9 Naughty Assets Of Thick And Curvy Women

Marilyn Monroe's pinup model style

There is more to a woman’s curve than you think. As a curvy woman myself, I only started to notice the older I got the more my body type was desired. When I was in school I stuck out like a sore thumb as I was one of the only ones whose body had embraced the “coke bottle” curves from a younger age than most. While the rest of my friends shopped at stores like Supre, I was in Myer discovering the bias world of granny bras; those unflattering basic bras that you cringe at. Women really need to consider what type of lingerie they buy! My next hurdle was jeans, did you know that it’s very hard to fit into jeans especially high waisted when you feel like your ass is in fact eating your clothing? Incoming, the world of leggings!

HELLO! Something I could wear that fit me all over honestly the best invention since sliced bread, and although it took me a few years I now know exactly what styles of clothing fit and what doesn’t; and men wonder why we take so long to shop.

Marilyn Monroe in a swim suit
Image: Marilyn Monroe’s beach body

There was a bit of a struggle when it came to love, I thought the only way a guy was going to love me was if I was tiny. Truth is, it has taken me a long time to accept that everyone is loved and we don’t have to be loved by the same guys. Some men will appreciate us and others will turn their nose up. That is life.

However, I’ve always pondered the questions:

“Why do men like curvy women?”

And:

“What’s the appeal?”

I mean no complaints from me but as women we constantly see images of thinner women as the ideal body type. Could there really be more to sex appeal than just skinny?

Happy Marilyn Monroe
Image: Marilyn Monroe with a man

Just like with anything there is no black and white. Curves aren’t just curves and guys aren’t just attracted to certain curves. There is a whole world of curves you might have not known about that the male species find attractive!

Prepare to see some crowd favourites and others that just might surprise you as well as logical reasons why curves in general are just appealing:

Boobs

Bags of fun that sit precisely on your chest. There are many men who have a slight obsession towards bigger boobs and women who tend to be curvy have exactly that feature that men are drawn too.

Booty

Junk in the trunk need I say more?

Back curve

That “S” curve your back creates when you have a larger rear end.

It’s a sign of fertility

Larger breasts are always associated with breastfeeding as well and wider hips are associated to caring children.

No bruised thighs

Ever heard of the term more cushion for the pushing? I think you catch my drift…

They are softer

Guys want to be the hard one in the relationship; they want a softer girl to cuddle up to. It’s more satisfying to them than getting bones and elbows dug into them.

They are not afraid to get a little rough

Curvy girls are said to handle things in the bedroom more. Many guy have said that they were afraid of hurting a girl when they were on the smaller side, but with a girl that was curvier they could get harder and kinkier.

It’s classically beautiful

From back in ancient times many paintings were honoured with the presence of women with curves. Beautiful women who were larger, had cellulite thighs and chubby arms. They were all considered beautiful because not only did it promote fertility but it also meant that they were well fed which was a sign of wealth and health.

It’s less boyish and less child like

Many men associate curves with a motherly figure, while there are still a fair few men that are attracted to skinny, there are a lot of men who prefer curves even with a little extra weight.

Marilyn Monroe holding a bag
Image: Marilyn Monroe at the beach

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Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

She’s A Slut And She Knows It

Sex In The City quote from Samantha

Slut

Slʌt/

Noun

Derogatory: A woman who has many casual sexual partners.

Synonyms: Promiscuous woman

Dated: A woman with low standards of cleanliness.

Slut is a profoundly polluted word carrying judgements of shame, fear and disgust. Even writing about embracing it feels like an incredibly edgy place for me. What must people think of someone who claims this aspect of themselves?  Even today where sex sells and explicit pornographic material is one click away, the shame around sexuality is still rampant and no other archetype is judged more harshly than the slut.

My inner slut is an aspect of myself which has carried much shame over the years partly because of beliefs around this part of me being unacceptable and unlovable. Until I consciously began exploring the darker aspects of my sexuality, a slut to me was connected to sexual promiscuity, recklessness and drama. Being called a slut is in many cases intended to shame, humiliate and condemn a woman for her sexuality or sexual behaviours. Being a slut had connotations with being destructive hence my reluctance to even acknowledge let alone own this part of myself once upon a time.

