9 Mischievous Valentine’s Day Sex Ideas

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Valentine’s Day is an excellent occasion to make your sexual life a bit more interesting. For couples, it gives them the perfect chance to deliver new and exciting pleasures to each other. It’s time to think about how you can please your partner and what can make the night unforgettable. Here are 9 mischievous Valentine’s Day sex ideas:

1) Dominate Your Lover

Instead of sighing and ecstatically moaning during sex, verbalize your own desires. Each of them! That is, say what your partner should do, how to stand, lie, where and how to touch or kiss you etc. Warn her that you won’t tolerate disobedience. All she needs to do is to listen and follow your orders.

2) Close Your Lover’s Eyes

For this one, you’ll need a blindfold, an ice cube, a feather, a vibrator, and other objects that you can adapt and use for foreplay. Use the blindfold to cover the girl’s eyes, then touch her in unexpected places with unexpected objects (the more unexpected the objects and the spots are, the better) until she finally begs you to take her. When her eyes are closed, other senses become sharper, so her orgasm will be unforgettable.

3) Visit New Places For Sexual Discovery

You need 10 sheets of paper and 2 pens. Each of you writes 5 places on the paper (“cinema”, “restaurant”, “parking lot” etc.), throw the pieces of paper in the hat and pull one out. Next, go straight to the location written on the paper. Find a quiet and cosy spot so you spend time enjoying each other. Sex will be spiced up with adrenaline (and the possibility of being caught is also a kind of extreme) which will feel incredible.

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4) Become Strangers

Meet in the lobby bar of the hotel and pretend that you don’t know each other. Offer to buy the girl a drink and try to make friends with her. You can both be whomever you would like to be and say whatever you want. For example, you can pretend to be a stewardesses, a millionaire or even a nuclear physicists.  The main thing is not to break character and act according to the role until the very end and by “the very end” we don’t mean the moment when the “stranger” agrees to go up to your room, the end is the check-out time the next morning. This way the “immersion” will be better.

Since both of you will be playing new roles (and this is the main rule), your sex will at least be non-trivial. It may even turn out to be the best in your life. Besides, it’s sometimes extremely entertaining and interesting to know how your partner sees herself.

5) Try New Sex Toys

Each of you can bring, say, 3 new sex toys to your bed and then go for a test drive trying all of them. The main thing is to be realistic about your capabilities and not turn the marathon into a sprint. Usually, the novelty of the sensations experienced inevitably affects the rapidity of a male orgasm. And the task is to unbox and try all your new purchases.

What’s the catch? This game allows both of you to suggest to your partner to try a new toy you have always wanted to bring into your sex life. When both of you are free to choose any device you want, you’ll avoid embarrassment, misunderstandings and phrases, like “normal human sex is no longer interesting to you.”

6) Try New Sex Positions

This sex position will be great if both of you want to reach maximum levels of pleasure. Get on your knees, take her by the ankles and put her feet on your shoulders. Once you’re inside her, move both her legs onto one shoulder. In this position, the blood flow to her genitals is increased, which means that sensitivity is much higher than usual. Besides, in this position, her legs aren’t spread, the vagina is tightly wrapped around the penis, which increases the sensations during friction. You can also use your hand to stimulate her clitoris.

7) Visit A New Place

Nothing brings brighter sensations than extreme sex. Why not leave the standard options for later and try something new and even exotic in the name of Valentine’s Day? Everything depends on your sexual fantasy and the level of adrenaline you wish to experience. For some couples, sex on the kitchen table is already extreme and for others, sex in a crowded bus is quite normal. Wherever passion gets you: in the fitting room of a shopping centre, on the roof of a multi-storey house, in an elevator or in a public toilet, do it.

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8) Try A New Experience

According to the polls, more than 20% of couples in love go on holidays for a new sexual experience. The most innocent one is a trip to the nearest sex toy shop to buy a couple of toys and spend the night experimenting with them. But some couples go further. To spice up their sex life, they invite a third partner into their bed or even try tantric sex. Why not? Just make sure that your loved one is OK with such experiments.

9) Make It An Intimate And Romantic Atmosphere

If you’re conservative, you can simply limit yourself to a nice, romantic dinner and continue the evening in a hotel room with a glass of champagne. You can enjoy a striptease performance from your girlfriend and end the night with passionate sex. In general, everything depends on your desire and thickness of your wallet.

Make your fantasy work and give your loved one a truly new feeling. And if you happen to be alone, find yourself a mate on Contact Brides.

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An Educational Primer on Pet Play

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Pet play is an incredibly unique and increasingly known sub culture within the BDSM, D/s and Kink lifestyle. To put it simply, and before we get into the complexity of animal play, it simply refers to one or more people acting or roleplaying as a particular animal. You are pretending to be a particular animal, and you are taking on the qualities of that animal with animal like tendencies. Typically, the animal will play a submissive role within a D/s relationship with the dominant being a human trainer or master, but there are variations of this. Most notably within situations where an animal is lacking a trainer, and ‘plays’ with other animals or by themselves. This is very common within puppy play, where a group of puppies will form a ‘pack’ and play together with or without a human trainer.

