Stepping Into Stilettos And Into A Brand New, More Exciting Version Of Me!

It all started over Seventeen years ago with my wanting to be a mermaid. Okay, maybe not a real one, but close enough. See, I as well as a few friends of mine applied for a job at a local seafood place as a mermaid character. Long story short; I didn’t get the job. And even all these years later, I couldn’t be happier about it.

As bummed as I was about not landing what I believed to be my “dream job”, I couldn’t sit back and pout about it. I was on my own, fresh outta high school, and had to take care of myself. I still needed a job. So I once again combed the classified section and there it was in big bold lettering: Attractive girls with good personalities wanted for lingerie bar. Cash daily. Must be 18+. Come by today for on the spot interviews and hiring.

Cash daily?! And all I had to do was strut around wearing lingerie and serving drinks? I had a good personality and my looks weren’t too shabby either so I figured I’d give it a go and see what happened.

I realized very quickly when I walked into the place it was not what I had imagined it to be. The ad may have said “lingerie bar”, but even with my younger naiveness, I knew it was a strip club.

It was earlier in the day so there weren’t that many people around. On the stage, a tall, slender, blonde woman in high-stilettos was climbing the pole in the center. She worked her way to the top and seductively removed her bikini top.

Immediately two things terrified me enough to tinker with the idea of hauling butt out of there as quickly as I could. Not only was there the very high possibility I might break my neck trying to wear those heels should I get hired, but I too would be on that same stage with my goodies exposed to the world.

Still, I decided to go through with the interview.

It went pretty much like an interview for a vanilla job would go. The only difference being I had to go into a private room and dance for the owner. Now, that part had me nervous. Even I knew my dance moves were an embarrassment, but the owner was a female, plus I had already come this far, so I figured why not?

I still remember wondering if the woman who would later become not only my boss but also my mentor and friend, could see how badly my body was shaking as I performed my best reenactment of the sexy stripteases I had seen in movies. If she did, she sure didn’t make it known.

To my surprise; I was hired. She handed me her business card with instructions to come back later that evening with outfits and the other stuff for my “performances.” Looking back on it now; I think she saw something in me and she thought it would surface once I got on the stage. I’m not sure. All I know is, I’m glad she gave me a chance.

I’ll spare you the long and boring details of what I wore and such. To be honest; I don’t remember. It was probably something cheap and thrown together being I was broke as could be at the time.

As expected; I was completely terrified while sitting in the dressing room awaiting the moment the DJ would call my stage name. When I heard my name, I made my way to the stage and took the very first step into the role that would become my identity for the duration of my career as an adult entertainment industry performer.

I was told the DJ would play three songs and a few seconds into the third, I was to remove my top. I was nervous but I told myself to pretend like there weren’t a bunch of pairs of eyeballs staring at me. I was alone, in my bedroom. Surprisingly it worked. A bit better than I anticipated.

What surprised me most was the almost instantaneous change that took place in myself. The minute I heard “holy (insert expletive here) she’s hot!” it was on! As cliche as it may sound; something inside of me awakened. I became an entirely different person. I was no longer the “good girl” everyone knew me as. I was Jenna; a sexy, adult entertainment performer. And I loved it!

I went through the first two songs, taking extra care to do a little more teasing towards the ones who were throwing their money onto the stage floor. Honestly; I had no clue what I was doing. I figured I’d do what any woman would do if she were trying to seduce a man.

When the third song came on, I slowly took off my top and revealed my boobs to the crowd. If there were a time where I would have “snapped back into reality” it was then, but it didn’t happen. I was unaware of my near nakedness. Instead; I was liberated. I felt free. I felt alive!

For the first time in my life, I wasn’t obsessed with being the good girl who played by the rules. I wasn’t worried about what others thought of me. I was no longer concerned with the humdrumness of the everyday world. In fact, to sum it up; I was the polar opposite of my vanilla self.

And it was those feelings and others that made me realize I was already hooked. I also learned quite a few things that I have used extensively to further my success in the adult industry; both as a performer and behind the scenes. Some of those are:

You don’t have to be “supermodel” gorgeous to attract a tribe of devoted fans.
Personality goes a long way.
Never judge a book by its cover.
Anyone can be a success if they’re willing to put in the work.
Standing out is a good thing.

