7Best Tinder Alternatives!

When it comes to going online in search of a partner, rarely anything works as well as dating apps. And when we mention smartphone apps that you can use to find love online, the first thing that comes to your mind is Tinder, right?

But what if we told you that Tinder isn’t the only dating app out there that works? There are in fact more than a few applications out there that work similarly or just as well as the most popular one does, so in that name, here are the 4 best alternatives to Tinder.

OkCupidDating

OkCupid has been on the very top of the online dating industry for quite some time now, so the existence of their dating app comes as no surprise.

Unlike Tinder, this app focuses on refined results based on people’s interests and dislikes rather than making choices based mostly on someone’s photo. However, there are some flaws to this app, seeing as most of OkCupid’s app features are closed behind a paywall.

Happn

If we had to choose a dating app that takes the most direct approach to matching people up, it would definitely be Happn. Not only does it have an interesting and unique premise upon which it was built, but it actually delivers romantic happiness ever since it first appeared.

Happn takes into account not only your preferences but also people that are in close proximity to you. It reads your location to provide you with potential match ups with individuals who are nearby, therefore allowing you to act quickly on first impressions, which is usually a good thing when it comes to online dating.

Bumble

Although some people may find this app a bit discriminatory, Bumble has actually proved to have a pretty decent system that produces results. The app is pretty similar to Tinder itself, with one crucial difference – only women can initiate contact on this app.

How does this exactly work if men are unable to start a conversation? Well, for starters, women get to avoid any possible pickup lines that can come their way and, if they do initiate contact with a man, it implies that they’re already interested in him which leaves him with only one job: not to ruin it.

Skout

Skout is a fairly fresh addition to the online dating app industry with more than online matchmaking in its scope. Much like Tinder, this app allows users to either ‘like’ or ‘dislike’ others, in the addition of letting them connect with individuals from foreign countries with whom they can become friends.

In all honesty, it’s very rare for a dating app to feature something other than helping people find potential partners for a romantic relationship. Most apps nowadays focus strictly on the romantic aspect, so having a unique one such as Skout around provides online daters with a breath of fresh air.

Coffee Meets Bagel

Although a number of new dating apps have been released recently, only some of them brought something new to the table, and Coffee Meets Bagel is one of them.

This app focuses mostly on giving women greater choices, and it does that by filtering out their potential matches according to whether a guy has shown an interest in them or not. Basically, the app first sends 21 suggestions to men each day at noon and lets them pass or like women’s profiles. Then, according to those results, Coffee Meets Bagel sends suggestions to women and allows them to initiate contact.

Hinge

When talking about Tinder alternatives, it’s only natural to assume that the list will be populated by apps that work similarly to the most popular dating service. However, there is one alternative option that comprehends online dating in a completely different way.

While Tinder does its best to match you up with complete strangers, Hinge tells us that the best way to find a partner is by searching among the friends of your friends. It’s all based on psychology, which states that your friends will most likely have other friends who have the personality that is same or similar to yours. This model of matching up has shown amazing results so far.

EliteSingles

All of us have different criteria when it comes to picking a person for a romantic relationship. But while all other apps on this list consider only general factors, there is one Tinder alternative that mostly focuses on education and professional status – EliteSingles.

Those of you who want to find a well-educated partner that has a great professional and academic background will love this app, given that over 90% of the members are 30 or older and more than 80% of them have a university degree.

It promotes matching people up based on their qualifications rather than their love of books or dogs, which can be a pretty good thing for those who dedicate most of their time to education and work.

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I Quit Dating Apps for a Month and This is What Happened

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Believe it or not, there was a time where “dating” was all about men trying to woo women they would marry shortly after. Nowadays, it can take many forms – from regular face-to-face dating and dating via apps to more kinky stuff like transgender dating.

These are more or less a norm today, but what happens when someone practices such activities for a while and suddenly decides to take a one-month break? Well, I wouldn’t know about everyone, but I know what happened to me when I quit dating apps for a month.

