Planning the Best LGBTQ Wedding!

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The American society is transforming fast. The political landscape appears to be shifting in favor of same-sex relationships and gay marriages, yet gay partners cannot claim to have reached the promised land yet. Holding a successful and legally-recognized best gay wedding still poses very unique challenges to same-sex couples Currently, there still exists a myriad of questions and issues that same-sex couples face during the planning of their wedding which are not simply a worry for heterosexual couples. They include the following

Deciding on Who to Invite to Your Wedding

Among the most taunting challenges gay couples address when making a decision on who to invite to their wedding is which among their family members and friends will be supportive of their wedding and marriage. According to Bernadette C. Smith – the founder and president of 14 Stories, a Boston- and New York-based gay-wedding-planning company – some people won’t mind if their uncle or nephew is in a gay relationship but will consider a marriage resulting from the same a tandem too far! Therefore, you need to do a good evaluation of who should really attend this happiest-day-of-your-lives event.

 

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Legal and Social Barriers

As at present, sexual orientation is still not recognized by anti-discrimination laws in about 29 US states. This means that a country club or florist in Texas can refuse to plan a wedding for an LGBT couple because they are gay or transgendered without breaking any anti-discrimination law. More subtle discrimination could include not returning emails or your phone calls, or a venue becoming booked all of a sudden just because the owner has realized that it is a same-sex couple making a booking for their wedding. Therefore, unless it is a hired wedding-planner doing it for you, as same-sex couples, you must always come out to each and every vendor, venue-owner or photographer you contact so that you are aware of any reservations that they may have against a same-sex wedding. Smith advises gay couples to try as much as possible to look out for gay-owned businesses for your wedding services. These vendors speak “your language”, understand your culture and will obviously be more than glad to do a good job for one of their own flock!

Is a Pre-Nuptual Agreement necessary?

Maybe, maybe not. A pre-nuputial agreement is more beneficial to the wealthier spouse, but it can generally help you navigate the tax waters just in case you divorce. Since the Federal Government does not recognize gay marriage as yet, yours is technically a state marriage. So you should take steps that will avoid transfer taxes in case of split-up.

What about incorporating Religion into Our Wedding Ceremony?.

Many faiths are obviously anti-gay, but others welcome gay relationships and marriages. A former Catholic priest, Fr Anthony Adams – who performs wedding ceremonies for same-sex couples in New York – advices God-loving gay couples who want to wed in church to be creative by reinventing the usual symbolic words and gestures to suit your own spirituality. For instance, you may get a marriage officiator from another faith altogether and come up with your own customized vows but with a skew towards the normal religious ones.  A fairly standard text could also be used i.e. the officiator talks about what God’s marriage covenant means, but only for the man and wife part! Even Jewish customs could be tweaked to suit gay couples. For example, have two glasses broken for two Jewish lesbians wedding! What about the man to break the glass if you decide to use one glass? The couple take turns to break the glass together!

Can You Look Beyond the “Bride and Groom” Tradition

It is true that the wedding industry has been traditionally overly bride-focused, i.e. we hear of the bridal party; contracts and forms refer to the bride and groom; while wedding attendees sit on either the bride’s side or groom’s side. As a gay couple, it is up to you to decide how to break these traditions. For instance, let it be your personal choice what you choose as your wedding dress. If you are two brides, you can choose to wear two dresses, two suits or a suit for one and a dress for the other. If you are two grooms and want to wear full black suits, or one of you wears a white tux and the other a black one, who cares? It is your wedding and you are at liberty to choose whatever you want! Since the bride walked down the aisle traditionally, a wedding with two brides or two grooms can be a headache. To avoid the question of who is the bride and who is not, you can just walk down the aisle hand-in-hand, or if space allows, just use two aisles!

What about Post-Wedding Decisions like Honeymoon?

Gay marriages are still illegal in some US states and most nations across the world, so deciding on your honeymoon’s destination can get really complicated. Traveling together as a married couple internationally or in some states in the US will mostly be illegal. This means that you will have to carry with you some extra paperwork that will prove your relationship in case of any medical emergency for example.  This obviously will cost you thousands of dollars in attorney fees.

