#MeToo Fighting Sexual Harassment & Assault!

Hashtag for sexual assault and harrassment

In solidarity with the internet world I am joining the #metoo movement currently happening. Now if you haven’t been online over this past weekend, you might be wondering what the #metoo movement is or what I am talking about? A little over a week ago a major movement began in the Hollywood circle with sexual assault and harassment charges were brought forth by one of the industry’s most notable. These allegations are nothing new, countless incidents have been brought forth against countless people for years and years. What makes this instance so unique is the backing support it has received from women and men around the world who have had enough, in particular Alyssa Milano (Who’s the Boss, Charmed) started a tweet:

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Image: Alyssa Milano’s #MeToo Tweet

 “If all the people who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote “Metoo.” as a status, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem. #MeToo”

Hollywood Actress Alyssa Milano
Photo: Alyssa Milano

This tweet has sparked a viral online movement and one that is causing a number of debates amongst its own supporters. I first started seeing this post specifically calling for “Women” who’ve experienced these forms of harassment and assault to come together in solidarity, soon after I started seeing men, women and non-binary identifiers also posting their stories, or simply indicating a #metoo.  For many this is a movement to bring awareness to the harassment and mistreatment of WOMEN that has been swept under the rug for too long. Others are proclaiming this is the opportunity to show that sexual harassment, assault and rape are not just a Women’s issue, but rather everyone’s issue.  1 in 4 girls will be sexually mistreated in some way before they are 18, that same statistic applies to 1 in 6 boys. I’d say this is everyone’s issue and in 2017 when the movement for equality has made more stride than ever before, there’s no better cause to come together for.

Now that you have a little more information about the #metoo trend happening around you, I’d like to take this time to share my experience.

As a man, and for one who grew up in rural Canada surrounded by every hegemonic masculine stereotype you can imagine, I endured physical and mental harassment from peers in school for being different. I personally never gave much thought to sexual harassment and how it would, could and did eventually affect me.

When I was 19 or 20 I had been casually “seeing” a guy for some time, we went to movies, shared dinners etc. On this particular night which happened to be his birthday, he had people over to his condo for drink and celebrations, nothing unusual here. I turned up later than the rest of the guests as I had prior commitments. When I arrived everyone was well into the celebrations, him included. Everyone was full of love and laughter, the night was just like any small birthdays you’ve been to. As the guests levels of intoxication grew the party dwindled down, having arrived later I was leagues behind where this guy was on the drunk meter. As the last guests were leaving, I decided I would head home as well, but first to put this guy to bed. We had been seeing each other for a while and known each other longer; I thought the nice thing to do would be to make sure he was comfortable in bed.  After leading him from a half passed out position on his recliner to his bedroom, his energy level picked right up. The whispers of seduction were pouring from his lips, I playfully laughed it off and told him I was putting him to bed and I would see him the following day (I’m not one for drunk sex). He began kissing me and soon we were horizontal on the bed. I played it off with laughter and repeatedly telling him I was tucking him in and walking home… alone! The seductive moves began to get more forceful with one hand on my wrist and soon followed by the second. Even at this point, pinned to a bed, a man much larger than myself on top, I still didn’t feel like I was in a situation of assault. In my mind he was drunk. I began repeating for him to let me go, admittedly I was laughing and smiling through this. I continued to repeat myself, when his knees began pushing against my legs, still pinned at the wrists and the full weight of this man atop me I began to feel for lack of a better word claustrophobic. It was this feeling at the time that prompted me to use my head. Literally, when he leaned in to kiss my face or neck or wherever he was aiming I threw my forehead into his face. It was like lightning, his grip released my hands and I rolled off the bed in one movement.

I didn’t say a word, I don’t even remember leaving his apartment. I remember walking down the nearly deserted city street walking with as much “unf” as I could muster, it was about a 30 minute walk from his place to mine. To be honest I don’t remember getting home, or what I did with myself. I don’t remember being scared or upset at what had happened. As I said before, in my mind it was the alcohol. I chalked up what had taken place to the results of alcohol.

It wasn’t until the next morning that I found my t shirt with blood splatters across the front.

