There is nothing like the freedom and accomplishment you get when showing others that you are gay. The feeling of freedom when you can choose your partner is unique. You can eventually stop hiding and lying and you can finally enjoy your life as an openly gay person. On the weird angle there are those people that never get out of the closet and don’t show who they truly are. Although you are indeed anxious to experience and learn all that the gay life has to offer, there are few things you should take into consideration. By following some useful tips you can live your life smoothly. Don’t be a newbie. This means that you are new to this life. And when you are new to something you are nervous and tend to do everything immediately. Don’t try to pressure things and live experiences fast. Celebrate your occasion and experience each matter like its unique.
At the beginning of the new stage, its best to stay single. You are living a new part of your life. The last thing you want is to end up in a serious relationship and not having the freedom to live. Remember also that you are a newbie and most gays out there will not get involved emotionally with a newbie. You need to explore yourself in the gay life. You may need to overcome a few troubles during these transitions, and other gays don’t want to be involved with a newbie’s problems. They have been through a lot like you so this is your time to overcome the problems alone. When you do overcome them and become more experienced, you can search for a gay relationship.
An important thing to take into consideration is staying harmless by using condoms. A newbie with your enthusiasm can act on things fast. It is not unusual for new gays to catch an STD. You may be pure and new to this life, but this doesn’t mean that your partner is experiencing his first time too. Always wear protection and bring condoms with you at all times. You never know what situation can develop, after a simple conversation or from a thoughtless act. You need to be always prepared.
Another important thing you need to consider is staying safe by other harmful things. Safe sex and STDs are not the only issues within the gay life. There are several aspects of the gay life that can cause other problems and safety issues. You need to be careful not to be accustomed to any substances or alcohol. Gay life likes dancing, cocktails, clubbing and sometimes drugs, like all other people. The difference is that you just came out of the closet and you are vulnerable. People are not like you and will not always want the good for you. You need to understand that you are alone in the beginning. This way you can smoothly enjoy your gay life.
When you are ready, you can begin to look for a relationship and also for the new gay men that want to experience their first gay relationship. Bellow you will find few dating tips that can help you get in the gay dating scene and maybe even find your perfect gay match. An important factor to successful dating knows what type of gay men you like. If you are a man that likes sports, loves the gym and enjoy bike riding or swimming, you might want to consider meeting gay people that share the same passion and enjoy the same activities with you. As the history says, opposites do attract so you can permit a bit of flexibility when you are choosing your single gay man for dating.
It is important to know what type of relationship you want. This will save you from the trouble of meeting all the kinds of gay men. Most singles that get into a relationship don’t know what they want from it. You need to understand and find out which category you fit into such us gay men looking for casual dating, gay men looking for serious long term dating, gay men looking for marriage, gay men looking for friendship with other gay people or gay men looking to have fun. When you first meet someone you should discuss with him what you are both hoping to get out of the relationship. If you agree then you can move on with him. If not, you should move on alone and search for something else.
Another priority you need to set, is understand what you want. A single gay man especially a gay man that recently got out of the closet may fall for a straight man. Falling for a straight man will get you in trouble and will break you heart sooner or later, so avoid straight men. The base for any ideal relationship whether you are gay or straight, is friendship. As we all know, friends make the best lovers, so if you want to find the ideal match, you first have to be friends with them.
Keep in mind that not all gay men are looking for love. Many gay men are looking to live their life to the fullest and have fun. Be responsible of your own happiness and do not get discouraged or disappointed if you can’t find someone for a relationship. Sooner or later the ideal partner will find you. If you want to start dating now, you can search the several available online dating sites. You can even place your profile in a website specifically for gay men and wait for Mr. Right guy to knock on your door. Whether you are a single gay man or a gay man looking just to have fun or date someone, I wish you a successful gay dating course. Remember that eventually you will find what you are looking for.
PJ Weir was employed at the Gay Exchange for over a decade and was a regular contributor to the blog. He is a gay activist and an advocate for same sex marriage. PJ is proud of his aboriginal descent and has remained in a long term relationship with his partner Darren.
PJ left work in late 2014 as his mother fell ill. He has moved to Queensland where he has become her full time carer.
Unfortunately the iconic Gay Exchange, Sydney’s first all gay adult store closed down in June of 2017 as the building was taken over by the State Transit Authority to build the new rail.