10 Ways To Plan Your First Gay Date!

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Dating can be an anxious task for many gay men. We understand the obstacles that you can meet during dating another gay man. Living in a straight dominant and stereotyped society, this can be an obstacle by itself. The following tips in this article are some of the most important things you need to keep in mind to ensure that your date with another gay man will be successful. This way you will ensure that your unique first date will ask you again for a second date.

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  • Choose the ideal place to meet as this is very important. Make it a quiet, neutral place outside of your home and away from noisy gay clubs or bars. You want to be able to communicate easily with your date.

 

  • Focus on your date. Since this is a new opportunity to connect, avoid distractions. Relate directly to him and listen to what he has to say.

 

  • Balance the conversation and don’t monopolize it with rambling talk about yourself or your accomplishments, or your ex’s. If he starts to do something similar you should probably reconsider booking a second date. Stay in the present and avoid talking about your ex boyfriends. Your date doesn’t want to hear about it on your first meeting. Concentrate on interests or points of view you have in common. Deal with the present and not the past. It’s ordinary for the individual you are meeting for that first date to be interested about your identity. Be interested in sharing the nuts and bolts, including what you do, where you are from and things you find intriguing.

 

  • In any case, be cautious of oversharing. This implies being aware of revealing an excessive amount of too early, which could bring about your date to feel like you are boasting.  Points to keep away from incorporate your present pay, the kind of auto you drive or the amount you are paying for rent. On the off chance that you two hit it off, there will be a lot of time to open up about your own data. The exact opposite thing you need is the person sitting opposite you to think you are a seething narcissist. Thus the point here is to share carefully. Which drives us to our next point.

 

  • Let the positive energy flow. Let’s face it. First impressions are important. If you’re flowing negative energy your date will never become interested in you so relax.

 

  • Getting sexual right away doesn’t usually work out. Allow yourself time to balance physical attraction with other important elements like basic communication and similar outlooks and interests.

 

  • Pacing is important. You can’t take a relationship faster than the pace at which both guys are comfortable. In other words, if you tend to be more intense or serious than the other guy, relax. Allow him time to discover how he feels and wants to proceed, so let go of needing to control the outcome.

 

  • Unequal attraction means tuning into vibes from the other guy. Be honest with yourself as often the level of attraction is not equal. If you sense your attraction to him is not really reciprocated, don’t try to force the issue. Let it go and direct your energy toward a more promising potential. And if you’re the one who’s less interested, let the other guy know as quickly as possible.

 

  • Follow through and respect your date. Phone calls not returned and lack of follow through are a real issue for everyone. We’ve probably all been on both sides of this issue and it’s really simple. Have enough respect for each other to follow through and communicate where things stand. That way you can both move forward together.

 

  • Should your first date be at an eatery or a place where liquor is served, it may be a smart thought to choose ahead of time to have “only one”. That is correct – only one. Here is the reason. When you drink a lot on a first date, you may send the accidental message that you require liquor keeping in mind the end goal to have a good time. More terrible, you may appear to be messy. Is that what you truly need?  An incredible approach to maintain a strategic distance from liquor on a first date is to just not associate with it. For instance, rather than going eatery where liquor is served, why not go for dessert or espresso? Shouldn’t something be said about somewhere fun like a zoo or a stroll in the recreation center? The principle indicate here is be aware of liquor use. Along these lines your basic leadership isn’t disabled or your judgment.

By following all these important gay dating tips you ensure that your first date will be successful and the second date near the corner.

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14 Exceptional Gay Dating Tips

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You have just met a sexy man and you have his name and number and few of the conversations that you did via grindr. You finally arranged to go out on a first date and you are excited about spending some face to face time, while being nervous at the same time because you don’t know how things will turn out. You are not sure where to go, or what should do with him at the first date.  Gay First Dating is hard for everyone, especially when the gay date is also the first. Many men sabotage themselves before even getting in person with the other man.  In this article, I am presenting you with few tips that will not only take that anxiety off you, but also will increase your chance of experiencing the best gay first dating scene with these Gay Dating Tips while scoring a second one soon.