When parts of ourselves are shunned and ignored, they end up having a power over us regardless of whether we are aware of it or not. A slut in the shadows can be destructive and manipulative, using her sexual energy for unhealthy and damaging motives. An unconscious slut can be reckless towards others, leaving behind heartbreak and pain in her pursuit to fulfil her needs.

The Unhealthy Seductress

She can come about as the unhealthy seductress-luring men in with her looks and charm, sucking the life force out of them to feed her, leaving them drained and depleted. You may have seen it before-the burnt-out man clutching at his seemingly “sexy” woman, appearing like a walking zombie as she radiates life force. In this scenario, she manipulates the men/man in her life to fill her up and make her feel good about herself, leaving him less than energised but unable to stop going back for more.

Woman seductress
Image: Seductress

The Unconscious Slut

An unconscious slut can also come about as the woman seeking outside herself for validation of her worthiness. Being sexual with men to feel “loved”, consistently crossing her boundaries and disrespecting herself in the hope that she will feel good enough one day. This path of expressing her sexuality in unconscious ways can lead to a great deal of pain and self-harm.

Acknowleding The Slut Within Us All

Calling a woman a slut has been intended to insult in the past however there are many women who will proudly own this part of themselves because they understand the truth of what it means.  When the slut inside us can be acknowledged, owned and loved, she can be a beautiful aspect of ourselves to embody.

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Image: Lip biting

The Empowered Slut

An empowered slut is a woman confident in herself as a sexual being. She understands the power of her sexual energy and uses it in a way that brings about a more joyful, pleasurable and abundant existence for herself and others. An empowered slut is loving and authentic, carrying good intentions for the expression of her sexuality. She directs her sexual energy with consciousness and awareness and embraces pleasure as her birth right.

My empowered slut comes alive for love and pleasure. She is generous with sharing herself with others and desires nothing more than to love the whole world in any way she can.  My inner slut does not accept the social norm of needing to contain and stifle sexuality. She has made a point of being open with sex and invites others to do the same. Touch is her language and with full consent and respect, she desires to touch and be touched by others.

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Image: Happy couple

My empowered slut is able to feel safe expressing herself because I have done much work on developing healthy boundaries. I believe boundaries and respect to self and others is key to healthily expressing this archetype. Once we know what is and isn’t ok with ourselves, we can communicate that clearly leaving so much freedom to explore our sexuality in a safe and positive way. When your boundaries are clear, you can be sexual with 1, 10 or 100 people and have it be done from a loving and joyful place rather than destructive or harmful.

A powerful shift occurs when we are able to come to a place of acceptance of those parts of ourselves we have kept in the dark. When we can acknowledge, own and eventually love these darker parts of ourselves, we gain back our power and freedom. It is from this place that we can healthily explore the slut archetype within, which is incredibly fun and pleasurable. Embodying the slut archetype with ourselves, a partner or lover is a beautiful experience when done with full awareness. It could be the first step to understanding your sexual personality.

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Image: Consent

Author: Stephanie Curtis, Sexologist

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How Adoption Shaped My Intimate Relationships

Adoption in Korea

The older I get, the more I realise that we all have individual issues that affect our ability to meaningfully connect with others.  For me, however, I find that the emotional issues that are tied to my adoption and growing up in a regional area where I didn’t fit in are the most prominent.

Before we begin, let me shed some light on my background. I was conceived and born in Seoul, South Korea, during a short relationship that had ended by the time my birth mother realised that she was pregnant. The reality of this situation was in the mid 1980’s, as it still is today, unacceptable to have a child out of wedlock, especially if that child was a girl. So, my birth mother did the only thing that she could do and put me up for adoption.