 

Withdrawal and Closing Up

Let’s get something straight – I didn’t decide to quit because my whole experience with dating apps was a complete failure. Moreover, I had a lot of fun over the course of 10 months of using them, I went on numerous dates and got close to having a steady relationship not once, but twice.

Still, I figured it out it was time to take a break partially because I had to focus on other things (job, studies) and partially because I wanted to have a small experiment with the whole situation. What came next wasn’t exactly what I expected, though.

The first wave of jitters appeared while I was uninstalling the apps from my phone. I had a total of four, but I only used two regularly. It felt like I was walking away from something I worked very hard on, even though these apps were supposed to only serve as something I was doing in my spare time. The feeling was quite different, surprisingly.

Then, I caught myself having itchy fingers while sitting alone at home in the evening. My hand was going for the phone and wanted to check one of the apps, but the amount of disappointment I felt once I remembered I deleted all the apps was stunning and a bit soul-crushing.

Dating Worries

Relapsing, Caving in and Freedom

As it is with any addiction, going cold turkey on my dating app addiction led me to a relapse eventually. One day, I was walking down to the gym and I passed by a handsome guy who seemed like the man I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with at that moment.

Immediately, I went ahead and downloaded the app trying to find him, but once I realized I didn’t have any information on him besides the way he looked, I realized I succumbed to a serious crisis in a moment of weakness.

That was the one and only time I caved in.However, this was not the end of my troubles. What really shocked me was my inability to meet people in person, whether on a date or as acquaintances. I guess when you spend so much time on dating apps, you forget how to communicate with others in the offline world properly.

Finally, nearing the end of the month, the anxiety grip got looser, the pressure lifted up and I actually felt truly free in a very long time. There was no rush to find the perfect guy and the nervous feeling I would have when I had to send a message to someone for the first time was completely gone.

Bottom line, by one-month hiatus from dating apps taught me something important: online dating sure is useful and efficient, but it can become a very personal monster if you dive into it too deeply.

Stefan Simonovic is a popular content writer from first beat media.

Coming To Terms With Being Gay & Fat!

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I was about 15 years old when I finally admitted to myself that I was gay. It was a long time before I became comfortable with my sexuality and decided to pursue anything, and when I finally did, I realized that dating wasn’t really an easy thing to do. Not for me that is.

What It’s Like Being A Chubby Gay

You see, I have always been a bigger guy and it got worse after I left school. I realised that, while yes, the gay community waved the banner of pride and inclusivity, it wasn’t always something that they actually practiced. By the time I went into the dating scene it was a world of applications and I decided to get Grindr on my phone. I added all the criteria to my profile that it needed:

  • A photo of myself – done.
  • About me – done.
  • What I was looking for – done.
  • What I was into – done.

Then it came to my information section. I filled in my location and my height but I paused on my weight. I thought about it and I decided to leave that part out. I activated my profile and started to look through all the different profiles. I looked at all the cute guys and their interests. I decided to say howdy to a few of them.

“Hey, hey. How’s it going? 😊”

This was my usual greeting. I honestly was not sure how I should start a conversation. I’d never done this before.

I said hello to a few different guys, left it at that and went about my daily business. A few hours later I jumped back on and there were no responses. Okay, maybe they’re all just busy. I decided to explore the app and check out the features. I then came across the section where you could see which people that had viewed your profile and went into it. Every guy that I had messaged checked out my profile but they didn’t even bother to respond. It didn’t feel good, but I decided not to dwell on it and went about my own business. I jumped on a few times and got the same response, so I decided to not bother and deleted the app. I felt deflated and kept off it for ages after that.

I Found Alternative Gay Dating Applications

Then soon after, a few more other apps came out that were marketed towards a more diverse market and so I decided to give them a try. The two that I tried were ‘Scruff’ and ‘Growlr’. They claimed to be for the bear and alternative gay groups. These were a little better received and so I decided to keep these apps. At least a very few guys actually answered me when I messaged them.

