Are Senior Dating Sites Just For Seniors?

Dating Seniors

In today’s world, “seniors” are not who they used to be. People are thriving and energetic in their 50s and enjoying the dating life well beyond even those years. In most cases, these individuals are back to single life after perhaps lengthy marriages. Some lack the confidence or the know-how for the modern scene, especially with the online platform.

 

The mature age group likely went on dates back in their day by meeting potential dates in high school and college. People used to go to parties and see someone across a crowded room and take down a phone number (Cliché, right? But, true.).

 

Or others would start talking to someone at a local pub and give them a call later to ask them on a date. There was actual interaction among human beings.

 

Today, we have digitization – for everything. And in reality, for the most part, it can prove challenging for someone progressing in age to make a connection with a person of a similar age in public with whom they can then socialize. So, dating sites for over 50s is a genuine benefit.

 

Dating Into The Golden Years

 

When you reach a certain age and perhaps were half of a partnership and a parent, you might feel as though you progressed too far in life to begin again.

 

There’s certain insecurity or maybe a lack of confidence that comes with stepping out of the old role into something brand new, especially when dating is not what dating once was.

 

While the online platform is progressive, it might not be for everyone. People well over the age of 50 enjoy going out and socializing, and not all individuals are computer-literate or technologically savvy. That doesn’t mean there’s no hope. There are still ways to find love for people of all ages. Let’s look at different ideas to try mingling in an effort to meet a new mate.

 

Senior Dating Sites: 

 

Though it’s not for everyone and some are truly hesitant, the 50+ age group is among the fastest growing to make up the online dating clients. There are, in fact, niche-specific sites for people of a certain age. The most important aspect of the online platform is remaining safe.

 

Read the terms and conditions for each website you consider. It is worth the money to pay for a good site because if everyone pays, IDs are on file, and no one can be anonymous. Have friends or family assist with your profiling.

 

These people will be objective. They see you in real-time. You will likely have a higher tendency to be harsh on yourself. When asked what you’re looking for, be bold, blunt, and brief. Only disqualify the severe issues that undoubtedly break the deal.

 

Some people do still have a home phone. In these situations, you should only speak to potential dates using your mobile so that it’s untraceable back to your home address. And when it comes time to meet, drive separately and meet publicly.

 

Make sure to use a true and current picture of yourself that shows you in a positive place, not a sour face. Too often, people use photos that are years old and then come to meet and they’re not recognized that’s unfair and awkward. For those looking for males over the age of 50 go to https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_6976670 for suggestions.

 

** Speed Dating

 

The concept of speed dating is one that is relatively new  but one that is becoming quite popular among the mature group and the “Baby Boomer” generation. If you aren’t in a location where you can actively participate in a meeting group, you can do this form of dating online also, but it isn’t quite the same as the face-to-face mingling that it’s supposed to be.

 

The general idea is to meet, get to know, and have a mini date with someone in a timed format. You do this with as many people in the group as you’d like until you find a match.

 

This allows practice with socialization and helps to alleviate any shyness or lack of confidence with which you might be dealing. Speed dating is another platform that you want to thoroughly research before you engage and make sure the group you sign up for is appropriate for your specific needs.

 

A wise move would be to watch a video of how the process works so that you can prepare ahead of time. Even if you don’t find a mate, it’s actually quite a fun way to meet new friends.

 

** Right In Your Own Backyard

 

Sometimes someone is as close as your circle of friends, and you’re not open to it. When you start thinking about the possibility of dating, speak with close friends about your decision.

 

Only those closest to you can see things that you might not be able to, and these people are also the best resources to help you to get out of the house and meet new friends.

 

If you live in a senior community, there are often groups you can join where you can introduce yourself around to the other members. You can take walks through the neighborhood and meet others, enjoying some exercise as you stroll.

 

You could put your name on the board in the community building letting other residents know that you’d be available to volunteer your time for specific purposes like helping out with errands or small tasks. It’s an ideal way to make acquaintances.

 

Family members are always up to the challenge of setting up their relatives with people among their circle of friends. In many cases, these blind dates work out really well. Though you might be hesitant to take that step, it might prove successful.

