VIP Interview With Jaeleen Bennis Creator & Founder Of Bondassage

Jaeleen Bennis Founder Of Bondassage

Jaeleen Bennis is the creator of Bondassage which is an extraordinary professional service that involves the use of BDSM practices to provide a sensual massage. Jaeleen perfectly combined her skill sets of being a trained Dominatrix and a body worker into creating an unforgettable experience which allows couples or individuals to explore their desires and their sexuality in a safe environment.

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Participating in a Bondassage session allows you to take your time to explore new methods, techniques, different types of sensory play and erogenous zones. Each experience can be tailored to your personal needs so that you are able to build your sexual confidence which you can then use to enhance your sexual lifestyle with new levels of intimacy and passion. Bondassage has become so popular and asked for is in demand all around the world. She has created two different trainings: one-to-one trainings that can teach you the required skill set needed to become a certified practitioner, or two online courses designed for the curious beginner or non-pro.

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Tell me about yourself

Jaeleen Bennis, creator and founder of Bondassage®

As the creator of Bondassage®, Elysium by Bondassage®, Bondassage For Couples, The Art of Bondassage Online Course and The Advanced Art of Bondassage Video Course, I have designed programs that instruct individuals/couples and licenses practitioners/trainers in my uniquely sensual and provocative methods of bondage massage ~ also known as The Art of Bondassage.

I have over 28 years of professional experience, and 2000+ hours of extensive training in several healing modalities ~ Amma, Swedish, Acupressure, Shiatsu, Deep Tissue, Sports Massage, Reiki, Rebirthing, Polarity, Trigger and Active Release, Thai,Tantra and Taoist Massage, Shamanic Journeying, Aromatherapy, and Esoteric Energy Healing. I am a graduate of Barbara Carrelles’ Urban Tantra for Professionals program, a Sensual Shaman, and a Third Degree Reiki Master. As a Certified Massage Therapist, I have had the privilege of working on over twenty thousand bodies~ from overworked desk-bound professionals to professional athletes.

As a Domina, I am an accomplished Erotic Sadist with decades of experience in the “darker arts” of BDSM. I specialize in Corporal Punishment, Bondage, Sensory Deprivation and a wide variety of Body Play. I believe that BDSM is a valid path to self discovery and healing, and that submission can be a path to the Divine.

Outside of this realm, I’m a classically trained singer, voracious bibliophile, passionate fiber artist, a Virgo with Taurus rising, and an INFJ.  Humor, compassion, intuition, and integrity is integral to my work. I offer education, instruction, coaching, and professional training to individuals, groups, erotic bodyworkers, and sexuality professionals.

What inspires you?

Life in all its endless variety and glory. Nature. Teaching Bondassage to others (it’s a great way for me to learn new skills/approaches). I find inspiration for pervertible sensation play items at the drugstore, the hardware store, the cooking store, in my kitchen drawers, in my bathroom, in nature. Many times, less is more. How many different ways can I use this hairbrush?

What is Bondassage?

Bondassage is a combination of light bondage, sensory deprivation, full body sensual massage and sensation play. It begins with the receiver naked and kneeling, a leather collar around their neck and padded cuffs on their wrists and ankles. Their eyes are covered with a soft blindfold. Lightly secured to a comfortably padded massage table, they sink deeply into their body as a selection of sensually-stimulating sounds play through their headphones. As they surrender to the sensations and forget the outside world, they are taken to a place of exquisite enjoyment ~ a place where they can indulge their senses and embrace the pleasure. Bondage massage, tie & tease … these modalities have been around for centuries. Certified Bondassage Practitioners are trained in the copyrighted sequence, and professional sessions will vary subsequent sessions based on your likes/dislikes.

I’ve created the The Art of Bondassage Online Course and the The Advanced Art of Bondassage Video Course for non-professionals as a way to increase their knowledge, skills, and confidently offer Bondassage to their partners.

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What BDSM gear is involved in a Bondassage session? How do you use the BDSM gear?

A comfortable blindfold (we use a Mindfold), leather cuffs, leather collar, ropes restrain the receiver and create a container of submission. A rabbit and leather floggers are used for both body percussion and sensation play. For body percussion, we use hands, paddles, canes and crops in a light sensual manner to heighten sensation.  Some of the sensation play items include vibrating toys (electric toothbrushes are a favorite), prickly items (wartenberg wheels), scratchy (fingernails), cold (ball chain flogger, ice), soft/silky things (fur, satin, feathers).  In the Art of Bondassage online course, I give dozens of suggestions for sensation play items that you can find around the house. In the Advanced Art of Bondassage video course, I demonstrate all the ways you might use these tools, toys, and techniques.

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What are the therapeutic benefits of a Bondassage?

Deep relaxation, surrender, healing, catharsis, pleasure, transcendent states, connection, discovering new pleasure zones. Intense orgasms have been reported 🙂

Would you recommend Bondassage as an introduction into the world of BDSM?

Bondassage allows people a “soft” entry into the world of BDSM. Learning and/or experiencing Bondassage is a safe, playful, creative way to stretch your intimate boundaries and expand your erotic repertoire.

