What Men Wished Women Knew!

Many men find women’s sexuality very hard to understand. If that is true, male sexuality could qualify as an uncharted forest with many ways to trek but no clear destination. Anyway, it is the perceived belief that in the matters of sex,

a gentlemen’s needs are basic!

Isn’t that so?  What you see and hear is normally part truth, but not the whole truth. It’s no big surprise that women looking for the perfect mate will let those that are not so perfect know and let them know how to get there.  But can the same be said about men?


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Just like there are things women wished men knew, here is a list of 10 things that men wished women knew and would do –

1  Men Respond to Praise:

It’s accepted that most men are so consumed by their own moxie that there is no fear of diving straight in when it comes to the sexual act, however most women require flirting, dating, compliments before they feel comfortable enough be with a new partner.  But this acceptance is not necessarily the truth.  Men like to be complimented just as much as women do but do not react the same way.  Men worry about how they look and a quick comment like

“You are looking so hot”.

will make him feel more comfortable when taking off his clothes and getting naked.  It is not just women who worry about their bodies and stress over the way they took.  Be extra sensitive to your man, compliment him often and eventually you will see the results.

2  Men Fear Intimacy:

But not for the reason you think! Studies have demonstrated that young men are more tender and much more expressive, than young ladies until they achieve school age. Around then, social restraints of words, musings, emotions and our craving for human association goes underground. So unthinkable is this longing for closeness that it can alarm men since we acknowledge how much we are in need for it. What’s a lady to do?   There are many circumstances that this can be seen but if your man withdraws emotionally after sex.  This may be because he is fearful that he needs you so much or is afraid of being rejected.   At that point when you identify this behaviour, withdraw a little yourself. This gives him time to see that his childhood propensities are, actually, consummately masculine.

3  Men Appreciate Sex for Sex’s Sake:

Remember where we came from!  We were and are hunter/gatherers.  Men were born to hunt and it is inherent, even though opposing modern social standards, that if he is not the alpha male of the tribe/family, he be of you and be able to provide.  So instinctively a man may feel the need to dominate in sex and men want you to appreciate this as well.  Sex does not have to be lovey, dovey all the time – sometimes he will crave wild and crazy sex – and if the truth be told, you probably do too!

4  Sex Is Not Just About the Penis:

As the saying go, a man thinks with his head – the head of his penis.  But that is not always true – even though the dick does get most of the press.  Men also like foreplay and they have more than one erogenous zones.  He may want his back or thighs massaged, or his nipples kissed, perhaps passionate cuddles.  This is a genuine turn-on for a man and he is more likely to give you what you want if he has been seductively aroused. Why not next give him a treat with a blow-job – but whilst going down on him restrict between the perineum and the scrotum when he is about to come.  This will elevate his delight and he is sure to give you what you want after being so erotically treated.

5  Men Encourage Fantasies:

Many men (and women) have secret desires that they are reluctant to share with their partner in fear of judgement or disgrace.  But having hidden secrets is not good for any relationship so encourage him to these imaginings and if it agreeable with you share them and make them a reality for him.  You need to open yourself up and let him know that he will not be judged by you.  Next time you are alone, act one out for him.  He will feel heard and freed from those clouds that were hanging over his head and respect you more as his soul-mate and sharer of the most intimate part of him.

6  Men Like It When You Talk:

Talking for talks sake is a major gripe that me often have of their female partners.  Talking that empowers, enlightens or has purpose is mostly appreciated.  But the talk that he would love is dirty, grimy, sex talk before and whilst he is in bed.  Those words will take him to places he always wanted to be.  Let him feel like a conqueror as you shout out the words

“You beast. Keep Fucking Me!”

Talking dirty to him if going to engage more than one sense in your lovemaking sessions.

7  Men Need Your Honesty:

Men need to be illuminated, instructed and told.  They need you to instruct them on what they are doing right in bed, what you would like them to do additionally.  If you are not feeling like sex, tell him why and let him know when you will have that desire again. Not being honest with him will cause resentment and frustration in him and the relationship.

8  Men Enjoy the Dance:

Often a man’s desire for something grows when he cannot have it.  Sometimes make him work  at getting you in bed.  Get  him to Court you,  tell you how much he loves you, how much he desire you.  Get away from him sometimes.  Have a weekend away with the girls.  The separation may actually make his desire for you grow and on your return bring closeness to your relationship.  Tease him by allowing him to watch you whilst using sex toys but not allowing him to touch you during that session.  Make him want you, and only one with hot desire.

9  Men Like Pornography:

Most women do not get turned on by pornography and will watch it only for their partner.  But men do watch porn all the time, whether you believe it or not but it should not be cause for great concern or pathologized.  Just because men are a visual creature being turned on by looking at images or movies it does not mean that they are a sex addict or sick.  Often he may be watching extreme porn so that he does not do those things to you.

Try meeting him halfway and instead of thinking about what does not do it for you think about what does it for him.  Grab a couples porn movie and surprise him one night by watching it with him.  This act of genuineness will go a long way in bringing closeness.

10  Men Always Need It, But Not for the Reason You Think:

Men are blamed for being sexually unquenchable, however ladies ought to reevaluate this. Men see sex as a fun way to express their love and they wish women would take more of a ‘carpe diem’ approach to it. We travel through life at the rate of sound, with increasing difficulties and burdens. With the constraints of time in our busy modern lifestyles there should be no reason why we do not envelop ourselves in delight and joy at every opportunity and for men sex gives this.  It will you too, given the chance!

So these are 10 of the things that men wished women knew.

Now, if you want him to know what you want read on for the things that Women Wished Men Knew!


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