Perhaps putting the blame on something intangible, kept me and my brain from re living and mentally playing over the events to determine his actual motives.  I didn’t “date” this guy again, I just lost interest.  I never acknowledged within myself that I might have ill feelings towards him or in fact I didn’t think about it again for years.

The effects of that night did dawn on me years later, while dating another person who suffered from alcoholism (I’ve dated some winners). During this relationship after his countless benders he would always end up apologising for this and that, he would always blame it on the alcohol. After a few repeat offences and repeat apologies from this guy I knew it wasn’t the alcohol that lead to this behaviour. The alcohol just lowered the inhibitions that would tell someone “it’s not a good idea”. Alcohol doesn’t make you do things out of nowhere, it just lowers your sense of judgment and inhibitions.

After the later relationship ended I was out at an event in Vancouver and I bumped into “the guy”. All was well until he approached me outside the venue. He began the conversation as if his birthday night was the other day and not years prior. He was apologetic, he was afraid, he was ashamed. I didn’t know how to react, the emotions I was feeling in that moment were too overwhelming and came out of left field. I hadn’t acknowledged my own hurt and here he was exploding his. I did the only thing I knew how to do, and that was to accept his apology as cordially as I could and smiled then answered a fake phone call, told him I needed to take it and proceeded back inside the venue to my friends.

Now years later since all of this has happened and as i reflect on the situation as a whole i am left with more questions. What I should have said to him? Did he deserve that platform to express himself? Did his words bring up more trauma than healing?

No two situations are the same, no two people go through the same emotional process. That is what is so tricky with situations like these, not every matter is black and white. The one thing that is for sure is that your body is yours alone, no one has dominion over it but you.

I have shared my #metoo story along with many others. And I question what good will it do? I might be able to sit here and recount this story, countless others who’ve gone through their own situations may not and that doesn’t make their story any less important or imperative to this movement. No one is entitled to another’s story, nor is anyone obligated to share their story. These are personal offenses and take a personal journey to deal with.

For a personal story about recovering from sexual assault read Morgan’s article “Deciding to Touch”. Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre’s are LGBTQI safe spots for people who may be in distress.

Author: Patrick Kriz- BA, Psych (HON)- Human Sexuality

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Patrick Kriz has a Bachelor Degree (Honours) in Psychology - Human Sexuality. Patrick is a wonderful man that has a wealth of knowledge and is happy to share this with those around him. He is articulate, educated and the provider or interesting and educational writings. Having been a regular contributor to this blog for the past couple of months he has consented to add his profile to our ever expanding list of bloggers that provide us with the great content provided to you. We thank all our contributors and authors and a special thanks to Patrick whom we deem to be an expert on all things relating to sexual wellness and adult lifestyle with quality writings. Be sure to follow Patrick on Instagram.

VIP Interview With Hannah Holmes General Manager Of LELO Oceania

Pleasure Company LELO

LELO is an adult lifestyle company who are incredibly famous for designing luxury sex toy products that are available to buy worldwide.  LELO is based in Stockholm, Sweden and have been making high quality vibrators, prostate massagers, massage oils and candles for well over 14 years. They have received a countless number of awards ranging from winning StorErotica’s Marketing Campaign of the Year award for the Beyond The Wave movie in 2016 which has received over 1.2 million views on Youtube to winning ETO Award’s Best Luxury Brand & Best Trade Marketing Award in 2016. The products have been seen in the media including Women’s Health, Playboy, GQ, Wired and Cosmopolitan. The founder Filip Sedic had said:

“Millions of people enjoy LELO, it’s just sometimes the best luxuries you keep to yourself.”

This is a VIP Interview with Hannah Holmes the General Manager of LELO Oceania.

Who are you and how did you become involved in the adult toy industry?

My name is Hannah Holmes and I am but a virgin unto the adult industry! I have always been intrigued by the market and when the opportunity recently arose for me to head such a premium and coveted brand I simply couldn’t resist.

What is your position with LELO?

I am the General Manager of LELO Oceania.

Tell me a bit about your company

Founded in Stockholm in 2003, our goal was to transform the perception of what a sex toy could be.