I was one of the lucky babies to be adopted from birth. My adopted family came to collect me from my foster parents when I was 4 months old, so they are the only family that I have ever known. I had an amazing childhood, growing up on the NSW Mid North Coast right on the beach. Having the freedom to safely ride my bike on the streets, head down to the beach for a swim and walk to a friend’s place or the park.

It wasn’t until my sisters were born (biological children conceived through IVF) and certain (extended) family members now treated me differently because my parents now had their ‘own’ children and I started to realise that I was different. After the initial shock (at the age of 2 ½ – 3) it just became the new normal, that is until we were all in primary school and people were in disbelief that my sisters and I were siblings.

That was when I started really thinking about my background and the circumstances behind my adoption. With this came the questions and the feelings of shame and guilt that seem to be synonymous with adoption.

It seemed to overtake my thoughts and seeded (what I realise now are) irrational thoughts such as:

“If my mother didn’t want me, no one ever will”

“I’m only worth as much as someone wants to pay for me”

“If my mother loved me so much and she walked away, that’s what everyone else will do”

… Irrational, I know.

As an Asian in a family full of model-like Danish blondes, I was constantly reminded that I really didn’t fit in and the taunting from my peers and older kids about not being the same and that my mother just threw me away, shaped the way that I viewed myself. Ingraining that belief that I would never be loved unless I looked a certain way, that was if anyone wanted me in the first place.

From what I have read of other international adoptee’s blogs and articles, it seems that I am not alone in my feelings of not quite belonging. Feeling like you need try twice as hard as anyone else to fit in.

Despite the affection given to me by my family throughout my life, I have always found it difficult to express and verbalise love. Being that one person who awkwardly hugs someone and then quickly pulls away, or the girlfriend that says, “me too” when their partner says, “I love you”.

I was also the person who leaves when it starts to get tough. The person who just shuts down and doesn’t know how to tell their partner what the issues are in case they decide to leave first. The idea of being abandoned again, to me was more confronting and stressful than just taking on all the emotional baggage and just walking away.

That feeling of worthlessness, I have now learnt, was the driving factor behind why I stayed in all 3 of my long-term relationships well past their use by date and why having friends with benefits worked better for me. Allowing me to keep people at arm’s-length emotionally. I feel as though it somehow helped to keep my fragile self-worth intact.

The types of people I was attracted to

It was also something that I had discussed at length with my councillor when I was younger, and up until recently, I didn’t understand how my adoption really did affect the type of people I formed relationships with.

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Image: Self discovery

But since the end of my last relationship, I have been on a life changing journey of self-discovery. I have realised that my ‘type’ seemed to be emotionally insecure men that had never really (emotionally) made it past puberty or their early 20’s. I somehow thought that by mothering these men, they would never want to leave me because they didn’t have the capacity to be on their own. Not really a healthy reason to start or continue a relationship. What I have come to understand is that these men, because of their inability to think for themselves or accept responsibility for their actions or how their words and actions effected the relationship.

How I am overcoming my emotional insecurity

For me, the turning point that took me from seeking acceptance from others in a relationship to being accepting of my own flaws and being worthy of having someone want me despite those flaws, was when I met a man that I had an immediate emotional connection with. He was the first person that I didn’t feel the need to try to impress with how much of myself I was willing to give up or hide. It has been such a liberating experience.

That connection has also allowed me to further explore my sexuality. It’s amazing how feeling safe and not judged allows me to pull down my walls that I have built and hand over the control of my emotions that I have held on to, that kept me locked in my little emotional bubble. It has also shown me that I don’t need to just settle for anyone that will pay attention to me, that I am worth more than that. The process has helped me understand what impacts my sexuality too.