Bondassage gives you the confidence and freedom to explore new techniques, new erogenous zones, and delicious new areas of sensory pleasure. Bondassage takes the receiver on a journey of sensation surprises. You may be a seasoned traveler in the BDSM realm but want something different, or you may be brand new and want to be introduced gently to percussion play, sensation exploration, and bondage. Either way, we can create a Bondassage session that best suits your needs. We’ll take you toward your known (and sometimes unknown) desires in an environment that is kind, safe, and full of surprises.

As a couple exploring Bondassage, you’ll find that it’s a lovely way to rekindle the passion and desire in your relationship. You’ll become more sensitive and adventurous with each other as you reach new levels of intimacy and sensuality. Bondassage gives you the confidence and freedom to explore new techniques, new erogenous zones, and delicious new areas of sensory pleasure. Bondassage takes the receiver on a journey of sensation surprises. You may be a seasoned traveler in the BDSM realm but want something different, or you may be brand new and want to be introduced gently to percussion play, sensation exploration, and bondage. Either way, we can create a Bondassage session that best suits your needs. We’ll take you toward your known (and sometimes unknown) desires in an environment that is kind, safe, and full of surprises.

What types of people would you recommend a Bondassage to?

Everyone!  Couples and adventurous singles find that Bondassage increases connection, desire, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction with your lover. Folks looking to dip their toes into the kinky waters, experienced BDSM players looking to incorporate more sensual & erotic aspects into their play. Professional looking to expand their repertoire and reach new clients. People who have a difficult time “getting out of their head”. Control freaks 🙂

Bondassage will help you explore techniques you’ve always wanted to try and introduce you to some you may have never even imagined. You’ll explore what kinds of experiences you and your partner might enjoy.

What would it feel like to receive a Bondassage?

Most people experience deep surrender, dropping deeply into their body. They have the ability to let go and give up control of the experience over to another.  Here are a couple of testimonials:

When receiving (being the bottom for) a Bondassage session, your mindset must be one of submission.  When you emerge from the shower, clean and dry, the practitioner immediately takes control.  You kneel at the massage table and the practitioner begins the process of bondage.  A collar is placed on your neck. This is the point at which you begin to understand that you will be under her control. Leather bindings on your wrists and ankles accentuate the feeling of submission.  She might caress your bum and even maybe a fleeting touch to your naughty bits, signalling that there is pleasure in your immediate future.

Laying face down, with a blindfold in place, you think, “I better scratch my nose one last time as I will be unable to do so for a while.” When the headphones go on, the feeling of being immersed in an alternate space is enhanced. Is the space safe? Well of course, but maybe there is a doubt … which is thrilling.

Soon you begin to feel sensations from a variety of angles and with different textures. Soft, scratchy, vibrations, silky, warm, cold … Where will the next touch be? Your arm? shoulder? Feet? Bum? Fingers? Oh I hope it’s …

Suddenly, the sensations get a little rougher. Was that a smack on my ass or could a paddle be next? Just as suddenly, you are receiving the most pleasurable stroke ever and then even more.  But the pleasure stops and again, there is intensity, but not severe, it feels good to be spanked and caned.  Just as you are beginning to feel that the cane is starting to hurt, once again her hand is between your thighs stroking you.  All the while the music is taking you on a journey through a very nice place, soft, and rhythmic.

Way before you want, the session is gently interrupted as you are ordered to turn over.  What will it be like? You are tied down again, face up and blindfolded and you as exposed to whatever comes next. Helpless and eager for pleasure. More pleasure please 🙂

And pleasure there is and how long will you last?  She is an expert at keeping you on the edge. So close and will I climax? Yes you will but not yet.

Finally the pleasure becomes the single focus of your existence. There is nothing but the stroke and another and another. Please, don’t come, don’t come, but you will and you did and it lasted forever.

After a while you notice that there is a warm cloth being wrapped around your genitals and it feels warm and safe.  Wrapped in a soft blanket, you drift off into another world of altered consciousness and time stops.

“Ok, let’s do that again.” ~ Mike S

“If the best massage of your life, punctuated with delicious sensory play while blindfolded and strapped down to a cushy massage table sounds appealing, you must try Bondassage … It’s a feast of delicious sensations, from deep relaxation to highly skilled touch … the combination of virtuoso massage skills, body percussion, submission, sensation play, and sensory deprivation will take you to places you’ve never been before. It’s like nothing I’d ever experienced … Words simply cannot describe it. As powerful as any dream fantasy I’ve ever had.” ~ S

“Bondassage is a glorious combination of sensory manipulation, sensual massage and BDSM that is the most erotic single experience I’ve ever had. What I experienced was truly a transcendent experience for me, and my life has been profoundly changed.” ~ K

What is involved in becoming a Bondassage professional?

