Deciding To Touch – A Personal Story

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*Disclaimer- assault may trigger some readers please be advised*

Here we go, my personal story of how the me of today came to light. Not all of us come into this world of sexual excitement and enticement with a “bang”. A one in which magical arousing confetti erupts into the air as the “to be” most enchanted moment arrives. Some start off with fear, caution, and betrayal, that “thing” that everyone says won’t happen to them happens.

You don’t have to be drunk at a party or be put in a dodgy situation for this to happen, sometimes just walking your dog in a friendly neighbourhood can become a crime scene. We all utter the words “I won’t put myself in that situation for that to happen” but it’s not always our choice.

Choice is my most used word in my vocabulary, choice is the motto of my life. My choices are what got me to where I am today, although that road was a rough ride with many mistakes I am proud to say they were all because I chose.

Not all those who are assaulted go out into the big bad wide world and to put it bluntly “sleep with everything that moves” to fill that void and numb the pain. Don’t get me wrong it works for some but for me, this wasn’t an option I was willing to take. I chose to choose my emotions over my body, and it’s a choice I’ll never regret. The body never forgets and it’s the fault of the mind, simple touches that should be arousing and intimate become triggers for pain and emotion. Flinching is normal, flinching at the most normal touches almost become unbearable. Hugging is a huge one for me, a simple hug is not easy because you are allowing someone into your personal space and your body.

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The body recalls a touch that was once sensual and arousing and turns it into a trigger to shut off and become numb. I chose to handle myself the best way I knew possible, I chose to choose. My first time was taken with scares as a memory every single day. I had to teach myself to feel again, I had to learn to not block out my emotions and to become myself again. I had to learn not to shower five times a day because I constantly felt “dirty” and I had to choose to stop getting embarrassed about a huge scar that runs up an intimate part of my body and warning people to stop them from being shocked by it.

For me, this was a long journey in which I have lost and found myself many many times, but finally, sex became meaningful, intense and powerful. For me, I became more open and willing to try things that before this happened I would have never even considered. I explored myself first, I learnt what I liked about myself and how my body reacted, I learnt to love myself first not in the sense that I liked the way I looked but in the sense that I listened to my body and emotions. My self-discovery is where I learnt to trust my gut feeling and to never let what I went through dictate the rest of my life. I chose to not hate all men but to trust my own instincts, which might I add didn’t have a 100% strike rate! But I learnt and that’s the main thing!

Trust exercises, goals, boundaries these are all the things in therapy you are told to write down and think about. These don’t mean just with a partner these also relate to yourself, and how you build your journey into intimacy. Sexual healing takes patience and don’t ever do something until you are ready for it emotionally and physically. For a very long time my mind and my body were disconnected, every time I chose to have sex I did not enjoy it because my body and mind would constantly disassociate. This was my greatest hurdle because feeling meant triggering “that feeling” and I can’t tell you how many times I burst into tears during and after sex. But each time I did I grew and I evolved and I became stronger!

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There are plenty of supportive, understanding partners out there, but there are also people who are going to make you feel like their sexual needs are more important than your safety needs. Being able to address your history on your own timeline, without having to even consider anyone else, is a wonderful benefit. It may take you some time to fully process this experience, and it may continue to surface in surprising and frustrating ways. But don’t let this person steal your chance for joy and intimacy. If you have the desire to learn how to enjoy sex (and again, you don’t have to), you can get there.

My most favourite quote which I tattooed onto my body is “you never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have”.

Learn, grow, feel, and most importantly discover yourself first!

About the author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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The Mystery Behind The Time Of The Month

Blonde Woman With A Tampon

Ladies this one is for you, we all know and sometimes love or sometimes hate when “that” time of the month comes around, am I right? You love her when she visits to tell you that the condom actually worked the other week or things up there are actually working to plan but it’s always those moments when you seriously don’t want her around like for that holiday you booked, for some down time with that someone special and she decides she just wants to be that annoying friend that wants to be so bloody nosy and pop by whenever they please.