I also came across two apps called ‘Grommr’ and ‘Bigger City’, they were marketed for the chubbier gay community. Perfect I thought. I created a profile and perused a few different profiles. There were actually smaller guys looking for chubby guys! This was perfect! Or so I thought. I chatted to a few guys and I even hit it off with a guy. Yay! We went on a few dates and got to know each other. Then, he confessed something to me.

He wanted to be with a guy and make him bigger.

My warning bells went off. I certainly didn’t enjoy being bigger and I always tried to lose weight. Was it something I was willing to do to be with someone? Was I willing to compromise myself and my values just to be with someone? I thought about what he had said and what I wanted, and then decided it wasn’t something I was willing to do, so I broke it off with him.

I then became curios about why he wanted something like that, and discovered the world of feeding and gaining.

“Feeder: Usually a male who likes to encourage weight gain in his partner through the consumption of food.”

That’s how Urban Dictionary describes it.

I read up how feeders would do things to make their partners bigger. Buy them extra food and tell them they deserved it. Say they were full and give their leftovers to their partner. This was not something I wanted to be part of, so I deleted my profiles and have never been back since. Since then I have met guys that have a preference for bigger guys, and that’s okay. Everyone has their different preferences, but I personally don’t want to be fetishized and have to question if the person I want to be with wants to be with me or just the fetish they are after.

What The Gay Dating App World Really Needs

There’s also Tinder! Which I know for most straight people it’s just a hook-up app. When two people hook up through Tinder it’s called a tinder-bang. But I feel for the gay community it’s more about going on actual dates and to meet people rather than it just being one of the many hook-up apps for gays. That’s how I feel it’s like. I have talked to genuine people on it, I even met a guy off it at the beginning of the year and we’ve actually become good friends. And no, not with benefits but we have become good friends.

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I’ve also never been to a gay club before. I honestly don’t feel like I would fit in to that scene and feel like I would be eaten alive in that environment. I’m not small; I don’t have the right clothing or hairstyle. I just wouldn’t fit in at all.

But after going through so much self-discovery and not loving myself for a very long time, I have come to realise that you need to look after yourself first and foremost. As the great RuPaul would say:

“If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love anyone else? Can I get an amen?”

And those words are very true! I honestly do believe that you need to learn love yourself before you let anyone in.

Since coming to this realisation, I have decided to have a different outlook on life and have even given the apps another go. I have redone my profile after re-evaluating what I want and I feel like with a more genuine profile that has a positive view, I have gotten a better reception. I still find it hard to be part of the gay community even though there are definitely a lot of loving people in it. I feel that if I work on myself as a person, I can be included to be a part of this community and meet new people.

But hey, I must be doing something right, because just today I got asked out on a date, so that must mean progress right? I sure hope so! I am getting dressed up in designer clothing just for the occasion.

Author: Brett is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Top 30 LGBTQIA Nightclubbing Venues & Dating Apps

Banners Of Popular LGBTQIA Nightclub

I have been working in the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres for just over a year now and I can not tell you how many of my LGBTQIA customers have asked me where they should go out to meet people in Sydney. So today I am going to give you all the information I know about what events are on and when and where they are, all the good pubs and clubs and some of the most popular dating apps. I am a lesbian so I know more about the lesbian events than all the gay events but I will try to mix it up as much as I can.

EVENTS

EMPIRE

Empire is a new monthly event that has been happening for about 4 months now at the Hudson Ballroom in the city. The organisers of this event have a bunch of promoters that are really helpful to the people who don’t know other people in the LGBTQIA community. If you don’t go out much or have anyone to go with the promotors organise a gathering before the event so that everyone has people to party with all night and from my experiences going to this event everyone in there is super friendly and ready to mingle so it is really easy to make lots of new friends there. They have a Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat that are all very active and a lot of people meet just through those alone. There’s a group chat for people to meet and a group called Empire Girls Gang where everyone discusses community issues or even personal issues, everyone is super helpful and supportive.

There are two rooms so there is plenty of space for everyone, tables and seats for people to sit down and relax as well. They have a trustworthy cloakroom in the venue for you to leave your jacket and any other belongings you don’t want to carry around all night.

