14 Secrets Behind Why Guy’s Buy You Drinks

A guy buying drinks

Is it a thoughtful gesture or a golden ticket to his bed?

The age old question is:

“What does it mean when a guy buys you a drink in a bar?”

I have always wondered what the exact motive is other than the standard answer of “being a gentleman” because we all know most have a hidden agenda, there is however always an exception to the rule, but mostly just the rule.

Basically to put it bluntly any man who is offering to buy you a drink or actually is buying you a drink wants something. That something depends on the guy and the situation but by accepting that drink you are unofficially accepting the idea of entering into his request. Now that request could be a general conversation, or it could be that golden ticket to take you home.  Nothing in life is free, and expectations are always bought up in one way or another.

From working in a bar, and being in that “bar lifestyle” I have been witness to many amusing events as to reactions and end results of guys buying girls drinks.

And let me tell you there is no age limit on this…

From the information I have researched and also from what I have asked my male friends the agenda seems to be indirectly the same. Maybe this is because unlike men, women read deeply into things, and over think situations and it’s not always, as it seems.

Most guys first response when you ask is usually just for conversation or to be a nice guy, but is that just what you want to hear or what they actually want?

Being a female myself I have been witness too and experienced myself the magnitude in which guys offer to buy drinks for girls. I have never entered into this maybe because of all that I have witnessed or maybe because I wasn’t interested in what they were offering, who knows. What I do know is that I have in fact bought guys drinks if they promise to leave me alone for the rest of the night… it works mostly…

So here we get down to the nitty gritty, if one drink means one conversation what does two drinks mean? And so on? When you allow a guy to buy you a drink the polite thing to do is to let them speak to you and have a general conversation while drinking said drink. If you are “one of those girls” you will take the drink off the bar as soon as it’s placed and disappear like a ninja with drink in hand! You then spend the rest of the night ducking from the poor lost soul who purchased that drink for you.

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If a man buys you a second drink, you are basically telling him you enjoy his company enough to stick around for another in-depth chat but when does this turn in to a golden ticket to his bed? This debate is never ending and I guess it depends on the person and how much “liquid courage” has been consumed from both parties prior to this investment.

Because men and women are made different there is some obvious differences in thoughts as to what buying a drink means. One blogger by the name of Big_Knows_Best surveyed 20 guys in a local bar and documented their responses, the responses are beyond hilarious.

From the start of the night to the end there is a major shift in responses for added humour she has also added in her own commentary.

Here are a few just for your enjoyment:

“Conversation”

This was the most common answer at the beginning of the night. Cool, man. You’re a great guy or whatever. Boring. I’ll check back with you after a few more shots. Maybe he will use a pick-up line that will work!

“Sex”

Really? For just one drink? I guess this works on the girls whose drinks aren’t usually purchased for them. Best of luck in your safari for girls with low self-esteem, sir.

Conversation that will lead to sex

Now, we are getting somewhere.

“When you buy a shot, you’re trying to close the deal. If you buy a beer you’re just trying to extend the conversation”

A method. I like it

“One drink? Conversation. Two? Get a little personal. Three? I better be walking out the door with you”

Basic concept of investment and return. I see you. What about four?

“One drink, like 5 minutes of your time. Two drinks, front door. Three drinks, back door”

Well, that escalated quickly.

“For her to drink it”

*Eye roll* You’re useless.

“At least a dance floor make out and finger bang”

Oh yeah, at LEAST a public finger bang. I see how a $3 beverage warrants that.

“I’ll buy you a drink and show you!”

Clever, Casanova.

But seriously what does it mean! I have a few options for you:

  1. He thinks you can’t afford your own drink, so he wants to be nice! It’s an expensive world out there!
  2. He wants to show you he is a nice guy, and maybe strike up a conversation with you.
  3. He is letting you know he is interested!
  4. He thinks you’re stunning! And he is just showing you some appreciation.
  5. He is hoping you will go home with him to privately show off your sexy lingerie that’s underneath! Well hello mister sleazy!