We offer one-to-one professional certification in Canada, the US, Australia, and the UK. Our two day Bondassage training is designed for sensually adventurous individuals and couples, bodyworkers who work with sex and sexuality, tantrikas, sexological bodyworkers, sensual massage artists, sexual healers, sacred intimates, Pro Dommes, sexuality educators and professionals of all kinds. You’ll gain the skills and the tools you need to create the outrageously unique Bondassage Experience for those you touch. We provide comprehensive training tailored to your unique skill sets and talents.  You can find out more information here: Professional Bondassage Training And Certification.

Online professional certification is in the works and will be available globally in 2018: Online Bondassage Practitioner Certification.

Do you have to have a dominant personality to give a Bondassage?

Absolutely not. Someone with a submissive personality can give a Bondassage session to their Dominant as a way of service.  As Mistress Jenna Rotten says:

“Learning the art of Bondassage has opened a whole new part of My sensual side, teaching Me the importance of the connections we can make without using words.”

Where can people go to find more information?

For more information, you can find more information about my Bondassage courses here:

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Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women's lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

VIP Interview With Giorgia CEO Of Sex Wooden Toys

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Sex Wooden Toys is an adult lifestyle company who create handcrafted products. They use over 20 years of industry experience creating a large variety of products out of wood, this lead them to becoming the very first company in Italy to create sex toys out of wood. A beautiful aspect which makes their sex toys so popular is just how unique every product is, you will never get one products which is absolutely identical to the other. This is due to the fact that each piece of wood has different colours, veining and patterns. People view their sex toys as unquestionably stunning works of art.

To top that off, Sex Wooden Toys are able to create sex toys which are made to order. This service allows the customer to pick out the shape of their sex toy where they are able to provide descriptions, pictures and drawings to Sex Wooden Toys. After you have sent in all the information, Sex Wooden Toys will provide you with a quote. The services that they offer are provided with complete discretion.

This is a VIP Interview with Giorgia from Sex Wooden Toys which explores her background, what inspired the creation of the company and the level of quality of their products.

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Tell me about yourself

My name is Giorgia and I am 22.

After my graduation, I have started working for my father’s joinery in Magione, a little town in Umbria, in the centre of Italy. Our main business was, and still is, wooden fans and tailored wooden furniture production.

Sometime it occurred to me that I helped my father with his job, and that was my first approach to wooden craft.

Owing to the raise of wooden fans demand, my father managed to realize a special CNC equipment, which allowed him to speed up production pace by crafting each singular fan as demanded and halving production time.

What inspired the creation of the company Sex Wooden Toys?

It was just for fun that in 2012 my father and his friends tried to create a wooden dildo using the fan crafting machine. At that time, I was only 17 and I confess I was pretty reluctant to accept the idea that my father produced wooden penis.

However, my entrance in the company led me to understand that I wanted to branch off the wooden fans production and realize something that was wholly mine.

It was after the suggestion of Raffaele, my brother-in-law and member of my father’s company staff, that I took control of the Sex Wooden Toys project. I did not know if that was a good idea, As a consequence, Raffaele and I decided to put all our time and efforts on that concept, starting from reinventing Sex Wooden Toys brand image.

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What types of woods are used?

The next step was about the choice of the wood, and our final selection included six types of wood that we considered appropriate for the purpose: olive, cherry, mahogany, durmast, padouk and wengè.

Are there differences between the types of woods that are used?

These woods have their own specific features about colour, veining and porosity.

For example, olive wood is smooth and garishly veined, padouk wood has an unmistakable red colour, durmast wood has the lightest colour and the best porosity and wengè wood features a characteristic dark nuance.

Afterwards, we inquired the most common and appreciated shapes in the world of dildos and sex toys to create our brand-new line of dildos, vibrators and plugs.

What inspires the beautiful names which are given to your products?

Our products’ names are inspired to the Greek mythology. I love Greek mythology and, after all, what is better for a woman than feeling like a goddess? Dildos and vibrators have feminine names because I want to dedicate them to women, as well as plugs have masculine names as a personal gift of mines to men.

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Sex Toy: Demetra Vibrator

Is Sex Wooden Toys the first Italian company to create toys out of wood?

We are proud to say that we are the first Italian company to produce sex toys by wood.

Are all your products handcrafted?

Our products come out as the result of the union between our own technology and the artisanal manual work, as every piece is finally refined by hand.

What coating do Sex Wooden Toys have which make them body safe?

Concerning surface coating, we hasten to highlight that our products have a three-layer varnishing, of which the first coating layer is meant to fill all the pores. The other two layers are meant to be eligible to be in contact with the skin and a water based, non-toxic, food varnish is utilized to this purpose. Usually, the first thought coming up about wood is about splinters, but our products are obviously worked to be completely safe.

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Where can you buy Sex Wooden Toys products?

At this time, our sex toys are available on the e-commerce section of our website and on the American marketplace Etsy, and shipping is available all around the world. Here in Italy, our sex toys can be bought also in some local shops.

How has Sex Wooden Toys been received by bloggers and customers?

For months, we have worked to get our products known and sold in several countries in Northern Europe, in the US and Australia. Lots of bloggers provided our products with enthusiastic reviews we are really proud of.

A sex toy is a personal and intimate experience, a moment to dedicate to ourselves according to what we like and what is part of our fantasy. This is why this is a wide growing market with several unexplored business opportunities.