Couples taking each other’s name or creating a new name together will also find legal barriers hectic. For example, you may get legally wed in New York but on getting back to Texas, your name change will not be valid by just presenting your marriage license. You have to go through another legal process via the Texas court system to effect a change of name, obviously more costly and time-consuming. Your challenges are more complicated if you have children involved, resulting to extra paperwork, legal fees, second-parent-adoption issues to address,.

In conclusion, and as you can see for yourself, planning the best gay wedding is not a walk in the park. All these and other issues will always be there, but you need to stay true to who you really are. Do not subscribe to a low-profile boring wedding if you are not a low-profile boring couple. Your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime experience, let it be really fun and express who you are. You have no apologies for being who you are!

 

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10 Reasons Why I Love Being Gay!

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Gone are the days when we used to be stereotyped for being gay, when people would look at us like they wished we would just die. These days we can walk around the neighborhood stealing glances at guys and even look at others who I consider cute straight in the eyes without other people paying attention.  I love being gay. I acknowledge that I am a gay guy and proud of it and having come out more than 10 years ago, ever since I was in Year 8 at school. I would also like to acknowledge the fact that being gay has played a big role in shaping me into this confident, committed, hardworking, and successful person that I am today. Many people believe that being gay entails having a tough and difficult life. To some extend yes, but life is not that easy for the straight people either so in reality the same but different to straight guys who have to worry more about family, wives, supporting others and more. All factors considered life is what you make it and according to me, it is about looking at any negative things and try to turn them into positive ones. Here are reasons why I love being gay.

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Being gay is most amazing as I get to experience the joys of both worlds, but for that to happen, I first had to accept and love being gay myself here are my top 10 reasons why I love being gay:

1  Appreciation of both genders:

Unlike most straight men who would not dare to admit that another guy is attractive, it goes without saying that I find guys attractive and at the same time appreciate attractive women. One great advantage of being gay is that I am able to smile at both men and women whom I find attractive and tell them to their face, ‘you are good-looking’ without necessarily having to worry about what they think of me.

2  We make the best friends:

While we gay people love straight women, we would not trade in being gay. This is due to the fact being a Singapore Gay is like the better of the two worlds. I am capable of borrowing the best from both feminine and masculine stereotypes. We make the best friends. We are dependable, fierce advocates, we tell you what you want to hear, when you need to hear – although sometimes we can be bitchy, dance and celebrate with you, fight for you, and hold your hair when you are puking. If you are female we will protect you from other straight men, and if you are a straight male protect you from other gay me, take you out, cheer you up, and most importantly, we will always be there for you when you need us.

3   People consider my insults a joke:

I would be like ‘Bitch what the fuck are you wearing?’ and she would be like,’What, Where?’ and I would be like ‘No no, Bitch I am just kidding! You f*ckin look gorgeous!’ and my fag hag would laugh it off like it is the best joke she’s ever heard. Now imagine what would happen if a straight guy told a woman or even his girlfriend that. The things we can get away with is why I love being gay.

4  Power to mock other gays:

One of the funniest benefits of being gay is that I can joke about my sexuality. This is great because it usually eases anxiety and awkwardness in defensive conversations, and even lightens the mood very easily. This is only restricted to gays because if a straight person makes such remarks, they will appear rude or homophobic. In our case it is just being comedic.

5  We make others laugh:

I personally believe we gays are angels send to earth to cheer others and make them laugh. People easily get amused when I try to do certain things in a manly way. As a homosexual with gay actions and voice, it is interesting to see other people amused when I do some things. I have friends who occasionally request me to speak with a very deep voice, and they easily laugh their heads off when I do.

6  Positive negativity:

Another one of my reasons is positive negativity, which I interpret as allowing those to hate you. I will not lie to you that everyone is going to like your newly found status. I personally had my fair share of condemnation, but what did I do? I channeled that into a smile and motivation to progress, and even become a better person.

