How To Gay Cruise

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How gay men approach online dating ranges from a past time to a eight-hour-a-day obsession. Manhunt and Gaydar chatroom’s have replaced Perez Hilton, bigdickdaddy.com even  Kylie Club sites in queer bookmarks on web browsers.  Time spent online could be better utilized  in the real world. Gay men are losing their natural instincts to cruise. Living through our avatars – wellhung9, thickpound4U and other alphanumeric gems – we have lost touch with the ability to pull a man out of the frozen peas aisle of Cole’s and into our beds. Here are some hints on How To Gay Cruise the real world:

The Man Scan

Put your eyes to work by scanning for trade within your line of sight. While looking ahead set your gaydar to stun and see what possible trade is around. Keep it subtle and use that peripheral vision. You don’t want to scare away the trade.

The Crossover

The moment when a man who has set your gay scanner off and meets your eye. That fleeting exchange of eye contact is crucial so keep it brief, sexy and confident. The wrong look may suggest you are a whore looking for a fast fuck.

The Look Back

The look back should be carried out while you’re still in motion. Discreetly turn around to see if you made an impact. When the look back is there slow down until you come to a halt and slowly ease against the nearest pole, wall or other fixed object.  Continue the eye contact.

The Southern Cross

While looking and leaning, move your hand slowly and casually towards your pockets and sensually re-adjust your package. If you’re a hit, this move says it all. If your gaydar was wrong, then you can get out of an embarrassing situation with the ‘I’m hanging a little to the left and need a slight adjustment’ defence that all straight men understand. If you’re on target and the Southern Cross has been well received, proceed to the next phase.

The Kill

It’s make-or-break time so prepare to move in. While you may have been sporting a poker face up until now, it’s important to initiate some positive facial expression as you begin your descent. A slight smile reinforces your interest and confirms you’re not crippled by Botox. Smile fleetingly, not longingly; you’re not completely out of Mormon territory yet. At five metres from target give a small nod; at three metres draw attention to your mouth by wetting your lips; and at zero metres say, “Hey, what’s up?” If the response is “One guess” then it’s fair to assume you will be having sex within the next 15 minutes. If the response moves to the weather, re-align the conversation by repeating the Southern Cross move at this close distance until you have re positioned your target to your bedroom.

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The internet has changed how young and mature gay men date. Hooking up in gay chat rooms, posting ads on gay websites, watching VOD for free, or being part of interactive free live webcam shows. Has made it easy for Gay Cruising Online. Phone clubs are available to join where you can listen to messages, leave messages, and talk live with other men. The anonymity of both the internet and phone lines often allows all of us to explore freely sexual fantasies without fear of being seen or found out. Sexual exploration (not exploitation) is healthy and fun; however, sexual exploration without proper knowledge can be challenging. For example, some guys might advertise that they’re into PnP (P&P or party and play). If you’re exploring other types of sex play, make sure you know what you’re getting yourself into and what potential risks there might be before you engage in these
activities.

Here are some tips to keep in mind when cruising on-line or on the phone lines to make your gay cruising online more enjoyable and safe:

  • Keep a record of where you are going when going over to someone’s place.
  • Avoid giving out your phone number and address too freely to strangers.
  • If you’re inviting someone home and you live in an apartment, meet them at the entrance lobby. This way you avoid giving out your entry code and apartment number. It’s also easier to turn someone down if they’re not already in your apartment.
  • Don’t assume the person you’re hooking up with knows how to protect themselves from HIV transmission. Sometimes cruising from the comfort of your home might give you a false sense of safety. Just because you’re inviting people back to your place, or going over to other people’s homes, doesn’t mean you’re at lesser risk for HIV transmission.
  • The internet and the phone lines can sometimes de-humanize the cruising situation. Remember, you’re interacting with another person. Don’t be rude. Be aware of the language you use when responding.
  • It’s easier for other people to lie about themselves when you aren’t actually meeting them for the first time face-to-face. You can’t control this. Think in advance about what you would do if someone you cruised is not what he made himself out to be.
  • It can be easy to isolate yourself from the real world when you cruise online or over the phone. Look out for the following signs: you aren’t going out as much, or no longer hanging out with your usual friends. Make sure to keep your social interactions with others – be it friends, family or co-workers.

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Hope you enjoyed this step by step guide on how to gay cruise.

Author: Ben is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

My First Gay Experience

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It seems strange to talk about it now — to take something so private and place it in such a public forum — particularly since I have lived my life as a straight man.  Keeping it secret is so important, but when I was younger I did have a Novice Gay Experience!!!  I imagine I must have been about sixteen, and had worked out that I was gay. Dwayne was nearly fifteen — we went to school together, although he was in a different year. We met at a at a school function.

He was everything that I didn’t feel I could me: confident, athletic, attractive and openly gay. I had been introverted, shy and in complete denial to my sexual preferences as I still am now … it was an upper class all-boys’ school and being gay was not really an option for me. I tried to keep out of everyone’s way, that way now would notice me and no-one would question what I was about. No one knew, but my reticence and retiring nature were apparently as worthy of derision.

Dwayne, I guess because he was younger than I was, didn’t have any of these preconceptions, hang-ups or false pretenses.  When he was around I felt more confident. He treated me like a human being and it was fun and completely liberating to be around him.  I was vulnerable and desperate for some form of affirmation that my true feeling were not bad. It was inevitable that I should fall for him.

The next year there was a school trip to Holland, and we both went.  There I developed a major crush on him and he showed me by his actions that he was interested in me. I still see him in my mind now and feel an astonishing fondness for him.  I didn’t really think it would happen but — even as I have become entirely comfortable with him on the holiday and our form of ‘gay dating’ that was soon to become more.  First we started exploring Amsterdam, walking along the lovely canals – we even took a boat trip in one of the glass roofed boats.  It was fun, invigorating – a new way of life was opening up.

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At first we continued with the pretense that we were just two guy exploring a lovely Dutch city but it was obvious that a closeness and bond was developing between us.  The accidental brush each others hands that seemed to linger a few more seconds than normal.  The electricity that we felt when we were near each other.  The sun seemed to shine brighter on those spring mornings, the birds sang more clearly.  It was obvious to us both that we were not just good friend but we were falling in love.

I was a shy gay man wanting to pick up. I wasn’t sociable, and I found meeting people difficult. Yet, I was still young and very horny. What did I have to lose, and I was still horny. In a relationship, I had no idea what to expect, what were the rules or what would happen. We hired a hotel room together. I sat on a couch next to him. Then a hand rubbed my crotch, and before I could blink there was fumbling at my jeans and my raging hard on was in his mouth. Exhilarating. For a few seconds I couldn’t care about my hang ups. His mouth was so soft, warm and wet and he flicked his tongue around with practiced ease. I wanted this guy. My cock wanted this guy.

Sensing my discomfort, he grabbed my hand and led me away from the bench We both lied down and I began to stroker his hard on from his shorts. I couldn’t drop to my knees fast enough. My hands started caressing a surprisingly thick cock before I wrapped my hungry mouth around it. A slight moan escaped both of us and he lent against the tree as I went to town, leaving no skin dry and UN-licked. Hands sliding up against firm muscles and I tweaked his nipples for some nipple play. He turned on the TV and turned it to a channel to watch some hot gay porn movies. I was really enjoying my first time at the beat, and all I could think at the time was satisfying my urge and why I was so naive as to have not done this sooner but now I am a mature gay.

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