Intimidating Sex Toys!

sex toy advice

I have worked in an adult shop now for just under a year, within that time I have broken up with one partner, been single, found myself again and met someone new who is pretty damn amazing.

I am a relationship girl through and through, I do not enjoy being single, I do not enjoy meaningless connections, meaningless sex or the so-called “freedom” that comes with not being tied emotionally and physically to anyone. my sexual resume would resemble that of a student who has just left school and only had a couple of part-time jobs, but yet I found myself working in an adult shop and thus selling, recommending and purchasing adult toys. There does seem to be a lot of assumptions made of those of us who choose to work in such an industry, to me the motives behind me working in the adult industry was to bring my confidence to the surface, to be sure of myself, to be able to hold my ground, the help those who need it when it comes to happiness and give a different point of view about the more intimate side of relationships. Also, it was to challenge my interpersonal skills with an area of knowledge I only know a slim surface of.

I have met, spoken too, been introduced, read, learned, discovered a world in which men, women and anything in between chose to spice up, control, involve, discover and even replace, all ways in which we as human beings have sex and thus achieve and experience orgasms.

Don’t get me wrong I am all for sexual exploration, sexual awareness and the right to orgasm, however, I am very happy to admit sex is a lot more about connection then it is just for the physical. I have gone for months- years between relationships without having any sexual encounters with any other person because I believe in relationships. I believe in sex as expressing feelings, love, and connection in those relationships, but I also believe in not judging someone for their own decisions or own outlook on life. To me sex is always a 2-way street and not just about my own sexual gratification, to me, sex is giving your whole self to your partner, your insecurities, vulnerabilities, wants needs, passions, and desires. It’s about satisfying your partner to give them complete enjoyment as well as enjoying yourself.

The concern I notice most in-store and also within my own relationship is an almost fear of toys, I am an incredibly empathetic person, and the concerns and issues of most people resonate within me. I’ve witnessed it many times, a couple come into store mainly the boyfriends or husbands idea first then as they move further into the store they are overwhelmed by vibrators, dildos, contraptions, of everything and anything in between, and their facial expressions change. This is the point where the guy no longer feels comfortable, and the stress of intimidation overcomes their eyes in a clouded haze. On the other hand, the girlfriend or wife seems to no longer feel timid or scared and are fairly amazed at the products and their capabilities, they are inquisitive and ask a multitude of questions. As a woman I know toys don’t replace men, and if I had to choose id throw out my toys in a heartbeat if my partner was that threatened because I do think sexual satisfaction should come from your partner and not be relied upon by toys.

Controversial I know! Have you ever heard the saying –


“everything in moderation”

same rule applies to toys in the bedroom, they are an aid, not a replacement, and I believe that 100% you may be able to orgasm in under 3 minutes with your womanizer but try using it while with your partner and tell me it doesn’t increase the mood by at least 50%.

My job is to endorse orgasm, and I want everyone to be able to fulfill their needs without the fear of intimidation so to ease you and your partner into the world of toys the ones listed below are an awesome way to bring yourselves into toy play without hurting anyone’s feelings.

Remeber you’re trying to spice things up, not replace anyone! 

my top picks for nonintimidating toys to bring a little extra spark to your already incredible sex life are: 

vibrating eggs: these little eggs are gold mines, small and discrete and your partner can control them with remote your phone! there are so many possibilities with these all you need is your imagination,

cock rings: small, simple, sleek multiple possibilities and advantages and amazing for both partners. 

Lube: who can forget lube, its sensual, slippery, tantalizing, and its uses are endless, not to mention it also helps women to orgasm easier. 

what are you waiting for, try one!

#noreplacementshere 

morgan x 

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Arty Sex!

Body Art

As someone who just swoons over art, or anything with creative capabilities, this just sends my heart into a flutter!

I’m all about wonderful and fulfilling things to do in order to create meaning, purpose, happiness and this is nothing short of brilliant.