Author: Mia is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

A Beginner’s Guide To Getting An Erotic Massage

Asian massage therapist

Have you always wanted an erotic massage but have no idea what to expect? Well if you are stressed out at work, dealing with problems at home or struggling to feed your sexual cravings it might be exactly what the doctor ordered. Though it’s sometimes painted with sleazy connotations, the bodywork actually has much more depth than horny middle-aged men getting their fix. In this day in age erotic massage therapy could be a benefit for everyone. And here I am to tell you more…

Massage parlours are everywhere…

If you live in a city centre you probably walk past an adult massage parlour on a daily basis, built up areas are saturated with them! Some salons you may even be familiar with and can’t help but wonder what goes on behind closed doors. Erotic massage is often seen as a taboo subject but I can’t stress more that despite contrary belief it is NOT illegal! The service is popular with businessmen, who often opt for an erotic massage on their lunch break and after work.

They often blend into the surroundings

One of the reasons erotic massage parlours are discreet is to protect their clients. Many maybe married, have kids and are thriving professionals who obviously don’t want to be associated with sexual services. Therefore many erotic massage providers are often masked as ‘Thai massage shops’ or are based in private houses to blend into the surroundings

They destroy any evidence of your booking

Most erotic massage parlours advise you to call to book before your session, but don’t worry about any information being leaked – evidence of your booking is usually erased straight after your session! You can always give a fake name and hide your number if you really want to.

You get the choice of girls

The first time you arrive at the parlour might be nerve-wracking. A delicious mix of masseuses will stand in front of your very eyes waiting to be chosen for your hour of thrill – you’ve probably never felt as overwhelmed!

It’s ok to be nervous

Don’t worry if you’re feeling shy, erotic masseuses are used to first-timers on a daily basis and will do all they can to put you at ease. Some parlours even have a reception where you can sit down and chat to the girls to get a feel for your favourite beforehand. You might even be offered a glass of wine to steady your nerves.

They will adjust your massage to your personal preference

Once you’ve selected your gorgeous therapist you will be shown to the bedroom. Your gorgeous girl will discuss with you beforehand what you want from your session. The beauty of erotic massage is that the style can be moulded to suit your personal preferences, whether you fancy some relaxing romance or something more adventurous.

All erotic massages are performed with the receiver and therapist both naked, but if you’re feeling a little nervous then do inform your masseuse –they’ll be able to undress to the comfort level as the session gradually progresses.

The session starts with a non-sexual full-body massage

The masseuse will place a towel down on the bed and lie you down as she warms your skin with massage oil. Though the purpose of erotic asian tantric massage is to arouse, the massage doesn’t actually start sexual. The masseuse will commence with a full body massage, similar to the soothing strokes derived from the classic style.  She’ll begin to work on your tension built in your neck, back and shoulders which will calm release all the unwanted stress within your muscles. This part of the massage is considered as the starter, there’s plenty more of this sensational feast to come!

Chinese tantric masseuse
Image: Asian Massage Therapist

More sensual strokes will be introduced

As your masseuse gently moves you onto your front from your back she will use what is known as an ‘edging’ technique. To perform ‘edging’ she will start to run her tantalising fingertips from your chest to erogenous zones (sensitive points), getting closer and closer to your manhood each time.  As your toes begin to curl and your body starts to shake she will manoeuvre her soft hands back to the top of your physique. This will send rushes of orgasmic pleasure down your spine and will be repeated until you’re at a point of no return.

The session does include sex

How sexual does the session get? Will I get a happy ending? Does the massage involve sex? These are common questions surrounding erotic massage and the answer depends on which masseuse or parlour you go to. You may-be familiar with the terms ‘happy ending’ and ‘full service massage’ but are maybe unsure what they mean. However, once you’ve had an erotic massage you’ll become accustomed to the services. Erotic happy ending generally means the naked massage with hand relief, while full service is exactly what it says on the tin and is the full she-bang. Not only will the masseuse pleasure you with her hands, she will also introduce oral and penetration as part of your experience.

You should always remain respectful

Although an erotic massage often progresses to being super sexual it’s important you are respectful to your masseuse at all times. French-kissing, pleasuring your therapist and oral without condom are often considered as extra and should be discussed with your therapist at the beginning of your session. They’re usually more than happy to adhere to your requests! Many erotic massage parlours also operate 24 hour hotlines where you can ring and discuss your queries before making your appointment.

Everyone should get an erotic massage..