7  Travel:

Compared to many married straight people, we make a lot of money and have a lot of disposable income. Probably the main reason is because, unlike the straight people, we are not tied down by certain expenses, particularly those associated with having kids. As a result, we look for other recreational ways to spend it, such as gay traveling. I personally do travel a lot. It is my hobby. I have traveled across all the five continents and it is such a great experience.

8  Part of a cause:

Believe it or not, I really love this reason. There are very few people in the history of our universe who have managed to go against the administration and succeeded. We as the gay community are a good example. Being gay automatically incorporates you to our major cause, which is to try and change the perspective of other people and even help or teach them about homosexuality; and so far so good. How cool is it to be part of history?

9  Meeting new friends:

Initially, I used to be scared of the thought of opening up, because I believed in doing so I would lose all my friends. The truth is this is likely to happen, but along the way most of my friends, including those I thought would never cope with the idea were cool with it; in fact, most of my friendships strengthened. In addition, I got to meet new people, especially those who shared the same status as I and built new friendships and relationships.

10  Loving who I want:

This is another great reason why I enjoy being a gay guy. I get to choose and love who I feel like, with the ability to genuinely love him without pretending. Being gay to me means I get to go through my journey of life with another guy, whom I adore, besides me. I believe this tops every gay person’s list.

Are You Gay & In Love?

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The question of if you have found the right partner for you is never far when a relationship seems to be successful. Matter of the truth is that gay dating help affirms that one can never make sure that this gentleman is the right one for you. However, there should be things that you can see and understand if it is right, right? This article will present you some of the most common tips that can help you understand whether you have found the right one for you.

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  • He looks unique to your eyes and takes your breath away, simply as that. It is like the whole world just came in your head and bang, it hits you without warning. You got sort of blindsided and you are ignorant but you know that he is the one for you when the moment strikes. Afterward he would confess that he felt exactly the same thing about you the moment he saw your eyes. His exceptional compared to everyone else. When you’re enamored, you start to think your adored is one of a kind. The conviction is combined with a powerlessness to feel sentimental enthusiasm for any other person. Fisher and her associates trust this resolve comes about because of hoisted levels of focal dopamine, a synthetic required in consideration and center in your cerebrum.
  • Imagining your life without him in it drives you to despair and he feels the same way. He can’t even seem to find ease in sleep if you are not around and he feels anxious. Individuals in adoration consistently display indications of passionate reliance on their relationship, including possessiveness, desire, apprehension of dismissal, and division nervousness.
  • You want to introduce him to your family in order that they get to know how wonderful he is and he wants to do the same thing to you too. You really make plans in bringing the two families together no matter what.
  • When you are around him you have that weird feeling in your stomach, uncertain and yet sure at the same time that you are with him and he with you. This feeling leads to something unique.
  • Sometimes physical attraction and reaction can become too unbearable and hard when you are not around each other.
  • You feel like you’re ten feet tall when you are around them, and yet as well you are feeling like an excited child who has a new toy which you can’t wait to play with. This sense of the need for discovery seems to be mutual, too.You bob between invigoration, happiness, expanded vitality, restlessness, loss of ravenousness, trembling, a hustling heart and quickened breathing, and in addition tension, frenzy and sentiments of sadness when your relationship endures even the littlest difficulty. These emotional episodes parallel the conduct of medication addicts. What’s more, to be sure, when in-adoration individuals are indicated photos of their friends and family, it starts up the same districts of the cerebrum that actuate when a medication junkie takes a hit. Being infatuated, analysts say, is a type of fixation.
  • You have only known him for a while and yet you know that you know all things about him, you and he seem to think across the same lines on issues that may be essential for the moment and you are both in the same wave of communication.
  • Individuals who are genuinely infatuated tend to concentrate on the positive characteristics of their darling, while disregarding his or her negative qualities. They additionally concentrate on inconsequential occasions and protests that help them to remember their adored one, staring off into space about these valuable little minutes and keepsakes. This engaged consideration is likewise thought to come about because of raised levels of focal dopamine, and a spike in focal norepinephrine, a concoction connected with expanded memory within the sight of new boosts.
  • You and he are talking perfectly with each other and I don’t mean just making a simple conversation, but in fact talk about deep talks that mean a lot to both of you.
  • You are happy when you’re with him and he does things and everything in his power to make you happy while avoiding those which resulted to your pain or discomfort. He will not do anything to upset you but instead he will rather entertain you to your desires.
  • Individuals who are enamored report that they spend, by and large, more than 85 percent of their waking hours pondering over their “adoration object.” Intrusive considering, as this type of fanatical conduct is called, may come about because of diminished levels of focal serotonin in the mind, a condition that has been connected with fanatical conduct already.
  • You both seem to speak a lot about the future in your life with each other instead of just the present events.
  • Experiencing some kind of misfortune with someone else has a tendency to increase sentimental fascination. Focal dopamine might be in charge of this response, as well, since exploration demonstrates that when a prize is deferred, dopamine-creating neurons in the mid-cerebrum area turn out to be more beneficial.
  • So get to know about gay dating and relationships – it is not as scary as it first may seem.