Then when she does come around your hormones and thoughts are so pipped up and confused as hell! Firstly you want chocolate, then you want sex, then you are extremely sad about every damn thing in the world, then you want sex, then you want to kill someone, and then you’re hungry, and finally you start crying at every possible thing that might go wrong even the thought of not having sex, but who would want to do that? Ewww… it’s gross and red and yeah I won’t go on but you get my point, right? Well do I have the solution for you? Of course I do, I obviously wouldn’t be writing for the sake of it ha-ha, please open your mind as, I am introducing the one and only “SOFT TAMPON”!

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About Soft Tampons

This bad boy isn’t like any regular tampon or pad you’ve ever used before, don’t get me wrong this isn’t for everyone but I always try to keep an open mind and try new things which brings me to the soft tampon, they are ideal for those special moments in life when she comes to visit but you need to act all cool and pretend she never did. It’s extremely convenient to use, thanks to the handy pull tab, you only need one finger to insert and remove him! They are made environmentally friendly, non-toxic sponge material and contains no chemicals whatsoever which will eliminate the possibility of internal irritation, they are soft (obviously, the name gives that part away), comfortable and pleasant to wear.

Soft tampons are the only tampons that give you the opportunity to still have sexual intercourse on your period with no mess, the best part is this little sponge can even hold your heavy flow.

5 Special Aspects About The Soft Tampon

  • You can go swimming.
  • Play all kinds of sports.
  • Go into a sauna.
  • You can sleep up to 8 hours with him in with no mess or fuss.
  • One size fits all.

So, next time you beg for Mother Nature to just send you a text saying

‘Whaddup Girl? You ain’t pregnant. Have a great week. Talk to ya next month!’

but truly you know that’s not happening anytime soon but you still want to feel comfortable, relaxed and if you have that opportunity to get your freak on. Grab a Soft Tampon you won’t have to worry about a thing and trust me he’ll never even notice it’s there.

If you would like to find out more information, read this article on how to relieve sexual tension on your period.

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Top 30 LGBTQIA Nightclubbing Venues & Dating Apps

Banners Of Popular LGBTQIA Nightclub

I have been working in the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres for just over a year now and I can not tell you how many of my LGBTQIA customers have asked me where they should go out to meet people in Sydney. So today I am going to give you all the information I know about what events are on and when and where they are, all the good pubs and clubs and some of the most popular dating apps. I am a lesbian so I know more about the lesbian events than all the gay events but I will try to mix it up as much as I can.

EVENTS

EMPIRE

Empire is a new monthly event that has been happening for about 4 months now at the Hudson Ballroom in the city. The organisers of this event have a bunch of promoters that are really helpful to the people who don’t know other people in the LGBTQIA community. If you don’t go out much or have anyone to go with the promotors organise a gathering before the event so that everyone has people to party with all night and from my experiences going to this event everyone in there is super friendly and ready to mingle so it is really easy to make lots of new friends there. They have a Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat that are all very active and a lot of people meet just through those alone. There’s a group chat for people to meet and a group called Empire Girls Gang where everyone discusses community issues or even personal issues, everyone is super helpful and supportive.

There are two rooms so there is plenty of space for everyone, tables and seats for people to sit down and relax as well. They have a trustworthy cloakroom in the venue for you to leave your jacket and any other belongings you don’t want to carry around all night.

You can purchase tickets for this event online or you can purchase tickets at the door – $20 Entry. If you keep an eye on their Facebook page they sometimes have competitions so that you can win free tickets to their events.

YTG

The YTG has the same organisers as Empire. YTG is run weekly as a Thursday night event at Monkey Magic in Kings Cross. This event offers free entry, there is a Nintendo 64 that you can sit down and play if you don’t feel like dancing, $1 dumplings and other food available till late.

There is no lockout for this event.

GIRLTHING

This once a month event has been happening for 9 years now, it was the first club I went to when I first turned 18 and I am now 23. You’ll have to click on the link to their Facebook to find out locations, once you like the page they’ll invite you to events. The thing I love most about this one is they have themes every couple of months and different types of parties e.g. Mardi Gras, jelly wrestling, body painting, Halloween etc. They are even a check-in point on the app Winkd so it’s easier for you to find the single ladies dancing around you. The weekend after the Sydney event they now have one in Melbourne as well.

