Why You Shouldn’t Let Erectile Dysfunction Ruin Your Confidence

Erectile Confidence

If there is one thing that can make a man uneasy, it’s confronting a slump in performance.

 

No, not work performance, although that’s also difficult! I’m talking about performance in the bedroom.

 

If anything isn’t perfect about his performance, a guy will immediately panic, even if he hides it well. Performance anxiety can be a troubling time for a man, and he may become less confident as a result of even the slightest concerns in the bedroom.There are even guys who withhold sex from their partners because they think they aren’t good enough.

 

I’m here to tell you that this isn’t necessary!

 

Trust me, just because you’re not getting as hard as you want or lasting as long as you want, your woman (or women) does NOT want to bail on sex altogether.

 

And, she doesn’t care about these imperfections nearly as much as you think. It is so hard to convince guys of this, so you really need to listen in!

One Of The Biggest Mistakes Men Make That Sabotages Sexual Performance (And It’s Totally Avoidable)

One of the biggest mistakes men make is allowing struggles in the bedroom to consume their minds and start to change who they are. We’re all human, and we all go through phases and struggles.The key is not to allow ONE small aspect of a relationship to collapse the whole thing.

 

Think it over: are you making a bigger deal out of this than it is?

 

Something a lot of men don’t realize is that if a woman really likes you, she will accommodate you.

 

Plus, it is so easy to make a woman happy without even getting hard. You have fingers and tongue in your favor. And hopefully, you’ve got some toys on hand too.

This Is More Common Than You Probably Realize

Another thing most men don’t realize is that pretty much all guys struggle with performance. I’m even tempted to say every man does, at some point, have trouble getting or staying hard.

 

Does it ruin a relationship? No!

 

Some guys will go crazy, and that’s a significant turnoff to women. The reaction from men is usually worse than the actual “problem.”

 

And performance issues are totally a thing for women too, so don’t underestimate their ability to sympathize.A good partner will not be upset by this but will rather become creative with you to continue to have crazy sexy times in the bedroom.

 

So instead of drowning in despair like so many men are prone to do, take action!

3 Popular Methods to Get Your Boners & Libido Back to Full-Speed

There are so many things you can do to support your sexual vitality, from natural methods to pharmaceuticals. You may want to consider different male enhancement options.

 

Viagra is a popular option among men seeking a boost in performance.

 

A lot of men find success with this pharmaceutical option, but it’s not necessarily a guarantee. Medications work differently for different people, so be sure to talk with your doctor before making any decisions.

 

If you want to go the natural route, macapowder is a great option. Maca is a root found in Peru and has long been used to help balance hormones. It also has a host of other health benefits, so you can’t really go wrong with this one! You can put it in a smoothie every day, or even make pancakes with it.

 

You might also want to check out Dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA), which mimics a natural steroid in your body. If this natural steroid is in decline, supplementing might be a great option for you.

Your Lifestyle Could Be Contributing to Performance Issues

Are you getting enough exercise? Sleeping or eating well?

 

You’ll find more often than not adopting healthier routines (regular exercise, a good night’s sleep, etc.) is a great solution to performance issues. It could even be as simple as adopting a sexual performance diet.

 

You should also touch base with your partner.

 

Sometimes if tensions build, they manifest in physical problems. Maybe there is a conversation you need to have. Or maybe you need to find a different partner.

 

It’s key to remember that trouble in the bedroom does not need to bring you down.Be smart and take the actions you can. Be communicative with your partner, and find creative ways to give each other pleasure if your penis just isn’t perking up.

 

This is no excuse to be lazy! A woman is often just as happy with other kinds of physical attention. Maybe you buy her a new toy?In time, you will get to know your body better and better.

 

Cover your bases. Revamp your lifestyle if you need to. Keep on that sexy, confident demeanor that women adore about you and enjoy the great variety of pleasures available in your life.

6 Tricks For When Your Man Cannot Get Hard

Erectile dysfunction

As a sexologist, I get an in-depth insight into one of the most intimate areas of people’s lives. It really is an honour to have people open up to me about their sexuality, this being something I do not take lightly. I understand sex to still be such a taboo in many people’s lives hence understand how vulnerable it can be to share one’s experiences.

Recently, I had a conversation with a man who had entered a new relationship and was unable to “get it up.” Seeing this person so filled with stress and anxiety about his perceived inability to perform got me thinking about the role us women play when the men in our lives are overcome with anxiety and pressure to perform.

Much of the stress and anxiety that men feel when they cannot get an erection comes from outdated beliefs that to be a man means to do everything he can to please and pleasure a woman with an erect penis. It saddens me knowing that so many men do not come to understand this as a false belief which does more harm than good. Women play such an important part in this process for men with the following some of the tools and approaches I recommend to support men through what can be a challenging time in their lives:

Allow him to express his emotions

When a man places an expectation on himself to get an erection and doesn’t, he can often be overwhelmed with a great deal of shame, frustration, anger and embarrassment. Allow him the space to express his emotions in a safe container so that rather than stewing in these toxic feelings he is given an outlet to get them out of his system. This could mean bashing a pillow, shaking, yelling (though not at you) or whatever else he does when he is feeling emotionally overwhelmed (e.g. going for a run or swim). Emotions can cause a host of problems if left unexpressed so encouraging him to express can mean the difference between staying stagnant and moving forward.

