#RelationshipGoals – A Millennial’s Guide For Dating

Feeling loved with money

I was asked a question the other night from my partner “why do you love me?” I thought it was an easy question to answer, I began to explain his qualities and personality traits the fact he was caring, kind, and a gentleman and the way in which his face would light up at certain moments. However, after listening to a few other people explain why they love their partner it seems to be only materialistic advantages that are mentioned by most.

The second thing I have noticed is that when friends, associates and people in general explain their new partner or new “friend” they say comments like, “he is a doctor”, “he drives a Mercedes”, “he has money”, “he spends money on me” and “he takes me out”. Since when did monetary value dictate the description of the person we date and hopefully fall in love with?

Its seems to be a bit like a resume for dating, beefed up questions and answers that prove or affirm the benefits and qualities of falling in love and having a relationship with someone, that purely examine the ways in which how well they can provide. Not to mention completely useless information that has nothing to do with the question asked, imagine if you were looking for someone to mow your lawns on a Facebook area page and in your add you wrote, “can someone please quote the mowing of lawns of a large three story house overlooking the harbour”, completely useless information isn’t it? It seems more and more in this day of age people feel the need to brag or boast about unrelated materialistic value for no apparent reason.

Instead of looking for a partner in which we can share loyal and loving moments with we strive for someone who we can post “relationship goals” onto Instagram or Facebook with.

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Since when did #relationshipgoals dictate our validation in a relationship?

Love should be and is much more than gifts, love is hard work, love is caring about someone with all your heart and wanting the absolute best for them in life. It shouldn’t be about how much money or how many gifts you buy someone to validate how much you are worth to them and vice versa.

With social media comes competitions, and with competitions brings jealousy or a false sense of what is expected in a relationship. There are pages dedicated to “relationship goals”, “birthday goals”, “valentine’s day goals” and even “proposal goals”. These are flooding our newsfeeds, with materialistic expectations of what these events should look like, and if you’re someone who doesn’t receive glutinous affirmations like these depicted you feel as though you’re not in the right relationship or as if you are missing out on something.

Relationship goals
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It’s disappointing how “relationship goals” are now measured by how much money your significant other spends on you. Relationships have turned into bragging rights on social media instead of loving, caring and intimate moments shared between two people. Relationships aren’t defined on feelings anymore, they are defined on what others think and feel about the gifts you receive – our generation has it all wrong.

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Image: True love

Appreciating and loving one another is what relationships are about

You should be happy to have that person in your life and appreciate and enjoy the little things. Sometimes our generation needs to realise that love shouldn’t be utterly built on materialistic items, and we need to appreciate what is in front of us. Our generation freely throws around the term “relationship goals” purely to only represent the materialistic side of a relationship, these then become wants and needs of a relationship where they think it is normal to buy each other overly expensive gifts and unrealistic expectorations of what we should receive from our partners.

Unfortunately, this has completely deconstructed our acceptance and appreciation of what relationships are really about. Gifts are not bad, they are extremely sweet and its one way in which you can treat your significant other and surprise them. The idea though has been blown out of the water into “insta worthy” moments and bragging rights.

We become jealous of what others have, or what others have been given, but if we going into a relationships expecting these things or posting about these things to make others envy us the relationships will quickly nose-dive.

Social media is very good at glamorising those who seem to “have it all” with the expectation that you need to spend wild amounts of money in order to have that “social media approved” relationship.

A simple laugh, an embrace, a moment shared together is worth so much more in the long run. There is no definition of a “perfect relationship” but everyone has their own person that they feel is perfect for them, someone who you are happy with being together with, growing old with one another, enjoying the small moments and the big, and creating memories.

We need to remember that being happy is an important goal, and relationships aren’t all unicorns and rainbows, working together, overcoming obstacles, and working every day on your relationship.

At the end of the day the only thing you can count on is your significant other, materialistic items break, get left in drawers of forgotten about. But your “person” with all the ups and downs is there, with their laugh, their smiles, their angry face, their cheeky grin, and all the accomplishments you have had together. So that you can have an honest and long lasting relationship.

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Lighting Up My Lagging Libido With Keto

Eggplants having sex

The past few years I have gone through a few emotional and confidence rollercoasters, and this year has also come with its own challenges. I have never been a big girl, more along to the lines of curvy/chubby, and confidence tends to be a struggle of mine, as I see myself and am worried that I am bigger than I actually am. As well as this I also recently withheld from sex for almost a year which was cleansing at first but nearing the end it actually reduced my sex drive considerably.

