Threesomes And More!

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Threesomes can be a scary word brought up within a relationship that the other partner can just instantly be put off with only saying the word. This day and age i have found a lot more singles and couples are more open to exploring there fetish/fantasies and threesomesis starting to become not as intimating as they use to be. Not all of them need to start with just a couple and adding an extra into them. Some can just be three single people wanting to adventure out and have a bit of fun. Some are just drunken nights that things got a little heated and ended with two different people lying beside you the next morning. Whatever your story is then I always say try something once and if its not your thing then at least you got out your comfort zone and experiment a new experience.
For the couples that are totally against having another person come anywhere near there partners then there is a fun cool way to create a threesome feel without another person being added in. Go to your local adult boutique and grab a masturbator and some lube. There is so many amazing designs of masturbators to choice from, whether its plain or vibrating figure out the one that suits your partner the most. For lesbian couples, go and grab a vibe or even a rabbit. With using these sex toys on your partners they will have the feel like a real life human and with you using it on them then they can relax and get into the mood without the hassle of having to do it themselves.
Some couples just do not know were to even begin to search for another person to join in. We are lucky that now a days we have social media and the internet to help this process. This can help open so many doors to finding someone suitable.
  • Apps – The main one that i can recommend is an app called Fetlife. Its an app that is open to every sort of sex fantasies and fetishes out there. You can make a profile up and anyone interest can get in contact with you. The is great for being able to see pictures of them and have little conversation to maybe take the nerves away if you have any. I have seen on just some of the basic dating websites, couples that have made a profile to invite a third person into there relationship for the night.
  • Advert boards in an adult store. Not all of them do this but some do and its an easy way to leave an advert about exactly what you are looking for and just leave your phone number. I was in Oh! Zone Penrith the other day and noticed they had one hanging near the main door full of adverts.
  • Hiring an escort or prostitute. This way you will have someone professional and experience in this department. This is a great help for beginners starting this way and they can take control and guide you through it. Most of them will make you feel relaxed and comfortable in case the nerves take over a bit.
  • Swingers clubs – There are some good few to pick from if you don’t mind traveling into the sydney city way. Before you go you and your partner need to talk and discuss between each other to find out what each others limits and boundaries are going to be so there is no confusion or arguments when you are there. At these clubs they are so respectful and lovely people to experiment with that will make you feel excited and relaxed at the same time. Everyone there has been a newbie at some point so there so welcoming and friendly with you and help ease you into trying something new. There is strike rules so your do not ever feel under pressure to do anything your not wanting to.  With the swingers clubs its not only about swapping partners, some couples go there to just have threesomes, so pretty much everything goes as long as the other people are up for it.
  • Friends – You might not even realize that someone very close to use would be up for adding themselves into your sex life for the night. Yes this one is probably going to be your riskiest one but it could also be a very comfortable one also. The risky side is that they regret it after and then it can become a little awkward between use all. Another is some feelings may happen to get involve. The more comfortable fact is there is no strings attached but you know this person and feel very relaxed around them, also will know there back story and whats going on in there life to add them into the threesome triangle.
I always recommend safe sex before trying any new adventures. Make sure you are using condoms or even dental dams for females. We can all get a bit caught up in the moment and maybe forget so please wrap up and do not be silly. But have fun, experiment and get out that comfort zone we all tend to be to scared to leave. Its 2020 and judgment with people is getting a lot lower.
This article was contributed by a conultant at the Oh Zone Adult Stores.

What You Need in a Better Bedroom Partner

Finding a partner that is right for you involves finding the right combination of facets in a person. However, it’s even more difficult to find a partner that is right for you in the bedroom. However, when you take some time to explore the aspects of a person that makes them good for that part of your life, you inevitably come up with some major ideas like the ones we have elaborated on here.

Someone Who Is Willing to Explore New Things

There are a lot of things that you will want out of a new partner and one of those things is certainly the willingness to explore new things. You don’t want to keep having the same experienced when you can quite easily find somebody that is interested in indulging your every need. With that in mind, you will want a bedroom partner that is looking at new positions, actions, and methods of causing unique sensations to happen. It can take some time to try them all, but first you have to have a partner that is helpful for you.

You Need a Partner That Is Not Threatened By Toys

While this is primarily an issue with men, it’s also something that can happen with the women in a relationship. Basically, toys are there to aid, not replace, someone in the efforts that they take to make you have a more fulfilling bedroom experience. You have to find someone that is not threatened by the presence, power, or size of the toys that you are bringing into the bedroom. While it might take some time to acclimate to these new toys, the fact is that everyone who is even a little mature will be willing to add them to the repertoire of ways to have a good time.