You may think it’s a little naughty but there are SO many reasons why everyone should get an erotic massage. It can boost your sexual stamina, provides escape from life stresses and unwinds your tired and worn out muscles – it really is a no brainer! There’s guaranteed to be an erotic massage parlour in your area, so why not try a session today?

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A Bittersweet Romance In A Roman Holiday

Romantic movie Roman Holiday

A friend rang me up last week and during the conversation, he said that he was holidaying in Europe this summer. Among the cities he was visiting in Europe, one was Rome. The first words that came to my mind was Roman Holiday.

Movie Review: Roman Holiday

Roman Holiday (1953) is a bittersweet romance between a princess and a journalist, lasting only for a day. Roman Holiday is a film you can watch countless times and you will never get enough of it. I bet you will fall in love with Princess Anne (Audrey Hepburn). Love has many shades but with her, it is a sublime one. This was Audrey’s first film, and she sparkled. Petite, captivating, pensive, polite, gracious, charming, delightful, genial, courteous – one runs out of adjectives to describe Audrey Hepburn in this film. She is alternately majestic and naïve. Her sad expression when she stands, watching the man she loves and then turns her head to walk away from him is an absolute contrast to the marvellous ecstasy in her eyes when she realizes she has found true love.

Joe Bradley (Gregory Peck), a Hollywood icon, offers a restrained thwart to her cheekiness. His attraction to her keeps him in turmoil with his professional impulses. Yes, he walks away from her finally, restraining himself with dignity. If the love had a happy ending he would become the prince of the princess. But no, you realize that the man of his stature could have done no less than restrain himself. Roman Holiday is a blend of being romantic but with a sweetness that will not make you diabetic, it’s humorous but not a slapstick comedy, it is tender like a tulip but does not deteriorate.

Roman Holiday princess scene
Image: Princess Anne

When the chemistry between Gregory Peck and Audrey Hepburn lights up, the city of Rome becomes beautiful and the Vespa scooter that they ride becomes awfully romantic.

If you ever make a list of romantic films, Roman Holiday would top the list. It is impossible to watch this film and not fall in love with Anne and Joe, or the whole idea of falling in love. It is impossible not to wish for such love, even if the ending is so poignant.

If there is one scene that symbolizes the saying ‘It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all’, it is the last scene where Joe indirectly promises Princess Anne that her faith in him will not be deceived, and the look on her face when she knows it is goodbye. It is the only way the film could have ended. Finally Joe tells Anne, “Life isn’t always what one likes, is it?”

You are missing something unfathomable if you have not yet seen this film.

Interesting Movie Facts About Roman Holiday

  • At the beginning of this movie Audrey Hepburn was an upcoming British actress having starred successfully on Broadway. She was almost rejected during the audition for this film. During the audition, the cameraman kept the camera running even after the director called “cut” and her exuberance off-camera charmed the director.
  • Cary Grant was originally offered the role to play Joe Bradley. Grant felt that he would look too old opposite the young Hepburn and declined the role.
  • Gregory Peck insisted that the “introducing Audrey Hepburn” line be removed.
  • Gregory Peck said Audrey Hepburn should be given top billing alongside him.
  • Gregory Peck predicted Audrey Hepburn would win the Oscar for her role even before the film released, and he was proved right.
  • The film was nominated for ten Academy Awards and won three.
  • Audrey Hepburn won not only the Academy Award for best actress that year but also the BAFTA award and the Golden Globe for best actress for her portrayal of Princess Anne.
  • The Vespa ride scene is so iconic and influencing that the Vespa sales had risen to over 100,000 after the film released.

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Dr. Bendigiri holds a Ph.D , MBA, M.Com, B.Com, DPM and has corporate experience relating to human resources and public relations. He was a Director at Deogiri Institute of Technology and Management Studies, Aurangabad of Maharashtra State, and was also a Professor at Bharati Vidyapeeth Deemed University, Pune. He currently works as a freelance consultant. He writes passionately about love, marriage and growing together.