Now apart from accepting the drink there is also another side to this!

What do you do when you don’t want the drink? Awkward!

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This is a completely viable option; I found most guys don’t take “No thank you” as an option so I had to get a little creative. Buying that guy a drink instead and asking him to promise to leave you alone for the rest of the night usually works. Not because he took the bribe, but because you basically embarrassed him and his masculinity – you know these days you have just to keep them on their toes!

But no joke it’s easy! By saying no thank you, or something along the lines of “I have already had enough tonight, but thanks” or “I already have a drink, but thanks” work perfectly fine too.

On a safety note as a general rule you shouldn’t really accept drinks from strangers, basically from a young age we are taught to not take candy from a stranger… I feel the same rule applies!

Happy drinking!

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

 

 

 

 

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Why Stay In An Abusive Relationship?

Addictive Abuse

Because being someone’s everything is intoxicating stuff;

We use doctor Google for everything! Need to check your flu symptoms – Google, what is that rash? Google, where did I come from? Google, relationship advice – Google, does my headache mean I’ve got 48 hours left to live? Google, what’s the best sex toy shop in the world – Google!

We Google everything! And how ironic that this blog is probably also on Google! But please be careful not to jump to conclusions based on a list, they are a good tool for a range of reasons but not the be all and end all of life.

Why Do People Stay In Abusive Relationships?

I myself have googled countless times as to why the flop I stayed in an abusive and controlling relationship, and how that relates to my intimate relationships. Do you know what no matter how deep I’ve gone into Google, I mean in the depths of the black hole that is the Internet and have not found the answers I was looking for?

Why would anyone stay in a relationship with someone who puts him or her down, controls him or her and possibly even physically abuses him or her? Why would anyone hold down 2 jobs to keep the rent paid, food on the table, bills paid, all while their partner stays home all day with the wrong company, and goes out at night leaving you home alone. Why would someone allow themselves to be emotionally blackmailed by threats if they try to leave or try to stop the things that are hurting them?

There are no easy answers, and truth is you may never know exactly why you stayed, it is often a tangled and consuming web of complicated reasons and answers. You keep wondering to yourself why an earth you stayed with someone who kept hurting you, who kept promising you the world only to fall through every time. Someone who promised to do better, someone who kept breaking your heart but then would tell you they loved you.

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It was only last night at our Christmas party that I thought about what I was going to write about this week while drinking a vodka coke and eating popcorn at a pub in Haymarket, thinking to myself wow I haven’t been out in about 3 years! I also had another thought that controlling relationships are kind of like popcorn… popcorn is sweet but savoury, coated in butter and salt, chocolate or whatever you can think of; but every so often the kernel doesn’t puff out to a fluffy piece of popped corn.

Sometimes it is only half popped and still has a hard kernel that hurts your teeth when you bite into it, sometimes it hasn’t popped at all and when you grab a handful of fluffy popcorn a un-popped kernel hurts you- but you keep going back for more! Much like a controlling and abusive relationship, you keep going back because of those fluffy good mouth watering times that make you forget about all the bad ones.

So many people asked me why I stayed in such a horrible relationship, so many people told me to leave and get out each and every time they saw my body covered in bruises, cigarette burns and cut marks. The look I got from my friends when I received a phone call while I was out with them and they could hear him screaming at me over the phone. All I could do was put my head down and stay quiet. I can’t explain to you why he had such a control on me or why I let it happen, I can’t tell you why I was so scared to leave other then I thought I would get hurt more leaving rather than just staying.

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What It Feels Like To Leave An Abusive Relationship

What I can tell you is when I decided I could leave it was the best and most difficult decision I had ever made. It was like this clamp on my chest had been released and I could finally breathe by myself again, the day I actually left was exactly how I thought it would be. Screaming, yelling, non-stop phone calls and even him parking his car out the front of my parents place yelling out to me, saying he was sorry, saying he wanted to marry me, telling me things would change; he would change.