 

** Sign Up For Classes

 

Whether you go back to college or join some classes to begin a new hobby, this can serve many purposes aside from meeting new people. A lot of mature adults are going back to school to pursue degrees and considering second careers later in life.

 

If that’s not a goal that you have for yourself, taking up a hobby or pursuing an interest to enjoy in your spare time is a fantastic way to find a potential match.

 

Not only will you find pleasure in a new activity to add to your free time, but because the people you meet share these same interests, you’ll have great conversation starters. You can even take the lead by inviting new friends out for coffee after the class.

 

Other opportunities with the same concept are obtaining a part-time job working with other people or volunteering for an organization. Again, sharing something in common allows the opportunity to develop a friendship that can carry outside the professional capacity.

 

Something that people should not fear, whether you’re a man or woman, is taking the lead if you find someone charming and want to pursue that interest apart from class or work.

 

It’s fine when you’re friends with someone to invite them out as a way to see if you want to pursue something further. If they aren’t aware of your intentions or aren’t interested, you’ll stay friends. No harm, no foul. Further tips can be found when viewing this link.

 

Final Thought

 

It seems that the “aged” generation’s clocks are moving backward. This group of people is more daring, confident, and thriving than what some of the “younger” generations are, keeping the over 50 dating sites hopping.

 

A dilemma is, men and women of 20 or 30 want to date women or men 50s and beyond. The attraction for these people is they offer a spirit, a vitality, an assertiveness, and experience in life that makes them desirable partners. And the senior finds a renewed sense of excitement and sees the world in a new light. It’s just curious if these younger people are allowed on these niche sites.

 

In all seriousness, for those who do struggle with joining a site or who lack the confidence to get back out into the dating world, let your family and friends help you. It’s much nicer to meet someone new when you have the comfort of a close friend or family member beside you.

 

It’s a struggle after you’ve lived a life when that was all you knew, and now you’ve got to start from scratch (speaking from experience.) But it does get easier, and you do come to that point where it’s time, and you’re ready. Then, let the fun begin.

Sex After 50

Sex After 50

I’m getting older, you’re getting older and I”ve thought about Sex After 50. If you’re a prolific reader/media consumer you’ll notice that for the most part in media advertising, movies, magazines, there is a complete lack of any form of sexual representation of sex and sexuality once you reach ‘The Age’ of 50+. Dun dun duuuuuun. You’ll notice in shows depicting families, such as Modern Family, that there is references of sex towards the younger members, but very little in terms of the older members. Indeed, a quick perusal of the hottest TV sex scenes from 5 different websites, which whilst featuring diversity in  terms of sex, sexuality, gender and race, did not have a single older couple featured within the lists. Sure, it’s understandable that marketing sells and people want to unashamedly look at hot people having sex, but therein lies the problem. What makes young bodies and sex scenes, ‘hotter’ than older couples? Is it that were terrified of the perceived mortality of our sex lives, or does it bring up the ‘ick factor’ (Munro, P, 2013, ‘Senior Moments’, The Sydney Morning Herald, 28 September,  and can be viewed in its totality here. and does it remind us too much of our parents/grandparents thinking about Sex After 50?

Is it little wonder then, with the distinct absence of mature sex within TV and popular entertainment that the subject is often not discussed because we simply don’t see it.  We have to face the truth, we age and we still have sexual desires. People think that as you get older, you take your perverted little blue pill go off quietly and have sex and hush hush don’t let anyone know about it, or you simply become a sexually desolate and isolated human being. Yet, by the other token, we have ‘insider stories’ from people working in aged care that can often make an aged care facility seem like a romping ground. Surely then, can we say that it is somewhere in the middle? Research conducted in New Zealand concluded the following statements.