What distinguishes Sex Wooden Toys from other products?

What distinguishes our sex toys is surely the material, as wood is one of the oldest raw materials used by human beings to create tools and craft their lives. We just gave a new meaning to this material, widening its potential and raising its value from the conception as poor material to the new definition nearly as “piece of art”. Every piece is unique and features uncopiable elements.

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Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women's lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

VIP Interview With Goddess Kitty A Professional Dominatrix!

Goddess Kitty A Professional Domme

Goddess Kitty is a professional Dominatrix who enjoys enjoy all forms of BDSM and fetish play.  Having worked in this field for over 10 years throughout America, Goddess Kitty has attained a wealth of experience which will bring you to your knees with power, control and pleasure.   Her specialties include rope bondage, role play, whipping, corporal punishment, hypnotism, disciplinarian, CBT and so much more.  Her wise range of skills allows clients to explore their deepest desires and fantasies by relinquishing both their bodies and souls to her.  She has her own personal dungeon full of BDSM gear including a slave cage, metal rack bed, paddles and whips. Visit The Goddess Kitty Website for more information on how to contact her and a detailed list of what services she will provide.  She was kind enough to do an interview with the Adultsmart Blog.

Tell me about yourself

I go by Goddess Kitty. My website is www.GoddessKitty.com. I own a medical office in Florida as well as being an active professional Domme. I am from Latin descent, I was born in Florida and I am Cuban/Colombian. I call it the Pitbull/Shakira effect. You can see that I’m more sensual in my style but just as fierce.

When, why and how did you realized you wanted to be a Mistress?

I was 6 years old and my mother burst into my room at 10 in the evening, admonishing me watching Benny Hill. I loved it but it stayed with me that I was different and that I liked to have the power that those women possessed over Benny Hill. Hew was a true submissive, appreciating the sex of women of wishing that he could worship them. He was obsessed in their essence.

What inspires you?

The mold was broken when I was created, I’ve never really met anyone to think the way I do, or at least be so verbal about it. I believe in the religion of Humanity. There is a passion for mankind and a need to care about everyone; to know their pain and their prejudices. I feel bigger than life, I know I am a Goddess because I care about my fellow man. I practice my personal religion by helping those that cross my path by showing compassion, love and generosity in my time and energy. I will stand up for those who cant and I will bless those who can.

Marquis de Sade, Anne Rice, Clive Barker, Dean Koontz, The Conquering of Sleeping Beauty – Book , The Story of O – Book, Elvira Mistress of the Dark, Cher, Barbie (Ken was such a sub), Wonder Woman (I had the underdogs, bike, shoes, doll, and socks branded), are some of the inspirations that cemented who I am.

I have a passion for the arts, I love museums, from sculptures to photography, I love to lose myself in the art. It feels as if a reset button has been pushed.

What do you love about being a Mistress? What are the perks?

I love everything about being me. I can’t separate the two, it’s who I am and my identity. Denying my existence would be depressing my soul. I cannot and will not be untrue to myself.

Wine, Champagne, Clothing, Roses, Gardenias, perfume, restaurants, operas, shoes, purses, exotic trips, interesting eclectic and/or eccentric people, interesting adventurous situations, videos, photographs, and fans are all some of the perks that I personally receive as a Dominatrix. Its not the same for everyone.

I’ve received many gifts and I’ve never met the senders.

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What personal characteristics do you need to be a Mistress?

I wouldn’t want to generalize or assume that certain characteristics are needed to dominate. If you truly are dedicated, you learn the characteristics that you need, you can’t help but change in your personal life as well as in your professional life. Even if you feel like a meek, virginal girl; if you have the desire to become a Dominatrix you will find yourself developing into the woman that you want to become.

You don’t need a characteristic, you need the desire.

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Why did you choose Goddess Kitty as your name?

My Name is Cathy and my friends and family call me Cat. I thought it was a natural progression, besides I there’s only one Goddess Kitty.

What services do you provide?

I teach couples how to have adventurous sex, I teach women how to dominate, I dominate submissives in a variety of methods from sissy training to golden nectar drinking. I dominate couples, ladies and males.

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Why do people enjoy surrendering, obeying, serving, pleasing and amusing a Mistress?

I take my submissives to a

“play space”

where they are safe and no longer themselves. All of my submissives do well in their lives and need to release that control. I can easily take it from them, as a matter of fact I can see it on them. When a submissive walks through my door I can see their fear, it’s a trained response from years of dominating. I take them to their subjective ecstasy, and the addiction begins.

Why do some people like being financially dominated?

Money is a funny thing. Some people enjoy being financially dominated because they feel guilty for something that they have done and they feel that they need to be punished. Some people enjoying helping their Goddess, it’s a tithe. Some like to be threatened with being revealed to family members as submissives that give away their money needlessly. Some people feed off the feeling of living on the edge and enjoy being restricted monetarily, it’s a huge turn on for them.  The psyche for financial domination is not a set one, its ever changing as technology.

What fetishes do you find most people have?