How His Abusive Behaviour Impacted Me

For a long time I would play down how bad things really were, I would make excuses for his abusive and domestic violent behaviour, give myself reasons why I should stay and give him another chance. At the start I would tell him exactly where I was going or what I was doing, in the end I just wouldn’t go out because going out with friends or to TAFE meant 1000 phone calls and abusive messages, to the point where even going home caused problems because he couldn’t control what I was doing or who I was talking to.

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It wasn’t always like this. He was charming, attentive, thoughtful and caring at the start. When we watched movies together he would hold me or play with my hair, we had barbeques at his, he would always smile at me no matter who was there, he would message me good morning and good night and ask me how my day was going. At the start arguments were over jealously, to be honest it was kind of sweet because I thought wow he really is interested in me! Turns out that was just the beginning of the control.

After a while I felt like I didn’t deserve anyone better and that he was the best I was going to get. I didn’t grow up in that environment so I can’t blame it on what I had grown up with, I can’t blame it on my parents or my schooling, I have no idea why I thought this behaviour was ok. This was my first serious relationship, this was my first relationship that had lasted longer than 2 months, maybe because a year previous to this I had been assaulted by an unknown man who thought it was ok to do so, or maybe because I had always been under confident. I did always agree in theory that women deserve to be treated well, with respect, love and care. I have always been submissive, and I’d rather apologise than cause a fight, I do everything for everyone and normally that means I get taken advantage of.

I kept thinking to myself if I do the right thing he will love me, if I look skinny he will want me and that if I do as I’m told he will love me. Truth is no one can make someone change unless they want to change; no one can make someone be something unless they want it and no one can make someone love them unless they want to. When I stepped back and thought about all the reasons why I thought maybe it was because I was more afraid of being alone than in a painful relationship, maybe just having someone to talk to and cuddle up to at night was better than being alone.

I Know That I DO Deserve Better

I have tried oh so hard to not fall into that kind of relationship again but truth is it’s hard! I constantly second guess myself, and allow certain behaviours for the fear of a fight. I don’t know if it’s because of my experiences and that my confidence has grown or that I am just learning but I have started to speak up for myself and know that I DO deserve better! I deserve to be comfortable with him and not fear him or flinch when someone comes to close to me, I deserve to be loved and be open with my life and experiences and I deserve respect. Intimacy is built on trust and respect and without that how can we grow and explore and experience all the good things in life.

We can’t be afraid;

Morgan x

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Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Christmas. Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff!

A perfect Christmas Romance

Tis the season! Christmas trees, presents, Santa, reindeer, love and family. The mood just screams joy and love! The hopeless romantic in all of us comes out to cuddle up and spend a romantic night in on Christmas Eve then shows up for a family day on the big day itself!

And well since romantic movies always depict real life! It’s the time of year when all your romantic dreams will come true! And obviously Christmas means you tell the truth! Even if it is coached on by drinking a little too much eggnog or in Australia a little too much beer, wine and spirits (all in true Christmas spirit of course) where you send that risky text, grab the closest living breathing person next to you, or take your boom box and confess your love to your special someone at their front door! (Or in this day in age a video/photo of yourself and post it to Facebook/Instagram with those oh so subtle hash tags #lover #oneday #newyearnewme)

Christmas also brings the very popular secret Santa’s gift with vibrators and sex toys, those pesky little gifts defined by the categories of thoughtful or funny bound within the limitations of monetary value. At Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres, we get pumped by people wanting the funny side of life with these gifts! But the question I do wonder is how many of these “funny” gifts actually get used (I’m thinking a lot more than the gift givers actually think; we are all curious creatures at the end of the day).

The Dreams Of A Christmas Romance

What all the people in these Christmas movies do have in common is the fact that they all find their special someone, they instantly fall head over heels in love and what’s even better is that they are never rejected. As wonderful and cheerful as these Christmas movies are, the false hope they give and the oh so high expectations are a force to be reckoned with! I mean love actually tells us that no matter what or who we are, love will always win on Christmas. Although some tactics shouldn’t be mimicked, they are frowned upon in many relationships.