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Image: Man expressing emotions

Encourage him to communicate

Men are rarely encouraged to speak about their feelings and the things that are troubling them. Let your man know that it is safe to talk about what is going on for him. Be present with him when he shares with you his thoughts and feelings on what is going on for him. It is crucial he knows that he can trust you with something so vulnerable for him.

Offer him a space to receive without any expectations of what is to happen

Offering your man a chance to receive can be a really beautiful way of him experiencing pleasure that isn’t dependant on him having an erection. A penis massage or oral sex can feel exquisite even with a non-erect penis and can be a chance for him to really drop into his body, away from his mind that is incessantly pressuring him to perform. Let him know before that an erection or orgasm is not the key of the experience and that you simply want him to receive with nowhere to get to and nothing to do but enjoy the experience.

Connect with him in an intimate way

Taking time to be intimate and sensual with your man is still really important regardless of whether he has an erection. This could mean giving and receiving a massage, cuddling, kissing or engaging in oral sex. Just because a man doesn’t have an erection, doesn’t mean he still doesn’t find you attractive or want to be sexual with you. This brings me to my next point…

Refrain from personalising the “problem”

Asking “Don’t you find me attractive anymore?” is valid however it can place enormous pressure on your man to console you when he is already in a vulnerable position. Some women can get quite upset when their man does not get an erection when engaging intimately with them and its perfectly fine to feel this way but just remember that how sexy, attractive or desirable you are should never be dependent on another person. Take care of yourself and when you feel like you are not asking from a triggered place, it can be great to ask if there is anything you can do for your man. Just ensure that if you do, do so from a place of genuine care and not for validation of your worth.

Invest in your own pleasure

As great as sex with your man can be, if he has difficulties getting an erection it can be a great opportunity to really dive into your own pleasure solo. Here are some ways to invest in your own pleasure:

These are the little things that can make all the difference between feeling victimised by your partner’s inability to get an erection and being empowered by taking your pleasure into your own hands.

Being supportive, loving and compassionate with your man if and when he faces challenges with getting an erection is such a beautiful way to approach what can be an incredibly challenging time for him.

Author: Stephanie Curtis, Sexologist

6 Things Your Mattress Needs To Improve Your Sex!

You need to have sex on a great quality mattress and there’s no way around that. Well, unless you’re good with an ‘okay’ rated sexual experience! We all desire to have that moment that takes us beyond our wildest desires when getting intimate and the bed quality plays a significant role. Surveys done have revealed that majority of the people have sex in bed. This is evidence that you’ll need the perfect mattress if you desire to have the best sex. Of course, other factors also have a hand, but having a good mattress is a great starting point.

Ever had sex on an old mattress, with the springs all worn out? I am certain it was a moment that you wished would come to an end because, instead of pleasure, you get noise and you’re constantly trying to find your balance. Even though sex is rarely on our minds when we’re getting a mattress, it’s high time we put that factor into consideration. They say while getting a mattress, ensure that you consider all your preferences and needs – sex should be on the list!

So which type of mattress would be best to have sex on?

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Image: Couple In Bed

Think Comfortability

When it comes to purchasing a mattress, comfort is among the things that you shouldn’t dare compromise on. Remember that, even without the sex; we spend more than a 1/3 of our lives in bed. So, why not make it comfy? When considering the level of comfort that a mattress offers you’ll need to think of:

  • How comfortable is it to sleep on?
  • Can I comfortably have sex on the bed without straining myself or my partner?

Interestingly, a good comfy mattress has a way of spicing up the moment. It makes you relax and just focus on enjoying yourself. Comfort here refers to three things: your body balance on the mattress, the material texture and if it causes any strain by creating pressure points.

Think Flexibility

An innerspring mattress is perfect for flexibility. We make a lot of maneuvers while having sex. What makes them worthwhile is if they work. An adjustable mattress will make you achieve that. You’ll need to find a mattress that responds to the moves that you make while at the same time giving a slight bounce. To achieve flexibility, you’ll need a bed that’s slightly firm but bouncy and one that responds fast to your movements.

There are some mattress brands that offer flexibility other than the innerspring mattress such as latex foam in comparison with other memory foam mattresses. But don’t focus too much on flexibility and forgetting your sleeping position, find a balance between the two.

Think Noise

Nothing disrupts the perfect intimate moment like a noisy bed. Sex is a discreet affair; it’s not something that you want to announce to your neighbors. However, I must point out that the noise factor varies from couple to couple. A couple with children or living as a large family will prefer discretion, but on the other hand, a couple with no one else around will rarely mind the noise. Generally, a mattress ideal for sex will keep the sounds at a low. After all, sex is an intimate affair and drawing unnecessary attention isn’t such a great idea.