I am unsure of when I crossed the line that sex became scary again, like it was something I had never done before, but I feel as though I am in fact doing things and experiencing things for the very first time again. This could be due to my confidence and a new partner or the fact it’s been such a long time. I decided to look at both aspects and how they work with each other and if diet does affect libido, I have never eaten badly although working shift work has had me consuming more carbs than I normally would. I have always struggled with my sleep, it takes me hours to actually fall asleep and when I do I constantly wake up, sleeping tablets for me are not an option I don’t want to fall back into the cycle of prescription medication if I can help it. Another hurdle is my depression and anxiety constantly rearing its ugly and consuming head, I thought there has to be a better option than just medication that makes you numb.

So, after some research I have come up with a plan of attack to knock out all my worries with one solution I plan to lose weight, sleep better, have a happier mind, and increase my sex drive! I have decided to look at my health, lifestyle, body and mind, and so I am discovering the world of ketosis!

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Transitioning your diet from carbs to fat is a game changer if all the reviews are true to their word, but will a ketogenic diet cause my sex drive to plummet or is it the ultimate secret to a better sex life? I want to focus on how life choices with diet, exercise, sleep and confidence impact libido. For me this will be the start of a 30-day journey

First things first I want to explain how dietary fat and sex hormones are connected, it’s surprising to learn that there is even a connection between the two, now here’s something to rock your world, high fat diets lead to an increase in estrogen! A small study found a significant difference in the estrogen levels in women who ate a low-fat diet compared to women who had higher fat diets.  Low levels of estrogen can lead to a lower sex drive and some symptoms such as vaginal dryness and interferences in both your sleep and your mood.

Already I am excited for the next 30 days and I haven’t even started yet!

A little background into the world of hormones and just how they work particularly estradiol and testosterone. The main job of estradiol is to develop the female sex hormone but it’s also has a key role in fat distribution and sexual desire. Who would have guessed that the hormone in charge of our sexual desires was also the one that helps us move fat around our body? As for testosterone although typically seen as a male hormone it is just as important in females, as it helps to produce estrogen, it also impacts the libido. As we females age our hormones have a natural decrease so the last thing we want to do is add to that decrease with the diets we put our bodies through by going low fat instead of low carb!

Did you know that high fat diets can improve testosterone in men! Drops in testosterone can lead to low sex drive and erectile dysfunction as well as a drop-in energy, muscles and hair loss! Some men can also gain weight specifically in the chest area which leads to gynecomastia commonly known as “man boobs”.

All this proves that the fat you eat actually makes a difference in your sex hormones and libido. However, I’m not saying to pick up your closest donut or deep-fried treats those are trans fats and they too can reduce sex drive in both men and women. Trans fats can cause abnormal sperm production in men and women may have trouble with gestation.

Its monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats that you want to focus on that can improve your sex drive, help you to lose weight and also make your mind happier.

My aim in this journey is to concentrate on my confidence and sex drive. The extra weight I will lose will be a bonus! When you look good you feel good!

When you’re a close fit and a little snugger, this not only causes insecurities on the inside but also affects your sexual confidence in the bedroom and you’re less likely to be in the mood especially when you have to bare it all.

Keto is a high healthy fat, moderate protein and low carb diet that tackles all the issues in one go. Losing weight is only the start of the journey. Keto will help improve your hormone’s natural balance and increase your sex drive which your partner will be thanking their lucky stars for because your confidence in the bedroom will sky rocket!

Food for a better sex drive

Food is your best friend with the keto diet and these 11 health foods will help boost your sex drive for men and women!

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  • Blackberries
  • Blueberries
  • Broccoli
  • Dark chocolate (as close to 100% cacao to be low carb)
  • Eggs
  • Pumpkin seeds
  • Salmon
  • Sardines
  • Spinach
  • Steak
  • Tuna

Food that negatively impacts the sex drive

If you’re wondering about the foods that cause your sex drive to decline, then these are the foods to avoid or limit.

  • Dairy
  • Processed foods
  • Sugary drinks
  • High carb food especially food that has been fried

Do you want to improve your sex drive?

Well, what are you waiting for! Come on this journey with me! If you’re new to the keto way of life you will need to give your sex drive some time. But by reducing your alcohol consumption, increasing your healthy fat intake by adding those 11 libido-boosting foods that I mentioned before into your meals and also lowing your carb intake you will be on the path for orgasmic results! The initial stages are always the hardest but keep in your mind the advantages of the end goal to push you through, so don’t kiss your sex drive and confidence goodbye put a little kick in your step and start your keto journey! I’ll be back soon with my results! There is also a wide range of adult products for better sex to help in the mean time!