Inspired by art, nature and the anatomy, LELO’s product designs revolutionised the industry with their unique blend of beauty, luxury and performance. 14 years on we are distributed in 51 countries, have won over 40 major design awards and sold a staggering 13 million products worldwide.

What are the products you bring into the marketplace?

LELO has an extensive range of products for male, female & couples play.

We offer clitoral stimulators, rabbit and G-spot vibrators, prostate massagers, rings, beads, plugs and accessories.

Our most popular products include the SORAYA, SMART WAND, INA WAVE & the BRUNO – all of which are made with FDA approved silicone and a Lithium Ion battery which is capable of over 6000 charges.

LELO Bruno Black
Sex Toy: LELO Bruno In Black

How do you feel your products impact people?

From my own personal experience, I think our products impact with seduction. From their shape to their fabrication to their packaging, LELO products first intrigue customers with their class and then delight them with their function.

I am also captivated by the journey our creative campaigns can take you on. My favourite Instagram campaign involves an erotic photography series set in natural surrounds. It’s just divine.

What’s a typical day in the life of Hannah Holmes at LELO?

Being only new to the business, my current course is one of complete brand immersion.

I am busily attending trade shows, meeting our stakeholders and travelling abroad to understand our global business.

I also had the privilege of visiting the factory where our products are made and was blown away by the meticulous detail that goes into their construction. All hand-made, the artistry is fascinating to witness and gave me such respect for the design and workmanship involved.

What are your favourite products and why?

Gwyneth Paltrow’s endorsement first compelled my love affair for the 24-karat gold INEZ for its unashamed luxury at $15,000. Our latest release however, the SONA Cruise, is undoubtedly my new darling.

LELO Inez Gold In Box
Sex Toy: LELO Inez In Gold

It’s a clitoral stimulator that produces fluttering sonic pulsations that undulate at your preferred intensity for a really deep and sensual climax. For me, sexual pleasure is more about the journey than the destination, so I enjoy starting with the softest mode and gradually build. The SONA Cruise is also made from body safe silicone, is completely waterproof & is USB-rechargeable which also satisfies my practical requirements.

LELO Sona Cruise Cerise
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What are you most looking forward to in the near future with LELO?

I am really excited about bringing the market some newness! It’s been a long time coming and I think our customers will be delighted with both the design and functionality of the SONA Cruise. We also have other exciting products in the NPD pipeline for next year which I am eagerly waiting to release.

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Patrick Kriz has a Bachelor Degree (Honours) in Psychology - Human Sexuality. Patrick is a wonderful man that has a wealth of knowledge and is happy to share this with those around him. He is articulate, educated and the provider or interesting and educational writings. Having been a regular contributor to this blog for the past couple of months he has consented to add his profile to our ever expanding list of bloggers that provide us with the great content provided to you. We thank all our contributors and authors and a special thanks to Patrick whom we deem to be an expert on all things relating to sexual wellness and adult lifestyle with quality writings. Be sure to follow Patrick on Instagram.

Big To A “Hole” New Level

Man Orgasming

If you like countless others love the full feeling a Grande size cock leaves you, turn off tinder and grindr because you’re not going to find a better match then fullness that can be had with any member of the Mr Hankey Toys Collection. These toys take the word Big to a “hole” new level.

Founder and creator of the Mr. Hankey Toys collection noticed a real need for quality and reliable toys on the greater end of the size scale. A few (hundred) gallons of PLATINUM Silicone and countless hours of trial and error the First Mr Hankey Toys

For the true “Ass-ficionado” out there Mr Hankey Toys are designed with pleasure in mind. Starting with their Silicone which I have already mentioned is Platinum grade. This grade of silicone is not only safest for the body but it’s also the easiest to take care of. Because of its stellar quality graded silicone, this means the Mr Hankey Toys are safe to use with your favourite Silicone lube, which is perfect for these larger situations. Personally, I like a Silicone/Water-based Gel combo lube like the Gel Lube by WICKED. This Lube and others can be found at an Oh Zone Store near you. These toys are designed to last a lifetime. They won’t melt or shrink the size when left with other silicone toys in your collection. Another plus, the Mr Hankey Collection is odourless, cuz who wants that heavy chemical smell that comes with so many oversized jelly and rubber toys!