  • Sexuality is an intrinsic part of the human identity
  • There is no age limit sexual responsiveness or the need for intimacy

Whilst reports on sexual behaviour within residences varied, it’s difficult to accurately determine levels of sexual contact with aged care facilities due to lack of reporting, and what exactly people report. So far this article has focused on mature sex within aged care, but what about the individuals post 50’s? Whilst the incredibly popular TV show ‘The Golden Girls’ dealt with this quite well, there’s been nothing quite the same since. The fact is this; the majority of my customers can be considered middle aged and moving forward in life. They have realised that the past relationships weren’t fulfilling enough and they’ve realised that there is more to their sex and sexuality than they had previously considered.

 

Sex After 50
Photo: Sex After 50

 

For nursing homes and establishments there needs to be greater transparency and support for mature individuals both in a relationship or otherwise. For mature people, sex is out there, it’s a real thing and it shouldn’t be hidden. Sexual aides support older bodies, and it’s only natural that they’re not the same as what they used to be. Sex then becomes more an expression of intimacy, of adoration and love. Intimacy reduces the feelings of feeling isolated and alone, beats depression and anxiety and can combat many things as we age.

Sex After 50 then becomes more an expression of intimacy, of adoration and love. Intimacy reduces the feelings of feeling isolated and alone, beats depression and anxiety and can combat many things as we age. So lets look at the changes that occur in both men and women with Sex After 50:

  • Men: Men after they reach 50 go through their own change referred to as andropause. This sees a gradual decline in the production of testosterone which results in things such as lower energy levels, lower sex drive, mood changes, erections that aren’t as strong as usual. The best way to combat these changes is to keep having sex. Erections can be stronger with regular sex and sexual activity keeps the hormones at a fairly stable level. Just because you have a decreased desire to have sex does not mean you should abandon it completely. It is important not to let sexual activity drop off as it can have drastic effects on ones mental state and put strain on relationships. If you find that your erections aren’t as strong, consider purchasing a vacuum device to pump up your erection and then clamp and hold it with a cock ring.
  • Women: Women go through their own changes called menopause. With the lower estrogen levels, women find it far more difficult to have sex as the vagina takes longer to swell up, and self lubricate. Your vagina may also be become less elastic and as such, what you could take before with ease now becomes a painful struggle. The emphasis here needs to be placed on foreplay in order to allow more time for the body to prepare, and adjust to sexual pleasure. Like men, women need to have regularly sex to ensure the elasticity of the vagina. There are numerous benefits to having sex, which include improved mental and physical health, increased lifespan, strengthen relationships. With that in mind you should consider the following tips for enjoying a happy and and active sex life.
  • Communication: It is important to communicate to your partner about what is happening to your body, and also as to how you feel as well. Keeping an open communication between the both of you helps develop intimacy and it is the intimacy which is the most important part of a sexual relationship. It’s important to discuss sex, be playful about it and talk about your desires and thoughts.
  • Intimacy: It is important to focus on intimacy and the value of physical touching. Sex does not have to always include penetrative sex with either a toy or penis – and especially as one gets older it is increasingly important to take the pressure off each other. Focus on romantic dinners and walks – build the communication and the level of intimacy. In this way you can also expand your definition of sex. Find what works for you, for some that may include sexual aides and toys, for others it may be about rekindling that spice and spontaneity. There are many options, but if you can open the channels of communication you can ensure happiness between yourself, and your partner.

About The Author:  Stephen Smith is a consultant for the Adult Lifestyle Centres and also works as a youth counselor.

My Fat Fetish Erotic Story

Fat Fetish Sex

Sex with an older women is something I’ve always weirdly fantasied about. My sexual thoughts were changing to something more extreme, I’ve never wondered about fat sex before, until one day it happened. It was a Friday afternoon and as I was heading home from work, I stopped in at my friend James’ house unannounced hoping to grab him and head out for some beers, and when his mum met me at the bottom of their stairs I asked if he was home “he is up in his bedroom” she said “head on up.”

James mum was a very large lady, with an enormous arse, huge boobs and long, dark, curly hair. She wasn’t exactly attractive, but for some strange reason I had always felt this weird affection towards her. Something about her really made me curious.

I went up to James’ room but he was not there. I swung round to see that Annie, his mum, had followed me up the stairs. “He isn’t here…” I said. “I know…” she said “he is in California for the whole weekend…” She paused for a moment and then said… “I need to do something to you. If you don’t want to it’s fine and we’ll just pretend it never happened but if you do, and I think you do, you’ll enjoy it.”