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Going Beast Mode With Breast Worship

Breasts kink and fetish

Did you know just how incredible breast really are? Most of the population are already averred multi taskers but did you know that breast were also absolute beasts at multi-tasking!

What happens to the breasts during sexual arousal

During sex your breasts go into full beast mode and are bomb multi-taskers let me tell you how, they may just change your whole view that breasts can only be visually amazing.

During the throws of passion and penetration your breasts actually increase in size, approximately 20-25% to put a figure on it. Basically, they swell in anticipation of orgasm… say hello to a natural boob job, just when you thought you were at your max sexiness.

As does your areolas! Not only will you see a visible change in your breast size but also the size of the areola which eventually gives you erect nipples. Your breasts also become more firm and well-shaped just when you thought your body couldn’t get any better your body turns it up and turns it on.

Increased sensitivity is your best friend, trust me. When you become aroused your breasts become super sensitive, every little touch gets ramped up when you’re aroused and guess what those tiny goose bumps don’t mean your breasts are cold it means they are actually turned on!

Your breasts are like little or not so little antennas and send signals to your brain, when your breasts are touched or fondled with they send those signals to the brain to release oxytocin in abundance! For those of you who don’t know or haven’t read the 100’s of blogs on our site that speak about oxytocin which is popularly known as the “love hormone”, this is what helps you and your partner bond better during sex, and also a few other cool things which I’ll talk about in just a bit! So really it doesn’t matter about the size of your breast you have them to thank for the increased attraction your partner now has for you. If you want even bigger breasts or nipples, you can grow in size with breast pumps.

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Your breast create a natural perfume, yes you read that correctly! During sex your breasts release some scented sweet pheromones. The only downfall is that you won’t be able to consciously smell it yourself, but your partner definitely will and they will feel more attracted to you in the process.

They are the bodies chameleon, they actually change colour, don’t get freaked out though they won’t turn purple or green, but you might be able to see a pink rash underneath or on the sides while having sex. This is caused because of a mixture of oestrogen and the stimulation of blood vessels. However, they might have a blue tinge to them but that will only be your veins becoming more visible due to arousal.

Sexual confidence, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realise that with these changes it can actually make you feel sexier and gives you a confidence boost. That’s why they call it sex appeal.

They bridge the gap, literally! There is an actual neurological link between the stimulation of your nipples and clitoris. Even more incentive for your partner to be multitasking or you to play with your breasts while they are exploring other parts of your body.

A kinky fetish for breasts and bodily fluids

Now for something a little different for all those fetish lovers, have you ever noticed that the breast secretes liquid, does it turn you or your partner on? Since we have all just learnt about just how much goes on with breast during sex and the fact that sexual arousal releases a hormone called oxytocin are you also aware that this is the same hormone that is released during breast feeding.

Because of this oxytocin surge, sometimes during sex women’s breasts will either leak or squirt breast milk, while being aroused, experiencing orgasm or by squeezing or stimulating the breasts- your vagina isn’t the only body part that can squirt. This is nothing to be embarrassed about, it is completely normal but if it does bother you just keep a towel handy.

For some this is a huge turn on and a fetish within itself many people have a fetish for body fluids and within that realm of fluids is breast milk.

I think everyone has been curious about the taste of breast milk at least once in their lives lactophilia is an attraction to a lactating breast and breast milk, throughout evolution breasts have been a symbol of fertility, sexuality and nourishment there is something about breasts that men and women throughout the ages have found so incredibly desirable.

What is erotic lactation?

Erotic lactation is being sexually aroused by the thought of, viewing or participating in breastfeeding.  For some it’s drinking of the milk that their fetish lies, for others it can be watching a woman lactate or the art of the breast milk squirting out of the breasts. There is no umbrella rule for lactation play, even the exact part that is arousing is different for all but one thing that is constant is the fact that involves the breasts and the liquid that comes from them.

The difference between breast worship and a lactation fetish

Many people are sexually attracted towards breasts but there is a difference between breast worship and lactation fetish, an example is the difference between someone who is attracted to buttocks and loving anal sex compared to someone who is aroused by someone defecating and the idea of defecation.