Adding to their appeal, the Mr Hankey toys come in 2 different densities. This is a perfect feature that I wish more companies considered. Mr Hankey Toys are offered in “Medium Firm” This version is firm but not hard. Honestly it’s the density of a fully erect (Humongous) penis.

The second density option is the “75% Soft” this model is perfect for a beginner entering the Jumbo-sphere of toys. This density option is exactly what it says, a 75% erect penis… that’s also humongous! The added softness of this option gives the hole in use a more flexible entry. That added “Squish” will allow you to try things you didn’t think you could.

If you’re the kind of person who likes options and likes the ability to customise your purchases, Mr Hankey has another one for you. You can purchase your toy to be Vac-U-Lock compatible. What this would mean if you ordered the Vac-U-Lock version is that simply the toy you came with would have a Vac-U-Hole at the bottom of the toy. This hole allows the Mr Hankey toys to be added to any Vac-U-Lock Harness, that’s right ladies you can strap these friendly giants to yourself and feel the power they provide. We just got a number of amazing harnesses by Fetish Fantasy Series in the stores, these would be great for the Mr Hankey’s Toy collection.

Leather Fantasy Harness By Fetish Fantasy Seroes
Sex Toy: Leather Fantasy Harness

If these features weren’t enough to have you filled with anticipation, Mr Hankey’s Toys come in 3 colours. Tan, Brown and Black perfect for whatever your fantasy is. And if your fantasy is missing that ever loved “slapping” sound balls make when he’s thrusting hard and fast. Surprise Surprise Mr Hankey’s have that fantasy covered too with “Remove-O-Balls”. A Silicone attachment that replicates a ball sack that can be attached to your favourite toys. Is there anything these guys haven’t thought of?

REMOVE-O-BALLS By Mr. Hankey Toys
Sex Toy: REMOVE-O-BALLS

There is a reason I have been telling you all about the Mr Hankey’s Toys. I was lucky enough to walk into work the other day and be handed one of these Silicone Masterpieces. Unlike any Dildo I had ever seen… and believe you me, I have seen A LOT of dildos. Mr Hankey’s “Seahorse” is a stand-alone toy. Firstly let’s get the obvious out of the way, the look of it! The Seahorse has the most unique exterior. Designed to match the exoskeleton like exterior of a seahorse. This feature is designed to amplify the pleasure sensations for the opening hole… whichever you choose to use. I’ve seen countless toys add a vein feature to toys adding a texture dimension to the sensation, but the bumps, ridges and grooves of the Seahorse take this texture sensation to a whole other world.

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The Seahorse design is tapered from base to the tip, making insert-ability as easy as possible. This specific taper design allows the hole to open gradually and safely.

After examining this toy from every direction I jumped onto the Mr Hankey’s Toy Website to have a look at the company’s history (I like to know who I’m getting into bed with). I was a little disappointed that the Creator of Mr Hankey’s wants to maintain a level of anonymity due to the stigma that comes from this industry, also being so familiar with the industry I can also respect this decision. After reading further my intrigue continued to grow. There’s a whole section on temperature play. You can put Mr Hankey’s toys in the freezer if you like cool sensations and even microwave your toy for up to 2 minutes ( try at your own risk) if you like heat play!

Needless to say, I am very excited for the newest addition to my toy collection.

About the author: Patrick Kriz- BA, Psych (HON) – Human Sexuality

IG: Krizpatrickave

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Patrick Kriz has a Bachelor Degree (Honours) in Psychology - Human Sexuality. Patrick is a wonderful man that has a wealth of knowledge and is happy to share this with those around him. He is articulate, educated and the provider or interesting and educational writings. Having been a regular contributor to this blog for the past couple of months he has consented to add his profile to our ever expanding list of bloggers that provide us with the great content provided to you. We thank all our contributors and authors and a special thanks to Patrick whom we deem to be an expert on all things relating to sexual wellness and adult lifestyle with quality writings. Be sure to follow Patrick on Instagram.

