Pregnancy and Sex!

sex toys pregnancy

Before falling pregnant I heard a lot of things like “wait till your pregnant you will want SEX 24/7”. And “omg it’s so much better when you are pregnant”. Now let me tell you this was not the case for me at all pregnancy at the most of times is hard balancing work and studies in-between you almost forget the time your meant to make for yourself. My sex life went from a 20/10 to a 1/10 if that.

There became a time at month 3 that I decided to give up on sex completely as I wasn’t feeling it, it became a chore more then something that I wanted or craved. It’s funny how much the brain plays a part of sex, smells, touch, heat/cold your brain decides all of that. So something that may have felt tingly and amazing before now feels over sensitive or uncomfortable.

It’s a really hard thing to come to terms with because you don’t realize how much good sex makes you happy until you stop it and no I don’t just mean orgasming its so much more than that when you form that connection with someone should I say that constant lust for attention and touch a simple kiss on the neck can be the most amazing feeling you feel every hair on your body stand up. A hot shower running down your back and having your partner wrapped around you pressed against you …… these are all the things that stop when sex stops because there is so much tension on you both that’s the last thing you want to do.

The funniest part for me is how hard it is to change that, something that came so natural before is now so strange and foreign. That’s until ……..

I found the mighty sex wand and yes I’m talking about that thing everyone says “omg that looks like a microphone”. Now let me tell you that microphone in a space of 40 seconds if that brought on a frenzy of emotion and feelings back to my life and I don’t know how I haven’t brought this into my life earlier I will discuss this later in my blog. The sensation this toy gives you solo or with a partner in my case this was the saviour of my relationship 2 months on from the “end of my relationship if you want to call it that” this toy has simply fixed so much it has filled that gap of feeling unwanted and loved I now get to have the sex life I had and even more. I couldn’t recommend this enough to pregnant or not pregnant women that just are not “feeling it” in the bed room. And for women that are thinking they cant enjoy it and they haven’t I can only tell you my personal experience and this is it.

It’s a great way to allow you to take control of your body and not relying on him to try and do something that isn’t humanly possible we put so much pressure on males from things we have watched from porn and say that they cannot do there “job right” which leads to no communication and then your relationship forms around the thought of him doing his job wrong. But ladies its your job to make you feel good as well and to aid him with the information that feels good for you every female body is different. sometimes we forget that and we accept that we do not need pleasure and that as long as he’s happy that’s all that matters I believed this for 8 years with my ex until I had enough and took control. Yes that’s 8 years without an orgasm with a partner. So the current partner I have I just simply took control and figured out what I wanted and liked and once I figured that out I seen sex in such a different light.

The mighty wand has been the highlight of my sex toy experience I have owned many many toys and this for me just made my brain scramble when I used it its funny I bought it thinking “oh it’s a vibrator cool” pffftttt was I wrong the first experience I had with this amazing toy was a midnight just finished work and really just wanted a hot shower I wasn’t expecting much from this toy at all oh boy did it prove me wrong.

I started using it in the shower solo until my partner realized what I had gotten up to and decided to join me he stepped into the shower and kissed my neck from behind this is the first time I had butterflies since being pregnant I had Goosebumps all over my body a sensation I can’t explain he entered me from behind and my god my body started going crazy with the combination of this powerful wand and the thrusts of his penis deep inside me sent me over the edge with in 40 seconds making me unable to stand, he continued to thrust while holding me up pushing me against the cold glass making my nipples hard and sensitive he continued to fuck me while pulling my hair until I started gushing which lead to him Cumming instantly. It was the most sensitive and eye rolling orgasm I have had in 8 months. And I thank the wand for this and now when I talk about pregnant sex or sex in general with anyone this toy definitely gets a mention and comes under my must buy list. Doggy is a must with this toy hits all the spots perfectly and its also waterproof which makes it fun for those cold nights when you want a hot bath or shower and also want to have fun. It also doubles as an awesome massager so I don’t know what else you could ask for!!!!!!!!


