The Sex Party Experience

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Unsurprisingly we get a lot of very open-minded people coming into our sex toy stores and we are lucky enough to get chatting about the most interesting things. Everyone who works here will have been asked the same old questions, Why do you work here? what’s it like working in a sex shop. Do you get many weirdos? I always say the same thing. “I love it, it is so much more than a sales job, because you are dealing with a subject which is so much a personal part of us all.” It immediately gives us a connection. There is a barrier between us and our customers that is brought down just because of the subject matter. It wouldn’t happen if we were selling washing machines. We are privileged to get to know people in a far less superficial way than we probably lots the other people we meet on a day-to-day basis.

I have got into many conversations about sex parties and holidays with people who are in store buying costumes, sex toys and lingerie for events. If I think boundaries are down in our shop then going to one of these events takes that to a whole other level. I have actually been to a couple of parties a long time ago in LA. not really intentional, a friend and I just ended up there. It was a wild end to a wild night. It wasn’t something I would personally get into but it was a lifestyle choice for some of the people I was friends with. Ever since then I have found it fascinating. I am intrigued as to the type of people go and whether the fantasy is the reality.

It goes without saying that you have to be pretty open-minded and non judgmental. The friend I was with was neither of these and she found the whole experience quite awful, she felt her boundaries had been crossed just being there. We just happened upon ours but if you were going to a planned one with a partner, then boundaries are the most important thing to think about. Most of the sex parties out there will have rules to follow and you should have some of your own set too. Most of the people I have met in store have had rules about how far they can go with other people and with whom, they have codes and safe words if one is unhappy with anything. The most important rule you should have is that what ever happens once you are there and passions are running high is stick to the rules. If you are a couple then going solo to parties is probably not a good idea even if you were both in the lifestyle before you met.


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Movie: Eyes Wide Shut


It can be pretty intimidating for obvious reasons and I doubt many people go to their first one with no reservations. Women can go alone and are welcome encouraged and prized. In most parties the women call the shots. Even so, I would think it wise for a first timer to go with someone else or make sure in advance that there is a person known there to chat to, even if it is just the holder of the party. Try to get chatting to someone online before hand if its possible. Go armed with a sense of humour, with your own lubrication, some sex toys, underwear and protection. You should never rely on a third party for the most important things you need. Don’t buy black G-strings as by the end of the night you won’t know which pair are yours.

The most important thing is respect, I have never heard of any event where you had to take part in anything . No means no and It is OK to watch. One of my customers loves to just watch, as you can imagine you see some pretty out there stuff. Just don’t ogle like you are at the zoo. Don’t get offended when people you don’t fancy chat you up. Treat the people at a party with the same respect you would anywhere else. Drugs and drunkenness probably wont be tolerated and you will no doubt be removed.

Just like some people still think sex shops are populated with men in raincoats. It is common to think of sex parties as either high-end or retro. Playboy, ‘Eyes wide shut” orgies, verses middle-aged suburbanites in terraced houses with bowls of keys. There are those parties, and everything in between. Mostly everyone will be nice and normal and no different from you.

The fact that it is usual to take some clothes off means there may well be a larger proportion of the crowd that take care of themselves. So if you are lacking in the self-esteem department I wouldn’t go. Many couples and singles I speak to seem to cite the element of competition as one of the virtues of the lifestyle. It prevents couples particularly from becoming lazy and letting them selves go. It can motivate them to win each others affection. They all love the fantasy element too and getting dressed up in lingerie and costumes is part of that.

It has never been easier to go to a sex party. They are all over the internet and cater to all tastes. Becoming part of the ‘lifestyle” involves a bit more effort, but if you are a good respectful guest, and you make an effort to dress up and follow the rules you will get to know people and eventually get to go to invite only parties. If you are unsure, you can go on-line on swingers websites like ‘Kasidie’, or if you have a Fetish then ‘Fetlife’, and just get chatting to people. If you can, dip your toes in, and go to an event like ‘Hell fire”, where it is by no means an orgy, but it is a little more sex focused than your average night at a night club. If you want to aim high and go glam, then try to get your self into a Killing Kittens party, sponsored by our bestselling sex toy company Lelo. If you have money and want a week of it then why not try ‘Hedonism’. They have holiday resorts all around the world where you can live out your sex party fantasies 24/7 in dream surroundings.