I find that most fetishes are: foot worship and variations, sissy play, spanking, whipping, queening, humiliation including small penis (especially if it isn’t), CBT-Cock and Ball Torture, Nipple Torture, Electro-Torture, to name a few are the favs amongst submissives.

What does it feel like to be in complete control of another person?

Being in complete control of another person is absolutely a sexual, orgasmic high. I am extremely turned on every time I am dominating and even after, the power exchange alone rushes through my body piercing me with hot temperatures getting my endorphins and adrenaline pumping. I become an absolute beast and I absolutely love it.

 

Once again thank you Goddess Kitty for allowing us to interview you and providing such honest and detailed information that the readers of our blog I am sure are going to love.

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Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women's lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

VIP Interview With Isabelle Deslauriers President & Founder Of Désirables Expérience Design Inc

Isabelle Deslauriers From Désirables Expérience Design Inc

Désirables Expérience Design Inc is a design company founded by Isabelle Deslauriers in 2011 who create all their products with love, passion, inspiration and integrity. Désirables specialises in designing adult lifestyle products that are made from ceramic, which is an environmentally friendly material that is also body safe. The sex toys they design are made with the well-being of people in mind – each and every products is finely handcrafted with ergonomic designs that are incredibly functional. Their sex toys use the idea that you are able to control the precise amounts of pressure to stimulate your erogenous zones. This is a VIP Interview with Isabelle Deslauriers president and founder of Désirables Expérience Design Inc.

Tell me about yourself?

Hello, my name is Isabelle Deslauriers and I’m the president and founder of Désirables Expérience Design Inc, better known as “Désirables”. I’ve studied interior and industrial design and I have a certificate in business creation. I’m from Quebec City, a gorgeous French & historic city in Canada. Apart from Désirables, my passions revolves around lots of good food, yoga and gaming on my PS4 every now and then. My father founded his company at our house when I was very young so I’ve always been interested in starting my own company.

What did you learn about the adult lifestyle industry when you studied Industrial Design at the University of Montreal?

I must say, the adult lifestyle industry is NOT something that you usually learn in Industrial Design, though I think you have a special program in Australia focusing only on sex toys. I had to learn more about this industry because I chose this subject as my final year project: How to create a bridge between design, sexuality and intimacy.

The first thing I learned was that there is really a style, an aesthetic appeal for everything. The industry is so huge that you have products for everyone in terms of looks and feel. I had to dig a little deeper to find the problems that I try to resolve with Désirables. With such a diversity in terms of materials, I wanted to know which one is perfect for internal use. That’s when I discovered the issue around Phthalates and “toxic-toys”. I also discovered some possible issues with repeated usage of vibrations. If you study sexuality as a phenomenon larger than just the act itself, you understand pretty quickly that you could learn something new every day for the rest of your life, because sexuality includes notions of biology, sexology, intimacy, spirituality and even neurobiology.

Did you always know you were going to create sex toys?

Until my last year of University I never tough of creating a sex toys business. With that said, during all my years as an industrial design student, I always found myself criticizing sex toys that I saw in design newsletter. So in my third year, my friends dared me to create sex toys for my final year project, the project that would represent me in all the design community. I like to tackle challenges and I’ve always been very curious about everything surrounding sexuality, especially since we don’t have a lot of basic sexual education in Canada.

What inspired you to create your own business?

The health issues that I found convinced me that I should use this project to start my own business, my solutions needed to be out there in order to give a healthier, more ethically responsible solution to everyone who would like a sex toy, especially people who needed to reconnect and rediscover their sexuality.

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Sex Toy: Adori
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What was it like applying for grants?

I actually applied for grants while I was studying business creation, first because my teachers said that I could actually win this thing. But also because I’ve learn that if you don’t try the only reply you will receive is NO, but if you give it a shot there is a tiny possibility that you might receive a YES. Luckily enough, that year I received 3 grants that gave me the money and confidence to start my first production.

What was it like starring in Dragon’s Den? Was it scary? Would you do it again?

It’s definitely an experience I would recommend to any entrepreneur. I must admit that I wasn’t scared at all, after applying for grants and some contest I was already comfortable to do a pitch in front of potential investors. I think that what scared me the most was the reaction of the general public. The reaction was amazing and 3 years later, I still meet some people who recognize me from this show. Sex Toys Company presented by a young mid-twenty woman is definitely unusual. I would do it again, though we are actually thinking about starting a Crowd founding campaign for our next project revolving around pelvic floor health.

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Photo: Isabelle at Dragon Dens

What is your design process like? What is your favourite part of the design process?

I love books and I love research, so the biggest part of my design process is research. I like to have a little information from every part of the “big picture” when I design. I must admit that at the time, I didn’t do enough research with actual people, I just asked everyone in my program what were their issues and what prototype they liked best. If I had to redo it, I would definitely talk to more people.