One iconic spin of this creative genius is the Yves Klein series where women became paintbrushes literally, and created art with their bodies. This was a performance piece titled “Anthropometries of the Blue Period”, 1962 Galerie International d’Art Contemporain, Paris, France. His “Anthropometries” series were radical and controversial because painting women’s bodies in paint and then instructing them to render there body as you would a paintbrush and create not only an installation piece but also a powerful work of art with the human body is mind-blowing and unheard of especially during that era.

But if that got your senses going forget the chocolate body paint or Nutella, and experience the seduction in covering your body in organic and sensual paint and taking your lover to ecstasy while documenting it on canvas.

Yes, you read that right! I want you to cover you and your partner’s body in paint and have sex on top of a canvas while your bodies create a masterpiece to hang on your wall which will truly be the most intimate artwork you will own. 

Nude Body Art
Nude Art
Making love and creating art have a lot of things in common especially passion and hard work, so why wouldn’t you want a memento to keep and be proud of every time you walk past it, because making love is hard work and we all deserve a trophy for that. there are many kits you can buy online or make yourself all you need is;
plastic tarp or large plastic drop sheet so you don’t make too much mess, body safe paint (organic is best), a sheet of canvas, your body and your lovers, and for those of you who are all about aftercare a loofah and some sensual body wash. 
 
Taking an erotic dance and creating art with it is relatively new, although the naked body has been presented on canvas for 1000’s of years through art. Even back to your cave paintings, nudity has always and will always be a major influence within the art world. Each and every artwork is unique and vivacious, each shows personality and unity and every time you create one it was ooze tantalising escapades of you and your partners mood and desires. 
 
 
the body during sex is very honest and thus it makes the perfect paintbrush, how more authentic can you get? you may create an erotic masterpiece that is full of explosion or a soft an gentle piece with small passionate movements.  
 
a bit of a history lesson for you:
the history of nude art has been a recurring theme especially in classical art mostly in the renaissance and neoclassical periods. the visual representation of the naked body is seen in many different forms be it sculptor, painting, photography, film, installation the list goes on. from this we can learn about the different aspects of sex within a society or era, it gives you an idea about fertility, beauty, national identity, morality and gender ideals.
the naked body has always been a principal subject for art, so no wonder throughout all the years we have witnessed such a wide range and influence where the naked body can not  only be objectified but also appreciated.
in ancient Greece the naked body was often depicted in symbolic ways, it was seen as a metaphor for often multifaceted and complex concepts.
take the roman goddess Venus she encompasses all things to do with love, beauty, sex, fertility and prosperity, and in the later classical tradition of the west Venus embodied love and sexuality.
in ancient Rome she embodied love, beauty, enticement, seduction, and in Latin orthography her name is derived from the noun Venus which means sexual love and sexual desire.
so why don’t you bring out your inner goddess, and bring your sexual desires out in the name of history and the evolution of the naked body in art. create an erotic and exciting master piece just for you and your lover and leave it all on the canvas in a time lapse of your moments of passion.
Erotic Art
Erotic Artistry
get messy with your and don’t forget to keep the passions going in the clean up after.
morgan x

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

What kind of SEXUAL DEVIANT have I become?

IQ Test For Bondage

It’s been about 6 months since I took the kink personality test on www.bdsmtest.org and I was curious to see if anything had changed with my results, since there is so much else in my life that has.

 

I think I’ve mentioned in a previous post or two, how surprised I was at the accuracy of the test results in the past. I wasn’t disappointed this time around either. There were a few surprising differences in some of the categories. You’ll have to keep reading to find out what they were.

 

So, for those who haven’t read of my previous posts, there have been some major shake-ups happening in my life since I joined the Oh! Zone family back in February this year. The main one being the making of a tiny human from scratch which virtually halted my deeper exploration of the BDSM lifestyle, since a considerable amount of the things that I would like to try but are not safe during pregnancy.

 

I’m not sure if it’s my change in lifestyle from wild experimentalist to mummy to be, or if it’s the broadening of my sexual knowledge through reflection on scenes that I have played with various partners, blog submissions from my colleagues, researching topics for my own posts or from picking the brains of customers who are already immersed in the lifestyle, that has the greatest influence on the change in my results.

