Why Won’t Adult Movies Scenarios Work for You in Real Life?

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Have you ever seen one of these adult films where the woman, for apparently no reason, goes to bed with a stranger or vice versa? Of course that you have — we all have seen them. After all, there are over 28,000 people watching porn every second.

 

However, it is good to keep in mind that this kind of movie is only the cinema projection of the author’s mind. Every new relationship takes time, sometimes years, to come to full fruition. Even the most believable story based on facts is not precise in some way or another.

 

However, there is one vital question we have to ask ourselves: why this movie scenario will not work for me? After all, some people wrote it. As human beings, they had to base it on something they previously experienced, witnessed, or fantasized about, have they not?

 

This article was written to deal with this sort of uncertainty! Here you will find three reasons why adult movies may not be the best source of inspiration when it comes to a healthy sex life and relationships.

They Are Too Fast-Paced

Sure, seeing professional porn actors and actresses using squirting dildos can look like a fun experience. However, how many couples do you think would decide to use them on the first date?

 

If you are in a long-term relationship, using sex toys can improve your experiences in bed. But, if you just met the other person, do not think they will want to make out with you or go even further. The progress of the story in the porn movie you watched is not really a reflection of reality.

 

Our social life does not function like this. We can approach the case of two people instantly falling in love with each other very rarely.

 

Next time you see a young man or woman sleeping with someone they’ve known for a few minutes, take it with a grain of salt. New relationships take time to mature and develop. Some would even say that to call other people ‘friends,’ they need to know them for years.

They Are Too Perfect

Everything that finally lands on the film tape is precisely prepared to be visually attractive. The stories that we are being told are designed to make us feel a certain way – like we could be one day in the place of the actors. However, our expectations are way too high.

 

Filmmakers put much time and effort to create the best experience for the viewer. What is more, actors and actresses also devote much time and often money, to improve their appearance. Not everyone could inherit such good genes or afford the help of plastic surgeons.

 

Additionally, not all of our friends look beautiful. We might also not be a high, muscular man or an attractive woman that looks like a 20-year-old. It is the thing that can get overlooked because it is perfectly normal.

 

The possibility to watch porn online via various porn sites made a significant impact on our lives. Having a media that presents only the pretty side of the story within our fingertips can be tempting. However, keep in mind that we should want less from our life than perfection.

They Omit the Consequences

Have you ever seen an adult movie that ended with a wedding or with a couple raising a pair of kids? Excluding some very niche scenarios, it has probably never happened. Can you say why? The answer is simple: in our world, consequences matter.

 

Being close to someone is burdened with consequences. As Emmanuel Levinas once said: “The very relationship with the other is the relationship with the future.” This statement perfectly captures what every adult film is not telling its spectator.

 

We change, we grow old, every year we become a little different. Hopefully, we change for the better. Nevertheless, it is inevitable that as the days go by, we have to make choices. And these choices always come with their consequences.

 

How we handle our sex life is one of these choices. And when the consequences can last for a long time in the form of kids and providing for a family, the case becomes quite complicated.

The Bottom Line

Fyodor Dostoevsky wrote in his famous book ‘The Brothers Karamazov’: “Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to the point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect, he ceases to love.”

 

Our lives without works of fiction would not be complete. However, it would often help our family life if we get rid of our unnecessary high expectations.

 

Many things can still be interesting without being a clear-cut representation of what we saw on our phone screen or read in some book. Live free of illusions, and everything will be fine. Good luck!

Changing The Face Of Pornography

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I want to change the definition of porn and here is why;

I have recently watched the Netflix show Big Mouth (I definitely recommend it) and in one of the episodes a steamy book is circulated around the characters and one of them, Jay is very confused by this “wait a minute, you’re telling me all these girls are walking around reading porn!” And this, along with the recent Fifty Shades release, a few recent documentaries had me thinking, what do we as a society really classify as porn and is it changing?

What Is Porn And How Is It Changing?

Most people know the old adage when it comes to the porn vs art debate of “knowing porn when I see it” but with a society that is increasingly permeated by hypersexualised imagery, easily accessible sex videos etc is that something we can really say anymore?  We adults may “know porn when we see it” but do the kids?  They unlike us have grown up constantly able to easily access this content and are somewhat desensitised to it, so when they are grown ups will they know porn when they see it?

The point I am getting to is that maybe we need to start, as a society, begin to have a conversation around porn, its place and definition. Not to limit or sensor but to tackle the issues that are arising out of porn’s increased sales, accessibility, use and participation.

Talking to my little brother who is now 15 it becomes very clear that this conversation is far overdue. Last time I was home I made him sit down with me and have a talk. He knows what I do for work and because of that he feels that I am the best person to talk to (I’m not sure about best but if he is talking I’m happy) and what started out with questions and clarifying terms has begun to evolve into a discussion around porn and how it should be viewed.