I also learned just how easy (not to mention, fun!) it is to have a man darn near worshipping the ground you walk on once you “push the right buttons”, but that’s a story I’ll share in a future post. 😉

Stay Tuned For Part Two In This Biopic Story!

About the author: Angel Hardly

I usually refer to myself as a good girl who fell in love with the spicier side of life, but you can call me Angel. 🙂

My journey in the Adult Entertainment Industry began over 17 years ago, the same as most who got into the industry back then; as an exotic dancer. ie; stripper. I did that for a few years until I discovered the world of online adult entertainment.

Since hanging up my stilettos for good; I’ve had the pleasure of being able to delve into the many exciting avenues and aspects of the Adult Entertainment Industry. This includes; webcam modeling and studio owner, phone sex operator, sexting operator, online domination with a specialization in fetish and financial domination. Currently; I am a skilled creator of adult natured content and author of erotic short stories.

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September 20, 2018September 18, 2018

How To Make A Lesbian MOAN!!

Firstly, a quick shout out to Stephen for all the blog ideas! I’ve been trying to come up with something new to write about other than my usual toy reviews.

I know it is every straight man’s dream to be taught how to make a girl orgasm by a lesbian. Seriously though, if this post gets your penis in a twist and you feel less like a man after reading this then honestly you should know I don’t really care and you should probably grow up.

So, my friends get your notepads ready because I am about to give you all the tips and tricks on how to make your queen orgasm without a penis. I know for some men this might come as a shock to you as I have heard a lot of you think that the only way is to stick it in and go… Well, that definitely is not the case.

Before I start though I just need to quickly clarify that I’m not going to sit here and tell you a list of all the stuff I personally like because we all get off to different things. What I will do though is tell you all the things you definitely shouldn’t do…

^^^ Just in case you forgot what a vagina looks like.

Oral Sex

I understand when people watch porn to teach themselves how to give a good blowjob or handjob. Obviously, a lot of men watch porn and get off to the facial expressions the person’s making while they’re giving head and whatever it is that they’re doing with their hands or mouth. But honestly, it doesn’t matter if I am watching straight or lesbian porn, I usually skip past the scene where the girl is receiving oral because it makes me cringe! Usually, you can see what the persons tongue is doing and the facial expressions that they’re pulling while they’re doing it and most of the time it looks horrible.

^^^ perfect example!

If someone did that to me down there I would probably just laugh. I also know some tv shows and magazines tell you to do the alphabet… DON’T! Unless you really want to look like a clueless twat.

The build-up is key. Tease your girl and take it slow, show her that you’re there because you want to be and that you’re prepared to be there all night if she wants you to be. No one should feel rushed and under pressure when they’re most vulnerable.. Unless it’s a quickly before work or something like that. If you make her feel pressured then you’re most likely not going to have her relaxed enough to orgasm. Plus, when you build up an orgasm it makes it a much stronger and enjoyable one at the end.

G-spot

As you can see in the image above the G-spot is located at the top of the vaginal wall and it only takes about half a finger length to find it. Once you have inserted your fingers, do the come here motion to push up against the G-spot. The G-spot will feel like a rough bit of skin whereas the rest of the area feels quite smooth so this should make it a lot easier for you to find it.

On that note, I never want hear someone complaining about dick sizes ever again. It’s not about the size, it is about how it is used. I usually ask the woman who complain that their partners of 20+ years haven’t made them orgasm, if they’ve ever made themselves orgasm and the answer is usually no. I’m sorry but if you don’t even know how to please yourself, then how do expect someone else to?

My favorite part about the beginning of any of my relationships has been the first few months of learning each other’s bodies and teaching each other how we like to be pleased. Listen and observe how your sexual partner is reacting to the different things that you are doing, try and remember the things you did that she liked and damn it if she tells you to go harder, faster or to continue doing that exact thing you’re doing, don’t think it’s a great idea to change it up or stop!!