 

If you’re not familiar with the personality test on BDSM.org, you can choose to gain insight in one of three ways: submissive questions only, dominant questions only or the full test (which I recommend taking if you’re a first-timer) which contains both submissive & dominant related questions. The results will then give you a percentage based on your answers to the questions. I have seen everything from 99% vanilla to 100% submissive to 100% sadist.

 

The results summary will give you a percentage on the following: Submissive, Rope Bunny, Experimentalist, Degradee, Masochist, Slave, Non-monogamist,Boy/Girl, Pet, Primal (Prey), Exhibitionist, Ageplayer, Voyeur, Daddy/Mommy, Brat, Vanilla, Primal (Hunter), Brat Tamer,Rigger, Dominant, Degrader, Owner, Mistress/Master, Sadist & Switch.

 

Here are my 5 biggest changes between February when I did my first test and August when I took the test again.

 

  1. Pet +30%

Definition according to bdsmtest.org: “Is the property of their owner in daily life. Sexuality is not necessarily involved. The role often features some form of animal play (puppy, kitten, etc.), although that is not a strict necessity.”

 

What’s changed in 6 months?: I’ve come to see this more as another form of being a  ‘kept woman’. In the beginning of my journey, everything was about not forming emotional attachments and just trying everything with no strings attached. But the further from my last relationship that I get, the more that I crave being ‘owned’ by someone emotionally.

 

  1. Vanilla -26%

Definition according to bdsmtest.org: “Vanilla people enjoy regular, standard sex and relationship models. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you’re having fun!”

 

What’s changed in 6 months?: In all honesty, this is the result that surprised me the most. I thought, if anything, since I have halted kink play while I’m growing my tiny human that I would have continued to have the same stance on vanilla sex. Apparently I have a new-found distaste instead. Maybe it has something to do with the conversations that I have with customers in the course of my work day and picking their brains about things in kink that I had no idea existed before starting with Oh! Zone.

 

Playing With Age
Age Role Player
  1. Ageplayer -20%

Definition according to bdsmtest.org: “Ageplayers lie to play with age as part of their kink. They typically take on a much younger or older age than they actually are, or prefer playing with a partner that does so. Attributes and behaviour changes (such as pacifiers, coloring books, speaking in childlike language, etc.) are paired with this, to enrich the context and make it more appropriate for the played age.”

 

What’s changed in 6 months?: I think that as I get closer to becoming a parent, my tolerance for childish behaviour in myself and other adults has lessened and by proxy, so has the appeal of ageplay… Although I still love colouring books, Disney musicals & cartoons.

 

  1. Slave -19%

Definition according to bdsmtest.org: “Slaves completely hand over the control and responsibilities over their life to their Master/Mistress . They go a step further than submissives in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as their office jobs). Serving their Master/Mistress is their primary focus in life and they rarely have limits for them.”

 

What’s changed in 6 months?: Ok, so I think that most of my changes have been due to my impending motherhood. I am finding that I am more anal-retentive and needing to be a little more in control of myself these days so that I can remain a relatively put-together adult for my son.

 

  1. Primal (Prey) +15%

Definition according to bdsmtest: “Primals ae mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. They key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey (you) can become a snarling, growling, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator.”

 

What’s changed in 6 months?: Maybe I’m just a little more feral than before…

 

Seems to me that kink preferences are developed over time and are influenced by life and its experiences. So, even if you take the test just for fun now, it’s always good to retake it every so often. You might find that the results surprise you.

 

Happy testing xxx

Morgan

 

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Keeping The Rabbit Company!

Spoiled Rabbits

In a world far far away lives the humble bunny, but here in the land of Oh zone lives “the rabbit company” a machine of pure excellence that rivals all bunnies that have come before them. A true master piece of craftsmanship, not only in style, but in vibration power and sturdiness.