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Image: DALIA Sex Toy Manufacturing Process

The design process for me was this:

  • State the issue that you want to tackle, do research to see if this is really the issue that people have (At the beginning I thought that the aesthetic of sex toys was the biggest issue).
  • Research.
  • Redefine the problematic with the new information we gathered.
  • Propose 3-4 different solutions for the problematic.
  • Choose 1 that inspires you the most, today I would use the Value Proposition Canva to help me choose what solution is the best to solve my customer problem.
  • A lot of sketches, then you select between 5 and 10 that you like the most.
  • Clay prototypes, because ergonomics in small scales objects is really essential. We wanted to create product that could be used by everyone at every age so we had to think about arthritis.
  • After that I would choose my final form and print it with a 3D printer to see the final details. You can also more easily validate the product once it is in this form.
  • We’re always in the design process even after a product is produce, for example, the Dalia that we are selling now is the fourth version since our launch. We take into account all our clients reviews and new technologies available.
  • In the end, I didn’t have to do a lot of back and forth with my initial designs because the research was so thorough that every seemingly aesthetic decision I made was based on research.
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Image: ADORI Sex Toy Manufacturing Process

For all our projects, for example every time we have to create a new packaging for the product, we print them in order to compare them and make our final selection. Never stay with your first idea folks; this is not how you can create real change/value.

What quote/s inspire you?

For Desirables, a quotes from Charles & Ray Eames always comes to mind:

“Take your pleasure seriously.”

Personally… I love the sarcasm of Oscar Wild:

“Be yourself, everyone else is taken.”

They inspire me because it is sometimes hard to stand by your ideas when these decisions are hard. We chose to make all our production here in Canada with local ceramist, most business advisor would tell us to go product in China in order to make more profit. In the entrepreneurial life, you definitely need some quotes to help you keep your authenticity because it’s easy to make a decision based on the money over the quality of life, ethics are hard to visualize in an excel sheet.

What materials are your products made from?

Our products are made in… PORCELAIN! This material is really underestimated in the sex toy industry. It has every feature you would like in a great toy: heat transfer capabilities (you can cool it or warm it), super easy to clean, non-porous (It’s been cooked twice between 1000 and 1400°C), hypoallergenic, body-compatible, it gives a gorgeous and luxurious look, and most of all…It can last a lifetime (and more).

Most people think that porcelain is very breakable, it’s only partly true. Porcelain is fragile to “shocks”, if you drop it on the ground it will shatter. But, in use it’s one of the strongest materials out there. That’s actually what dentist uses for replacing teeth, and now they even use it to replace bones because the body doesn’t reject is as much as the one made of medical stainless steel. Because we are such big believers in the power of porcelain and because we know that an accident can happen with your toys, we offer a 5 years warranty, no questions asked, on all our porcelain products.

Désirables Expérience Design Inc products are vibration free – Why is it important to use toys that do not have vibrations?

We discovered that excess vibrations can create problems for the user, gradual desensitization that create what it’s called a “Plateau” effect.  This means that with time, if you use vibrations regularly, you need to increase the strength of the vibrations in order to experience de same amount of pleasure. This is cause by the over stimulation of the nerves ending at the end of the clitoris. Vibrations are not inherently bad, it’s just the lack of information surrounding the use of vibrators that can cause harm in the long term. The mission of Désirables is to create tools to help people discover their body and take more time to experience pleasure. For me, vibrations carries a “performance issue” that place the achievement of orgasm above the pleasure of sexual encounters.

There are multiple benefits:

  • Firstly, for G-spot stimulation there is no nerve endings that could be stimulated by the vibrations. To orgasm from the G-spot, pressure is the key.
  • The absence of vibrations means that you will actually take the time to discover what brings you pleasure. Your partner cannot satisfy you if you don’t even know what you like.
  • You don’t have to upgrade to a new toy after a few months because the original one isn’t strong enough anymore.

What are your best sellers?

Our best seller is definitely the Dalia, our porcelain dildo. When I started, I was sure that our massage stones would be the biggest seller because it’s such an innovation. We discovered that it’s so far from what people are used to see that they don’t understand at first glance what their function is. In stores, our massage oil is definitely a big seller too, its fragrance is so complex and delicate that some people actually want to buy it as perfume! The texture is pretty amazing too. Like our porcelain product, our massage products are design to be hypoallergenic, without any additive.

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Désirables Expérience Design Inc had founded the Design & Intimacy Project – What is this project? How would you recommend couples communicate and use tools to explore their bodies for a better sexual lifestyle and relationship?

Actually this project is my Final Year project in Industrial Design, the project that started Désirables. You can find most of our findings in our booklets which are in every porcelain product box. In those, we give information about intimacy, sharing fantasies, the importance of using your 5 senses and even some yoga poses to help you release tension in your pelvic area.

What is your favourite moment from running Désirables Expérience Design Inc?

My favourite moment are definitely when I meet a customer in an event and they tell me how much my products helped them with their problems. From new moms to recently divorcees, I even had an older lady who just recently lost her husband and wanted to rediscover her sexuality. When I started this project I could never have imagine how much good design and a caring attention to details could really make a person’s life better.