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  1. Always be yourself: You may be the sweetest and most elegant guy in the world when you get to know someone. But, when you just meet guys you can be a bit socially inept and just a  teeny bit awkward. In most cases, there are only a few seconds to complete a successful meeting as it’s within our nature to quickly determine where someone or something fits into our world. One wrong word or move can easily kill that sensual vibe. The reality is, not much you say or do will turn him off if he’s into you from the start. You’ll either attract him or agree on everything with him from the start or not and the awkwardness may be what he’s attracted to. Another reality is most gay men come out of the closet waiting for someone to choose them instead of the other way around. Use this to your advantage. Whoever you are, whatever you look like and however smooth, eccentric or weird your personality is, you can take advantage of the situation as it being your choice and your chance and not his. When you show the real you, the focus shifts from what you think you’re doing wrong to whether if he is the one you really want – meaning you’re less concerned about yourself and focusing on the present.
  2. Never exaggerate: If you’re online and claim the movie Anaconda was based on your penis size, but instead you have a penis that looks like more of a water snake, you’ll only look like an idiot in the end when you meet him. Always be honest with the other person. If you haven’t been to a gym or never been the athletic type of guy don’t worry. Similarly, chances are you’re not just looking for friends if you’re cruising for an hour long meet up. Most of the gay men who meet other gay men don’t lie on purpose; it’s just easier on the ego to try and anticipate what other guys want. It’s not uncommon to try and read their minds and portray ourselves as things we’re not just to make them like us. But, we’re the most confident when we’re direct and honest. It’s better to be upfront, sincere, real and state exactly what you’re looking for, and keep to exactly who you are.
  3. Go on a gay date by yourself: Literally take yourself on a date so include it in your diary, plan it out down to the tiniest detail, and be your own prince charming. Treat yourself the way you’d treat your date. Have the brilliant, smart conversations you’d love to have when you’re on the perfect date but just don’t talk out loud unless it’s in the comfort of your car, out in the park, or somewhere where people won’t hear you and decide to mark you as a crazy guy. The point of this exercise is to get to know yourself at a deeper level, so that you can improve your gay dating ability. It might sound crazy, but it’s about getting yourself out of that routine you’re in and trying something different.
  4. Check your expectations: The best way to ensure that you don’t get disappointed is by checking that your expectations are met on your date. Everyone wants to find a partner but the first goal is to get to know this person and see if there is chemistry between you. Take the accentuation off of it being a date and rather see it as an opportunity to meet a potential new companion. This can “lift the spirits” and permit you to unwind without concentrating on the result of the date. Abstain from setting an excessive number of trusts and desires on the experience; let it develop normally and if a sparkle lights amid your time together, then that is a special reward! Always have fun and go into it with the idea that you’re there to have fun, not invite him to meet your parents or to the prom.  Even if you think the guy is the best thing ever, only the future will tell if the relationship is lust or love.
  5. Don’t go to a dinner, club or cinema with your first date: All of the above choices will interrupt conversation. If you do a dinner, there will be a period where your mouth will be full and not able to talk. On the other hand, a club or a cinema will not let you talk to each other with that loud sound.
  6. Don’t go on a first date on Friday or Saturday: Fridays and Saturdays are the nights where most single men out there have things planned with their friends. This means that anything that will disturb your date, will automatically leave you with the thought “I could have been with someone else” thereby destroying that positive chemistry that you may have felt.