The reasons why people are attracted to and turned on by different fetishes are all individually different but there are several factors that can explain an erotic curiosity in breast milk. One thing that is certain is that anything and everything should always be done by two consenting adults it doesn’t matter if they are in a platonic, romantic or a kinky BDSM relationship, not every person has the same kinks or fetish’s, and some don’t even know it’s a kink of fetish for them until it happens.

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Let’s Talk About The L Word

Loving moments

L O V E the big four-letter word that’s just as powerful as the O word (orgasm) 98% of the time. The elusive love at first sight which often is confused by its counter partner lust at first sight, yes there is a huge difference!

Love is potent, miraculous, insightful, bloodcurdling, petrifying, numbing, magical, and possibly the most intense feeling in the whole spectrum of feelings.

Love can have you questioning your sanity one moment and your inhibitions the next, it can give you a sparkle, glow and empowerment, also an anxious, worrying and overthinking moments later.

At our core no matter what life events you have experienced we have all thought we are unlovable at one point or another, however we all aspire to be loved and give love, in one form or another.

And it’s not often you come across your true love. To be honest I thought that word was a bunch of phoney garbage before this moment. Someone who stuck by you through thick and thin, who surprised you with flowers on a date, who actually took you out on a proper date and was a pure gentleman the entire time. Someone who actually took notice of you and was wholesome and genuine in their thoughts and actions, someone who peaks your heart rate for all the right reasons.

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It all started with a “hi”, multiple “hi’s” actually pretty much every day for at least 2 weeks with some light conversation about how our days were going. He never gave up, and I started thinking wow he must be really interested. We began to talk more and more all day every day. I would look forward to his “good morning” messages and his “how is your day going messages” and eventually we were beginning to talk more deeply.

My thoughts for the first couple of weeks were that this was too good to be true, he has to be some sort of womaniser or player and this would all end very abruptly once he knew he had won me over. Truth is he has continued to stay strong, and genuine, which is something I had not experienced before. I didn’t have any doubts after that, he was completely open with everything and thus I felt comfortable enough to be completely open with him. He sparked something in me that I never had felt before. I felt whole, a kind of out of body experience where I felt genuinely happy, something I haven’t felt since I was a kid.

I didn’t know overly much about him apart from the general questions and answers every new couple interrogates each other about. I didn’t know how he acted with his friends or how he spoke to other people. I didn’t know about his past relationships or if they ended on an amicable note or not. Our connection those first few weeks made my feelings even stronger about something I was already considering… that in some way, a way I still don’t understand fully our connection transcends beyond any connection that I have ever dreamt about feeling or experienced before. I have always thought about that infinite attraction where every part of you physically, emotionally, mentality and spiritually is drawn to that one person. I have always wanted and wondered what it would feel like to be completely smitten with someone in every way possible.

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I have spent the beginning of this year working on and living my most purposeful life, making sure every moment counts being my true self. I wanted to work on accepting and embracing love in my life without the drama and fear of being wounded and attached to it. You know, loving like you give a shit. I felt after everything I owed myself 100% attention into pure, true and wholesome love and happiness. This started with letting go of all my excess baggage and expressing everything on my mind or stuck in my heart. I was on a mission to rid myself of all negativity in the form of words – anything and everything on my mind I wrote out and sent off into the abyss of the internet, my deepest and darkest thoughts, those nagging blimps in your mind you can’t get rid of. I wanted a true fresh start, and that’s what I achieved.

My first realisation that fear is only a 4-letter word. It was in fact my best attribute in life, by overcoming my fears I was able to follow my truest desires, become my true self and follow my truest life. I was able to for the very first time accept love and affection.

Finding myself smiling at random moments, finding myself smiling at my phone, smiling at memories, smiling at objects. I am smiling! My heart feels full, it feels whole and it doesn’t feel shattered.

From the first moment I met him, even still every moment I see him now, my whole body is in this completely. It’s a weird and confusing emotion to feel, to feel like you have known someone forever but only have just met them.

The proof is in the pudding that there is light after dark, there is happiness after adversity, there is love after all. This is just the start of my lover’s diary.

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

My Top 3 Pussy Pumping Picks And Tips

My pussy pumping experience

For a few months these little devices have intrigued me, pumps work pretty much how you think they will work, they pump. It’s fairly straight forward, but what do they actually achieve?