You can purchase tickets for this event online or you can purchase tickets at the door – $20 Entry. If you keep an eye on their Facebook page they sometimes have competitions so that you can win free tickets to their events.

YTG

The YTG has the same organisers as Empire. YTG is run weekly as a Thursday night event at Monkey Magic in Kings Cross. This event offers free entry, there is a Nintendo 64 that you can sit down and play if you don’t feel like dancing, $1 dumplings and other food available till late.

There is no lockout for this event.

GIRLTHING

This once a month event has been happening for 9 years now, it was the first club I went to when I first turned 18 and I am now 23. You’ll have to click on the link to their Facebook to find out locations, once you like the page they’ll invite you to events. The thing I love most about this one is they have themes every couple of months and different types of parties e.g. Mardi Gras, jelly wrestling, body painting, Halloween etc. They are even a check-in point on the app Winkd so it’s easier for you to find the single ladies dancing around you. The weekend after the Sydney event they now have one in Melbourne as well.

You can either purchase tickets before the event or at the door on the night depending on which event it is i.e. Mardi Gras parties usually sell out really fast so best to purchase your tickets as soon as they come out online. Entry price is always different depending on the event.

BOYTHING

The same people who run Girlthing also run Boything which is also a monthly event. The exact same concept just more for gay men and transgender men. There are no rules though, men and women are allowed at both events. Give the Boything page a like as well if you’d like to be updated on when and where this one is.

BIRDCAGE

Again the same people who run Girlthing and Boything. This one is a weekly event held at the Sly Fox in Enmore on a Wednesday night. It offers free entry and cheap drinks before 11 pm. Usually, they even have $5 wet pussy shots all night. Give the page a like for this one as well if you want to keep in the loop with all the different themed nights. There is no lockout at this venue and plenty of couches to sit down and relax.

HEAPS GAY

Heaps gay is a monthly event held at The Lady Hampshire in Camperdown. This event is filled with a mixture of people from the LGBTQIA community, the venue is pretty big and usually full so there are plenty of new people for you to meet at this one.

Most of the time it is free entry unless they have a special event which you can purchase tickets online or at the door.

UNICORNS

Unicorns occurs every few months, usually themed and always sells out at The Red Rattler Theatre. Again you’ll find a mixture of LGBTQIA folks at this event and every single one of them is very friendly. This event usually has a lot of shows for you to watch as well as partying and they also run competitions during the night with awesome prizes (including sex toys!). Everyone is always dressed up in wild clothing and all up it is just really fun and has a great vibe.

They also have a monthly event in Melbourne.

Make sure to purchase your tickets early for this one otherwise you might miss out.

CLUB LIST

  • ARQ Sydney – Darlinghurst
  • Stonewall – Oxford Street
  • Goodbar – Oxford Street
  • Midnight Shift – Oxford Street
  • Oxford Art Factory – Oxford Street
  • Palms on Oxford – Oxford Street
  • Nevermind – Oxford Street
  • The Cliff Dive – Oxford Street
  • The Colombian Hotel – Oxford Street
  • The Marlborough Hotel – King Street, Newtown
  • Tokyo Sing Song – downstairs of Malborough hotel
  • Websters Bar – King Street, Newtown
  • The Midnight Special – Enmore road, Enmore
  • The Bank – King Street, Newtown
  • Newtown Hotel – King Street, Newtown
  • Courthouse Hotel – Australia Street, Newtown
  • The Imperial Hotel – Erskineville Road, Erskineville
  • Sly Fox – Enmore Road, Enmore

Just to name a few…

Sydney Nightclubs Banners Including ARQ, Oxford Art Factory And Sly Fox
Photo: ARQ, Oxford Art Factory, Sly Fox

APPS

  • Grindr
  • Her
  • Winkd
  • OkCupid
  • Tinder
  • Dattch
  • Hornet
Famous Dating Applications For LGBTQIA
Image: LGBTQIA Dating Apps

If you would like to find out more information or support, there are many LGBTQIA community services that are available nation wide.

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