They Should Let You Take Charge

One of the other ways that you can find someone that is going to be a lot of fun in the bedroom is by meeting someone that is going to let you take charge in the bedroom. After all, there are a lot of people, especially guys, that want to be in control of when, what, and where when it comes to sleeping together. Your partner should always be willing to indulge you a bit, let you run the show, and have you in charge of the pleasure that is happening. While it might be unusual to be calling the shots, there are plenty of people of both genders that are looking to let their partner dominate them in some way.

The Chance to Have Fun with No Commitment

The final thing to remember when you are getting a better bedroom partner is that you deserve to have fun even if your partner is not long-term. There is nothing wrong with finding people for hookup dating that will fulfill both of your needs and then let you go on your merry way without asking if there is a future. Sometimes both men and women need some fun with no strings attached. A good partner for your bedroom will realize that.

Getting a better bedroom partner is a matter of connecting with them in ways that you never have before. When you consider the fact that you need someone who is adventurous and willing to let go of taking charge, then you will be able to find someone that has the features you desire in a partner. With these things in mind, you should be able to discover a partner for dates and hookups that is better for you.

Friends With Benefits – Where Does That Lead?

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OMG! I think that pregnancy has turned my brain to mush… It’s taken me 12 billion years to write 800 words. LOL. Just some musings about my relationships with men who are now more like my brothers than the FWBs that they started off as.

From Lusty Friends with Benefits to Luncheon Partners

I don’t really understand where that proverbial line in the sand was drawn and why I have never realised when I had crossed it. It’s a strange thing when lust becomes friendship. I’m not saying that it’s a bad thing. It’s actually probably better for my mental health that way.

This seems to happen in my life quite a bit… I’m still not sure why though. No, really! A friends with benefits from a million years ago is now like my brother. I’m planning drinks and dinner for next year with a Tinder hook-up from earlier this year. And I still have sessions of inappropriate banter with a bootie call that I met on Plenty of Fish 6 years ago.

Yeah, everyone who sees Adam and I together just assume that we are a couple. We finish each other’s sentences, poke fun at each other and even travel together. But this friendship that I have with Adam started as good old friends with benefits.

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Lunch partners

When you live in Darwin, you discover that the world is a small place and that Darwin is even smaller. Everyone knows everyone else. I met Adam through 3 different friends who all said that he had a ‘difficult personality’. Challenge accepted! That was until my friend decided that she’d call dibs on pursuing him. Honestly, I wasn’t confident enough in myself to butt in an challenge her.

Turns out that I didn’t have to. He wasn’t interested in her at all and he and I would drunk chat for hours about nothing in particular. We fell into a comfortable FWB arrangement that lasted for 12 months until we both ended up in relationships with other people. When those relationships ended we went back to our kebab date nights and movie watching minus the sex.

10 years on, I am closer to him in a brother/sister kind of way than I am with my actual siblings. We both laughed until we cried recently while on holidays. One of his friends asked him why we weren’t having sex while we were travelling and both of us automatically looked at each other, shuddered a little and burst out laughing because we both look at it as sleeping with a sibling.

Since our Tinder initiated hook up in January of this year with Mr K, a Zurich based Dom, we have remained in contact. I didn’t really think that, after Mr K left the country, we would have much more contact until he returned to visit his brother next year. But it seems that we have settled in to a really lovely friendship. The ease of real-time connectivity these days is great for interacting with friends who happen to be on the other side of the planet.

We’re already planning where we’re going to catch up for dinner and drinks next year. Because it will be relatively soon after my little boy is born, I had mentioned that to him that I may not be ready to play again. His response surprised me… ‘Just want to see you. Playing is 100% your choice’.

He also checks in with me every few weeks to see how my little baby is growing and to make sure that I’m still doing well. It all seems very civilised. It’s hard for me to trust people who are new to my life. How can this man, whom I have only interacted with a handful of times, make me feel so secure and comfortable? Much like my friend Adam, I feel as though I have known him for years!

Last and very not least is Jimmy. There’s something to be said for old fashioned country boys. Here is a man who has been messed about by entitled women and just the world in general. After many years, we have kept in contact and now have a great platonic relationship.

Even going so far as him introducing me to his new dates and bitching to me when things take a downward turn. He’s also super protective of me, but not in a jealous way. Offering to proverbially ‘teach them a lesson’ when I have had relationships end.

I love all of my protective male friends. Although, I do think that when I start new relationships, they inevitably end up feeling jealous of the bond that I have with my male friends and I end up comparing how I interact with my friends v’s a partner.

I keep thinking, is this what happens when you make friends with old fashioned gentlemen, or is just the lack of sexual expectation? Kind of a been there, done that, now it’s in the too hard basket. Maybe it’s that I feel like the permanency of a lasting relationship is hindered by overwhelming sexual attraction. Scared that once that has waned, the want to stay goes with it. Whatever the case may be I’m glad to have men like this in my life.