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It’s the holiday where women all over the world think that on Christmas someone will fall in love with you in a fortnight and travel across the world to spend the New Year with you. And then there is my favourite movie, the Grinch where the odd guys truly do get the girls! When finally the Grinch gets his long life crush Martha May choosing him over the mayor- giving us all hope that the underdog always wins or the strange one…

If this all somehow encourages us to be a pinch bolder at Christmas, is that really a bad thing? It’s like a light bulb goes off in everyone’s mind that has even an itty bitty romantic bone inside their body. All those hopes of their romantic daydreams come to real life and that someone declares their love for them.

Back To Reality… What Really Happens During Christmas

Christmas is actually a very stressful time of year, especially for new couples! There is that awkward moment when you think do I invite him or her to my family event? Is it too soon? Am I coming on too strong? Will my family embarrass me?

Then there is the gift situation… How much do I spend? What do I get? What if they don’t like it? What if they get me something I don’t like?

We need to stop sweating the small stuff! We spend too much time and effort focusing on the material elements and not enough on the values of love. We need to refocus our high expectations into small acts of kindness, why do we need something big and over the top that we can post on social media to make our friends jealous. Why can’t we be subtle and sexy? Gift massage oils for Christmas and give your special someone a massage, enjoy a romantic dinner ending with you being the desert, use a sneaky remote controlled vibrator to tease your partner while you’re out or just to use in private.

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Show your loved one you care and you are thinking of them! Put your loved one first on Christmas, decide where you are going to spend the big day and when you are going to see the extended family.

Go on… buy them that naughty little gift to show them you want them!

And Did I Just Hear You Thinking… But What If I’m Single?

This doesn’t mean you don’t get to celebrate just because you’re single! Focus on your family, it’s a perfect time to catch up with extended family and enjoy each other’s company. Friends are family too, organise a dinner, lunch breakfast or even just drinks and a BBQ. Mingle with other singles, say yes to that BBQ your friend is hosting, you never know you might meet some pretty amazing people and have a good time.

And last but not least indulge yourself!  Just because you don’t have someone to buy you a gift doesn’t mean you can’t buy one for yourself! Spoil yourself this Christmas!

Merry Christmas!

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Target Practice For Your Heart

Solution For Heart Break

“To know whether something is meant to be yours, let go of it. If it returns, it has always been yours to have. If it doesn’t, it was never meant to be.” ~ Celestine Chua

I’m feeling reflective and a little concerned about many people’s theories about moving on from a relationship, although I haven’t been in many relationships I have been in two full on ones.

One was a mental jail, one in which I was consumed by control and abuse. The other is still an incredibly complicated topic.

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Lewis Smedes

Different Types Of Relationships

I categorise relationships into “high school” and “adult”; high school relationships are ones where there is only the good parts – dates, movies, photos, love, sappy messages and phone calls. Adult relationships there are bills, work, children, life, love, homes etc. These to me define a relationship and the deep connection a relationship brings. I have had my “high school” relationships and to be honest I thought they were pointless, they went nowhere and I’d rather quickly moved them along… It was the “adult” relationship I drove for, the kind of relationship where you could be completely you, on every level possible. There was no hiding from it, you were just your raw vulnerable self always.

A Relationship After Abuse

I dislike getting into a new relationship, which is probably why I invest and spend so much time going overboard making my relationship work, even when it’s already broken. A relationship after abuse is hard, not so much in the sense of trusting the person but more in my own actions. I dislike being touched, hugged and any physical contact really until I feel comfortable with that person. There has only been one person so far that I have felt instantly comfortable with, I am talking within the first 30 seconds of meeting them I was strangely calm, relaxed and have never felt that way before. 99% of people including my family members I physically cringe when they touch me, including those who feel the need to touch me on the shoulder or shake my hand, there is physical pain written all over my face!