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Gay Long Term Relationships

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Love doesn’t make any discrimination and it is equal on homosexual, gay and lesbian relationships like in straight relationships. Love, sincerity, desire, respect and individuality are the same in every relationship. We are all people who respond to other people who touch our souls with true love. There are two major types of people, a) masculine, and b) feminine. Both men and women range from extreme masculine to extreme feminine and all points in-between. Success can be found in any combination to build on individual strengths without bias to criticism. No one is perfect and everyone without exception has to understand differences, faults and benefits alike. Balance at its core, is enhanced when it exists between both masculine and feminine, as situations require. That’s not to say that gender is an important part of the relationship, all relationships will switch at times where one partner looks after the other and helps each other in times of need.

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In human form, we expect that, men and women is the only accepted relationship and only situation by which love shall be accepted. This is wrong. Love in its raw form has to find a home because people want it. For ways to enhance the loving relationship experienced by gays is to commence with truth and work. Fidelity, if agreed upon, has to be a common a denominator in all relationship. When trust is present, we relax and allow ourselves to accept and embrace love that comes in human form and try to form a perfect gay couple relationship.

Spirituality and true love is important for all relationships. Forget about your human appearance because love is not concerned with the exterior and the material but instead it is drawn to the inner soul. When we acknowledge the truth of spirituality and true love then we transcend limitations and move according to our plan with unconditional love for our partner.

Commitment must be balanced in order to add to freedom and peace alleviating from stresses beyond the everyday obstacles of life within our societal network. As both as a couple in the relationship you need to validate your commitment level by promising to give your utmost to the longevity of your love without indulging in unnecessary grudges, unpleasantness or even avoidance. Desire is one element we may refrain from allowing to become obsolete because as we enrich each other’s characters through connection you need to reinforce the commitment that brought you together in the first place. Desire is the main dish and you need to use the energy so that it can transport both of you through each day without tiredness and boredom.

Growth is never to be excused in any loving relationship because without the presence of growth all the former factors of trust, commitment and desire shall rust away in apathy and boredom. All humans without exception, but especially those of us in loving relationships, desire appreciation through encouragement to attain all the possible capabilities our own self are searching for in order to be fulfilled.

Try not to hope to be one and the same. One of the more silly myths about

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is the possibility of the perfect partner – that there is somebody who might be listening who is your ideal match. A decent relationship is about exploring the various contrasts between you – over legislative issues, sustenance, cash, how to bring up youngsters. It’s those distinctions that make life all the more intriguing, as our mate opens up a radical better approach for seeing or comprehension the world. Appreciate what others bring to the table as opposed to attempting to change them to fit your own particular layout of how life and affection ought to be. Our individuality is the primary attraction factor in any relationship thus when it is enhanced with the aforementioned contributions the relationship will become richer and more stable.