Clitoral pumps and pussy pumps are suction devices that are meant to cover all or most of the labial area (vagina lips and clit) or just the clit for the clitoral pumps. Both operate in a similar fashion where they create suction. This causes the blood to engorge the clit or vaginal area making it more sensitive. Once you release the pressure the area will stay plumped up for a short time before returning back to normal, this is not a long-term effect. Some pumps even come with the added bonus of stimulators and vibrations to provide pleasure post pump!

Why should you use a pussy pump?

Sensation and pleasure! Pumping brings blood to the surface thus making the area more sensitive which means the pleasure and feeling is heightened.  If you are someone who hasn’t experienced the elusive orgasm, or has trouble reaching orgasm pumping helps with the prep work by making you more sensitive and more susceptible to reaching orgasm.

Apart from experimenting and gaining new experiences pumping is very beneficial for those who have trouble in the orgasm department. Pumping also is used for medical and sexual functions. Some women have hidden clits, pumping helps to bring the clit out from under its hood. For those women who aren’t very sensitive and who take a lot of stimulation to become aroused it brings more sensitivity to the area fairly quickly. By increasing the blood flow to that area, it causes you to naturally become aroused.

I must admit I have never felt anything quite like it before, nothing amounts to the pleasurable pressure feeling it brings, not to mention the visual satisfaction it brought to my partner which made him very energetic indeed. My first experimentation was fairly hesitant I left it in his capable and excited hands, with complete trust he wouldn’t cause me any damage or hurt. From the first pump you can feel it, not just the suction but the warmth of blood rushing and the tingling of your nerve endings. Visually he saw exactly what he wanted. With every pump I felt more and more sensation, and it didn’t stop it continued with the pressure feeling even when it wasn’t being pumped. Unlike any other adult toy, the feeling stays consistent and continuous until its release at the pressure valve.

Every part of you under the little suction hood becomes increasingly sensitive, so much so you can actually feel your pulse beat. I do stress that this needs to be done with care and consideration. Pumping hard and fast will hurt your body and your skin needs time to adjust. Only pump as much as you can handle. For some the end goal is a visual one who may want a very plumped up pussy and an enlarged clitoris. If this is the case work up to each pump by leaving it for an amount of time then releasing this will allow the pussy to plump up for an extended period – it will return to normal so don’t stress.

My high intensity pussy pump top picks (specifically ones that cover the entire vagina)

Temptasia Intense Pussy Pump System

Pussy pump by Temptasia
Image: Temptasia Intense Pussy Pump System

I started off with the Temptasia Intense Pussy Pump System this is marketed as a professional pussy pump system. All the parts are made with quality on this device and unlike your squeeze ball pumps it doesn’t get stuck. This product is designed to make sex or masturbation increasingly enjoyable, by pumping more blood towards the clitoris and surrounding areas to become more sensitive and enhancing. By placing the hood over your vagina and using the trigger to create a desired amount of suction you can pump until your heart is content or your partner if they are in control. This device also has an air release valve for easy removal, you are able to either keep constant suction or pumping and releasing to create a different feel. Temptasia uses professional grade suction with a detachable hose and an acrylic cup, air release valve, and a clear acrylic cup for erotic viewing.

Fetish Fantasy Extreme Vibrating Pussy Pump

Pussy pump by Fetish Fantasy
Image: Fetish Fantasy Extreme Vibrating Pussy Pump

Fetish Fantasy Extreme Vibrating Pussy Pump is not just a pump it also has vibrations for added pleasure and stimulation. As with all pussy pumps you place the acrylic hood over the vagina and pump to the desired size, once you have done that you can turn on the incredible vibrations with your remote style controller to bring you to the next level in the sensation department. You can also remove the bullet vibrator from the device to excite your other erogenous zones while pumping away.

LA Pussy Pump

Pussy pump by LA Pump
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And last but not least in my top picks the LA Pump, this is your Rolls Royce of pumping devices. These devices have guaranteed results if you follow the recommendations. These devices are hand crafted in the USA and made of the most deluxe industrial strength crystal clear acrylics. This device is recommended by doctors around the world to not only heighten sensation but for rejuvenation of the vagina. LA pumps back their products to increase the sensitivity of the vulva and enhance the sexual experience. The LA Pussy Pump comes in three different sizes: Small, medium and large.

Many women notice heightened arousal and sensations when their labia and surrounding areas are pumped have been pumped up, as well as the tightened feeling a swollen pussy gives. LA Pumps are all sold in separate pieces so you can explore the whole range with the one pump, breast, nipple, clit, pussy and penis. The range in endless in your pumping needs and wishes!

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.