The learning/teaching stage might be a little awkward at first, but at least you’ll have a laugh together and honestly, this ends up helping you in the long run when it comes to feeling completely comfortable with each other. This will help quiet down that little voice inside your head that likes to scream all your deepest, most painful insecurities at you while you’re trying to cum!

Extra tips

Labia stimulation
Urethral stimulation
Arch her back for easier access to the G-spot
G-spot and clitoral stimulation at the same time (the G-spot and clitoris are connected)
Use toys during foreplay to add to the fun
Make her wet before penetration
Don’t bite unless she asks!

One last tip…

A blessing in disguise that most people don’t take advantage of… LUBE!

Elliana Panatzis

Elliana has been working in the Oh Zone stores for the past 2 and a half years now. During this time she has discovered a lot about herself through the different adult products that she has experimented with. Elliana likes to write reviews on the good quality products that she has either purchased for herself or has her eyes on in the stores and she isn’t afraid to tell you if she thinks a toy or a companies ethics are rubbish. She also openly came out as a lesbian at the age of 14 and loves to talk about all the great LGBTQIA events that she has been to in Sydney.

http://sextoys.expert/

September 19, 2018September 18, 2018

Will You Be My Sex Doll?

The Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres surely have some interesting products for sale. From vibrators that twirl, rotate & double penetrate to penis plugs in all shapes, colours & sizes, there’s something in here for everyone. I love to see customers coming in and discovering toys they may never have been exposed to before. Out of all the gadgets & toys in the store, sex dolls would have to be the products that cause the most reaction from customers. Sometimes they cause laughter & disbelief, other times there’s a genuine curiosity & fascination;

“Do people actually buy these?!”

The answer is: Hell yes!! I get customers buying sex dolls for a gag gift at birthday parties & I also sell them to men who are interested in a lifelike masturbating device. The technology with sex dolls is becoming even more advanced, with so many options available to suit all people & all budgets.

The history of commercially manufactured sex dolls dates back to 1908, where a Sexologist called Iwan Bloch wrote about dolls available for purchase in Paris that secreted oil to replicate vaginal lubrication. They took 3 months to build and cost a small fortune. I’m not sure what they were made from but I can’t imagine it felt as pleasant as the lifelike materials that are available today. The creation of softer plastics and higher quality materials have led to sex dolls that are eerily similar to an actual human being. Sex dolls have come so far over the last 100 years, with so many options to build your own “dream doll” available online. You can choose the body type, breast size & shape, skin, hair & eye colour, hair design (pubic & head), piercings and tattoos on your custom doll and have it delivered to your door.

There can sometimes be harsh judgements associated with certain sex toys, with products for men, such as sex dolls, probably the most stigmatised. In an article published in The Journal of Positive Sexuality

“Sex dolls-Creepy or Healthy”

(Knox & Huff, 2017), it is noted that many people stigmatize those that buy sex dolls & see the men who use them as unable to attract a sexual partner. I find the male sex toy stigma to be such a double standard as women do not get judged for having a plethora of sex toys tucked away in their bedside table the way men do. I like to point this out to men & women who express judgement for those who have male sex toys as it quickly gets them to question their opinions (and more often than not they usually end up buying one for themselves or their partners shortly after!!). Sex dolls can be a great masturbating toy for those seeking a life like experience so no need to be ashamed.

I have had multiple discussions with people & read valid concerns from those who work in the field of human sexuality about the effects sex dolls have on human relationships. There exists a reasonable fear that the use of sex dolls will ultimately shut men off from real human connections, especially those who are shy or have difficulties with interpersonal relationships to begin with. There are also concerns of further objectification & exploitation of women through the availability and use of sex dolls. It is no wonder the line between reality and fantasy is becoming blurry as there are so many products that are unbelievably lifelike. The birth rates in Japan are the lowest they have been since the 1970’s, with the use of sex dolls and love robots said to be one of the biggest causes for this decline.

