Is your sex life suffering because family issues and issues with your job are on your mind? Are those aspects of your life fine but the sex is not exciting anymore because you’ve grown comfortable with your partner? If the fire is starting to go out, then you should know there are ways to reignite that fire.
There are many different things you can try to bring the fire back to your sex life. Excite your partner by showing your partner that you learned some new sex tricks. Pick your favorites from the list below and try them the next time you have a romantic night planned.
Take A Picture
This tip is very easy to do thanks to smartphones. Why not have some pictures taken during the climax? No one is suggesting you put these photos online because these photos should be the eyes for you and your romantic partner only.
You can get creative with the photos you take. If you’d rather have video then set up a tripod or place your smartphone where it can see everything and record the romantic encounter.
You should only do this with someone you know you can trust to keep the pictures and videos private.
Read Stories From Other People
There are short stories about sex that you can share with your lover to get them in the mood. If you don’t know about these stories then you should do some research and look for them. There are many more stories out there than the 50 shades series if that isn’t your thing.
This is a category that many different people have published stories. With how many there are available, you should find something that you and your partner will like.
If you want to spice things up then act out your favorite fantasies with your partner. While this may feel weird for people who have never tried it before, you can come up with the characters you want to pretend to be yourself. Pick roles that are different from your everyday life so this feels like a new experience.
If you are going to roleplay, you should include costumes and props to get the full experience. Whatever you want to do and whatever you want to see your partner do, try it all. Maybe you can improvise with costumes and props you already have so you don’t need to spend money.
Don’t Be Calling All The Shots
This has nothing to do with dominating and submissive roles. If you are still using vibrators, let your partner choose the settings before you use them. They also make vibrating panties that the female can wear while out on a date and let the man have the controls to add unpredictability to a date night.
Book A Hotel Room
A change of scenery always helps. Most people always have something they want to do in a hotel room. You could always combine two by roleplaying in a hotel room.
You can let the maids clean up after you leave but it’s more exciting if you two show up on your own. The one that arrives first can set the mood while waiting for their partner to show up.
Play Sex Games
Take turns trying to make each other cum and see who can last the longest. The first one to stop resisting the orgasm is the loser. When the game gets boring, change up the rules and you could end up creating new games.
Kiss Like Teenagers
Sometimes making things exciting doesn’t mean things have to get more intense. Sometimes you want to keep things simple. If there are no flames then you might want to hold off on sex because the forbidden fruit always tastes better.
When you went on dates in your teen years, some of your best memories might be when you were making out with your romantic partner. You could restore the flame and passion by only making out with your partner and not moving things forward.
Tell Your Partner, Where You Want To Be Stimulated
Get some body paint and paint X’s where you want your partner to kiss or bite or do whatever you are into. If the body paint is safe to eat, then your partner can lick it off when you’re done. You could use whipped cream if you don’t have body paint. Just make sure to put towels down beforehand because you do not want to create a mess.
If you are into different things then why not use different symbols instead of X? You could create memories as you experiment with this technique.
Things could always become boring but that doesn’t mean it has to stay that way. The suggestions above are just a few things you can try to make things exciting again. You can also come up with things to try on your own to make your sex life more interesting.
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