Going Commando Changed My Life

Actor Jon Hamm With Visible Penis

Tossing off your underwear can be a really liberating feeling; your “man bits” can finally breathe, they have absolute freedom. It’s easy to see why so many guys want to feel that freedom all the time. (I always picture a man doing the helicopter motion with his penis. I know every lady reading this knows exactly the motion I’m talking about, the one he does when he gets out of the shower.)  No one wants to feel restricted and confined.  There isn’t any medical reason that states you need underwear for support, allowing your testicles and penis bounce around is as natural as anything.

So Why Not Go Ahead And Strip Off Those Undergarments?

Release yourself from the confines of your cotton poly blends!—But you might want to first read the following and consider all the information:

Without that soft layer of underwear, you are left without any protection between the outer layer of your soft skin, the delicacy that is your manhood and the harsh raw fabrics of your outerwear. This raw and rough material can cause some real uncomfortable skin irritations and even rashes. Not to mention if you have just done some “man-scaping”, the chafing can be a real pain with rough scratchy materials rubbing against it!

If going commando is a must for you, a few simple suggestions would be, try applying a thin layer of baby powder or petroleum jelly to your groin area. An even better choice is SuperSlyde which is a Silicone-based Personal Lubricant that’s available from an Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre near you! It’ll help to minimise the friction from the outer layer of clothes on your most delicate body parts.

Skinny Jeans and tapered pants like the ones from Calvin Klein, particularly those made from heavier fabrics like denim, may cut into your crotch when you sit down. To make matters worse (or better, depending on how you like it), if your fabric isn’t thick enough or if you’re wearing too light a colour, you will be giving everyone an eyeful of VPL (Visible Penis Lines). To mask these outlines or bulges, wearing wool or heavier cotton pants will mask these visible outlines or VPL.

Famous Actor Jon Hamm Photo
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If you are like most people who normally wear your pants a few or more times between washing them, going commando will mean a wash is almost necessary after each wear. When fabric sits directly next to your skin it makes your pants dirtier obviously, they also get smellier, faster. All the skin cells and body fluids attach themselves to the material they touch. You could wear dry-clean-only fabrics like wool. Pants that are made from heavier, thicker fabrics can usually last longer between washes than lighter, thinner pants due to the make and construction. This, however, will get very pricey!

When you don’t have that extra layer of fabric to absorb moisture around your crotch as underwear does, you will end up with nasty sweat stains; these stains are more visible on lighter fabrics and colours. Trust, you don’t want to be walking down the street with these stains, no matter how much you like attention, not this kind.

Jock itch

I personally think this would be the worst of the outcomes from not wearing underwear. Jock Itch can be a very real and serious skin condition that presents as an itchy, red, ring-shaped rash. This is a rash that occurs when you’re exposed to the fungus. The particular fungi that cause “Jock Itch” live in warm, humid environments just like the inside of your pants after your testicles have been sweating all over them. To fight off this fungus, try to keep your boys dry with just a sprinkle of baby powder or talc in the morning and regularly wash your pants with a chafing or jock itch prevention, you’ll want to sprinkle a dash of baby powder or straight talc on your privates. This will absorb moisture so stains won’t form.

If you do see a stain begin to form on your pants, a great trick to take it out is to, rub a teaspoon of dish detergent mixed with two teaspoons of hydrogen peroxide into the stained area; then wash the garment as you normally do in cool water with your regular detergent.

So this might be obvious, perhaps not? Don’t try on new pants while you are going commando. Some of the faecal bacteria or even the fungi that we have just mentioned you could be carrying can transfer onto the fabrics. In turn, you would be passing these onto anyone else trying on these pants.

So What’s My Advice?

Go Commando at home in comfy soft breathable materials and enjoy, come home in the evening and put your favourite jogging pants on and relax. When it comes to going out during everyday life, throw on a pair of your favourite underwear and remember safety first. I just can’t see any real benefits to going commando, even though I might enjoy the sight of those who do. There are just too many situations that can be avoided by wearing a pair of underwear.