Self Sabotaging Relationships

I sabotage my own relationships which is my biggest issue. I get into my head that I am not worth it or that I am not good enough, these are the excuses I make for the way I am treated by others. I reject myself before I can be rejected – this is my coping mechanism. Truth is I am never rejected; I make myself so emotionally unavailable that the person who is interested is pushed away, the person doesn’t see “us” going anywhere so they themselves move on. I have walls so big that an atomic bomb couldn’t blast through until I choose to let them down, defensive or what!

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What I Have Learned

What I have learned though is to give everyone the same respect and opportunities; I don’t bring negative experiences from past relationships onto the next and I do believe everything happens for a reason. Someone can treat you with love, respect and be the most caring person you have come across but not to be in a relationship with you. My hardest hurdle in relationships has been thinking I cannot be treated well unless they love me and have committed to me.

Basically I keep all my walls up and essentially wait for them to hurt me so I can move on, this is the completely wrong way to go about relationships whether they are friendships or relationships. I am sincerely appreciative of that one person who has showed me the cliché “not all men are the same” but truly when you have never been treated that way before it is a huge eye opener! It really does show you that you deserve to be treated well no matter what happens!

On the flip side overcoming heartbreak can be so damn hard! And let’s be real, when we are so focused on what went wrong and question ourselves about every tiny detail how could we really heal? One of the best things I had learnt is to focus on myself, not love myself before anyone else could love me or blah blah blah…. But to focus on myself, take notice of myself and make myself happy. Your wellbeing is a priority and you are important! Never forget that!

You have to make choices; you either deal with it head on or forget about it and move on, you can’t distract yourself or overwork yourself you need to make a choice and put yourself into it completely. Rising up to the challenge will allow you to be free from the pain; it will take time but that’s all a part of healing. There is no room for guilt either, if you had made a mistake you need to accept it and move on, ongoing guilt is a killer. You can’t be hard on yourself in this process of healing, you need to feel your emotions and acknowledge them. Suppressing them is the easy way out and it only ends up hurting more in the end. Go through the motions its normal, it’s a part of being human! The human mind is a very powerful tool, you can either use it to help you move forward or they will keep you in a state of fear, sadness and regret! Take each day as it comes and remember only you can choose your attitude and that will uplift you!

“This is a good sign, having a broken heart. It means we have tried for something.” -Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

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There are so many ways to heal and recover after you have felt the paralysing effect of heartbreak, but the most important thing for you to know and for anyone to tell you is that IT IS POSSIBLE! Hardship can be overcome in so many wonderful ways and life has a funny way of giving you solutions when you least expect it, but you have to be wiling. The only way to be happy and have a mended heart is if you truly want it and seek for it. A good way to reconnect with a lover through passion is to use adult products like massage oils, intimate fragrances and romantic games.

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Top 10 Myths Of Happily Ever After

Relationship misconceptions

There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that many of us hold on to the common relationship myths we are told, whether we are new to relationships or seasoned veterans! Breaking down relationship myths can be tough! Expectations that we gain from these myths are what drive relationships beautifully into the distance while the sunsets perfectly over the hills or straight into a wall as it pouring down with rain.

It is easy to put your sole focus on only the wonderful side of being with someone, you may look back and think meeting that person was the best thing to ever happen to you! Truth is we are not mind readers for each other, arguments are a fact of life, babies do not fix problems and people don’t change!

It is these misconceptions that make us look at our relationship with a fine tooth comb and cause us to question our partnerships. We forget that every couple is unique and you can put a “blanket” set of rules on every single relationship expecting them to be all the same.

A quick flick through your Facebook news feed reveals articles like:

“Quizzes for your perfect man!”

“What it means when he…”

“Men are secretly looking for these 9 things in their ideal woman!”

And guess what? We read these!! We hang on to the knowledge, we criticize and critique our relationships because THIS is what we are being told are the traits to a perfect relationship or perfect partner!

The truths behind these common myths that we hear and read in everyday life may help to look at your relationship in a different light.

Myth 1

“He/she just needs to change (fill in the blank) and then I will be happy.”