  7. Have a short date: At the point when setting a period and spot for your date, make sure to make it a short meeting (1-2 hours) surprisingly and select a spot that is either action arranged or takes into account heaps of chance to talk. Maintain a strategic distance from motion pictures and rather settle on a short social affair at a café or at the zoo. Making it brief takes a great deal of the weight off, particularly on the off chance that you locate you two aren’t perfect, and takes into consideration solid pacing of your dating relationship. You can simply amplify the date in case you’re getting along broadly.
  8. Be a gentleman: Men find manners sexy, so be a gentleman during your date. Make sure you are always being polite and considerate to your date and anyone else for that matter, even the waiter. Your date will check how you treat others during your gay first date.
  9. Relax: In case you’re especially anxious, take some an opportunity to do some unwinding works out (profound breathing, representation, and so forth.) to mitigate yourself and get focused. In case you’re stressed over what to discuss, create a rundown of conceivable thoughts heretofore and pretend with a companion to fabricate certainty. In any case, don’t depend a lot on this or you’ll seem hardened and practiced. Be cool and act naturally. This isn’t about execution.
  10. Be intimate: I advise you to create intimacy during your first date. First impression matters, so create the intimacy now. It is better to sit next to your date and not across from them as this takes the interview factor out of the date and allows both of you to keep a date full of positive energy. If you have created the proper intimate situation, your gay first date might also give you a first kiss sooner than you expect.
  11. Seal the deal for the second date before ending the night: If you had a good time on your first gay date, seal the deal for the second date before you two end the night. Most of the times, sealing the deal is simple as asking for a second date. To appear even more interested to your date, include a day for that second date that way you are not left wondering who should make the call and not being clear if the other person is interested.
  12. Never feel shame when you meet someone: There’s nothing to be ashamed of. You know what you like and you know your body and self well enough to keep it safe and still have fun. Learn from the experience and see if this experience is right or not so right for you. Shame and guilt do nothing but distract you from this unique adventurous journey you’re taking to figure out who you truly are. Instead, take the time, enjoy and discover the experiences that you get from getting to know yourself, what you like and dislike. There are no explanations or justifications needed. What you do is your job and is something personal. Protect yourself first, because not everyone has an interest in keeping you safe. Always use condoms during sex. Especially when you don’t know the other person. After experiencing this new adventure decide if meeting up is right for you.
  13. You should always ask him his sex history: Maybe not on the first date, but it’s important to cover it when and if things start getting serious. Maybe even beforehand, so you know exactly what you are getting yourself into. Don’t take the chance with sex. You cannot undo things when something goes wrong. Ask him if he hooks up frequently or if he’s into bare backing (having gay anal sex without a condom). Take condoms with you and see if he has some of his own and watch his reaction. A little reverse psychology works here, too. Ask if he likes it raw, meaning if he likes a penis without a condom or if he likes getting fucked the ass without a condom. It’s sudden, but gets to the point and can give out a lot about the person in front of you. Chances are he won’t know if you’re asking to feel him out or if you are into it, so the answer is most likely honest.
  14. Don’t lower your standards: Never lower your relationship standards. This is your first gay date only! You might find yourself happy to begin with, but it might never last beyond a level of achieved comfortableness.  Okay, this may seem contrary to most things I say in this article, but expectations shouldn’t be confused with confidence. Yes, you must be confident with yourself and you should be real but expectations are false hopes that often lead to disappointments. Expectations on your way to a meeting with another gay man can be a fiasco and can sabotage your date. Your imagination is a wonderful and unique things, but can lead you to annoyance when you start creating scenarios before they happen. You don’t know the future and you can’t predict how things will go down, so why make things up? Avoid the regret by going into the situation with an open mind. This puts you in a better position to adjust to potential setbacks or successes.