About The Author: Patrick Kriz- BA, Psych (HON)- Human Sexuality

Patrick Kriz has a Bachelor Degree (Honours) in Psychology - Human Sexuality. Patrick is a wonderful man that has a wealth of knowledge and is happy to share this with those around him. He is articulate, educated and the provider or interesting and educational writings. Having been a regular contributor to this blog for the past couple of months he has consented to add his profile to our ever expanding list of bloggers that provide us with the great content provided to you. We thank all our contributors and authors and a special thanks to Patrick whom we deem to be an expert on all things relating to sexual wellness and adult lifestyle with quality writings. Be sure to follow Patrick on Instagram.

Reddit’s Pregnancy Test For Men

3 Men Covering Their Genitals In An Office

I’m sure like everyone who’s on the internet these days has, at one point or another, seen the article floating about. “Man took a pregnancy test as a joke” or something like that. This was a Reddit article that began making its rounds in 2012 if I remember correctly? The point of the article was that after taking a pregnancy test and the results being positive, this bloke went to his Dr to find out he had testicular cancer! I remember talking about it with a professor of mine from Uni when the article came out, surprisingly he had experimented with this theory himself. This particular professor had just found out he had Germ Cell Tumors, so already knowing he had cancer, he was curious if the test results would also indicate pregnancy. After peeing on a test stick, he also had positive results.

I saw the article floating around one of my social media platforms last night and got to thinking what others might be thinking of this article? If it worked for this guy, why not for everyone? This story seems very straight forward, but giving it a deeper look, a vast number of variables come into play with what cancers can be found through these pregnancy tests.

Funny Meme Of Man's Pregnancy Test
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So What Is It That Causes This Positive Result On Pregnancy Tests?

First, you have to identify what chemical marker the pregnancy test is looking for. The answer Beta Human Chronic Gonadotrophin or HCG for short. HCG is a hormone that is rarely present in the body man or woman. HCG makes its appearance as rapidly growing cells begin to attach themselves somewhere they weren’t before. (Generally when an Embryo attaches itself to a uterus.)

These same rapidly growing cells are present in a number of cancers, but certainly not all or even the majority of cancers. The Cancers that produce identifiable HCG markers are all part of a grouping called Gestational Trophoblastic Disease or GTD. This cancer grouping is a type of cancer identified by its Tumor groupings and is most commonly found on Germ Cells. Germ Cells are the primary building block cells and are primarily found in the Ovaries and Testicles, but not limited to. Interestingly these same cells are found in cancers in the chest. Not all ovarian and testicular cancers fit into the GTD grouping either. Meaning some cancers in the ovaries and testicles may not produce any HCG or very low levels of HCG, and would not register on a urine pregnancy test.

There are specific blood tests that examine HCG levels and can identify these much easier through blood samples rather than urine. There are many many things that can affect the detectability of HCG in urine such as, prescription medications. There have also been a number of studies done where certain people (no identifiable marker for these people) whose Hepatic or liver systems produce antibodies that cover up the HCG markers making them undetectable through urine and make it harder to identify even through blood tests. So many variables have an effect on these specific tests, hard to rely on just one system.

It’s Probably Best Not To Rely On These Home Pregnancy Tests

With so many types and varying cancers out there, I think it’s probably best not to rely on these home pregnancy tests to rule out your fear of having cancer. There’s nothing wrong with trying to detect cancer at home with a pregnancy test kit, but please do not rely on this test alone. Even women can get false alarms with positive pregnancy test results. Even if these pregnancy tests could successfully test for Cancer every time it is only testing for a very small number of potential cancers. It would be like correctly answering the first page of a test and just not answering the rest.

The best strategy is to see a specialist. Have yourself examined for Testicular/Ovarian cancer or any kind of cancer, especially if it runs in your genes. It is also important to note that, prostate cancer can cause erection problems.

About the author: KrizPatrick BA(Hon) Psychology Human Sexuality

Patrick Kriz has a Bachelor Degree (Honours) in Psychology - Human Sexuality. Patrick is a wonderful man that has a wealth of knowledge and is happy to share this with those around him. He is articulate, educated and the provider or interesting and educational writings. Having been a regular contributor to this blog for the past couple of months he has consented to add his profile to our ever expanding list of bloggers that provide us with the great content provided to you. We thank all our contributors and authors and a special thanks to Patrick whom we deem to be an expert on all things relating to sexual wellness and adult lifestyle with quality writings. Be sure to follow Patrick on Instagram.