Tiarni is a consultant at the Oh Zone Adult Shops……

Sexy Pregnant Ideas!

pregnant woman dressed in white

If you are thinking about having sex whilst you are pregnant, you simply have two options; you either enjoy it and will do it or don’t and won’t. Change of hormonal levels in a woman’s body means that some women end up being put off completely with even the idea of sex while others can not ever get enough. When I was pregnant two years ago, I was very scared of having sexual intercourse with my hubby and I used to get sex toys online and give myself a treat. But down the line, I realized that were some ways that I could still enjoy sex during my pregnancy with my partner. During pregnancy, the sensitivity of women to have multiple orgasms tends to increase and areas become more sensitive especially around the vagina and nipple.

Pregnant woman enjoying the nature

Putting your partner week after week can be frustrating for both of you and lets face it, it is not the time for some oiled up naked Twister.  Because of the estrogen and progesterone levels rising they cause changes in your body that will either heighten or lower your passions. Estrogen specifically, which serves such pregnancy-related as increasing blood flow to the uterus (and to your whole pelvis), additionally increases your bodies vaginal wetness and makes your blossoms and nipples swell.

Carrying a baby can make one feel tired and drawn but this still is not an excuse as you can always have some lazy sex.  This will help you elevate from the rut you are in.  Months 4-6 I especially found difficult and found the new found awkwardness and ever expanding tummy difficult to deal with however I made an effort to keep my sex drive up, often with the use of external personal massagers when penetration did not feel quite right.

In most cases it is safe to have sex whilst pregnant.  No you cannot hurt the baby and I think the closeness of my partner helped when making love.  And it is also regular after having sex to have spotting.  Your uterus and vagina are streaming with blood and the vessels in the cervix are swollen so it is natural and generally nothing to stress over.  However how many couples have you heard have not had sex during the entire pregnancy because of spotting.?  I know a few.

If you have any doubts see your gynecologist or obstetrician. They will confirm that the amniotic fluids surrounding your precious cargo are there to protect it, and unless your man is bigger than John Holmes he is not even going to get near it.   But mix it up!  Sure you cannot do position 18-101 in the 101 Sexual Positions book but how about rewarding your devoted hubby with a blow-job.

During pregnancy things will turn you on that ordinarily do no.  You will have cravings for food you would not have even thought of eating before.  One strange thing I experienced that really turned me on was getting my husband to blow air up my vagina.  Discovering it when he was going down on me it became part of our foreplay during pregnancy that I show not interest in after child-birth.  We spoke to our Doctor about it and this is a rather common thing (not commonly spoken about).  Apparently this cools down and soothes the veins and arteries that are bulging and working overtime keeping your baby fed.  On a side note, on a few occasions I actually climaxed whilst he was doing it and it was different to any orgasms I had or have ever experienced.

My favorite sexual positions during pregnancy was –

Arm Chair Sex Position
Sex Position Chair

The Arm Chair – One of the more creative positions, the Armchair is hours of fun once you can get the rhythm down. To get into this position, the giver sits up with his legs straight while their partner sits on top of them with legs on the giver’s shoulders and arms being used for support. Unfortunately, it takes quite a bit of strength on behalf of the receiver to perform this position, so you may need to train before you can enjoy all of its glory.

Spooning – where the woman lies on side to her man and guides the penis gently to find its way into the vagina and then takes control. The penetration continues until the woman comes. This is a pleasant and comfortable position for both of you to enjoy. By combing this great sex positions with a female vibrator you will be gland to know that pregnancy doesn’t have to come between you and your sex life.

The Saddle: If you want to try something new with your sex positions, sideways sex is a great place to start! He lies down with his knees bent and legs apart, and you sort of slot in the middle at right angles to his body. With one hand on his chest, and the other on his lower leg, rock back and forth until he’s hitting the right spot. It’s all about you and you can wiggle around until it feels just right.

The one position I could not handle at all whilst pregnant was doggie style.  It felt awkward and my belly was uncomfortable.  I guess the main thing I want to get across is not to go without, because nine months is a long time for both you and your lover.