Slap, Tickle and SPANK!

Spank class!

Spanking has had a bad rap in recent times, you’re no longer allowed to spank children or the elderly to keep them in line. However, there was a time when people were spanking all over town. All jokes aside, I’ll admit it, I love to be spanked. Pre-sex, during sex, and a good ol’ after sex smack on the ass, a gesture that I put on a great show. While some people find this kink a little odd, there are thousands of people who enjoy erotic spanking. Why am I sharing this with you? Because I think everyone deserves a good spanking and I am going to share how to give and receive a good ol’ sexual spanking spank.

History of spanking

Spanking is not a new trend, the first recorded image or depiction of sexual spanking in Tomba della Fustigazione, or the Tomb of Whipping and actually backdates to 490 BC. Spanking is depicted through Greek and Egyptian cultures as well as mention in Karma Sutra in the Indian culture. Spanking moved through the Renaissance and Victorian eras with a common underground culture of sexual spanking found in Victorian history. Fast forward to more modern times, we’ve become more kink friendly and accepting of people’s sexual fetishes and it is less taboo to tell people about your spanking desires. There you go, your spank lesson over!

Firstly, and most importantly: Permission is important!

Consent is a fickle thing isn’t it? Look, I really shouldn’t need to say this, however, I am saying it anyway. Never ever spank anyone without their consent, like – ever. Adding to that you should ask before you spank not after. You’ll be sorry when someone punches you in the nose because you gave an unwelcomed smack. After someone has given you permission to spank them you should try implementing safe words or systems. The traffic light system is a good start: green is obviously means keep going, yellow is when you are pushing limits and need to dial it down and red for stop, as in stop immediately. Under no circumstances should you ever continue to spank someone if they have said they’ve had enough.

Why do people like spanking?

Short answer is: science. The long answer is that the neurotransmitters in your brain that help control your brains pleasure and rewards centre is also activated when it comes to pain. That is where that old saying comes into play, there is a fine line between pleasure and pain. So, that is why many people find spanking a turn on. Also, after 50 Shades of Grey came out everybody is much more kink friendly than ever before.

Bare basics… get it? BARE.

Spanking at its simplest form can be performed on a bare bum with bare hands. However, there are various implements you can use on your partner. Although, if you’ve never been spanked it’s a good idea to start slow, while you’re in doggy style ask your partner to spank you. Establish how much force is going to be used and how frequently the spanks are going to be. If you find you don’t enjoy it, simply ask your partner to stop. If you find you enjoy ask your partner to spank you more or with more force.  At this point you could start massaging the area before spanking it again, this will stimulate those neurons in the brain between pain and pleasure.

Spanking V2.0

Once you’ve started down you will inevitably move to more intense spanks, often with the use of: whips, chains, floggers, nine tails etc. The force used will dependent on what you and your partner are comfortable with. Personally, I’ve been left bruised from the spanking sessions I have received from previous partners. However, that level of intensity isn’t for everyone and that is okay. Some people like to be restrained while being spanked without sex, while others like to use it as a form of foreplay or enjoy spanking during sex. Some use spanking as part of their regular sexual repertoire, others only experiment perhaps during role-play for example a naughty school student much in need of a spanking from their principle. Sex is very subjective and some prefer light spanking while others go a bit harder.

Class dismissed

As my spank lesson comes to an end I’d like to summarise my key points. Remember to ask before you spank people, or you will go to jail. It’s okay to not like spanking or to like being beaten mercilessly – as long as you’re consenting. Everyone’s sexuality is their own and you can’t force your sexual kinks onto your partner if they aren’t into it. Start off gentle and easy, light spanks during sex is a good place to start, level up slowly! Start with bare bums and bare hands before buying a flogger or paddle, start off with light smacks rather than a brutal beat down. That’s a sure what your partner will never let you do it again, and no one wants that!

Homework

Your homework is to go out and start exploring you spanking fetishes with your partners, enjoy yourselves and happy humping!