You can either purchase tickets before the event or at the door on the night depending on which event it is i.e. Mardi Gras parties usually sell out really fast so best to purchase your tickets as soon as they come out online. Entry price is always different depending on the event.

BOYTHING

The same people who run Girlthing also run Boything which is also a monthly event. The exact same concept just more for gay men and transgender men. There are no rules though, men and women are allowed at both events. Give the Boything page a like as well if you’d like to be updated on when and where this one is.

BIRDCAGE

Again the same people who run Girlthing and Boything. This one is a weekly event held at the Sly Fox in Enmore on a Wednesday night. It offers free entry and cheap drinks before 11 pm. Usually, they even have $5 wet pussy shots all night. Give the page a like for this one as well if you want to keep in the loop with all the different themed nights. There is no lockout at this venue and plenty of couches to sit down and relax.

HEAPS GAY

Heaps gay is a monthly event held at The Lady Hampshire in Camperdown. This event is filled with a mixture of people from the LGBTQIA community, the venue is pretty big and usually full so there are plenty of new people for you to meet at this one.

Most of the time it is free entry unless they have a special event which you can purchase tickets online or at the door.

UNICORNS

Unicorns occurs every few months, usually themed and always sells out at The Red Rattler Theatre. Again you’ll find a mixture of LGBTQIA folks at this event and every single one of them is very friendly. This event usually has a lot of shows for you to watch as well as partying and they also run competitions during the night with awesome prizes (including sex toys!). Everyone is always dressed up in wild clothing and all up it is just really fun and has a great vibe.

They also have a monthly event in Melbourne.

Make sure to purchase your tickets early for this one otherwise you might miss out.

CLUB LIST

  • ARQ Sydney – Darlinghurst
  • Stonewall – Oxford Street
  • Goodbar – Oxford Street
  • Midnight Shift – Oxford Street
  • Oxford Art Factory – Oxford Street
  • Palms on Oxford – Oxford Street
  • Nevermind – Oxford Street
  • The Cliff Dive – Oxford Street
  • The Colombian Hotel – Oxford Street
  • The Marlborough Hotel – King Street, Newtown
  • Tokyo Sing Song – downstairs of Malborough hotel
  • Websters Bar – King Street, Newtown
  • The Midnight Special – Enmore road, Enmore
  • The Bank – King Street, Newtown
  • Newtown Hotel – King Street, Newtown
  • Courthouse Hotel – Australia Street, Newtown
  • The Imperial Hotel – Erskineville Road, Erskineville
  • Sly Fox – Enmore Road, Enmore

Just to name a few…

Sydney Nightclubs Banners Including ARQ, Oxford Art Factory And Sly Fox
Photo: ARQ, Oxford Art Factory, Sly Fox

APPS

  • Grindr
  • Her
  • Winkd
  • OkCupid
  • Tinder
  • Dattch
  • Hornet
Famous Dating Applications For LGBTQIA
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If you would like to find out more information or support, there are many LGBTQIA community services that are available nation wide.

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VIP Interview With Brigitte Grabe Founder Of Superliquid, Kinky Diapers & The GummiBar Association

Brigitte Grabe Founder From Superliquid

This is a VIP Interview with Brigitte Grabe the founder of Superliquid, Kinky Diapers and the GummiBar Association. Superliquid is a fashion design company who specialise in creating incredibly well made clothing which incorporates strong ideas of fetishism.

  • Superliquid: Superliquid make their clothing out of 100% natural latex that is purchased from places like Radical Rubber and 4D Rubber which is sourced from the rubber tree (Hevea Brasiliensis).
  • KinkyDiapers: KinkyDiapers is a brand name made by Superliquid who specialise in the creation of the world’s finest selection of waterproof and leak-proof rubber pants which are all individually handmade.
  • The GummiBar Association: The GummiBar Association is a bar which is located in Switzerland close to the French border.  It is a place where people who have non-heteronormative gender or sexual orientation to find other people who have similar personal interests. It helps provide an inclusive environment with exchanges of positive social and cultural interactions.