Adultsmart would love to thank Isabelle Deslauriers for this amazing interview who is such a passionate inventor and entrepreneur. If you would like to find out more information about their company, be sure to check out Désirables Expérience Design Inc’s blog.ThankSave

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Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women's lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

VIP Interview With Sir Dominic A BDSM Master At Temple 22

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Sir Dominic is a BDSM Dominant/Master At Temple 22, with over 15 years of private and professional experience, he is the professional you need to see if you want to experience the true feeling of what it is like to be sexually dominated. His highly sort after skill set allows his female and couples clients to explore all types of kinky fantasies including dominance and submission, role-plays, forced orgasm or orgasm denial, scenes of humiliation or degradation, nipple play, bondage scenes and so much more! He is sought out by novice and experienced Dominants and Couples for his BDSM and sexuality coaching services, providing a plethora of knowledge and skills so they can engage in safe, ethical and consensual BDSM practices. In fact, there is a lot of good science behind the benefits of BDSM, which explains what he and his clients get out of it.

Sir Dominic works alongside Temple 22 to provide an environment that is tailored to your interests, desires, and needs. Temple 22 is one of the finest BDSM establishments located in the city of Sydney. If Sir Dominic has caught your eye, your next step is to simply ask him what you are looking for and what you would like to experience. Sir Dominic will tell you everything you ever needed to know. This is a VIP Interview With Sir Dominic A BDSM Master At Temple 22.

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Tell me about yourself

My name is Sir Dominic. I’m a professional BDSM Dominant/Master offering experiences for women and couple’s at Temple 22 – Australia’s premiere 5 Star BDSM establishment. Also, I coach and train people of any gender or sexual orientation in BDSM (Psychology of, Dominance, Skills such as flogging etc) and offer Life Coaching style services for people who want to invest in their own well-being.

When and how did your interest in BDSM and Kink Play begin? (What inspired you?)

Over 20 years ago I stumbled upon an event called ‘The Hellfire Club’ in Sydney, Australia. Little did I know at the time, that it was a Fetish/BDSM party! I walked in and instantly it felt like ‘home’. There were people of all different ages, kinks and persuasions – I connected instantly with the vibe and fun kinky play, and more-so with the inclusivity and the non-judgemental aspect of it all. Once I understood more about the dynamics of Dominance and Submission, I just knew with every cell of my body that I’m a Dominant as this archetype is what spoke directly to my personality type and my desire for sexual self-expression.

What are your favourite quotes the inspire you?

“Intimacy is based on shared vulnerability…nothing deepens intimacy like the experiences that we share when we feel flayed, with our skins off, scared and vulnerable, and our partner is there with us, willing to share in the scary stuff.” -Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt

“In a world that is unfair and often arbitrary and cruel, the ability to escape into the timelessness of our erotic relationships is priceless; a system where excellence and goodness are rewarded and correction and punishment are given with trust and affection is an added bonus.” – Laura Antoniou

“The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him, he is always doing both” – James Michener

These first two quotes sum up perfectly what happens during the BDSM power exchange experience between two consenting adults. These quotes inspire me as it gives form to what happens and is communicated in kinky play. As it has been said ‘Actions speak louder than words’ and the actions in highly-charged BDSM play, rarely can be faked unlike words in our everyday life and interactions. When I play with a submissive, their raw, true self is on display and this state of being, for at least a few moments, is the most honest communication about themselves they can ever express. It’s a level of honesty that rarely can be communicated through words and this is the basis of what intimacy is also for me.

The third quote perfectly summaries my orientation to the art, lifestyle, and energy that is BDSM/kinky play and my life overall. It inspires me to embrace it from every angle and achieve not just a ‘flow’ state in play, but a ‘flow’ state in all aspects of my life – as my energy and presence in play is a direct reflection of my life as a whole.

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How did you learn the skills of BDSM and Kink Play?

It’s a combination of trial and error, seeking out more experienced mentors, a hell of a lot of research and learning of specific skillsets. As a professional, I’m faced with a wide variety of people and I incorporate a lot of varied skills in my play and sessions that one wouldn’t automatically think is important to being a practioner of professional BDSM. I utilise a combination of NLP, conversational hypnosis, sex healing and other counselling and coaching related modalities in my play as the aim of play, to me, is to ensure that the client/play partner has a fantastic experience in every way – from the psychological/emotional to the physical experience. Essentially, to ensure this experience, the holistic framework I apply raises the self-esteem and self-confidence of my client/play partner.  My intuition is also an essential ‘skill’ that I constantly push myself to hone in and listen to what it’s telling me about the play, my client/partner and what we are both experiencing during the play.

What is the importance of coaching and mentoring in BDSM?

I can’t emphasise the importance of seeking out coaching/mentoring in this lifestyle and skillset – but, I will try! The most important skill set to learn is ‘communication’ as the vast majority of success and failure of a play session can be traced back to the depth of, or lack of, communication between the consenting adults that are engaging in this type of play. People aren’t born with the ability to communicate adequately and we learn it over time, but, the communication required to bring out the best in a BDSM experience is very specific and by learning this skillset alone, let alone the rest of the skills for example how to flog, tie-up and lead a submissive etc, will propel a dominant a long way in their journey while ensuring their partners are treated in a safe and ethical way.

