What Is Right Vs Who Is Right!

So what is right?

Well, I guess from the outset it would be something that is morally acceptable and justified.   A thing that is fair and equitable, sticking to the community standards or legal principles, honourable and virtuous.

From the most basic standpoint, it allows dignity, fairness, equality, respect and independence to everyone and allows different points of view to heard and followed without discrimination on the basis of sex, gender, political view-point, religion, disability, employment or other lifestyle choice as long as that choice does not impact negatively upon others.

The difficulty when determining what is right is however often subjective to an individual as what is right for one person may be absolutely wrong for another.  The absolute moral truth for one may be the immoral wrong for another.  So what happens when different view points and/or lifestyle choices conflict with another’s.  What is then right?

Perhaps a good way to define what is right in moral terms is that which tends to maximize human happiness and ‘wrong’ as that which tends to maximize human misery. There is no absolute moral truth because morality depends on values, and of course even the most well-meaning of people do not necessarily value the same things, to the same degrees.

So if you are in a debate with someone about what is right,  think about the following points –

The search for what is right is rooted in the discovery of facts, details, and a set of guiding principles.

When somebody is making a case for what is right it will be inquisitive, curious, and considerate of multiple ideas from multiple vantage points that will shape the ultimate decision.

Someone who is focused on what is right does not take things personally because they know it is simply the integrity of the ideas and facts that are being explored.  That if their personal ideas don’t end up being accepted it is not a strike against them.

Someone who is focused on what is right will always consider the decision from a long-term perspective of how it will affect others.

When there is an exploration for what is right you will have peace, partnership, and simply an objective search for truth.

So Who Is Right?

To determine who is right automatically causes conflict as if someone is right, then on the opposite side, someone will be wrong.  Wanting to be right in most instances will be the beginning of disagreement and although one would like to think that may lead to healthy debate, more often than not will become heated and force one or both participants into ‘battle’ to thrash out why they are right.

Disagreements over facts are easily determined and checking a resource will in a timely manner resolve who is right.  But what happens when it is a difference of opinion or morality ingrained from a persons upbringing or religious, political or personal assessment.  There is no source of information, the disagreement becomes broader and there is no objectivity, simply both parties wanting their view-point to be right.

This battle will continue until one will win either by the better argument of by puffing themselves up, raising the bar by yelling, calling expletives of bulldozing.  Eventually, one party will back down and the victor will think to themselves, ‘I am right’ or ‘I outwitted them’ but often nothing can be further from the truth.

Winning often means failure after.  Whether that be a friendship, a relationship even a marriage.  Before entering into the ‘Who Is Right’ merry go round ask yourself is it worth being right?  Will it be better for me to change my standards or view-point?

Many people are often so fixed in their ideas of how something should be that their stance becomes out of proportion to what they risk if they don’t change their stance. Alternatively, they may not see what they stand to lose by holding onto their standards.

Think about these points next time you are going down the road of who is right –

The search for who is right is typically based in emotion, ego, and propaganda.

When somebody is making a case for who is right it will sound often like the decision has already been made.

Someone who is focused on who is right will often get an emotional feeling like their character is being challenged if other people disagree with them.

Someone who is focused on who is right is typically evaluating a decision through the short term lens of how it will affect them.

When there is a battle of who is right you will feel engulfed with anxiety, pressure, fear, and aggression.

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