Stay Safe by Sexting This Holiday Season

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We all need a lot more affection in our lives in the age of a pandemic. It’s been a trying time for everyone to find ways to feel human again. A sense of touch, smell, and sound of a sexual partner in crime has been taken away from those who are single and ready to mingle. In today’s world, we are to stay at a minimum of six feet away from everyone who is not in our own household. The scent of the perfume is harder to get a whiff of when farther away. Masks are worn in public, while adding a sense of mystery to one’s appearance, also muffle the sound of a sexy voice. How is a sexual single who may have been more sexually active pre-pandemic to get their needs met in this scenario? Well, one sure bet to stay safe and sexy while at home is sexting.

 

This is about staying safe, being considerate of others but still finding alternative ways to get off. As it’s vital to stay isolated as much as possible it’s equally as vital to feel connected every day. We are more sexually repressed now than we have ever been in decades past. Even when the world was more sexually inhibited in the 30s, 40s, and 50s there was no stay at home order in place in those eras. This is a very new thing for humankind to go through while still trying to have somewhat of a life. Especially a sexual one!

What Are Sexting Ice-Breakers?

 

Just like approaching a woman in a bar, it can be tricky for the naturally more shy/introverted man to think of the right things to say. With sexting, a lot of the stress of having a good conversation starter is off the table. There is no small talk necessary, you’re in a space where you get to focus on having your sexual desires met at a distance.  When you sext it’s about establishing what your kink factor is before anything else. Not asking someone “How was your day?”.  Here are a few sexting icebreakers below to help you get the party started via your smartphone.

Are you Vanilla/Hardcore?

What are you wearing?

Guess what I’m wearing right now…

What’s your fetish?

Do you like being bad/good?

How wild are you on a scale of 1-10?

Are you into group sex?

 

Finding out what your kinks/desires are is half the fun of sexting. The other half of the fun is finding out what the women are on into the receiving end of these sext messages.  It’s the easiest conversation starter, to ask/tell a woman you are sexting with what you may be into/are open to knowing more about before hooking up. Maybe you are more Vanilla but curious to know more about what a hardcore sexting exchange might be like. It’s good to mix things up and you will find sexting is really about uncovering what really drives you and turns you on.

Where To Start?

 

A long-standing, reputable, and fun place that caters to the sexting community is Arousr. There’s no better place to start sexting than to do so anonymously. This way you don’t have to worry about saying the wrong thing to someone in your inner circle that might lead to awkward social gatherings or gossip when things do eventually open again. Discretion is key when it comes to sexting. When you are not required to reveal your identity it adds an extra little bit of freedom to go wild. You never have to worry about a chat host holding what you say against you. They are there to cater to your sexual needs and desires, whatever those may be.

Yes, you can always text people you know for free. If the texting you do now led to hot steamy sexting you wouldn’t be here reading this blog. In life, we tend to get what we pay for. Sometimes the hottest woman you know may simply not be into sexting or actually be terrible at it. When you use platforms tailored around feeding sexual desires you’ll find a lot less trouble, hassle, and headache, all while maintaining your anonymity. Feeling secure and safe in a sexual environment is what we all need to have an enjoyable experience.

Final Thoughts On Sexting

This year was a tragic one for many but it’s also a teachable moment. One thing we know is that if we want good things in life we must invest in them. That does not exclude our sex lives. Waiting for things to open to be flirty and reach sexual pleasure is not realistic nor is it healthy, both mentally and physically. It’s enough to make anyone go stir crazy being stuck inside with no place to safely go.

It’s very healthy to seek out ways to express yourself through the written word and can also be quite cathartic. It’s sexy, safe and it is a lot of fun when you have an open-minded woman on the other end to enjoy sexual banter with. Now is the best possible time to step outside of your comfort zones and try something new. Sexting is safe, stimulating, and much more personal than streaming porn or Netflix all day.

About the Author

 

I’m Femme Fatale, writer, and Sexpert. I have a vast knowledge and affinity for Fetish culture as a former Fetish model. You can find me every week writing for Arousr. My favorite fetish is Domination.

 

 

 

 

Experts Tips In Breaking The Fear Bubble In Trying Anal Sex For The First Time

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Whenever sex topics are talked about, almost everyone is willing to share their first time in bed. However, take in mind that most people often refer to vagina and penis penetration. For some, anal play or anal sex is still taboo, and only a few individuals are open with their anal play engagement.

 

But did you know that heterosexual anal intercourse is not an uncommon sexual activity? Women and men with ages ranging from 25-44 had experienced anal intercourse. In numbers, 35% of women and 44% of men engage with the said activity.