I smiled and walked closer, “I think I know what you are talking about…” I said, stroking her hair.

 

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Fat Fetish Comic

 

All of a sudden we were rushing to her bedroom. She slowly unbuttoned her purple lace top, a button at time.  I couldn’t help but stare at her folds of fat. For some reason, all it did was turn me on even more. Annie had another surprise, she reached into her bed side drawer and pulled out a long whip with 6 tails on it! This whip was not for the faint of heart, she places the ends of the whip in her hand and stretched it out in front of me. She told me she had wanted to use this on me for a long time and dreamed about taking control of me. She pushed me back on to the bed and told me to wait, then she slipped into the bathroom, but left the door just slightly open. I watched as she removed her bra and slipped into some more sexually heated, lingerie. The lingerie was a deep rose red that flowed down her body, gently easing her fat rolls.

When she came back into the room I moved her onto the bed and started to kiss her neck. She angled her head back and put her heavy arm around me as she started to undress me, she was in full control of my body because she was so strong. She slowly slid lower and lower down onto the floor. She took my pants off and knelt near my hard cock. She said “How about you beg to be sucked” as she tongued the tip of my penis in very slow circular motions. I grabbed her by the head and pulled her mouth onto my cock. She gagged and dribbled down my testicles. Her mouth was so warm and so soft compared to the other people my age I have slept with.

She cupped my testicles and sucks on my penis so hard. My penis started to grow again and the cum built up in my ball sack. She stopped sucking and I started to fuck her head. She took her mouth out and licked my balls as if they were big balls of ice-cream. She looked like she wanted to eat them. A few minutes later, as she yanked my balls I came and blew right in her mouth.

“I want to attach you to the bed,” she said. She tied me down and whipped me until my ass was red from welts. She called me a bad bad boy and if I ever came over again she would fuck me as punishment. It felt great. She then took her lingerie off, leaving a major succulent wet pussy opening. Seconds later, she was on top and I was inside her having my first fat mature sex experience. We had ridiculous, heavy sweaty sex for over an hour and four years on, I’m still fucking her. James doesn’t have a clue.

The combination of Annie being older, and was heavy something I never expected to enjoy, but now that I know what its like, I struggle to have sex that is as good with any one my age, or my size. My thoughts took on a different form, I wondered in my head what it was like to feed her some food. I want to be a fat feeder.

 

My Friends Dad Gave Me a Blow Job!

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I had just turned 16, and it went off with a bang.  Great party with friends but it was the day after and time to relax.  The last couple of years I had been questioning my sexuality and finding a desire to want to be closer with a man.  Couldn’t really share it with any of my mates though as they were all straight as and none had even given an inkling of being interested in me or another man.

So I rang Gary, my best friend who was a year older then me and asked if I could come round.  It was sweltering hot and he had a pool, so I figured it would be an awesome way to spend a lazy afternoon.  So off I went to Gary’s house and lazed around the pool with him for most of the afternoon.

About 5pm he piped up and said, “Jules, I’ve got to go football training.  You want to hang around here until I come back.  Dad won’t mind.’

I weighed up my options, they had a nice cool pool with nothing to do except enjoy the sun or a steaming hot house and cleaning up after the party.  Well, I think you would have to agree with my choice.

 

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So off went Gary as I lay on the blow up pool bed, floating not a care in the world, I might have even dozed off for a little while, when I heard this swishing of water.  As I looked up, what a surprise, here is Gary’s dad entering the pool.  He was a buff 50 year old and handsome to boot.

I said, ‘Hey, how you doing Mr Walters?”

He said, “Fine.  I hear you just turned 16.  How was the party?”

I said, ‘Recovering Mr. Walters – but you know what they say – I’m now old enough to fuck.’

Shit, I didn’t know which way to look.  Did I really say that to Gary’s dad – how embarrassing! I looked away and awkwardly splashed some water on me in a vain attempt to cool down from the awkwardness.

