Anal is a really scary thought to some people. It’s seen as unnatural, dangerous, painful or weird to some, and that’s totally fine! But here’s my anal sex advice, don’t knock it till you try it! Once you’ve accomplished anal once or twice you’ll find yourself totally surrendered to it’s amazing feeling. Here are some tips and tricks to getting comfortable with this new move in your sex
Lube, lube, lube!
A lot of people forget that our butts aren’t naturally lubing like vaginas, so you can’t expect to slip on in right off the bat! You should take some time to research and buy some different anal formulated lubes, they tend to be thicker and longer lasting then regular water based lube which is a huge plus in the comfort list. Take it slow, really lube the area up well and then begin. Don’t
expect to be hardcore thrusting away (if at all), you need to give your partner plenty of time to get used to your size and adjust. If either of you feel like it isn’t gliding smoothly then add more lube. You can never use too much lube!
Warm that sucker up!
Make sure to take some time to get your partner relaxed and in the mood, it will make it much harder if one of you is still a bit tense! Start with a nice massage, some kissing and caressing and go from there. Try using some toys such as anal beads or plugs to get the area open and prepared for more. If your partner is more comfortable using fingers then go ahead with that, start at one and do your best to get comfortable with 3. If you feel like it’s not working, take a deep breath, reevaluate, communicate and try again. Your partner will tell you when they’re ready.
Sometimes it might ease your mind if you were to pre plan an anal date and spend some time alone at home getting yourself ready. If you’re an experienced analler you will already know about all these things, but to someone new this will be very helpful. Picture yourself at home with a nice glass of red, some background music, some luke warm water and a douche. Weird scene right? But it has a purpose, if you want total peace of mind in terms of cleanliness when doing anal then you’ll want to flush out your bowels an hour or two before hand. Usually you can get away with having done a number 2 not long before anal, but it’s all about knowing your body and what you’re comfortable with.
Next, would be to grab your anal lube and plug set and have a go at warming up that area yourself. It will help to start with the medium plug, and then the
largest plug. Once the largest plug is in leave it till your partner gets home so you’re still feeling comfortable and ready to go straight away.
B-Vibe training kit
The B Vibe anal kit is by far the most educational and revolutionary anal kit. It comes with a complete plug set (small, medium vibrating, large weighted size), anal training and sex guide, anal douche and lubricant launcher. It also has a cute little bag to store everything in. It’s your go to for anything anal. It’s also a great way to try their products. B-Vibe has a wide range of anal products including weighted plugs, vibrating plugs and beads, and their very popular
rimming plugs. The best part about the B-Vibe kit is the guide that comes with it. It’s an in depth, step by step guide on how to have conversations surrounding anal, what to do and what not to do and simple tricks to make it more fun.
All in all, anal is fun. Getting the right products is only half of the work, communication is another. Your partner will love it and so will you! Like I said, don’t knock it till you try it and relax. It’s a great way to instantly bring a new spark to the relationship and spice things up. Just ensure you have the right products made from 100% silicone, lube and toy cleaner and you’re well on your way to anal paradise!
If you are still unsure or want some further tips and tricks why not speak with one of our consultants at the Adult Lifestyle Center closest to you!