How Do We Remain Sexually Active When Apart?

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Hi Oz, My girlfriend has recently had to move to Sydney for work while I have to stay out west for uni. Do you have any suggestions for what can help keep us sexually active together, even when we’re so far apart? We do see each other every week or two, but we both enjoy sex a lot more than that. – WH

 

Hi WH,

Thanks for your email. You, my friend, are in luck. The world of adult entertainment, be it porn or toys, has always been at the forefront of technology. Remember when Blu-Ray first came out, at the same time so did HD-DVD? Don’t remember HD-DVD, that’s because it dissappeared when the porn industry decided to exclusively use Blu-Ray. The same happened decades earlier when VHS and Beta video both hit the market.

At the moment, there are a range of different brands out there offering very interactive toys for people in situations like yours. Probably the best out there has been developed by Kiiroo. They have a range of devices for him and her available, all available to interect on the free Feel Connect app.

For her, there’s the Pearl 2, Fuse and Cliona. The Pearl 2 is a strong solid regular vibe, the Fuse is the rabbit version. The Cliona is an external toy only. For him, the Onyx 2 delivers possibly the most realistic blowjob-like sensations out on the market, while adding a Fleshlight Launch to your regular Fleshlight will turn it into an interactive thrusting toy that takes you closer to penetrative sex, with needing to stroke as you go and save you a lot of cardio.

In saying that, the Kiiroo range, including the Fleshlight variatations, can be quite pricey. We-Vibe is one of the leading sex tech brands out there, and all about adding a new level of fun to couples both near and far. Utilizing their free We-Connect app, one is about to take control of their partner’s device, from anywhere in the world.

The We-Vibe Sync is easily the most popular couples toy, and with its ergonomic u-shaped design, it provides both internal and external stimulation for her. It’s great for teasing her on date night as well as for an extra buzz during penetrative sex, but I feel it wouldn’t be the right toy in your circumstance. Perhaps she’d rather the Nova, a bulbous g-spot rabbit vibe that will really get her over the edge. For you, the Verge is a vibrating cock ring that while designed to vibe on your perenenium, is quite versatile and you can turn it around with playing together to stimulate her clit, or use it as a way to supercharge your finger action. The Vector is a nice rumbly prostate toy you may enjoy, or the We-Vibe Ditto is a vibrating anal plug that’s fun for either of you to use.

The above mentioned toys are all about interaction, taking an active role in exactly how your partner gets off. Their apps both feature in-app video connections, but if you’d rather take matters into your own hands (so to speak), there are plenty of regular free apps out there to connect with video chat functionality.

You can always check out the best couples sex toys of 2020 to get further ideas too.

To maximise this visual aspect of play together, for you I’d suggest a Fleshlight Ice. It’s similar to a regular Fleshlight, but the sheath is clear, so she can see all the goodness going on within.

For her, and for the majority of women, it’s all about clit play. Some fantastic, rechargeable bullets are out there, notably We-Vibe’s own Tango, Femme Funn’s ultra bullet, or The Queen from Evolved, a rumble toy with a flared base to allow for some insertion play too.

Lastly, if you really want the sensation of being together, and want to go old-school and lo-fi, why not make a mold of each other? Clone-A-Willy provides everything you need to make a dildo exactly from your own penis, just as the Clone-A-Pussy will provide you with a familiar feeling pocket pussy.

Good luck, and have fun!

 

Oz answers your sexual health and relationship questions..  He is a consultant at the Oh Zone adult stores.

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Not only does the We-Vibe Sync make your clitoris and G-spot spring into waves and pulses of delight with its adjustable settings, but it is made to suit almost all body types and shapes with its adjustable fit as well!

A few little specifications about the We-Vibe Sync

  • 2-year warranty
  • Dual stimulation
  • Adjustable fit
  • Body safe silicone: it is made without latex, free from phthalates and BPA.
  • Remote control connected: The remote can change vibration modes as well as the intensity in the moment. Either partner can use the remote and it works up to a distance of 3 meters.
  • Smartphone app connected: The free We-Connect™ app allows you to play and control from anywhere. Vibe to music with beat mode or use touch mode for real-time control at your fingertips.
  • 100% Waterproof: Yes, this means it’s submergible!
  • Rechargeable: Charges in 2 hours, for up to 90 minutes of play.
Specifications of the We-Vibe sync
Image: Features of the We-Vibe sync

It comes in two colour variations unless you get the sensations in Sync pack, which comes in a coral colour.

What’s included

  • Sync couples vibrator
  • Wireless remote control
  • Storage case/charging base
  • USB cable
  • We-Vibe Lube
  • Quick-start user guide

Size

  • Length: 2.95”
  • Height: 1.65”
  • Width: 1.25”

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How the We-Vibe Sync works

Many people look at this device with the most confused look on their face and trust me, trying to explain how this device works using only words can be hard for some people to actually imagine. So with the use of this diagram I am going to show you how this device works and fitted. Simple isn’t it!

For those using it as a secret vibrator for your lover to control during a night or while at work, etc you can insert the device the same way, or for more control if you are nervous about the device falling out, you can put it in with the larger head inside and the smaller head pressing firmly on the clit, either way will give you waves, pulses and vibrations of delight.

Using the We-Vibe Sync
Image: How to use the We-Vibe Sync

The main issue most people have with this device is the app, the more reviews you read, the more you notice that people either love it with all their being or they hate it! And just to clarify they don’t hate the Sync they hate the app! If you read into the hate reviews they are all because of the app disconnecting during use. Now, I don’t know if it’s because they have connected it wrong or if they haven’t fully followed the instructions completely, but with my trials I did notice a few reasons why the app would disconnect.

This can be fixed by making a few simple changes and if you follow the instructions correctly, you can take full advantage of all the Sync has to offer. One issue I noticed was that laptops, iPads, tablets and other Bluetooth devices can interrupt the connection. That being said if you move them 1-2 meters away at least this considerably decreases the interruptions.

Also something that I thought was fairly self-explanatory others may have not thought of, the Sync must always be in close distance to the device that has the app on it, and you send a link to your loved one for them to control. Which means the primary app device should be on your own device, which then allows you to send a link to your lover to give them the option of controlling but you can also disconnect their control if need be.

The app allows you to have a lot more personal customizations then just using the remote or button on the Sync. You are able to create your own custom playlists choosing your favourite modes, intensities and durations.

Not only can you customize your vibrations you can also video call and text over the app to your lover (aka your pleasure controller) to make it even more personal and intimate.

The We-Connect app features

  • Touch the screen to control the vibrations and build intensity, swipe to change modes and pinch to adjust intensity.
  • Multiple modes
  • Create and customize your own vibes by drawing your own vibe!
  • Make your own playlist of your favourite modes. You can adjust the duration of each vibration and intensity.
  • Your lover can control the We-Vibe from anywhere in the world.
  • You can control each other’s We-Vibe and pass control back and forth.
  • In-app voice, chat and video.
We-connect on the smartphone
Image: We-Connect on the mobile

Now not only is the Sync amazing! It also has two features on the We-connect app that is exclusive just for the Sync!

  • Beat mode: This mode gives the option to vibe to the rhythm of your favourite music, or picks up ambient noises in your surroundings.
  • Touch mode: You have real time custom control over every action. Use the screen to instantly control the vibrations.

For these reasons and so many more the Sync is one of my favourite sex toys in store because it has so many uses and reasons for its existence.

If that doesn’t majorly tempt you into buying a Sync then I’d say you were insane! It is one of the best couples sex toys available.

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Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres