Oozing With Inked-esteem

Sexy Tattooed Woman

Tattoos, sex, confidence, self-esteem…. Do all these attributes go hand in hand with each other?

Most girls/women know that feeling of looking in the mirror naked, and not liking what they see. For those who love what they see I am insanely jealous! And I envy their confidence!

But honestly it’s something that plagues us at least once in our lives and for the extra lucky ones a lot more then that!

Results have shown that for women specifically, self-esteem has risen as the amount of tattoos has risen. According to studies by the Social Science Journal on “tattoos, gender, and well-being among American college students.”  Although this is an American study those in Australia and other countries can also relate.

The scariest results are actually that along with self-esteem rising with the more tattoos one has, so did the rate in which suicide was also attempted.

Graph of people with tattoos who have had suicide attempts
Image: Tattoo And Suicide Comparative Percentages

Tattoos were always something I wanted, much to my families’ horror and still to this day they often voice their opinions on the art of body modification. The times truly have changed though and the meanings behind tattoos aren’t what they used to be, tattoos were often closely connected with crime, heavy drinking, drugs, bikies, and so on. Still to this day the tattoos are surrounded by this stigma but the individuals who have them have changed. Along with the varying of reasons behind why people get tattoos, there is the also the reason of self-esteem.

In the beginning “young me” wanted a pretty butterfly inked permanently onto my body, for no reason other then I had always loved tattoos and art. In 2008 I was assaulted and I also discovered that after assault it is common to feel numb and disconnected from your body. I did everything too feel myself again, to take back control of my body and after some rather strategically placed self-harm attempts, this just did not satisfy. There was no pain, and the scars that were left behind only made me feel more self-conscious, and embarrassed to show my body. It did take me many, many attempts to discover this, mainly in the hope to feel the pain and relief I think I was meant to feel.  It wasn’t till after a rather abusive ex-boyfriend and the initial assault that I started to explore tattooing as a form of self-expression. I needed to know that after suffering I could turn something like depression and pain into something physical and symbolic.

Tattooing Hurts

Well it hurts most of us, I seem to have a rather high pain tolerance so I don’t feel the pain benefits but regaining that trust and control in my body I do feel. My tattoo artist loves tattooing me and I guess who wouldn’t, when you make their job a breeze by not complaining or moving while a little tiny needle drives itself into your skin at a billion miles an hour. This however gives me no fear as to where the placements of my tattoos are, and those stereotypical “most painful” spots don’t scare me or alter my decisions as to where I want my artwork to go.

Many women see tattooing their bodies as reclaiming their territory, whether they felt they lost that due to traumatic events, illness or accidents. They are proud of surviving something traumatic and almost always horrendous and numbing. No wonder why their self-esteem has risen in the meantime! Tattoos give a platform in which to express themselves and their lives and the strength that they have.

Like most I started off small, my first tattoo was lettering on my wrist which reads

“let it be”

it is something that I knew I could always look at and remind myself that my past is in my past. I seemed to self evolve from there; I then had an empty love heart tattooed onto my chest, I had two feelings for this, part of me felt empty the other part of me felt the need to remind myself my heart was still there.

After my break up from my abusive ex-boyfriend I got a feather tattooed under my butt, this was not only to represent freedom but also out of spite because he would constantly inform me that he “owned me”- this amuses me still to this day.

My next was a quote on the side of my ribcage

“you never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have”

not too long after I got birds on my foot to represent my journey.

I then took a bit of a break and my next few tattoos not only grew in size considerably but also in meaning for me.

I never liked my back; I was always a swimmer and was very into sports, so therefore I had quite a muscular back. I didn’t find this feminine at all and always disliked my shoulders, in turn I got a naked angel on my back- kneeling down, head down and wings up. This to me symbolised beauty within suffering and as such my guardian angel, it did exactly as I wanted it to, it took away from a part of my body that I did not like.

From my previous attempts in self-harm I was left with some pretty impressive scares…. So for my own beauty and happiness I got a humming bird and orchids tattooed onto my left thigh to cover those scars. I once read on a card about the meaning of hummingbirds and the definition sat perfectly for me

“Legend says that hummingbirds float free of time, caring our hopes for love, joy and celebration. The hummingbird’s delicate grace reminds us that life is rich, beauty is everywhere, every personal connection has meaning and laughter is life’s sweetest creation.”

Hummingbird Tattoo With Orchid
Image: Hummingbird Tattoo

About a year later I decided on another scar graveyard on my body and chose to tattoo my sternum with an owl, wingspread in flight. This was to symbolise Athena the Greek goodness of wisdom and war- Athena was a very important goodness and was Zeus’ daughter. She was the goddess of wisdom, courage, inspiration, civilization, law and justice, strategic warfare, mathematics, strength, strategy, the arts, crafts and skill.  Her most well-known skill set was her strategies in warfare, and was often portrayed as a companion of hero’s and is the patron goddess of heroic venture. The owl was her bird and thus symbolised all her attributes, which is why I chose to tattoo her onto me.

Owl Tattoo On Woman
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My latest tattoo, which is in the process of being finished, is a lion wearing a crown surrounded by roses on my right thigh with the words “stay strong” above.  This is a sizable piece, which takes up a decent amount of “real estate” on my leg. I kept on with the strength theme, but in a different variation, this was also to remind myself what I had forgotten over the past few years, that I am in fact strong and that I can do anything I put my mind too.

The confidence I have given myself with this tattoo has even surprised me! Body and weight changes over the years and you don’t always look the way you want to, but tattoos are to me like lingerie. Lingerie makes you feel sexy and confident. They both distract your eye from the parts of your body that you might not like and force you to focus on the artwork or piece of clothing.

With confidence comes self-awareness, although I do not overly like my body, I do love my tattoos and artwork I have on it. I don’t focus on my flaws as much anymore and I choose to look more closely at the body in which I chose to design. To me this was the step in the right direction, I’ve been through self-harm, in ways of cutting as well as starving my body through just not eating and also purging food I had just consumed. I put myself on diets where I only drank lemon water for seven days straight and ended up passing out countless times. I would cry every time I stepped into a change room, because the clothes didn’t fit and every single mirror showed every single flaw from every angle possible.

To say I hated myself was an understatement, even to the extreme of hating the way my skin looked. I would Google skin transplants- yes you read that correctly. I hated how my skin would go red, purple, blue, and the fact my skin would not tan; Thank god for fake tan!

I got myself so worked up over body image and the way in which I should look, that I forgot about what makes me different and alluring.

I now embrace the way in which I look, although not completely but enough to feel confident about myself most of the time. I love the way in which my body curves and the way my tattoos curve with it and flow, I love the mystery in which my tattoos give my body. Thus I call this inked-esteem because no matter what, my eyes distract my mind to focus on the beauty in which I have created on myself, and that beauty will never be lost.

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Is Your Penis Normal?

If obsession is anything to go by, you’d think that the majority of men in the world are gay with the amount of time they obsess over cock and cock size. It’s incredible, and even from the perspective of pornography consumption, to underwear ads, to celebrity bulges – the world is fascinated by both penis and its size. Arguably, it begins in high school where the majority of boys are conditioned into thinking that that masculinity and cock size are synonymous. Which is interesting, because unlike breasts, cock size isn’t necessarily revealed until one is naked. Breasts can be seen during the day at any time and yet we do not seem to be as obsessed about them as dick and nor is femininity represented by breasts. Realistically, guys can ‘bluff’ about the size of their dicks and very few people would be any wiser. So why is it so that the penis enhancement industry, specializing in male enlargement and the delaying of ejaculation is worth billions of dollars every year?

There’s a few reasons for this. Many GP’s don’t like to talk about sex, and inevitably, talking about sex to your GP relies on the relationship between GP and patient. Many people, in order to avoid this scenario opt for the over the phone ‘treatments’ advertised on night time TV, radio and roadside billboards, where one doesn’t have to talk to someone else face to face about their supposed dysfunctions. This means that rather than seeking professional help from your GP, you are subjected to the assistance of a Sales Rep sitting on the end of the phone who has daily targets and quota’s to meet else they potentially face the loss of their job. So ask yourself who they’re more concerned about – their own well-being and job security, or your well-being. The reality is that this industry prays upon the insecure and vulnerable and serves to reinforce those insecurities about themselves.

Great Sexpectations
Graph: Penis Identification – Is Your Penis Normal?

Guys do not want to talk about their dicks, and its little wonder when they are constantly being shamed by it and by its performance. One only has to listen to the late night ads concerning male erection enhancements whereby sexual satisfaction is determined by one’s ability to maintain their erection and rock their girlfriend’s world. Not only are these ads extraordinarily heteronormative, but it reinforces the idea that sex is concerned with penetrative sex as being good if one has a big dick. This is not necessarily the case. This partially stems from the lack of sexual education that we give to the young, whereby the only sex ed that they receive is generally in the form of pornography where they don’t realise that the sex in this way is a performance, an act, and ultimately – fake. Pornography, where the ‘average’ dick increases from the actual average of just over five inches, to just over seven inches.