By Emily a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre

Host The Best Gay Sex Party!

Gay Sauna

Ever thought a night out with your gay partner is not going to be great? You can be proven wrong. Why not go to a  gay sexy party as it is one of the best parties you will ever attend and have fun to the max. Appreciating who we are (gays) and what makes us come together, organize events and parties that make us feel good about ourselves and out sexuality. I managed to host a gay sex party last year and believe me; it was one of the wildest and best parties I have ever had the pleasure of being at. I realized there are a number of things that you need to incorporate or do in a gay sex party for it to be great. The following are some of the most important things I thought to consider before my hosting or going to a gay sex party.

Last year’s party was my first gay sex party and the fact that it was held in my place, I came to realize that a gay party is actually better when there are a good number of participants. It felt great to see friends and acquaintances from all over the my college having fun. Choice of music and the drinks was important to create the right mood. There were almost fifty people and thank God my back-yard was big enough to accommodate such a number. We did organize everything early enough before the party to not get stressed, everything was set right including the drinks.  We hired a Dj from our local gay club who kept the music rocking throughout the party night plus finger food and decorations.


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You can’t invite people if you do not know them as you want to ensure that all the guest will be safe and nothing will be damaged or stolen. The people that attended my gay sex party which I hosted are actually people I had met with earlier in gay clubs around town, some friends from social networking sites like facebook, twitter and of course my college friends. Through the continuous interaction in the clubs and social media I did establish some great connections making sure first that they were interested in attending my gay sex party that eventually resulted in me hosting this fabulous party.

There were a few of my gay close friends in town that I know and  that I usually spend most of my free time with that attended but others did not as they were not into or did not want to participate in such a scene. The theme of the party was ‘bring a friend’  as my total number of people that had accepted my invite was 30 and I wanted it to be a big bash.  They all were really helpful and understanding though when it came to organizing the party and most did bring a friend which made it all the more interesting as there was some fresh meat there and we also got to meet new like minded individuals. We managed to successfully invite gay guys from a cross section of professions and communities and even from other towns mostly by communicating through facebook, posting ads on Reddit,, and personally one-on-one and through a series of phone calls to groups around our neighborhood.

I was mindful to ensure that if there was a gay partnership or marriage that they both knew about the party and that it was OK for them to attend a gay sex party as I certainly did not want to be the one responsible for the break up of a long term gay relationship.  A gay sex party isn’t a party without music and drinks.  For all the gay parties that I have attended, there are three things that are always there that make a good time great time; drinks, music and dancing. Sometimes there is something a little heavier than a drink to perk me up but these three items are essential.

If you want to have real fun at a gay sex party then you need to have some alcoholic drinks and good music and a cleared out place for you to dance with the meat that is there. We did spoil ourselves with all kinds of alcoholic drinks at my first gay sex party and the vodka, whiskey and beer flowed freely as we danced to the sweet music played by the amazing DJ on stage.  I must confess that I did take a magic pill as well that made me sway to the music all the more and find that most of the men attending looked like studs.  Generally we had fun throughout the night and there were no bad incidents to talk about. We had soft drinks set aside for those who did not fancy getting smashed as we didn’t want to disappoint anybody; everyone was having fun with or without alcoholic drinks.

We didn’t just start with the drinking; we did a bit of an introduction of everyone and then swiftly moved in to the real party mode as planned.  I was glad to meet so many of my new gay friends some of whom I had only seen on facebook or heard about from other friends and it was really a great interacting with them. Everyone was getting along splendidly as and once the music started we danced, some of us began to kiss each other whilst swinging  long with the music.  It wasn’t long before some of the guests brought out poppers.  I had never tried poppers before and one of the guests explained to me that I had to inhale it through my nose.  A warm fuzzy feeling came over me and the beat of the music penetrated my whole body that had become relaxed and felt sexy and sweaty.

I noticed that a gay couple had exited the dance area and gone behind some bushes in my garden.  Slowly walking over I was surprised to see that one man was giving the other a blow job.  It was a delightful moment indeed and the mood of the party swung becoming more erotic as some kissed while others were getting  down to the business of the day and theme of the party in various states of undress. It was at that time that I realized that this was going to be a great first gay sex party.