Porn And How It Is Viewed

Many kids first contact with porn is way before their parents believe it is (kids as young as 7 or 8 have reported regularly accessing pornography via the internet) and because these young minds are entering this very confronting world with little to no guidance they begin to form their opinions on sex based on what they see on the screen. My little brother did.  He believed that if the size of his penis wasn’t close to that of the guys on the screen, girls wouldn’t like him. And the penis size question was just the start.

We then began talk about how the act of sex is nothing like it is depicted on the screen. I came to him with his analogy, porn is like an action movie. In real life most days you will walk down the street with little to no car chases, explosions etc it’s the same with porn. When you have sex it will be much less over the top and more real. This seemed to help something click with how he viewed porn and I hope this has moved him to a place where he can enjoy porn but see it for what it really is, a fantasy.

The problem is not every family has a loud mouth older sister who works in a sex shop and is constantly thinking about these issues and that can make it harder. Couple this with the fact that porn seems to becoming part of the societal norm and we have the makings for a perfect storm of confused horned up kids that need guidance.

The First Step Is To Define What Porn Is

For me the first step is about defining what porn is and I think for so many people my definition will make them uncomfortable. I think we should define porn as any content (image, book, video and advertisement) that aims to arouse. Now, before we continue I know this will include images and content that is currently not considered porn and I want that. But do not misunderstand me I’m not asking for these things to be gotten rid of or kept for adult eyes only rather I would like people to engage in a conversation with their children around the meaning of these images, their repercussions and effects so when they do come to sex videos and imagery (what is considered porn now) that will have some context into how they can approach this content. I want to remove the stigma and whispers from the word “porn” and use it as a correct term for sexualised images.

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Image: Sexualised Imagery

I also believe that this re-definition of porn would force a lot of people to reconsider the images and content they engage with and hopefully bring a level of awareness to sex’s real presence in our daily lives. This increased discussion could mean that the types of conversations I have with my brother can be a regular occurrence in houses with teenagers, it could mean that people who have worked in porn experience less stigma later in life, we as a society could see a change of our attitudes towards sex that have us being more open and more honest.

The reality is my wanting to change the definition of porn and consider more things under this term doesn’t change a thing, sex and porn will still be there, so will advertising using sex to sell but at least if we give it a name hopefully channels of discussion will open up and our young people won’t feel lost by the often confusing and unspoken rules we are all meant to learn but no one is teaching.

Author: Jamie is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre

What Is Video Streaming & Why It Is Replacing DVDs!

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Streaming is when you play a video on your computer, laptop or mobile when it is being stored on another device. People are able to live stream an event which is happening in real time which is used for webcam shows or stream content that has previously been stored like adult movies. The benefits of streaming adult movies include:

  • Streaming can allow you interact with your favorite webcam star live: If you are watching a webcam show, you will be placed within the experience at the time it happens. Most streaming platforms have chat room areas that give you the option chat or make requests directly to the star. Maybe some of your requests are kinky or naughtier than usual and the star choose whether he or she wishes to interact with you. The shows can be as personal as the star would like to make them. This form of interacting with an adult movie star happens in no other way. Just think of all the different sex toys you can request for them to use.
  • Streaming allows you to choose the video quality: There are normally three quality options to choose form high, medium and low. Depending on your level of bandwidth will help you choose which video quality you would like to view and of course the higher the quality the more bandwidth you will use and unless you have a good provider it may slow the downloads down.
  • Streaming allows the viewer to watch the adult movie instantly: You no longer have to wait for a download to finish before you are able to watch it. Now you can watch the adult movie as soon as the file begins to download. This is especially great if you have an urgent need to attend to.
  • Streaming does not store the adult movie on your computer or laptop: Sometimes people don’t have the storage on their computer or laptop to save a complete movie. When you choose to stream an adult movie, it will not get stored on your computer.
  • Streaming does not store adult movie history: Since you can’t store it, you will not need to delete anything so you no longer have to worry whether someone might view your adult movie history with just a few clicks. Simply delete your web browser history!
  • Streaming technology prevents adult movie piracy: Streaming videos are much more difficult to download. This means the content you are watching is a onetime only offer. You may be in some of the only people who had gotten to see that webcam show. Since the webcam show is rare, it will generate a bigger viewing audience.
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Image: What Is Video Streaming & Why It Is Replacing DVDs! – Mr Porn Geek, The King of Adult Site Reviews

Streaming requires a reasonably quick internet connection. If you are planning on streaming adult movies, it is recommended to press play and then press the pause button to allow the adult movie to download. Press the play button in a couple of minutes and you will be ready to go.

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Like all quality reviews, Mr. Porn Geek spends an average of 45 minutes on each website. This is an amazing feat, especially if you consider he has hundreds of reviews. This guy has really done an incredible job. It’s impressive how much work he has done that has went into collecting all the information and taking screenshots.

Mr. Porn Geek is an extremely user friendly website. Pick a category and select the magnifying glass. Your webpage will load to a personal review of the adult movie company he is recommending.

I highly recommend you check out his site and read the reviews. No matter what type of adult pleasure you are excited by, there is a nice chance that this dude will be able to provide something for you. Some of his best menus include:

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