I hope these Gay Dating Tips assists you with planning for your first gay date and hopefully finding true love.

Author: Stephen is a consultant at the best adult shop in Caringbah

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12 Pieces of Advice For Those In A Gay Relationship!

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You must reflect on who you are a person before you can find a relationship. When you reflect on your own life by understand who you are, your relationship values, you can find out how to live your life to the highest degree by following your own needs and wants. If you find out what you want, this will in turn help make you happy. If you follow the tips, you will become stronger and wiser in your quest for finding your long term same sex partner. If you are in a relationship, be following some of the above tips, you ensure that your relationship will stay strong and healthy.

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  • Know yourself and who you are. Understand your needs and values and respect yourself as a person. Think what you want from life.
  • Examine your past relationships and focus on the behaviors that worked positively for you. Identify the mistakes you have made and they will help you from repeating them in a future relationship.
  • Don’t confuse lust with compatibility. Lust is important, though a person’s qualities are what really help create a successful long term relationship.
  • Determine if you are ready for a relationship and assess your priorities. One of the biggest relationship issues is not being able to be fully present into the relationship. Determine if you are able to date and focus on your future partner, or if you want to develop by yourself.
  • Don’t stay in a relationship that is not working for you just for the sake of being in a relationship or not having to deal with your partner’s feelings.
  • Don’t leave from a dating relationship at the first sign of trouble. Relationships take hard work and commitment. A conflict is necessary as a start of deeper intimacy and connection. Find the problems and determine what the solutions are.
  • Discuss your desires and needs with your partner and be able to fight your anxieties. Don’t internalize the problems as it can cause a conflict in the dating relationship.
  • Face the fears of rejection. A turn down on a date has nothing to do with your personality. It has everything to do with the other person’s needs and desires. Understand that you are kind, worthy and deserving.
  • Develop your support network. Build a support network full of positive people who will support you and affirm you. These people can include family and friends which can provide a great source of connection, love, intimacy and fun that can truly improve your life as a single gay man.
  • Some gay men choose to go into a new loving or sexual relationship without giving the old wounds from past relationships a chance to mend. This can make a bad foundation for a new relationship especially after people have been in a long term relationship. Try to refrain from talking about past relationships as this is a new relationship without any problems.
  • If you are looking to meet a prospective long term partner, avoid casual sexual encounters. These encounters can be misunderstood by the other person, even if you are looking for a long term relationship. The primary aim of such encounters is to release sexual tension. This can confuse other men and make them perceive that the only thing you want from them is sex and nothing more. Instead get yourself involved in situations where you are more likely to meet other single gay men with similar goals and preferences.
  • Consider the amount of time you spend with your friends, acquaintances, family and your new relationship. Think about how much time is a healthy amount of time to spend with each other. Normally when a relationship starts out we tend to spend a lot of time with our new partner. But remember to keep your friends and family within your life as they are very important to.Those initial six-months to a year of seeing somebody requires that you two hang out. This just isn’t going to happen if there is a consistent parade of trips with buddies and amigos.

 

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Make Your Online Dating Profile Stand Out

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Today, internet has made our life easier to helps us meet people online, without the hassle of leaving the comfort of our house. Instead of having to go through the drama and unsettling scenarios of meeting a people on a blind date or hanging out at clubs, you can now find and choose balanced people online.  There is no reason you cannot increase your chances to find your perfect partner and live happily ever after and you can find out if they are ticking all those boxes before you even meet. Dating online has become one of the best and safest way to meet people and hopefully find love on-line.

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Everyone has got the chance to search for a Online Dating Profile websites and start knowing other people. When you sign up to an online dating website like RSVP, the number one priority is to make a great profile. Your profile is the starting point when dating online, the promoting tool of yourself and it gives you the chance to show your best qualities and characteristics to your potential matches, whilst also allowing you to find other gay men who share similar interests and hobbies with you which sometimes can be difficult. In this article I have put together some gay online dating tips to help you create a dating profile that will stand out from the crowd, giving you the best chance to find your perfect match to enjoy in the pleasures of life.

Once you have found that site and explored the multitude of possibilities it is time to have some fun. For those adventurous ladies there is a smorgasbord of fun products that can be used to spice up your dating life. We wish all those internet daters well but please remember there are a few safety issues with meeting people on-line, the most important is to make sure that the person you are communicating with is actually the person they portray themselves to be.

Look out for scam sites and choose one that suits your lifestyle preference.  You can choose a golfing site right through to hardcore bondage meeting people that share your interests and fun.  Don’t go looking at sites that are not your style as it is only setting up the adventure for disappointment, and you’ll already be behind the eight ball as you may not necessarily share the same interests.To navigate the internet for dating sites is a relative minefield with thousands of choices.  Quite often the best one are free as opposed to many other things in life and may involve joining a social group online. To navigate the internet for dating sites is a relative minefield with thousands of choices.  Quite often the best one are free as opposed to many other things in life and may involve joining a social group online.

  • Promoting yourself it is the most important part of the deal:

Sometimes it is difficult to think about all the best qualities and characteristics to write on your dating profile. If you experience difficulty, I advise you to ask a friend or a family member what they think your best qualities and characteristics are. Friends and family will be able to identify all your positive qualities and make sure that you give a positive and sincere representation of yourself in an online gay dating website. You need to be open, honest and injecting some humour into it wouldn’t go astray either.

  • Include your interests and your hobbies:

After you have filled in your basic information, you would need to add more details about yourself. Be detailed and share your interests, passions and hobbies, as these will give potential matches a better idea about what you do and how you would spend your free time. I recommend being straight forward by saying what you want from a relationship as you want to be on the same page when you two meet especially if some people use the websites to hook-up like tinder!