I think that it is important for those using sex dolls to understand that a sex doll is a masturbating device & not a substitute for human connection. With such a widespread addiction to technology, I can see how the use of sex dolls can cause alienation & isolation for certain people so feel they need to be used with awareness. I am not saying that men who use a sex doll must also be having sex with an actual human being or must be limiting the use of their sex doll. I just feel it is important for men using them to not get so far into fantasy that they forget to have connections with others. Because at the end of the day, regardless of how advanced sex doll technology becomes, nothing could ever replace the love & compassion that a human being can offer.

Sex dolls can be a fun and pleasurable masturbation device that gives a more life-like experience compared to other masturbators. Before you buy why not check out the sex doll buyers guide.

Stephanie Curtis

Meet the newest member to our team of experts. Stephanie Curtis is a sexologist with a huge capacity to care. Involved in spirituality and tantra her articles are professional, articulate and interesting. Enjoy Steph’s writings at the adultsmart sexual wellness and health blog.

http://www.stephanie-curtis.com

September 17, 2018September 14, 2018

Arty Sex!

As someone who just swoons over art, or anything with creative capabilities, this just sends my heart into a flutter!

I’m all about wonderful and fulfilling things to do in order to create meaning, purpose, happiness and this is nothing short of brilliant.

One iconic spin of this creative genius is the Yves Klein series where women became paintbrushes literally, and created art with their bodies. This was a performance piece titled “Anthropometries of the Blue Period”, 1962 Galerie International d’Art Contemporain, Paris, France. His “Anthropometries” series were radical and controversial because painting women’s bodies in paint and then instructing them to render there body as you would a paintbrush and create not only an installation piece but also a powerful work of art with the human body is mind-blowing and unheard of especially during that era.

But if that got your senses going forget the chocolate body paint or Nutella, and experience the seduction in covering your body in organic and sensual paint and taking your lover to ecstasy while documenting it on canvas.

Yes, you read that right! I want you to cover you and your partner’s body in paint and have sex on top of a canvas while your bodies create a masterpiece to hang on your wall which will truly be the most intimate artwork you will own.

Making love and creating art have a lot of things in common especially passion and hard work, so why wouldn’t you want a memento to keep and be proud of every time you walk past it, because making love is hard work and we all deserve a trophy for that. there are many kits you can buy online or make yourself all you need is;

plastic tarp or large plastic drop sheet so you don’t make too much mess, body safe paint (organic is best), a sheet of canvas, your body and your lovers, and for those of you who are all about aftercare a loofah and some sensual body wash.

Taking an erotic dance and creating art with it is relatively new, although the naked body has been presented on canvas for 1000’s of years through art. Even back to your cave paintings, nudity has always and will always be a major influence within the art world. Each and every artwork is unique and vivacious, each shows personality and unity and every time you create one it was ooze tantalising escapades of you and your partners mood and desires.

the body during sex is very honest and thus it makes the perfect paintbrush, how more authentic can you get? you may create an erotic masterpiece that is full of explosion or a soft an gentle piece with small passionate movements.

a bit of a history lesson for you:

the history of nude art has been a recurring theme especially in classical art mostly in the renaissance and neoclassical periods. the visual representation of the naked body is seen in many different forms be it sculptor, painting, photography, film, installation the list goes on. from this we can learn about the different aspects of sex within a society or era, it gives you an idea about fertility, beauty, national identity, morality and gender ideals.

the naked body has always been a principal subject for art, so no wonder throughout all the years we have witnessed such a wide range and influence where the naked body can not only be objectified but also appreciated.

in ancient Greece the naked body was often depicted in symbolic ways, it was seen as a metaphor for often multifaceted and complex concepts.

take the roman goddess Venus she encompasses all things to do with love, beauty, sex, fertility and prosperity, and in the later classical tradition of the west Venus embodied love and sexuality.

in ancient Rome she embodied love, beauty, enticement, seduction, and in Latin orthography her name is derived from the noun Venus which means sexual love and sexual desire.

so why don’t you bring out your inner goddess, and bring your sexual desires out in the name of history and the evolution of the naked body in art. create an erotic and exciting master piece just for you and your lover and leave it all on the canvas in a time lapse of your moments of passion.

get messy with your and don’t forget to keep the passions going in the clean up after.

morgan x

Morgan

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

September 16, 2018September 12, 2018

VIP Interview With Empress Mika Dominatrix!