 

Yet, even with the numbers are increasing over recent years, some are still afraid of trying anal play for the first time. A lot of speculation and fears lead them to overthink how the entire experience will go. If you’re reading this, you might be interested in anal sex. Read on and let the experts clear your thoughts about anal sex. Maybe, after reading the article, you might find yourself relieved and excited to try it out with your partner.

Anal Sex Is For All

Contrary to what you hear or think, anal sex is definitely for everyone. Whatever gender orientation you have, you can enjoy anal sex with your partner. And one good thing with anal play is everyone has anuses, so you can either receive or get one, depending on your heart’s content.

 

You might be wondering how a woman can treat her partner (women to women or women to men scenario) during an anal play. You might be thinking that it’s kind of impossible before. However, these days, it’s easier than ever.

 

Thanks to many types of sex toys, it can now be done. Popularly referred to as pegging,  women can now treat their partners, either men or women, with an anal play through this sexual activity. Women can wear a strap-on dildo and penetrate the anus of their partners.

 

What’s even better is that the entire anal play can be improvised to add intensity to the experience using other sex toys. Moreover, couples can also share stimulation by using a strapless dildo. With this, the female partner can have her clit stimulated while pouncing her partner through their anus.

 

But all of these strange yet sexy sexual repertoire might come off a bit awkward for beginners, and we would like to break that awkwardness. Now, let’s read on what sex and relationship experts have to say about how a couple or an individual can break through the fear of anal sex.

Read What Experts About To Say…

According to sex educator and CannaSexual founder, Ashley Manta, our anus, made up of the sphincter and the rectum, are teeming with nerve-endings that, when stretched and filled in, give off a fantastic feeling. Feeling ecstatic yet? Hold on for a while. As per Luna Matatas, a sex and pleasure educator, you can’t directly dive into the whole anal play right away. Foreplay is a must.

 

That’s why treating your partner with a pleasure oral sex stimulator and other sex toys can be a great way to heat things up. It’s best to go slow and steady first. However, if you and your partner are already utilizing sex toys during intercourse, it can be a good start to introduce sex toys designed for anal play.

 

Certified sex therapist and a licensed psychologist, Rachel Needle, Psy.D  advise couples to always communicate with their partner. If your partner is having fears and doubt with anal sex, try to take things slowly. If you’re on the side of the relationship who does have more experience, discuss this new sexual activity and make sure both of you are on the same page.

 

Use lubricant as more lubrication means better and enjoyable anal sex. Remember that unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t produce its lubrication. That’s why many women are naturally scared of what’s getting in there. You can also use water or silicone-based condoms.

 

Don’t hesitate to use anal sex toys. It’s highly suggested, and you don’t necessarily need to insert it to your anus right away. A little vibration can add a lot of new stimulation in the area. It can help you get acquainted with the new and strange sensation, as per sexologist Jill McDevitt.

 

Like masturbation, you can also introduce anal play on your own. This is best advised for individuals interested in trying new things on their own before trying it with someone else. It gives an individual a sense of freedom-, the liberty to experiment with new things on your body.  According to Alicia Sinclair, a sex expert and the woman behind b-Vibe,  that’s not a bad thing to do. It’s only natural that you want to explore the intricacies of your body by yourself.

 

Learn your most comfortable position. Whatever you read on any sex magazines or hear advice from friends, you always need to learn what position you and your partner are most comfortable with. If you are on the receiving end, it’s easiest to be on your back or stomach. Take it from Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, an NYU professor of human sexuality and also a LELO sexpert. However, comfort differs from one person to another, so take the time to figure out your most preferred position.

 

And to give you peace of mind, anal sex won’t stretch you out. If this factor scares you, don’t be. As per assistant clinical professor, Alyssa Dweck, MD at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, your anus will bounce back to normal after it accommodates a penis or sex toy entry. Thus, don’t worry about incontinence and enjoy the experience.

Takeaway

Anal sex or anal play has become a trendy sexual repertoire, so it’s not surprising that individuals and couples engaging with the activity are increasing. However, there are still individuals who are afraid of doing it. However, proper research, preparation, and communication with your partner can lead to enjoyable anal sex. These experts’ advice and tips can significantly help anyone interested in exploring their behind and enjoy the experience.

 

Author’s bio:

Belinda is a 42-year-old married mother of three who lives in Naples, Florida. While staying at home to raise her children, she began to write articles and blogs for various outlets. She was raised in a strict, Christian home, but has since found more peace with a more spiritual approach to life and health. A strong believer in natural and alternative medicine, energy healing, and total wellness, she stumbled on the health benefits of the female orgasm quite by accident. Since then, she has often written pieces that help inform others about the benefits she discovered. Belinda also enjoys taking care of her home and family, and often jokes that she is a bit of a Stepford wife… with a wild side. In her free time, she loves to spend time at the beach with her family, host parties and BBQ’s, and work outside in one of her many flower gardens.