 

  • Be unique and stand out from the crowd:

Avoid writing things in your profile that are too generalised. Try and stand out from the crowd by including unique content such as an original story of yourself or any other experiences. This will not only make you seem more interesting and appeal potential matches but it can also be used as a great ice breaker on the important first date. Also, try not to repeat any information as they may get bored and lose there attention. You can even include a couple of buzzwords which will make your profile sound exciting.

  • Check your spelling and proofread:

Always proof read through what you’ve written carefully by checking for mistakes including punctuation and spelling. It is important that you give the best possible impression when you can only include words. See your words as a form of adverting how you would like them to feel when they think of you. Potential matches will judge your words and see if you are compatible with them and they will carry this feeling with them when you are having your first date.

  • A picture alone speaks a thousand words:

Always include an appealing photo of yourself to your profile so that potential matches can create a better image of you. I advise you to include a good quality image so you give a true representation of yourself. Start by being honest, and by putting up a few different photos online with a couple of different ‘looks’. I don’t mean facial expressions or poses, but there are some people that only put their Sunday finery for the photos and this can be a bit misleading. I’m not suggesting that you put up your photo of when you first wake up in bed, but by having a few casual photos and a few dressed up photos you can more accurately portray exactly who you are and dwindle the time wasters down.

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Gay Online Community Facts

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Having a Gay Online Community is very important as being in a environment where most people are on the same page means that people are happier to demonstrate their true feelings by encouraging each other to be who they really are. This feeling of acceptance helps people grow to be better versions of themselves. People adore that they can converse with their companions without being blocked out, judged or humiliated about anything they unveil. These types of communities help people have more friends or companions that can help people support each other in a secure environment that is controlled by each other and maintained by people with similar interests.

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The world’s first Internet dating service was launched in 1995 and was a success since it has gathered over 20 million members and internet dating has then became something frequent and normal. On the other side gay men didn’t have the freedom to use social networking openly. Homosexuality was illegal up until the 1960s. The sexual offenses act on 1967 declared that gay men could state their sexuality and finally meet other people of the same sex. Prior to that date however the mature gay online community had no choice but to get very creative regarding to how, where and with whom they met publicly. It was challenging and for many gays a secret language was used to communicate two persons of the same sexing public without raising suspicion.

Gay men had to meet in bathhouses or public spaces. Gay cruising as it was named, it was acknowledged as something safe by the gay community and usually took place in remote spaces like parks, picnic areas and laybys, out of the general public’s view, to give the chance for men to meet or engage in sexual acts. Of course gay social interactions took part in other places too, including private night clubs and parties before it became legal. Gay club culture rose up commercially especially in Europe during the 1980s with gay publications concerning gay social interaction.

The quiet and creative methods gay men used to meet one another during these forbidden days of gay social connectivity was in reality the base of the concept to what we call social networking today. It was the creation of gay chat lines in the 90’s that enabled gay social connectivity to really become popular. Gay men started using gay dating chat services to contact with one another all around the world. The several social community websites like Facebook and twitter that are popular today weren’t available when gay men were connecting via gay chat lines. At the time gay dating on the Internet was something popular, a new trend. Throughout the 90’s gay online social networking developed to such an extent that it’s now rare to meet a man without at least one social network profile.

In 2010 where gay men who have used GPS technology to create social networking via mobile phones made gay mobile dating apps the best apps in the business. With their help, these apps are transforming the online dating industry. At the push of a button gay men can instantly poke other gay men in their area, and be meeting up in just few minutes.

While applications like Scruff, Grindr, Tinder, and Jack’d help LGBTQ individuals easily find each other. These websites have made profound online networking, the web allows individuals to make online groups and connections that certify their personalities in a way that the world sometimes does not.  These days you can look through the dating profiles within how many kilometres they are away from your current location, some of them pinpoint people’s exact whereabouts for quick hook-ups or meet-ups! As the time flies by, technology continues to advance to make gay lifestyle’s more convenient creating a happier LGBT community. People can utilise applications for any particular length of time as long as they are of an acceptable age.

The days where social connections between gay men were carried out in secrecy are long gone. Gay people have made it through the challenged of society and have created something that every man can be proud of. With the push of the mouse being replaced today by the touch of a gay app icon in your smart phone, attractive men are connecting instantly and meeting people from all around the world and it is as easy as going online reading peoples online profiles and clicking yes to go on a date with them! You can even buy objects to fulfill your sex life online with complete secrecy.

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