Experts Tips In Breaking The Fear Bubble In Trying Anal Sex For The First Time

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Whenever sex topics are talked about, almost everyone is willing to share their first time in bed. However, take in mind that most people often refer to vagina and penis penetration. For some, anal play or anal sex is still taboo, and only a few individuals are open with their anal play engagement.

 

But did you know that heterosexual anal intercourse is not an uncommon sexual activity? Women and men with ages ranging from 25-44 had experienced anal intercourse. In numbers, 35% of women and 44% of men engage with the said activity.

 

Yet, even with the numbers are increasing over recent years, some are still afraid of trying anal play for the first time. A lot of speculation and fears lead them to overthink how the entire experience will go. If you’re reading this, you might be interested in anal sex. Read on and let the experts clear your thoughts about anal sex. Maybe, after reading the article, you might find yourself relieved and excited to try it out with your partner.

Anal Sex Is For All

Contrary to what you hear or think, anal sex is definitely for everyone. Whatever gender orientation you have, you can enjoy anal sex with your partner. And one good thing with anal play is everyone has anuses, so you can either receive or get one, depending on your heart’s content.

 

You might be wondering how a woman can treat her partner (women to women or women to men scenario) during an anal play. You might be thinking that it’s kind of impossible before. However, these days, it’s easier than ever.

 

Thanks to many types of sex toys, it can now be done. Popularly referred to as pegging,  women can now treat their partners, either men or women, with an anal play through this sexual activity. Women can wear a strap-on dildo and penetrate the anus of their partners.

 

What’s even better is that the entire anal play can be improvised to add intensity to the experience using other sex toys. Moreover, couples can also share stimulation by using a strapless dildo. With this, the female partner can have her clit stimulated while pouncing her partner through their anus.

 

But all of these strange yet sexy sexual repertoire might come off a bit awkward for beginners, and we would like to break that awkwardness. Now, let’s read on what sex and relationship experts have to say about how a couple or an individual can break through the fear of anal sex.

Read What Experts About To Say…

According to sex educator and CannaSexual founder, Ashley Manta, our anus, made up of the sphincter and the rectum, are teeming with nerve-endings that, when stretched and filled in, give off a fantastic feeling. Feeling ecstatic yet? Hold on for a while. As per Luna Matatas, a sex and pleasure educator, you can’t directly dive into the whole anal play right away. Foreplay is a must.

 

That’s why treating your partner with a pleasure oral sex stimulator and other sex toys can be a great way to heat things up. It’s best to go slow and steady first. However, if you and your partner are already utilizing sex toys during intercourse, it can be a good start to introduce sex toys designed for anal play.

 

Certified sex therapist and a licensed psychologist, Rachel Needle, Psy.D  advise couples to always communicate with their partner. If your partner is having fears and doubt with anal sex, try to take things slowly. If you’re on the side of the relationship who does have more experience, discuss this new sexual activity and make sure both of you are on the same page.

 

Use lubricant as more lubrication means better and enjoyable anal sex. Remember that unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t produce its lubrication. That’s why many women are naturally scared of what’s getting in there. You can also use water or silicone-based condoms.

 

Don’t hesitate to use anal sex toys. It’s highly suggested, and you don’t necessarily need to insert it to your anus right away. A little vibration can add a lot of new stimulation in the area. It can help you get acquainted with the new and strange sensation, as per sexologist Jill McDevitt.

 

Like masturbation, you can also introduce anal play on your own. This is best advised for individuals interested in trying new things on their own before trying it with someone else. It gives an individual a sense of freedom-, the liberty to experiment with new things on your body.  According to Alicia Sinclair, a sex expert and the woman behind b-Vibe,  that’s not a bad thing to do. It’s only natural that you want to explore the intricacies of your body by yourself.

 

Learn your most comfortable position. Whatever you read on any sex magazines or hear advice from friends, you always need to learn what position you and your partner are most comfortable with. If you are on the receiving end, it’s easiest to be on your back or stomach. Take it from Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, an NYU professor of human sexuality and also a LELO sexpert. However, comfort differs from one person to another, so take the time to figure out your most preferred position.

 

And to give you peace of mind, anal sex won’t stretch you out. If this factor scares you, don’t be. As per assistant clinical professor, Alyssa Dweck, MD at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, your anus will bounce back to normal after it accommodates a penis or sex toy entry. Thus, don’t worry about incontinence and enjoy the experience.

Takeaway

Anal sex or anal play has become a trendy sexual repertoire, so it’s not surprising that individuals and couples engaging with the activity are increasing. However, there are still individuals who are afraid of doing it. However, proper research, preparation, and communication with your partner can lead to enjoyable anal sex. These experts’ advice and tips can significantly help anyone interested in exploring their behind and enjoy the experience.