I welcome you to THE RABBIT COMPANY

Rabbit company hopped onto the market and made a BANG with its bold colours, amazing power, and incredible designs, reinventing the rabbit vibrator!

Those iconic ears of pleasure have brought a whole new meaning to the phrase fucking like a rabbit. The Rabbit company wanted to bring you a concise collection of the best rabbit vibrators on the market, and they have not disappointed. They spent 2 years of research and development testing vibrators on the market to bring you their goal of developing a range of vibrators that make your knees weak with every vibration, and movement.

Each model of this amazing range boasts outstanding quality, complete reliability, beautiful design and of course they pride themselves on the power they deliver.

The models in their collection are so varied that there is no way you cannot find your perfect fit, no one will miss out, not to mention every single rabbit comes with the following guarantee

  • 5 year warranty
  • Hypoallergenic, non-porous materials
  • Hygienic, FDA-approved, food-grade silicone with a velvety-soft finish
  • Flexible shafts to ensure a comfortable fit for women of all shapes and sizes
  • Intense quality control process ensuring form, finish and function are all set to our high standards
  • 2 powerful, independent vibrating motors in the shaft and rabbit
  • Whisper quiet operation
  • USB rechargeable battery with up to 8 hours of run time

Yes! you read that correctly a massive 8 hours of run time!

 

Another massive quality of this company is their warranty, they really do back their product providing you with an incredible F I V E year warranty! They will in the unlikely event replace your product with the same or similar if there is a defect in workmanship or materials, at their discretion

But keep in mind in order for your warranty claims to be processed they need to be made within 5 years of original purchase and the product must be registered with the rabbit company with proof of purchase. Rules do apply the warranty only covers manufacturing defects, it does not cover normal wear and tear of parts, personal preferences, damage caused by misuse, loss, abuse, or negligent handling.

 

Your hare care guidelines:

As rabbit company is a premium product they suggest your also use premium quality lubricant with their products as well.

ONLY WATER-BASED the reason for this is because silicone-based lubricants are not recommended and can cause damage to the product also never use hand creams or massage oils for your intimate areas.

 

When cleaning your new rabbit it is suggested that you use a suitable cleanser such as the Rabbit company’s hare care cleansing spray, if you don’t have this handy or you have run out, you are able the wash the silicone area of your rabbit with luke-warm water and antibacterial soap. How ever do not use cleaners that contain alcohol, petrol or acetone as these chemicals can damage your rabbit.

Another crucial tip is to avoid  leaving your rabbit in direct sunlight or exposing it to extreme heat.

The Rabbit Company Sex Toys
Rabbit Vibrators

Unfortunately your new rabbit is not waterproof so please do not submerge in water or use in the shower.

The classic rabbit

The classic rabbit crystallised

The G-spot rabbit

The G-spot rabbit crystallised

The Rotating rabbit

The Beaded rabbit

The Come hither rabbit

The Backdoor rabbit

The Beaded backdoor rabbit

The Realistic rabbit

The Rabbit wand

The beaded DP rabbit

The kissing rabbit

The thrusting rabbit

The pink ribbon rabbit

The pocket rabbit

The pocket rabbit crystallised

The rabbit lay-on

The rabbit ears

The prostate rabbit

The classic rabbit XL

The beaded rabbit XL

The realistic rabbit XL

The come Hither rabbit XL

do those sound like they tickle all your desires, why stop at one, why not own the whole collection?

And the packs for that extra bit of wow factor to accompany your new delightfully delicious bunny;

 

The Beaded Rabbit S&M Bondage Set

The G-Spot Rabbit Couples Play Time Set

The Come Hither Rabbit Couples Play Time Set

 

The Realistic Rabbit S & M Bondage Set

morgan x

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Holy Shit! I Can Finally Breathe….

Bad Relationships

Yesterday my partner and I were having one of those iconic serious talks about our relationship and the future of it, while we were driving in the car he turned and said to me;

“I’m your first normal boyfriend aren’t I” (it wasn’t a question he was asking it was a statement)

I responded with “yea I guess you are”

which his response was “i know because sometimes you act funny”

I sat in the car thinking, when I think I go quiet and he then asked me if I was OK.

