How Do We Remain Sexually Active When Apart?

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Hi Oz, My girlfriend has recently had to move to Sydney for work while I have to stay out west for uni. Do you have any suggestions for what can help keep us sexually active together, even when we’re so far apart? We do see each other every week or two, but we both enjoy sex a lot more than that. – WH

 

Hi WH,

Thanks for your email. You, my friend, are in luck. The world of adult entertainment, be it porn or toys, has always been at the forefront of technology. Remember when Blu-Ray first came out, at the same time so did HD-DVD? Don’t remember HD-DVD, that’s because it dissappeared when the porn industry decided to exclusively use Blu-Ray. The same happened decades earlier when VHS and Beta video both hit the market.

At the moment, there are a range of different brands out there offering very interactive toys for people in situations like yours. Probably the best out there has been developed by Kiiroo. They have a range of devices for him and her available, all available to interect on the free Feel Connect app.

For her, there’s the Pearl 2, Fuse and Cliona. The Pearl 2 is a strong solid regular vibe, the Fuse is the rabbit version. The Cliona is an external toy only. For him, the Onyx 2 delivers possibly the most realistic blowjob-like sensations out on the market, while adding a Fleshlight Launch to your regular Fleshlight will turn it into an interactive thrusting toy that takes you closer to penetrative sex, with needing to stroke as you go and save you a lot of cardio.

In saying that, the Kiiroo range, including the Fleshlight variatations, can be quite pricey. We-Vibe is one of the leading sex tech brands out there, and all about adding a new level of fun to couples both near and far. Utilizing their free We-Connect app, one is about to take control of their partner’s device, from anywhere in the world.

The We-Vibe Sync is easily the most popular couples toy, and with its ergonomic u-shaped design, it provides both internal and external stimulation for her. It’s great for teasing her on date night as well as for an extra buzz during penetrative sex, but I feel it wouldn’t be the right toy in your circumstance. Perhaps she’d rather the Nova, a bulbous g-spot rabbit vibe that will really get her over the edge. For you, the Verge is a vibrating cock ring that while designed to vibe on your perenenium, is quite versatile and you can turn it around with playing together to stimulate her clit, or use it as a way to supercharge your finger action. The Vector is a nice rumbly prostate toy you may enjoy, or the We-Vibe Ditto is a vibrating anal plug that’s fun for either of you to use.

The above mentioned toys are all about interaction, taking an active role in exactly how your partner gets off. Their apps both feature in-app video connections, but if you’d rather take matters into your own hands (so to speak), there are plenty of regular free apps out there to connect with video chat functionality.

You can always check out the best couples sex toys of 2020 to get further ideas too.

To maximise this visual aspect of play together, for you I’d suggest a Fleshlight Ice. It’s similar to a regular Fleshlight, but the sheath is clear, so she can see all the goodness going on within.

For her, and for the majority of women, it’s all about clit play. Some fantastic, rechargeable bullets are out there, notably We-Vibe’s own Tango, Femme Funn’s ultra bullet, or The Queen from Evolved, a rumble toy with a flared base to allow for some insertion play too.

Lastly, if you really want the sensation of being together, and want to go old-school and lo-fi, why not make a mold of each other? Clone-A-Willy provides everything you need to make a dildo exactly from your own penis, just as the Clone-A-Pussy will provide you with a familiar feeling pocket pussy.

Good luck, and have fun!

 

Oz answers your sexual health and relationship questions..  He is a consultant at the Oh Zone adult stores.

Remote Vibrators and their Effects on Long Distant Relationships

Long distant relationships weren’t as big of a thing a few decades back. These days, a lot of couples have to spend some time apart due to work commitments and live in different cities and sometimes even different countries. And, as you can probably guess, it’s nearly impossible to keep the spark in your relationship alive when you’re hundreds of miles away from your partner. A lot have tried, but most of them have failed. In this article, we’re going to dig a bit deeper into the primary reason why long distant relationships don’t work and then provide a suggestion that will definitely work for most of you.

What is the Main Problem of long distance relationships?

You might think that the reason behind the failure of long distant relationships is that the two people involved fail to give time to each other in the midst of their busy (and separate) lives. That’s absolutely false. Couples living away from each other can actually spend a lot of time with each other. They spend half their nights video-calling on Skype or watching Friends on Netflix Party. They talk to each other throughout the day and discuss how annoying a coworker is or what they ate for dinner. Giving each other time is not the main problem, the real problem is the lack of intimacy.

Let’s face it, most people like relationships because they like the intimacy. They would much rather watch a movie while cuddling with their other half instead of watching it alone with a bowl full of popcorn. And, no matter how much you try, it’s really difficult to achieve the level of intimacy that keeps a relationship alive if you’re in a long distance relationship. Wanting intimacy is one of the fundamentals of being human.  If you find yourself in a similar predicament during a lengthy time away from your partner, then we’re sorry to say that one of you might just decide its time to move on. But, don’t worry, where there’s a problem, there’s usually a solution. And, the solution to your problem is quite an uncanny one.

Remote Control Vibrators

It’s the 21st Century and there’s something called Long Distant Vibrators. That’s right, some amazing folks thought that couples needed something to help them feel closer to each other and reintroduce the intimacy that they would have otherwise. You can’t have sex over the internet, but, at least there are devices to drive you both to orgasm at the same time!

Remote Controlled Vibrators are pretty simple. They’re connected to an app which is to be installed on your phone as well as your partner’s. You control your partner’s toy and vice versa. If you’re feeling a little naughty, you could even leave the vibrator in your panties and your partner could turn the vibrator on at any time they wished!  This can definitely lead to some interesting situations.

Basic vibrators allows your partner to direct the vibrations, but there’s some vibrators out there that take it a notch up.  If you want to learn more about the basic remote vibrator options, check out this – Remote Control Vibrators – The Definitive Guide.

They come in packs of two; a masturbation sleeve for the male and a vibrator for the female. The two devices are interconnected in such a way that as the guy thrusts the masturbation sleeve harder, the motor of the vibrator inside the female starts to vibrate harder. You can even call your other half on Skype to really get the most out of the experience.  This is probably a little too complex for most couples and most will want to start off with something simple.  If you’re just starting out and want to start off with a vibrator for a female, I highly recommend the below option.

Sync Vibrators

We-Vibe Sync™

The We-Vibe Sync™ is a good example of a line of long distant sex toys. We-Vibe is an extremely reputable sex toy developer and they have a full collection of toys made just to spice up the sex life for couples (or create one if they’re not together). We-Vibe has it’s own app called We-Connect™ that makes the whole thing so much more convenient. There are quite a few other popular couple toys as well, but in our personal opinion, there’s none like We-Vibe.

Closing Thoughts

We said this at the start of this article, it’s impossible to keep a long distant relationship alive for more than few months. There will come a time when one of the two people involved will decide to look in other directions for the fun that they’re missing out on. While long distant vibrators might not be the most perfect alternative to sex, they’re more than good enough to keep a relationship as well as the intimacy alive. So, there’s no other way to say this, if you want to keep the bond with your other half thriving, you desperately need long distant sex toys.