop which has a reasonable return policy will help you determine the kind of confidence that they have in their goods. If they guarantee a return of goods within a specified period of time, there is some sincerity because you have the opportunity of exchanging faulty sex toy. Check the website’s security

Whether a website is secure or not will tell how authentic it is. Online shops involve financial transactions, and you should not entrust your personal information to scam sites. If it is a secure website with the https sign, then there is a sign of sincerity.

Browse through some of the best adult store online.

Before you go shopping on an online website, you should have prior knowledge of the kind of material that you expect in an adult store, and the difference between a good and faulty sex toy. Browsing through the various types that are available online will give you a clue of what to expect. In general, it takes confidence to find a reliable online adult store. Take courage and look through user reviews, consult various people to get reliable recommendations and go through the various sites as you compare their services and prices. Taking a bold step gives you the opportunity to enjoy sex by buying sex toys online.