Attending A Sex Toy Party

Womens Sex Party

A lot of people, especially women feel embarrassed attending a sex toys party or event, thinking that they would not be interested in the products that are going to be offered at such events. Everyone is permitted to have their own opinion or views regarding sex toys. Some people may find such an event to be fun and exciting, while some others would see it as a weird event. It should be noted though, that such kinds of events are not just about the products that are going to be offered there but it is also a fun way to spend time with your friends and especially with your partner.

Sex toys are usually toys that are used solo or in couples play. Though many may find it weird when they hear such things, it is something that an adult can freely make use of, since it is legal. In fact, a lot of studies have proven that such sex toys can even have an important and positive effect on people’s health. This is because they enhance the sexual experience of an individual or individuals, which has a direct positive effect in that person’s overall health and well being.  There are many respected and safe sex toy brands on the market. Another set of sex toys you can expect in a sex toy party is costume lingerie. For sure, your partner will enjoy selecting through a variety of sexy costume lingerie which they can wear and tease you with later on.

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Sex Toys for Couples To Party With

Keep in mind that sex toy parties offer various items, and you can find your local sex toy party provider that you can easily find on Google.. Therefore, there is really a big chance that a toy offered in such a party would turn on you or your partner’s interest.  If you want to maintain or ignite the fire in your relationship, you should attend at least one sex toy party before you decide that you are really not interested in them.  If your partner does not feel comfortable attending such a kind of party, you should convince them to try even just for once. Remember that if it would be your first time to attend such an event, then it would be something adventurous. Many people may hesitate to visit such kinds of parties because they think they will feel embarrassed. However, many would say that after they attend it they were not as embarrassed as they thought they would be, and to top it off, they even came home with a toy or two.

It is understandable if your partner does not want to initially buy sex toys because of perceived stigmas attached. However, such kinds of parties also offer other fun things such as body paints. Body painting is becoming a trend, and they are even offered in a wide variety of flavors. These kinds of body paints are edible so therefore, you can make use of it, while you and your partner are engaging in sex inside your bedroom. Just imagine, with body paint and your favorite flavor, it will definitely be an appealing way of exploring your partner’s body in a new and unique way. Such an experience will spice up your sex life and make you and your partner want some more.

You never know after attending a sex toy party you and your partner may have a whole new source of happiness to enjoy and it may become a feature in your loving relationship.  However if you or your lover are still too nervous to attend a sex toy part in this virtual age you can purchase sex toys online discreetly delivered to your door so no-one is the wiser.  Choose a leading sex toys retailer that ships worldwide to your door or PO Box at reasonable pricing.  Sex Toy Parties are a great way of buying sex toys if you don’t want to physically visit a store or buy online. You can attend a sex toy party in the privacy of someone’s home or special event, you can feel the item’s among friends and everyone can experience shipping in a friendly and safe environment.

Host A Gay Sex Party!

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Being gay comes with lots of responsiveness and a few challenges. What you plan has to be both fun and safe for everyone going. The world is still close-minded about non-mainstream sexual orientation even speaking openly about it, but they are relaxing. In the end, who cares, we are expected to live our lives as we see fit in both relative safety and ease. Sexual delight is not the concern of others and things and things that can be joyful shouldn’t be put through hours of debates. Everyone deserves happiness and therefore, if you have worries or concerns in life – you should throw them all away and you should grab the opportunity and attend a gay sex party in your town. Gay parties are happening all over the world but their success depends on how well they are planned. Here are some tips to help you plan a great party.

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To begin with, make invitations if it is possible or create a facebook group. Facebook is an easy way to quickly bring people together and you can change update your plans just as easily to. The gay community is totally welcoming and therefore would be charged to attend your party, but you obviously may not want to throw a sex party for many people unless you have a stadium to accommodate everyone. Go through the guide of possible guests and send them invites. You should consider two important things here; what the guest will bring to the party and what you are offering. Your sexual satisfactions and desires versus your guests. This is a very important challenge as you don’t really want to end up with guests who really don’t add value. Now, there’s no need to be selfish here – but make sure you have a niche kind of market. There’s no use having a predominantly ‘twink’ related party and then summoning a bunch of chubby chasers. Make sure that there’s interests for all invited. There are many gay exchange programs available today that can help you plan a gay sex party.