What are your favourite memories from working as a Sir/Master?

I’m unable to disclose any particular experience as even without mentioning names, I consider it a break of the trust that has been placed in me as a professional. But, I will say this – A lot of my clients come to see me as they have had this burning desire to explore BDSM but haven’t yet found an appropriately safe and experienced person to explore it with. So, when they finally take the plunge and experience it in a safe, sane and consensual way, they go through a remarkable and profound positive change as they experience a feeling of fulfilment that is only derived from expressing their true sexual self. To me, being aligned with your true sexual self is an important cornerstone to living an authentic life and being able to facilitate that for someone is why I do what I do.

What is it like working for Temple 22?

It’s been an amazing experience all round as the facilities and attention to detail is second to none. I feel very fortunate to work under the guidance of Mistress Ruben and this is priceless to me. She is one of Australia’s most experienced Dominatrixes and is an incredible woman let alone an incredible Mistress. She willingly imparts her invaluable knowledge to her staff to ensure that the clients receive the best experience and foster’s a team atmosphere that is rarely seen in this industry. The refined establishment she has given birth to perfectly encapsulates the BDSM experience with its atmosphere, equipment and highly-skilled staff.

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What is the difference between the way people act in your space than when they are not?

As a professional, I don’t interact with my clients outside of Temple 22 except for some email communication so I can’t say with absolute confidence how they act outside of that, but in saying that, I feel they show me who they really are when they in play as I said earlier in this interview, ‘Actions speak louder than words’.

What is your favourite part of the BDSM sessions?

Honestly? All of it! It’s a real journey that starts with communication with the client. I’m a people person and getting to know the intricacies of their personality before the session starts, allows me to craft the best experience for them. Once the play starts, I’m completely in a ‘flow’ state and the client and I are still communicating but both verbally and non-verbally. I’m hyper-aware of everything but not thinking about anything specifically – this is quite hard to explain with words as this active meditation I’m experiencing is intangible and unique to me as a Dominant playing in the way I do. I enjoy ‘sensual domination’ a lot – this is where the client and I weave sensuality and the more forceful/rougher aspects of BDSM/power-exchange together.

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What are the advantages of exploring BDSM play?

The most obvious advantages of exploring kink, fetishes, and BDSM that came to mind is that it’s fun and feels good! It keeps boredom, monotony, and complacency out of the bedroom. All too often we hear of stories where relationships have ended due to a lack-lustre sex life as there wasn’t much in the way of any activities that are fun and feel good, while deepened and strengthened the bond between partners or lovers.

Relationships are all about communication – verbal and non-verbal and the active exploration of BDSM teaches us better negotiation and communication skills. It teaches us how to articulate and pursue our desires while allowing us to learn about limits, boundaries, and trust. Relationships are essentially empty without trust and communication and these activities constantly reinforce trust and conscious communication between the participants. All of this leads to far greater levels of intimacy with your lover(s) or partner(s).

I’ve been responsible for facilitating many women’s and couple’s first BDSM experiences – the feedback I get is that they feel more self-confident, they have greater self-esteem and invite more ‘pleasure’ into their lives.

How are people able to understand themselves better when they participate in BDSM and Fetish Play?

BDSM gives you a better sense of perspective about your core self and people in general through fun, sexual exploration. You explore the effect of power and/or the lack of it has on your psyche, different sensations and the limits and breadth of your body, mind and emotions. All of this leads, in essence, to be more in touch with your authentic self. BDSM also encourages you to completely accept yourself and this is a fundamental pillar or mental health and well-being. You gain a realistic understanding and appreciation of one’s strengths and weaknesses – this leads to them acknowledging their unique worth with a compassionate attitude towards themselves.

When someone enjoys great BDSM play for the first time, they have an embodied understanding of the importance of pleasure. They are able to perceive their lives before and after they allowed themselves to experience this level of pleasure that is stemming from their unique sexual self-expression. They come to viscerally understand that pleasure brings about happiness. This coupled with self-acceptance, gives them the tools that they need to control their happiness in the little time they have to themselves outside the pressures of work, their family and other responsibilities. We dedicate so much time and energy into just achieving and surviving in our current society, so, to understand what can give them authentic sexual self-expression in the little time they have to experience pleasure, allows them to achieve a greater work/life balance while ensuring they don’t experience the unhealthy effects of sexually repressing themselves. This is liberating and allows them to experience fuller and more meaningful lives while having a lot of fun!

What services do you provide?

I offer BDSM coaching, sessions and workshops for couples and women. I specialise in BDSM skills, life and sexuality coaching services. If you are new to BDSM and would like to explore it and the experience, I have written a detailed BDSM First Timers Guide.

Be sure to read a detailed list of Sir Dominic’s BDSM session services on his website and book a BDSM session with Sir Dominic through Temple 22 or phone 02 9331 4418. Temple 22 is conveniently located next to Hyde Park in Darlinghurst, Sydney.

For my coaching services, or you have any questions and/or would like to speak to me please do so through my website at http://sirdominic.com.au – I look forward to hearing from you!Save

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Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women's lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.