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Think Durability

A good mattress shouldn’t break down because of intense activities on the bed, even in the long term. Sex is probably one of the ways that you can test for a mattresses’ durability. A good mattress should be able to support your weight, that of your partner and any positions you take during sex. A young couple needs to seriously think of durability considering all the energy they have and the frequency of sex. Although a broken mattress during sex can be a sign of a great moment, it’s also an indicator that you may need a new and better mattress.

Think Temperature

We all know just how hot it gets during sex. Not many people will have fun when it’s a ‘hot mess’ and they are all hot and sweaty. You will, therefore, need to get a mattress that will not get too hot and not just because of the sex but also for your everyday sleeping. Gel foam mattresses are an excellent bet when selecting a bed that won’t get too hot. Other than gel foam mattress, other brands are available in the market. Take the time to inquire from the manufacturers if the bed you have has a unique cooling feature or not. You could also go to mattress review sites to find out more information on certain mattresses.

Think Edge Support

An edge support that will collapse when under pressure is definitely not ideal considering that some of the best sex positions require a stable and robust edge. A good mattress, regardless of the sex, should comfortably hold your body weight and pressure without collapsing.

Sex is as good as the mattress you’re on. Every mattress has its benefits and drawbacks, what’s important is to find the one that’s suitable for you. However, the mistake that a lot of us make is going for a particular mattress because it worked for others. An ideal bed is one that corresponds to your specific needs and preferences including your sexual moment. For you to really enjoy that intimate moment, you’ll need the best mattress. So the next time you go mattress shopping, I’m confident that the above considerations will help you to identify the best mattress for you and your sex life!

Male Sexual Stamina Training Unit By Fleshlight!

Last Longer with Fleshlights

Long gone are the days where sex toys were exclusively made for women! Now we have a whole new range of sex technology. Devices that penetrate and vibrate used to dominate the shelves of adult shops and men all over Australia and the world were left to masturbate with their hands and lubricant. Yes, we had blowup dolls and they are still somewhat popular but nowhere near as popular as the new range of male masturbators which have hit the market in the last decade. Undoubtedly, many men are asking themselves ‘How could a sex toy bring me to orgasm better than my own hands?’ And here is the answer: Once you’ve tried the Fleshlight you’ll never look at masturbation the same way again! Fleshlight is one of the most popular male masturbators on the planet and by clicking the jump below you’ll find out just how interesting the fleshlight story is.

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You prepare for a profession and for donning occasions, so why not consider sexual stamina preparing? Perseverance in the sack can prompt extraordinary lovemaking and an upbeat accomplice. Similarly as with any preparation, you require an arrangement and a promise to your objective. Figure out how to build your sexual stamina and turn into a dynamo in bed.

The Fleshlight and the Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit has grown to become the world’s best selling men’s sex toy and this didn’t happen by chance. The feeling they produce will literally

‘blow you away’

and if you masturbate more than once a week they’re well worth the investment. The sleeve feels amazing on your penis and it’s undoubtedly the closest sensation you’ll get to real intercourse, actually the male masturbator is more intense than sex (but don’t tell your girlfriend). They are very gentle, they are so soft and stimulate a similar feeling to that of a real vagina. Use them with your favourite lubricant and your ready to go. They are easy to clean too, just remove the sleeve and run it under warm water with soap and it’s ready for the next round.

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Sex Toy: Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit

 

The Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit is unique in that the sleeve is designed to provide intense stimulation so men can train themselves to last longer in bed. There are numerous pills, potions and lotions on the market which claim to do the same thing but I’m here to tell you that the Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit is the REAL DEAL! At first it made me ejaculate after just 10 strokes. The feeling is so intense that you can’t help but ‘pop’ early but like all things ‘practice makes perfect’ and after a month I can last for at least 70 full strokes. Now you’re thinking

“How does the Fleshlight improve my performance in bed?”.

The answer is rather obvious. Once your penis is familiar with the intensity of the sleeve then being inside your misses makes you more immune to the friction. This isn’t to say that I’ve lost interest in sex, quite the opposite actually – I find myself more and more aroused and I’m definitely not the only one. All this may sound like another bullshit testimonial but I need to thank the geniuses out there who created this beautiful sex toy. My relationship has never been better and practicing with the Fleshlight is more fun than you could ever imagine.

Sexual stamina can only be achieved if you are reasonably physically fit. To prepare for better performances in bed, you have to do some basic exercises, for example, crunches, push-ups and weightlifting. Men can also do kegel exercises (without inserting the balls)  simply when you are peeing, stop for about 5 seconds and then release and repeat this 5-10 times whilst urinating.  This will increase your ‘sex muscles’ and improve sexual stamina.

Mental preparation is vital in making you sex a performance and not just an act.  You have to keep up an inspirational viewpoint and trust you can improve for you lover. The primary point to remember amid intercourse is to relax your brain and permit it to fixate on the physical feeling you are encountering. Don’t over-think how you are doing it or worry about climaxing too early; rather, permit your body to react normally. In the event that you feel yourself nearing climax sooner than you might want, slow down your breathing and move your mind to another place than concentrating on your penis. Think of other places on the body and what they are feeling.

Try it for yourself and you’ll know what I mean; it certainly does have the ability to transform your sex-life!

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