When we begin a relationship we get a kick out of the chance to feel in control, capable even – to shield ourselves from the powerlessness that accompanies opening up to a significant other. We may convey the hurt from past connections, so we secure ourselves by attempting to show up in control. However no relationship was ever developed by darlings’ endeavors to attest themselves over each other – rather, it is through the common investigation of accepting each other’s defects, insecurities, fears and nerves that genuine association happens. It might sound irrational however it’s valid.

Comprehend that you can just create yourself. We frequently experience passionate feelings for a man who has the qualities that we might want to create in ourselves. We see all the sprouting conceivable outcomes and are eager to be acknowledged by such a magnificent and impeccable individual. Keep an eye out! This occasionally implies as opposed to building up the qualities in yourself that you might want, you will attempt to build up the other individual’s potential rather, and this makes destruction.

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The Commitment Project

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The commitment project was started by Evan Cooper.  He wanted gay and lesbian couples who have been together for longer than 8.7 years to appear on a billboard at Sydney Town Hall train station.  Plans will then be made to replicate this billboard in Melbourne and other Capital Cities around the rest of Australia. Many suburbanites toward the beginning of today at Sydney’s Town Hall train station saw 25 same-sex couples calling for lawful fairness for their relationship. The announcement, which was introduced overnight on Platform 1 of the bustling focal city travel stop, advances The Commitment Project, a site battle which reports long haul gay and lesbian submitted connections. Couples from all over Australia are appeared, some imagined with their kids. “I am focused on the individual I adore” and “I am resolved to be glad for who I am,” are among the quotes appeared.

Darren and I were lucky enough to have been chosen to appear on the billboard {that’s us bottom row 5th from the left).  We and many other gay and lesbian couples have been together for longer than our parents aunties and uncles and goes to show that the gay and lesbian population can be just as monogamous and loving  as heterosexual relationships.

“But this project is about more than just “gay marriage” I really hope that these simple images of loving couples will help reduce homophobia, will inspire young people to keep their romantic dreams and for parents to know that their gay, lesbian and transgendered children have just as much chance of having a long term and happy family life as anyone else.Commitment Project is aimed to show the wider community that for all our differences we still fundamentally want the same thing, to be allowed to love who we love.”

Darren and I are proud to be a part of the Commitment Project and support same sex marriage.  With the upcoming Federal Election in Australia coming up it is important that we all cast a vote for what is right and should be our right.

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“As indicated by the Australian Bureau of Statistics the middle length of an Australian Marriage is 8.7 years so I have utilized this number as the base period of time to be a piece of this task,” says the venture’s organizer Evan Cooper. Look at a bigger picture of the board here. “This venture is about more than simply ‘gay marriage’,” Cooper clarifies. “I truly trust that these basic pictures of cherishing couples will lessen homophobia, will motivate youngsters to keep their sentimental dreams and for guardians to realize that their gay, lesbian and transgendered kids have the same amount of possibility of having a long haul and upbeat family life as any other person.”

Sydney’s Lord Mayor Clover Moore has become behind the activity. “And in addition giving the battle for equivalent acknowledgment a human measurement, the photographs ought to energize youthful lesbians and gay men and their families to trust that discovering joy with a long haul accomplice is a reasonable goal,” she says. The bulletin will be authoritatively propelled this Sunday September 11 from 3-5pm at a social event at the Bank Hotel in Newtown. Redesign: See our photographs from the dispatch here.

There are incalculable grounds whereupon we should also support gay marriage. Nothing is less demanding to acknowledge than each individual on Earth merits the respect to be dealt with as he or she wishes to be dealt with. On this earth we have entire groups of people disregarded in our society. As a society we should be accepting of each other and work together as a community. In all that we do, we ought to try to expand people’s level of joy and minimize pain.The seperation of same sex marriage from our society causes agony among the people who arn’t accepted. Why should gay, lesbian, or bisexual couples be ignored if they have been together, working with in the community for such a lengthy period of time. If two people truly love each other, shouldn’t they be able to be recognised legally by the government. Marriage is a part of the modern tradition and is the basis for beginning a family environment with joint ownership and responsibilities.