Adultsmart community lifestyle blog is proud to have Mika a world famous dominatrix with us for a VIP interview today. She is a half Korean/American FemDom that we are lucky enough to have explain the in’s and out’s of being a dominatrix.

I have to ask the obvious question – how did FemDom start for you?

That is usually a good starting place, haha. I actually got started in this industry as a non-nude, tease cam model. It was here that My natural personality and tease-y cam style attracted a lot of submissive men who then told Me about FemDom and what it was. I knew it was perfect for Me and got started immediately and never looked back.

You’re proudly half-Korean. Does your cultural background influence the work that you do, and how do you go about bringing awareness and acceptance of your culture?

I am, yes. Fortunately, as a clip producer and cam model, I have a large audience with which to spread awareness and proper education. However, unfortunately, there are many negative stereotypes that surround Asian culture especially within a fetish environment that I do stand up against.

First and foremost, I do have to clarify that I am, in fact, a Dominant Woman for real and not just “acting” like one. I am not sure if this comes from the stereotype that most Asian women are submissive or if this is something Dommes of all backgrounds deal with, but it is a very common question for Me.

I also use My content to combat negative stereotypes. For example, I have several Coersed Bi clips that feature Asian males with large dick sizes. This shows My subs that there are plenty of Asian males with great dick sizes that are even bigger than them! This point, especially, is very fun to tap into.

Additionally, one fetish, in particular, I refuse to engage in is Racial Humiliation. I truly believe that by not participating in this fetish, can help contribute to these negative stereotypes going away (or, at the very least, not keeping them alive) – not just for Asian culture but for all cultures.

I do have a Twitter thread for fun, to feature Korean-pop songs I enjoy entitled, “Playlist of an Empress”. Although not insanely popular, it is something I have fun updating from time to time to share this aspect of My culture. You can check it out here:

Dominatrix Twitter — Twitter Account Mika

I absolutely love how you mention elements of consent and negotiation on your FAQ, you acknowledge that it’s important to find exactly what works for the relationship between you and your sub. What kind of things erode that relationship, and how do you go about handling that?

Yes, absolutely. I think the #1 erosion to a Domme/sub relationship, at least in My experience, is when a submissive comes to the Domme only interested in serving his own fetishes as oppose to actually wanting to serve.

The other common misconception that I find erodes a relationship are those subs that ask Me what it is really like to be My slave, implying that there is a one-size-fits-all. And, there’s not. The relationship I have with each one of My slaves is unique and certainly not an over night process.

For these reasons, in order to handle these issues, I did create a slave school that acts as online slave training for those interested in being My slave. It can be found at SayYestoEmpress.com

Reading through various interviews – the word authenticity and honesty keep coming up. You also mention how it comes naturally to you and that you enjoy it. Do you feel that it’s these qualities that make you respected and successful in what you do, and what other qualities are important in this?

Haha, I suppose that’s true. I think, in this industry, most of the Dommes really create distance and separation between themselves and their subs. I certainly understand this, as there are truly some bad apples out there.

However, I agree that one thing that makes Me stand out is that I do offer a genuine, honest, real and authentic relationship to those submissives that want to take their submission beyond simply a fantasy via being My slave.

I don’t necessary think My way is better than others, of course. Each Woman and Domme is unique with Her own style and She should do what works best for Her and Her well being and enjoyment. This could be different for each Domme so it’s tough to pin-point a magical formula that guarantees success for every Domme. If I had to try to put a magic formula into words though, it would be for each Domme to just do what is fun for Her.

You mention the distinction between Domming for fun and pleasure as opposed to sexual enjoyment. How do you negotiate that within yourself and balance what you find pleasurable/arousing to the work that you do? Are they two completely separate things?

For Me, they are totally separate. I am not turned on at all by submissive men nor with any of the Domination that I do. Rather, My Domination and what submissive men do for Me I find very fun, amusing and entertaining.

As well, I enjoy the sexual separation. I think it ensures I remain completely in control of My subs 100% of the time.

What’s one of the misconceptions about FemDomme that you’d like people to be aware of?