This discrepancy between fake and reality, which these vulnerable young men have not yet discovered, can cause immense issues between their sexual performance and sense of self, as well as their confidence. The fact is that the average time between penetration and ejaculation was 3-7 minutes and this varies between men as well as varying between different life stages and events – so even the ‘average’ is not expected to hold true as it ultimately succumbs to a variety of factors. The greatest occurrence of Premature or rapid ejaculation occurs in younger men, but there is a direct correlation between newness and sexual experience as opposed to age. That being, men with a new sexual partner or a different situation will often experience rapid ejaculation as they learn to control and become accustomed to the different stimulation.

When it comes to dicks, there is no ‘normal’ sexual performance. And the only way you can determine if there is an actual issue when it comes to ones sexual performance is to speak to your partner. If there are concerns, or issues then it is easier to overcome them when you do it together, or, there might actually not be an issue with your performance at all! It’s true that we all have different ‘sexpectations’ but what we prefer in fantasy to what we have in reality, doesn’t always match up – which is actually okay so long as you acknowledge the difference and work around it.

There are a variety of toys and adult products which can help in that regard, but primarily accepting who you are, and what you have is key to overcoming the majority of issues within the bedroom. Building on from that, is where you would visit your Adult Stores and explore the idea of toys to supplement your sexual endevours.

Lingerie That You Will Want To Have Sex With!

Sexy clothing and adult apparel are one of the secondary needs in a sexual relationship.  In shopping malls or in other fashion houses across the globe we can see different trends of garments. Some of them have been classic fashion trends from the 50’s or 60’s and not adopted by fashion stylists. Imagine that these designs can be used only in such a way that if a person wears these garments, will turn on their partner and engage in sexual acts. Most of these designs are being used every day by thousands of people. These clothes and apparel can be found in shops in store and online.

Feeling hot can prompt you to want to have sex and to what extent has it been since you were in the state of mind? If things have chilled off between sheets between couple, it most likely has a ton to do with how provocative you feel. Figure out how to recover that magic, and your sex drive will join the party, alongside the plenty of sound reactions that go with a cheerful sexual coexistence. In case you’re feeling like an attractive diva when you’re doing the deed, you’re substantially more liable to have fun, expanding your potential for the Big “O.” And we as a whole realize that is beneficial for us. Climaxes lower circulatory strain, diminish stress, lead to better rest and a great deal more.

Blonde Woman Wearing G String

When you dress up to feel sexy you’ll want to go to your partner as you’ll feel like your in the correct frame of mind to get it on. Now that you’re knockin’ boots on the standard, your resistant framework will begin to get a move on and turn out to be more successful at battling off infections and microbes. Right on time, women, since you at long last have a superior use for those wiped out days.  Having sex will makes your body pump harder with blood-purging oxygen to your skin. The impact is a brighter, more advantageous, gleaming appearance. We as a whole recognize what you’ve been doing, and we’re envious! Your body will want to stay in this condition. When you feel as amazing as you dress it will reflect as amazing as you personally should be! You’ll never want to lose this feeling.

Imagine a fetish design or a style where any style will hold the form of a emotions of clothing created to be intensely provocative, and are not usually worn by the majority of people living in our society on any regular basis or casually. It is worn by the people of every type in specific places and in specific times. The fetish fashion has no specific origin or specific time when this type of trend has come alive. Some say that there is an estimation of trend that this garment has been worn by people two thousand years ago. At that time these types of garments were worn only by females who wanted to seduce any intense person. This type of garments was a powerful effective weapon for the women who wanted to attain the attention of a partner or have the experience of casual sex.

The 18th century found people with corset and hobble skirts that are considered to be the first application of fetish wear which have been worn by some of the women then. These types of cloths were considered taboos by normal families. In homosexuality these clothes were not allowed then and the men were not allowed to wear these types of dresses and as an evidence, this garment wasn’t popular back then for men.

But in the recent days with the change of time this point of view of people with fetish wear has been changed. Nowadays not only the women but also the men wear the fetish garments. Women usually wear this type of dress to make them look sexually attractive and commence their mood to make them make intense love. The men also wear this genius garments to make their male or female partners fully attracted to them. This distinguish has a very little functional purpose. These are mostly worn by anyone now that wants to get a celebrated pleasing look.

Now the unrivaled desires of many people push them to buy one of these commodities in order to seduce or attract other persons. There are some well reputed fetish and bondage wear supplier companies which release quality products for men and women. You can get the best bondage and fetish products from one of the best online adult stores.