Let me ask you this!
“Are you living your life up to its maximum potential or are you waiting for fate to hit you?”
The fact is, that unless you are someone sexy and famous like Brad Pitt or David Beckham you won’t get much and it can be difficult to meet sexy gay men. The first step you need to do is change your plans. Instead of waiting passively to be approached by your love of your life, why don’t you approach him? The worst thing that can happen is rejection from him. The secret is, everyone gets rejected. Those rejections though will not kill you but they will make you smarter, stronger and more experienced in flirting.
Here are few tips that can help you to meet sexy gay men:
Get out your comfort zone and start meeting men:
To meet guys you need to go wherever gay men go and approach them. Gay men don’t usually live in clubs but if you keep your eyes open and pay attention to your surroundings, you’ll find a lot of gay men to flirt with. Pay attention to comments and gestures everywhere and every time, whenever that may be even at your grocery store, bookshop or café. There are opportunities everywhere. Go to places where the opportunities will arise. Go to places and meet people with similar backgrounds and interests. If you prefer fit men, go to the gym or else if you prefer smart men, go to the bookshop.
Use the internet:
You might imagine that utilizing applications and websites appears to be senseless, yet numerous gay men have met the person they had always wanted to met in these forums. There are so many gay singles sites where men hook up some free and some you have to pay. The main thing you need is information about the person you are wanting to meet. Make sure that the site you choose has as much information of the profile of advertisers as well as security checks. Here are some of my favorites –
- Gay Outdoors
Occasions and Fundraisers:
Most gay men love to socialize, get dressed up and go to an occasion. Occasions can be fundraisers, community presentations and events. Do not feel embarrassed about going alone to these events and when you have a +1 it is often more difficult to hook up – it may send a sign that you ‘are with somebody’ when the exact opposite is the case.
To begin with, you get the advantage of giving yourself to a cause you think about and care for whether it be to save the dogs or for HIV. Secondly, you will without a doubt meet new individuals. A large number of gay couples have reported that they met their significant other through this methodology. You should choose to volunteer at a place that specifically networks with the LGBT community.
Avoid any excuses:
Nobody’s perfect so don’t ever let your appearance become the excuse to hide from love. Getting a date and having the chance to meet with someone is not about your physical attraction but it’s all about the image you are projecting. Gay men are attracted to the positive signals you send. Walk with confidence and a smile.
- Create an opportunity:
Once you find a sexy gay man you like or meet your preferences, create an opportunity by starting up a conversation. The best approach is an excuse. An example could be; sorry do I know you from somewhere? You look familiar.
- Take the opportunity:
Once you have exchanged words with the guy, all you have to do is keep the conversation going. The opportunity is there and you must allow some time for attraction to develop. Keep your friendly talk and pretend that you are not really interested in him. When attraction builds up you will see hints from his eyes and even from his body language.
- Close the deal:
Finally, the last step is to close the deal. Don’t be afraid to ask his phone number and letting him know that you are interested to take him out for a coffee or for a lunch. Meeting up again will build up the attraction more and will make things more relaxing.Now, after reading my article, it is up to you to start your own quest for finding the ideal gay man that you want to become your partner in life. You can even invest in like interests to keep him keen like cock and ball sex toys!
PJ Weir was employed at the Gay Exchange for over a decade and was a regular contributor to the blog. He is a gay activist and an advocate for same sex marriage. PJ is proud of his aboriginal descent and has remained in a long term relationship with his partner Darren.
PJ left work in late 2014 as his mother fell ill. He has moved to Queensland where he has become her full time carer.
Unfortunately the iconic Gay Exchange, Sydney’s first all gay adult store closed down in June of 2017 as the building was taken over by the State Transit Authority to build the new rail.