Massages have long been known to help ease signs of stress and help us feel more relaxed – however, a new type of more intimate massage is becoming popular, not only between couples, but you can even go to a professional to experience one too. It is a ‘Yoni Massage” The “Yoni”, incase you don’t know, is the Sanskrit word for ‘vagina’, or ‘sacred place”. This type of massage is a Tantric tradition that professionals should have taken years to perfect, but is also an amazing practice for couples to learn together.
The Yoni Massage comes from a perspective of love and respect. The goal is not to have an orgasm, although that may well happen as a by product, and more than once. The goal can be to simply pleasure and massage. Having no expectation of orgasm means both giver and receiver can totally relax. The purpose of the massage is to make you so relaxed around that area of your body that your mind is acutely awakened to the possibilities of pleasure. Yoni massage promises to rid us of the tensions that we hold inside our vaginas. It is believed that women store trauma and emotional pain in the walls of the vagina and that over time this makes us less interested in sex and less in touch with our own sexuality. Professionals use it sometimes to help women through sexual blocks and deeply held traumas, even curing vaginismus over time. With a partner it can be a form of safe sex. A joy for the giver to witness and to be responsible for the woman reaching the highest states of arousal possible.
Before The Yoni Massage begins, it is really important that a special space is created. Above all it must feel safe, intimate and comfortable. Remember Sex is not part of the massage nor should the giver expect to receive anything in return. It is very rare that women get to purely receive. There has to be a strong emphasis on this being all about the woman and the focus is on healing and leaving space for any emotions that come up. (It is not unusual for very powerful emotions to come up and tears might be shed, the point is to go with the emotions, and for this to be a space to feel them and express them)
Most massages will begin with an undressing ritual where every time an item of clothing is dropped to the floor the receiver says out loud anything she feels is holding her back. it could be something like body insecurity, or shyness. Then both parties meditate together, finally, the receiver will get a warm oil, full body massage,so that she is as relaxed as she can possibly be. There is no touching of the vagina until a state of complete and utter relaxation has been attained.
For The Yoni Massage the woman should lie on her back, head raised with a pillow, so she can see her Yoni and can look into the givers eyes. Legs are spread with pillows under the knees, so the giver can access the entire body. Deep focused breathing and as much eye contact as possible should be maintained throughout the process. as little talking as possible, the woman receiving can give feed back on pressure speed or depth if she wants. The thighs, abdomen and breasts are gently massaged to encourage a relaxed state. Warm, high quality oil is poured over the pubic mound so the outer lips of the vagina can be gently massaged. This must not be hurried. Gently squeeze the lips between the finger and thumb and slide up and down the length of the lips. Do the same with the inner lips. The clitoris can then be stroked in clockwise and anti clockwise circles and squeezed gently. The purpose is massage don’t forget, not orgasm.
Slowly the middle finger of the right hand can be inserted, it has to be the right hand according to Tantric practice . The walls of the vagina are gently massaged . especially the g spot or “the sacred spot” as it is known in Tantra. A professional Yoni expert will be able to locate and massage out other knots of tension.Special attention is also paid to the A spot. Pressure, and speed are varied. The middle finger can be inserted and then 2 fingers. None of this should be hurried, a good Yoni massage will take at least 2 hours. The little finger can massage the anus at the same time. In tantra, if you do this at the same time as having 2 fingers inside her and a thumb on the clitoris you are said to be “holding one of the mysteries of the universe in your hand”
The left hand can be used to massage her breasts abdomen on clitoris. While all this is going on; the massage, the eye contact, the measured breathing, it can be very overwhelming and this is when releases of emotions and orgasms are most likely. Only continue massaging if that is what is wanted. Obviously this can result in the most intense ,multiple orgasms that may increase in strength. Or ‘riding the wave” as it is called in Tantra.The Yoni Massage will finish very gently and if you are a couple, as much time for holding and cuddling as she wants. Ideally all the orgasmic energy will spread through the body and revitalize the energetic body (or Chakra) and connect with the heart.
Not all countries offer professional Yoni Massages, but Australia does, and in Sydney too! You can even do classes to learn this art.
About the Author: Emily is a consultant at the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres
Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks a huge range of adult orientated prouducts. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.
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