One misconception that I personally struggle with is that many submissives view Dommes as some kind of bad, evil person. I hear over and over how bad some of their experiences are interacting with Dommes (and vice versa, really) have furthered this belief. This gets further complicated with those submissives that have fetishes they feel they’d rather not have in the first place.

So, I suppose I’d like people to be aware that not all Dommes are horrible just like not all subs are horrible. You are responsible for your own interactions. In other words, your experience with FemDom can completely change depending on who you serve and interact with.

What’s a moment in your FemDomme career that has really shaped and influenced who you are, and how you do it?

It was the moment I changed My name from “Princess” to “Empress”. This was a direct reflection of My evolution as a Domme, from someone new to FemDom, to who I am today in FemDom.

This was sparked by the close relationships I had developed with My slaves. Their relationship really inspired and encouraged Me to simply be Myself fully as oppose to trying to figure out what other subs would like or buy. It made a huge impact on Me, My FemDom style and success.

What’s one mistake/learning experience that you keep with you?

I once created a custom FemDom clip that I wasn’t too thrilled about… but I agreed to it because I had never tried it before and it paid well. I also put this clip up for re-sale in My clip store but I told Myself that I wouldn’t do anything like this again. Sure enough, it wasn’t something I enjoyed.

A few months later, I was on interacting with a trial slave that I just felt really strange about and, for Me, there was a clear disconnect. Somewhere in the conversation, I had asked him what his favorite clip was that I created. Turns out, his favorite was that custom clip I didn’t care for. LOL!

It was here that I learned that I have to only put out content that I enjoy to attract the right submissives to Me.

What is your favorite fetish?

I enjoy most FemDom fetishes and believe I can find a way to make almost anything fun for Me. However, if I had to pick a favorite, it would certainly be Mind Fuck. It is here I can truly challenge submissives to be more of service as well as get extremely creative in My clips.

I highly recommend My clip entitled Good Boy Reward to dive right in! It can be found here:

You’ve mentioned that FemDomming for you is not a performance, which allows you to better handle yourself. Are there any draining aspects to being a FemDomme and how do you cope with that?

No. This job is pretty much 24/7 and not something, at least for Me, that I can turn easily on and off. Therefore, I feel that it would actually be extremely draining if all of this was an act, haha.

Financial Domming. I really want to understand it. I get dominating, I get submission and I understand what people get out of that. I also get the idea that Financial Domming is NOT necessarily about taking all of their money and that it is about control. Can you explain this fetish to me, and what a sub and Domme get out of this?

For My style of Financial Domination with My slaves, I use it an important foundation of submission to Me.

They are using something (money) that could have benefited themselves and instead chose for it to benefit Me. There is hardly a greater form of submission in My opinion.

With My slaves, W/we go over budgeting together (which is also apart of the SayYesToEmpress.com e-course) to ensure their money is used most effectively to sustain themselves and their life goals as well as their servitude to Me.

You offer a dick rating service – what can people expect from submitting their dick to you?

I do, haha, almost by necessity as there are so many submissives interested in My thoughts about their “package”. I offer 2 dick ratings, a basic one or a premium one. The basic one is My rating and a few comments. The premium one includes My rating with a more in-depth explanation.

The ratings, along with many other items, are available on My store: EmpressMika.com/store

You also run DommeSource.com. What is this and how does this benefit the FemDom community?

I do, yes.

Back when I started in FemDom, there weren’t really any resources to turn to so that inspired Me to create DommeSource. It is the ultimate resource site for both online Dommes and subs.

It’s my hope that it helps newer Dommes get started as well as newer subs to have a better idea of what submission is. I also hope it helps bridge the gap between Dommes and subs so that the right subs can find the right Domme.

Final words and thoughts on FemDomme that you’d like people to know?

FemDom is getting more and more popular! 🙂 I’m happy to see more and more people trying it out and invite you to do the same if you haven’t already.

Thanks for having Me!

If you want more details about Mika why not check her out at her website –

Stephen

Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn’t afraid to speak his mind and say what others won’t. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites.

Stephen’s articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.

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