 

Author’s bio:

Belinda is a 42-year-old married mother of three who lives in Naples, Florida. While staying at home to raise her children, she began to write articles and blogs for various outlets. She was raised in a strict, Christian home, but has since found more peace with a more spiritual approach to life and health. A strong believer in natural and alternative medicine, energy healing, and total wellness, she stumbled on the health benefits of the female orgasm quite by accident. Since then, she has often written pieces that help inform others about the benefits she discovered. Belinda also enjoys taking care of her home and family, and often jokes that she is a bit of a Stepford wife… with a wild side. In her free time, she loves to spend time at the beach with her family, host parties and BBQ’s, and work outside in one of her many flower gardens.

A Great Intorduction To Anal With b-Vibe Novice!

I was very excited to receive some new sex toys from b-Vibe in our Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres this week. I reviewed their b-Vibe’s Rimming Butt Plug when it came in a few weeks ago and was mightily impressed. Their marketing is really sex positive and couple friendly. The company was founded by a lady called Alicia Sinclair who is a sexologist with many years of experience in the field, so she really knows what she is doing. I thought I would review the b-Vibe Novice which is a remote control butt plug. My interest is piqued for several reasons. The remote on the b-Vibe was excellent both in range and connectivity and I wanted to see if this followed through with all their products. I picked up the tester and it was the smoothest silkiest silicone, I ended up just stroking it like a cat. It is also the exact size and shape of a butt plug I often seek out for couples trying anal play for the first time, so I really want this to be good.

The plug which comes in turquoise, cerise, or black is housed in a sturdy cardboard box which could be used for storage. There is a picture of the novice on it, so it isn’t discreet but it is cool stylish, approachable and unashamed about what it is. I quite like this, it reflects what the company seems to be all about. If you don’t want the world and his wife to know you like stuff up your bum, then you are catered for too. Inside the box, you will find that the sex toy has its own plastic storage case which looks like one of those corrugated ones spies hand over money in. It is a perfect travel case to house the plug, the remote, the charger and the instruction booklet. There is also enough room to put some water-based lubricant and adult toy cleaner inside, should you wish.

The plug itself is 3.5 x 1 inch, small and rounded at the tip. It is gently tapered to the small indented neck and it has a 2-inch flange which as we all know is completely necessary for any anal toy as the human bottom sucks things up just as easily and efficiently as it expels. As I mentioned before the silkiness of the silicone make me almost believe the plug could be used without lube but that is never a good idea when it comes to anal play. This, together with the unintimidating shape and size really do make this a great choice for first timers. Some couples get put off by all the interesting curves and bumps on lots of anal sex toys but this one appeals to a newcomer and more experienced people alike.

 

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The b-Vibe Novice is 100% body safe, phthalate free, easy to clean and it doesn’t seem to attract dust at all. Unfortunately, it is only splash proof and not waterproof, this disappoints me a little. Other similar anal sex toys in this category and price range have managed to get round this problem. It charges via a USB cord and for a 2 hour charge you get 1.5 hours of play.

The Novice is small enough to wear around and about if you wanted. The base is small enough that you could probably sit down comfortably without the need for a cushion. This opens up all sorts of fun avenues for couples to make the most of the remote control.

I must admit I had a bit of trouble using the plug the first time. I am apt to dive straight in ignoring the manual. My default press and hold routine didn’t work though and I discovered the sex toy had a travel lock. It is a great feature but not so great for those of us selling the toys. Once it is turned on the fun really begins. The range, power and rumbly quality of the vibrations is very impressive! This is especially true for a toy this small and unassuming. The vibrations spread all through the toy evenly from the motor which is often not the case with toys. You need the remote to increase and decrease the intensity but the 15 patterns can be accessed either remotely or directly from the base of the toy by pressing the button. The remote was just as good to use as the one which came with the Rimming plug. It is one of the best remotes I have ever tested. It worked to a distance of 30 feet. It easily worked through flesh and clothing to. A big round of applause for b-Vibe on that score. I am not a patterns person but with 15 to choose from, there is definitely one for everyone. The vibrations, size and shape of this toy mean that you don’t have to limit it to anal play, it is also perfect for clitoral stimulation. Just don’t forget to clean in between chopping and changing orifices.

The b-Vibe Novice definitely gets a big thumbs up from me. I can’t really think of any down sides. If b-Vibe are listening, I say to you as I do to others, in the future maybe put some lights on the remote to indicate what intensity the butt plug is at. The plug is so narrow, there could be a danger of it slipping out if worn during vaginal sex but conversely, its small size means that other toys can be used vaginally at the same time without the discomfort that is sometimes experienced when doing that. So yes b-Vibe have done it again! I eagerly anticipate what else they have to offer. It is also an amazing prostate massager used for better health.

About the Author: Emily is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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