Truth is I wasn’t sure if I was OK, I wasn’t sure what exactly to think, or how to feel, I knew in that moment though and many moments before that he had noticed me and he had noticed my feelings.

 

I guess you could say that was a new experience for me, so later that night, and again this morning I started thinking some more, and I have come to the conclusion that I do not know how to act or feel in a good relationship.

 

There are often times I have over thought the situation, over analysed a comment, a text message, the exact wording, every fine detail. The first thing I learnt entering into my relationship now is that the thing that made me realise just how toxic my previous situations were was unlearning all my previous “habits” for coping.

 

Apologising is my worst habit, which doesn’t seem all that bad, but I apologise for everything,especially if I feel like my partner may not like something I will take blame and apologise, to ensure nothing escalates.  I use to blame myself for a lot of things especially things I knew would trigger my previous partners, now I find myself have to unteach all the triggers and stop being sorry for them.

 

Over compensation is also a huge habit I have, toxic past situations taught me that the love I deserve, I will never get in full. It taught me that love was based on rules and only good behaviour would be rewarded with affection, toxic situations taught me that I would never be good enough and that I had to keep trying.

 

Looking back on past situations now I see that it was very hard to love someone who was basically unlovable and intolerable to love, but somehow I found the good in them, and I didn’t give up. The transition between a toxic situation becoming single and learning  to love myself and now actually being loved has been a huge eye opener. My new relationship may not be what I am use to but it is exactly what I deserve.

 

In the past my best was not good enough, so I tried harder to prove my love, and finally when I am completely comfortable in this relationship when all my walls and down I know I will love this person with everything I have inside of me and it will be good enough.

 

I forced myself to come into this relationship with clear eyes and mind, I chose to love like I give a shit wholeheartedly, even though it was terribly difficult at first, even if I thought everyone had motives, and that everyone lies and hides things. I had to force myself to stop making assumptions about certain situations and then explain to my partner how I came to this wild conclusion, not because I don’t trust him, but because my past situations have taught me every loop hole that causes pain.

 

How can things really be this good? How can he actually have a conversation with another girl without hurting me.

 

Someone who actually respects me, this has to be too good to be true.

 

Pain was normal and it no longer hurt the same as it did at the start, my threshold for pain and my tolerance became impermeable to the point where the things that break up most relationships didn’t seem so bad to me. People often comment  how weak someone is or has to be to stay in a toxic relationship, but for me its quite the opposite. It takes someone very strong to go through what they have and still be able to find the good and not giving up even if that person doesn’t deserve your loyalty and love. It takes  an even stronger person to be able to walk away, and even stronger then that to love again and accept love.

 

Then finally there it is, finally you learn what love really is, its a holy shit I can breathe moment. You don’t wince of flinch when they lift their hand to affectionately place it on your leg. His affection no longer surprises you anymore, and you finally feel this beautiful feeling, a feeling of calm, and you breathe. You are fully aware no anxiety not stress no pain just breathing in that moment.

 

Its OK if your not sure how to navigate a good relationship, its OK if you don’t trust at the start or if your not sure if you should listen to your gut about situations, its OK to be vulnerable and learn because this person will not cause you harm. At the start its hard to navigate how many compliments is too many, or whats a good compliment to give, or even how much you have to pull to not seem crazy or over the top, and you defiantly do not have to think about how much is enough or not enough to give.

 

Because its at that moment the good relationship will happen its at that moment that they will fall in love with you, the vulnerable you, the you that because this way because of everything you have gone through and the you that will now be taught that love isnt manipulation.

 

I am continuously amazed at this guy, and I spend a lot of time staring at him in awe, this is what good feels like.

Trust and Love
Loving Relationship

when you build her back up and love her the way she deserves, a change happens and in return, you get a love so pure, so genuine, and so unconditional. She will heal you in ways you didn’t even know you needed just as you did her”

 

morgan x

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.