The common animals that you will see within animal play are ponies, puppies, pigs, and kittens – though there are variations of this and anyone can play a particular animal that they associate with. Bunnies, cows are less often seen within animal play, but still exist.

Why Do People Enjoy Animal Play?

Again, there are several reasons for this but we will explore the two most common reasons here.

Firstly, the idea of role playing an animal is seen as a form of escape. You can escape the role of being a human, escape the daily struggles and simply revert back to the mentality of a particular animal. Take for example a typical puppy. The only concerns that they have is food, play time, and enjoying time with their owner and these are the attributes that will be carried through when role playing a puppy. If you are seen as a cute and snuggly puppy or kitten, you don’t have to make sure that the bills are paid, or be responsible for cleaning the house. You can focus and relax on the responsibility of being a ‘mindless’ pet.

Secondly, an animal is seen as being less than human and in some cases it can reinforce the relationship between a dominant and submissive. Non-human pets are owned and are completely dependent on their owner. The owner decides when they are fed, the owner will buy their toys, and the owner will decide if they need to wear those adorable little outfits from the pet store or not. A non-human dog can’t drive themselves to the veterinarian when they need medical treatment, and they must rely on their human owners to do such things for them. The same can apply to human role playing pets and animals. It is the dominant, or the master which decides for them. There is also an aspect of humiliation within this type of play – being something less than human and being forced to potentially eat from a bowl and be led around on a leash can be humiliating for some and there might be some arousal in that.

Of course these two reasons can be separated, or they can be united. A person which views puppy play as a form of escape from the world might not be keen on the idea of a dominant and submissive lifestyle and only view it as a form of play and escape. It might not even be sexual in nature. However a person that enjoys the Dominant and Submissive aspect might play once a weekend, every once in a while of they might be more regular in their play. From there, they might be required to eat like a pet, or they may be allowed to sit at the table as a human. The possibilities, the engagement and level of being an animal varies. As it is with any form of activity within kink and BDSM – the level of engagement varies between individuals, couples and the community.

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How To Get Started On The Adventure Of Being A Pet

Firstly, in order to get started on the adventure of being a pet within pet play, is the most important step. You need to let your partner, significant other know that you’re interested in the idea of pet play. We’ve just read about about kink and introducing kink to your partner, so you might be able to get some ideas from that – but to do that, you’re going to need to work out precisely why you want to engage in this type of play. Do you need it as a form of escape, or are you really turned on by the idea of being dominated or having your partner submit to you? You need to have a lengthy conversation on what that’s going to entail and how you’re going to negotiate through that. This will be very helpful if you’ve already played with kink and the idea of bondage and submission, as Pet Play is only a short, hop skip and a jump to the next aspect. However, if you have never engaged with kink before, then you might have a little trouble introducing it to your partner – this is why it’s important to identify the exact aspect of pet play that you’re interested in and then build stepping stones to that. For example, if you’re looking at it for the domination then you might want to consider you or your partner becoming dominating within the bedroom without the aspect of pet play. Allowing your partner to become accustomed to that role before moving on to the next step of maybe introducing some pet play toys, or by introducing a pet play character that you can both play around with in the bedroom. This will make the transition much easier to handle than anything else.

For the most part pet play will involve someone playing the pet, and the other person playing the master and dominant. There are variations within this, especially when there are multiple pets (specifically puppies), but this might mean that you’re not going to have a very successful time. It’s dependent on your community, friends and network. Once you have reached the point where you want to discuss pet play, take it slow. One of the main things that you want to come out of the discussion is the expectations of what you both want out of play time. Does the animal/pet want to lounge around and be pet-like, or do they want to be active and annoying like an over excited pet all the time. Do they want to be ignored and left alone for the most part or do they want all your attention and devotion on them?

It’s A Fascinating Journey

It’s absolutely fascinating to discover this journey, because once you strip away the human responsibilities of an individual, you will be surprised at what lies beneath. Their personality will change when they assume the role – a serious and proper girlfriend might become rambunctious and over the top as playing a kitten, and a quiet and tame boyfriend might become the life of the party when he’s playing in a puppy. The journey itself is amazing and varies between people – however it’s important to note that the lines of communication are left open as the role will change overtime, your engagement to the role will change over time and there’s going to be moments in life where you will both need to take a break from role playing because there’s just too much going on in life. It is recommended to join a fetish community like FetiLife to find like minded individuals who are interested in the same types of interests and desires as you are.


Author: Stephen Smith – BA Of Social Sciences, M.EdSave






Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn’t afraid to speak his mind and say what others won’t. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites.

Stephen’s articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.