BUT, here was me thinking I was going to be chastised for using the F word or something but instead a grin appeared on Mr. Walters face and he slowly swam towards me.  I don’t know whether it was my testosterone or what but as he got closer I started to get an erection and by the time he got to me it was a raging hard on.  Not many places to hide when you got a hard on in a pair of speedos and no shirt.  I was just about to roll off the mat and try to find somewhere for me and my hard on to hide when Mr. Walters without saying a word put his hand on my throbbing cock starting to stroke it.  What the fuck!  He was a mature gay?

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By this stage my hormones were going through the roof and my testosterone level would have been enough to inject a whole field of race horses and my heart was racing and my head was spinning and there was no doubt in my mind that it was related to my cock being stroked.  Mr. Walters casually pulled my speedos down until my cock sprang to attention like a soldier meeting the president.  As I watched in utter disbelieve Mr. Walters put his mouth over my cock and gave me the biggest deep throat I have ever experiences.  After a couple of tugs and sucks I burst into uncontrollable ejaculations, moaning and shaking like a mad boy as Mr. Walters slowly drifted to the side of the pool and left.  Leaving me to wonder what that gay exchange was about!!

So after the first gay blow job of my life Mr. Walters just up and left the pool, without saying a word leaving me to wonder what the hell that gay exchange was about. Without knowing what to do or say I slipped off the inflatable pool mat and slowly swam to the side, getting out of the pool and wrapping a towel round me to dry off, you’d think that my cock would have died down by now – but I was still kind of buzzing. I was feeling a little light headed and I wasn’t sure whether that was because of the sun, or if I was still horny as hell. I was still in a little shock. Slowly I walked to the back sun room and called out, ‘Mr Walters’ but there was no answer.  It all seemed odd to me now, usually I would have no hesitation walking into the house with Gary my best mate but Gary was at footie practice.  Do I go in or go home?

Leaving my misgivings behind I meekly walked into the kitchen and called out again, ‘Mr Walters!’

I heard him yell out, ‘Up here Jules, in the main bedroom.’

My youthful libido started to kick in again and up the stairs I walked in my slightly wet speedo’s that did nothing to hide the excitement I was feeling again.  As I entered the main bedroom there was Mr. Walters sitting up in the bed stroking the most massive cock I had ever seen before.

It actually scared me until he said, ‘Come over here son’ as he patted the side of his bed.

I sat beside him as he continued to stroke his massive mature gay cock until he finally grabbed my hand and showed me how to stroke it.  The hardness and thickness of it gave me shivers and naughty thought came into my 16 year gay virgins head.

Mr Walters then said, ‘One good turn deserves another’.

Sslowly forced my head down onto his engorged penis.  As I parted my lips and allowed his head to enter my mouth I tasted a little pre-ejaculation fluid which was a little salty.  The furthest I had gone before in gay play was a bit of groping and touching at a drunken party so every single one of my senses was alert.  My heart was pumping and my cock was throbbing.

Mr. Walters pushed my head further down the shaft of his penis and my saliva began to lubricate it so my mouth could go up and down it without friction.  His cock was so big I could only take about a quarter of its length and its thickness filled my mouth.  He tried to force it down further but I gagged and came off his cock coughing and spluttering.

He said, ‘Don’t worry Jules, was just seeing how far you could go.’

He then pushed me down flat on the bed and went to a 69 position, he was on top and as his cock went inside and out of my mouth I could see his balls and glimpses of his firm ass.  God, I was getting turned on – and then he swallowed my cock hole again.  The man had no gag reflex as my cock was hitting the back of his throat with reckless abandon and within 30 seconds I again started ejaculating like a Cream Sundae.  This was embarrassing, it was like he knew exactly which buttons to press that would send me into a spin and I simply couldn’t control myself.

But Mr Walters knew just what to do…

 

Thoughts were twirling through me head, was I going to be a gay dud fuck, will I be able to satisfy another mature gay man.  Two ejaculations and my staying power was a matter of seconds started to put those doubts through my mind as Mr. Walters patiently waited for me to come back to reality as I eventually refocused and saw his giant cock dangling in front of my mouth.

