Organising A Blendr Gay Threesome!

three gays in bathrub

The rise of social media and location based meet-up apps such as blendr, grindr and brendr mean people can have a gay exchange fast or seek instant sexual gratification from a nearby ‘random’. These apps are hugely popular, especially within the queer community as it allows people to avoid the ‘scene’ to find partners, or simply find a sex partner that’s nearby without the hassle of drinks, leaving the house or going to a crowded bar. My partner and I regularly engage in threesomes to add a new dimension to our sex life, and when approached in the right way, there’s no reason as to why you can’t have a threesome as well.


three gays relationship holding hands

The essence of every relationship is communication and firstly, you’ll need to bring it up with your partner. Whilst threesomes can be hot, they can bring forth insecurities as well jealousy and a disruption to the relationship. You may need to address any insecurities your partner may have as to why you’d like to have threesomes. Be prepared to answer their questions, one of the hardest questions I had to answer was the ‘am I not good enough?’ question. It’s not necessarily about you or your partner, but it may simply be about being open-minded and an eagerness to try new things, new people and to learn. Trust me, everyone fucks differently, and we’ve learned many new things about each other simply by being with others.

I would strongly argue that our sex life is a lot more fulfilling now, but I will also admit the threesome road is not for everyone and it takes strong individuals and a strong relationship to handle it (communicate). Your second task will be to find someone that is attracted to both of you. This is sometimes harder than it seems. Peruse through the apps, put up a photo (together or separately) and talk to people that you both find attractive. Once you’ve found someone you both agree on, it’s up to you whether you want to talk to them, or get right to the point on fucking.

If both of you have chosen you need to make a trio happen and you have any already considered what is required from whom you choose be careful where you do it.  Many residential communities are not so accepting of strange people coming into their neighborhood.  Safety is a primary concern.

Perhaps you work so much you never have time for each other anymore and seeking another person or persons will bring that spark back between you.  Personally, I prefer getting to know the people I have a threesome with first. I get to know their likes and dislikes and eventually their sexual likes and dislikes so that we can determine their compatibility with us. I also use this to weed out the creeps. There’s no right or wrong answer to this, but talking to them beforehand saves the embarrassment of any expectations they or you may have had prior to the sex. The last time we did this, the mature gay guy was new to threesomes, it was organized by my partner, and so to suss each other out we went to a local public bar and had a couple of drinks. The ice was broken pretty quickly and we all realized we got along well. It wasn’t long before the guy turned around and said ‘Are we going to sit here all afternoon or are we going to go and fuck?’

In the threesome whoever you are be as mindful of the other two as you can. In case you’re the awkward extra person dynamic appears to be off, or one part plainly wouldn’t like to continue make an elegant way out. On the off chance that you told your accomplice they could kiss the other individual however rapidly discovered you couldn’t stand the sight, let them know without blaming either party for accomplishing something incorrectly. Confirm your accomplice’s significance to you a short time later, and notwithstanding amid, so they don’t feel debilitated. The quest for sexual oddity isn’t a reason to treat another person severely, and if your relationship merits being in by any stretch of the imagination, it’s not worth risking due to a seriously executed enterprise. In case you’re delicate and capable, you can have a wild night that brings you both significantly nearer together, and sires some astonishing climaxes.

Needless to say, the scotch I was drinking disappeared very quickly.



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