Converse with individuals who have previously hosted a get-together before and ask particular inquiries. Scout it out on the web. In most metropolitan zones, there are sex parties for individuals who recognize in a wide range of ways. You may need to talk about something you don’t ordinarily examine with a companion, an associate, your neighborhood sex shop worker, or even an outsider. Be that as it may, in case you’re not willing to put yourself out there with your garments ON, a sex party most likely is not going to work out for you.

With your guest brochure ready, you should plan a date that will suit everyone. It goes best if you plan it on weekends and holidays. You can have a full weekend of long affair, and sexual play or an outdoor adventure or a beach party or something like that. Consider the venue when considering the party. Is your house big enough to accommodate all the guests invited or do you have to find an alternative like a hotel or something like that. Depending on your neighborhood, you may really not want people screaming from your place as it can bother your neighbors. If you have no ideas about potential hosting venues, find out from other folks especially on gay exchange programs around. There is possibility of finding a somewhere that you can enlist the help of within a day or two.

Finally, work on the other logistics like the drinks and other expenses. What is a sex party without booze and good food anyway? If you want to have a deejay in house, you may consider yourself, or if you are not good enough you may be required to hire one. If you are having a party at home, you can rent a lovely rock system? If not, you might want to hire one deejay to play at your party. If it will be held outside near a poolside, you should not use excess baggage or clothes. You can also use a mixture of different types and brands of alcohol and enjoy your gay sex party! Being gay is a choice that anyone can make. Start planning your gay sex party now and live your life, remember to have fun with anything you choose to do.

And remember as always – Play Safe!

How To Prepare For A Gay Orgy!

Gay Orgy Planning

If you have been dreaming of participating in group sex with lots of pleasure, entertainment and fun, then you should consider attending the next gay sex party. This is not a new concept as it has been in existence for years and most men not only enjoy participating in group sex but feel surges of pleasure watching other men have a good time.  It is a fantasy like no other that has been streamlined today with gay exchange programs that make it possibly for any gay person in the world to feel at home wherever he travels.

If you are considering hosting a gay orgy, you must realize that it is a lot of work to hold a successful sex party gay. Be prepared to sift through so many hot pics and sending out the invite to the right persons who will add value to the whole party and at the same time ensure that all guests enjoy themselves. Although some parties are spontaneous, the best ones are staged complete with a guest list, chronological flow of events and even some rules that all guests have to stick to for a successful bash.

Earlier, getting the word out that you are planning to throw a gay party used to be tricky, understanding that there were only but a few gay magazines around. Today, thanks to the internet, this should be the easiest part of the preparation. With social media, you can post on any gay group on Facebook and in a few hours get so many confirmations to kickoff your preparations. Note that you have to be specific in your invites so that the right persons are invited to the right party. Make it clear what you are looking for; if you need only persons interested in group sex, state it so. You can post your ad on Craig lists, Yahoo Classified, gay blogs, among others.

If you want huge gay project turnout, you need to be able to accommodate them all. Some private parties insist on a photo with every confirmation. Even though doing this might knockout some potential great guests, you will only get the best for the right party that you’re after. Ensure that you get comprehensive and accurate descriptions from the guests and what they will be expecting from the party, in fact, make it known that you will not hesitate to throw out anyone who shows with inaccurate description. It is a sex gay party and not a church conference.

You should balance the guests well so that they blend well based on their desires and expectations from the party and their ages. You should also be able to provide a bunch of differently sized condoms (hey, you never know) or if guests prefer their own brand then they should be encouraged to bring them. If you can, find some racial and ethnic blend as well to bring out the diversity. Pulling this one off can be a bit tricky unless you reside in a really diversified city, otherwise, don’t bother. If you are keen in ensuring that you get the best from a gay exchange program with its many members, don’t disclose the venue on the initial communication and only provide a general location or suburb to ensure guests know where they are roughly headed to. This will bar any gate crushers from spoiling your party and only send the location out on the specific day.

You should provide a bag so that each guest can place their normal clothes in there so no one clothes or item’s get mixed together. You can also ask guests to wear different types of clothing to show what type of sex they’ll like or what they prefer sexually so that people are connect with likewise people. For example, you can ask people who like being bottoms to wear orange hats or people who like oral play to wear pink necklaces.  On the invitation you can also suggest item’s they will need for the party like the type of lubrication, what type of condoms, how many people are going and what themed party it is. If there are any rules for this party you can also include them on the invitation.