Mr. Walters said, ‘Jules are you Ok?’

I said, ‘Sorry Mr. Walters I didn’t mean to cum.’

He laughed and maneuvered himself so he mounted me and I face down on the bed.  I could feel his iron cock hard up in the groove of my buttocks.

I said, ‘Mr Walters, I have never had sex with another man’.

He said, ‘I thought so, just take it easy and relax’.

With that he took out a bottle of SuperSlyde and applied it on my back and started to massage me.  Starting from the neck, then the back and lower back. All the time I could feel that donkey dick traveling down.  God he gave good massage and that cock felt like electricity.  He then started to rub my but cheeks, starting in a circular motion and always seeming to spread my cheeks.  Naughty thoughts ran through my head as I imagined the view that he must be getting.  Spreading my asshole wide each time he massaged.

Slowly, he rolled me to my side and slid behind me putting me in a spoon position.  I was nervous but excited and the prospect of loosing my gay virginity.  My Walters then breathed deeply in my ear and licked it and ever so slowly lubed up my ass with more SuperSlyde.  It was silky and smooth and he began to gently massage my butt-hole – it was tingling with excitement as he slowly put one and then two finger in my ass. He then went real close so I could feel his throbbing cock that now felt harder that titanium in the groove of my butt cheeks.  Slowly he started to move it up and down and with the lubricant it felt silky smooth but hard.  With the hand that he had been fingering my ass he now brought to the front and started stroking my cock again that immediately stood to attention.

He then said in a deep guttural voice, ‘Relax now Jules,’ as he bit hard on my neck and started to suck.

I could feel the head of his cock start to penetrate my ass but as it got about and inch in started to hurt.  Mr Walters seemed to read this and stopped, then slowly, ever so slowly kept pushing that massive cock of his into my virgin ass.  It was uncomfortable but not overly so and whilst he was continuing to bite down on my neck and jerk me off was almost pleasurable UNTIL… His full 8 plus inches were fully inside me and he started to pump me, the fireworks started, my ass loosened up and I was in heaven.   Oh my god, what had I been missing out on all this time as Mr Walters gentle pumps turned into thrusts.

So Mr. Walters gentle pumps turned into thrusts as he de-virginised my previously untouched butt hole.  The harder he pounded my ass the less it hurt and the more I got into it.  I started to lift my ass and go into the doggie position which seemed to encourage him more and this mature gay man was banging my asshole and I was loving it a started screaming for more. Somehow Mr Walters continued to be able to hold my cock and stroke it whilst he was pounding my cock which maintained my erection but kept the premature ejaculations I had previously worried about at bay.  It was like it didn’t matter how much he wanked my wad it just wouldn’t cum.  I was feeling on top of the world – Not only was my 16 year old asshole being sexually destroyed in the best way but I was managing to hold that embarrassment at bay.

If it was at all possible he was even pounding me harder and started to grunt and groan.  I could feel his thrust become more erratic and the force into which he was entering made me wonder if my butt hole would ever be the same.  Finally Mr Walter let out an almighty scream and I felt hot, hot semen entering deep inside my ass, flooding my prostate and now for the third time in little under an hour my loins exploded with him still inside me and man did I come.  I was letting out my own screams until after the fifth or sixth ejaculation I stopped and as we returned to the spooning position with him still inside me started trembling.  I could feel hot spunk starting to trickle out of my ass as it started to spasm slowly forcing the now semi-erect penis out.  As it slid out what felt like a cup full of jism flowed out and down my legs.

Mr. Walters said, ‘How was that Jules.’

I said, ‘The best Mr Walters.  I would never have imagined.’

He said, ‘What would you say if I asked you to come to a gay sex party with me.  The other guys would absolutely love a fresh young thing like you.’

Now knowing beyond doubt that my sexual preference was other men and wanting to experience it all.

I replied, ‘Absolutely’.

At the same time as I replied I heard running up the stairs.  Oh shit it was Gary, Mr Walters son coming home from footie practice.  I thought to myself, what the hell am I going to do now?….

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