In relationships there is give and take but ultimately you can’t change someone or make them change, making compromises on the other hand are healthy and normal. Forcing someone to change is never a good thing and typically never works. A person has to want to change and put effort into self-improvement.

Myth 2

“Couples in good relationships don’t argue.”

Anyone can tell you it’s not about if couples argue, it is about how they argue! Arguments that avoid escalation are productive and result in resolutions through problem solving. Couples should learn to argue productively, they should not let it get out of hand and practice the relevant skills if they want to change how they deal with conflict; there should always be a resolution and different ways to overcome a certain situation.

Myth 3

“I am only jealous because I love her/him.”

Yes and no! Obviously jealously means you care about that person, but more than usual it stems from deeper issues within the relationship or within yourself. Not trusting your partner and having self-confidence issues are harmful to the relationship. You need to take a step back and evaluate the reasons why you are jealous. It could be because of your own self-confidence issues, it could be because your partner is baiting the jealously. You need to assess each situation and work out the exact reasons behind them and if you can, you might need to make some changes.

Myth 4

“Couples should have sex X amount of times a day, week or month.”

This is one of the most common myths EVERYONE has an opinion about! If you are told that having sex ATLEAST three times a week means you have a healthy and thriving relationship and you are NOT can cause you to have faulty expectations of your relationship. You might also be convinced something is wrong!

The frequency of sex will always depend on the sex drive of both partners and more so the situation of each individual couple. Everyone is different and everyone’s situations are different, some might work night shift, some might have kids and some might have stressful jobs. You never know someone else’s circumstances and asking friends is just pointless and misleading! This is something you most definitely need to discuss with your partner!

Myth 5

“Having a child will strengthen your relationship or marriage.”

The fact is this never works! Children bring challenges and complications. Bringing a child into the world doesn’t just magically fix a broken relationship.

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Myth 6

“If you are truly in love, passion will never fade.”

This lovely myth is popular thanks to all the movies and romantic novels that we read. We then assume that there are always constant never ending passion and sparks in a relationship! If the passion and sparks disappear in a relationship people assume the relationship is doomed, in trouble and failing. Truth is passion naturally diminishes in all relationships; daily routines and life are the basic culprits. Playfulness can boost passion, intimacy, adventure and exploration. All these things shouldn’t cease in a relationship, love is a constant journey!

Myth 7

“You should be able to read your partners mind and vice versa.”

Spending time with your partner does help to sometimes anticipate his or her wants and needs but being in a relationship doesn’t make you a mind reader. The more time you spend with your loved one you will eventually get to know what they like, what they don’t like and even their preferences. But I’m sorry sciences have not yet proven the existence of telepathy in relationship, reading their mind will never happen! Regularly expressing what you’re feeling and thinking will encourage the same treatment back, this is a type of healthy communication that is needed in a relationship which helps to avoid disappointment, anger and sadness.

Myth 8

“Never go to bed angry.”

It is always a better to resolve conflicts before going to bed but it’s not always realistic. There are always circumstances that prevent this from always being an option. What you should do if you can’t resolve an argument before you go to bed is to decide mutually to resolve it at another time. This does not always work as some people do need time to get over the issue and settle down. You need to give them some space, calm down and work it out when you both have a clear head.

Myth 9

“Relationships must be 50/50.”

It is tough to split a relationship down the middle and keep it 50/50. Keeping score of efforts made in the relationship is also dangerous. When you feel yourself tally up who wins, who loses and who’s done what, you need to remember that you are a team! You need to acknowledge your partners contributions and remain open to his or her needs.

Myth 10

“No one will love you just as you are.”

Unworthiness is a feeling that stems from unresolved experiences in the past, this can lead you to believe that the only way to form a relationship is to change. The total opposite is actually true; the strongest, truest bonds come with transparency and honesty. There is no doubt that you will feel most comfortable when you know the other person is seeing the real you, knowing they are accepting the true you and who you really are. This brings the intimacy and unconditional love we all crave.

After reading these do you have a different view on relationship myths?

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.