Tell me about yourself?

My name is Brigitte Graber, I was born 1965 in Switzerland. I am a latex manufacturer and founder of the GummiBar Association

How did you discover the world of fashion design and fetishism?

I actually never discovered the world of fashion design but fetishism. In my late 20s I had the feeling that my sex life was boring and not satisfying. Therefore I decided to check out all sex stores close by and ended up in a fetish boutique. I was very fascinated by all the bizarre things I saw. A big collection of fetish magazines attracted my attention. In it I saw all the pictures from the fetish parties and knew instantly that I had to go to such parties.

What inspired you to create Superliquid?

My decision to go to a fetish party was fixed. But there was the dress code.

I was a single mother and my budget for an extraordinary appearance was rather modest. Therefore, I made my first outfit with PVC and garden hoses. People loved it and I loved the parties.

The inspiration to start Superliquid was by losing my job as a production manager in an advertising agency. This was the point where I decided to make my hobby a profession. I founded my latex factory in 1999.

What brought you to the idea of making designer fashion wear for people who are interested in feminization and sissification, adult baby fetish and medical play?

To make “fashion wear” for Sissies, Ageplayers and Medical Enthusiasts was a long way. I made bespoke orders for several years. This brought me very close to my customers. Slowly, I developed an understanding of the various fetishes. I learned that the outfits must have a function. I make items that serve the wearer’s fetish.

What inspires you?

I get inspired by my customers, because they are the experts. Most products where developed on the basis of a customer request.

Tell me about your product range?

We still manufacture a lot of bespoke orders. We mainly produce under the label KinkyDiapers leak proof diaper covers for the Diaper Lover Community. Further we have Rompers, Playsuits, dungarees, head and footwear for the Ageplayers. We also offer a range of Sissy dresses or sleep wear. The medical outfits are more likely a niche niche product.

What are your products made from?

The products offered by Superliquid are produced with 100% natural latex material. In other words: These garments are fabricated with a renewable and CO2-neutral row material, which has the inherent advantage, that it has been harvested by hand in an ecologically sustainable and nature preserving way.

What is it like to wear latex?

Since the end of 2016 our studio is located in Tallinn, Estonia. Each of our products is carefully made by hand. The question of how latex feels when it is worn, or what kind of feelings it gives to the wearer is very difficult to answer. This, you should ask my customers. The reasons why someone is wearing latex, and in what form, are very different. Therefore, the latex can trigger very different feelings and associations.

How does it feel to wear fetish wear which fulfills a person’s fantasy or desire?

This question is also hard to answer. I get many feedback from my customers, where the word happy often occurs.

Would you recommend other people try fetish designer clothing? How would you introduce fetish wear into a relationship?

From an objective point of view, regrettably fetishes are still subject to the ICD 10 standard of the WHO. Fetish has so far nothing to do with fashion. Having a fetish is like being gay. One is born with it. Would you advise someone to try it once with same-sex? The question of how to introduce a fetish into a relationship is however a very important one. In my opinion, it is important that you speak about your fetish as early as possible in a relationship. Unfortunately, many people still run away screaming when you tell them that you like to wear diapers, wearing pretty dresses as a man , or slip into the role of a toddler. Many fetishists secretly live their fetish. This leads to considerable psycho-social frustrations. It would be appreciated if society could be more differentiated with different sexual preferences.

Superliquid's Fetish Wear Dress
Image: Latex Sissy Dress By Superliquid

Superliquid’s designer fashion collaborate the concepts of latex and fetishes into the one product. What are the benefits of wearing latex for medical play?

I guess there is no advantage to wear latex medical items. It is just that there are people who have a medical and a latex fetish.

Women Wearing Latex Surgeon Costume
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We have seen famous celebrities in the media like Miley Cyrus and Melanie Martinez wear adult baby clothes in their music videos. Why do people enjoy wearing cute adult baby clothes? Is it a fad or a fetish or both?

In my opinion it is neither nor. The media always needs something new, preferably oblique. Since 50 Shades of Gray, the popular theme SM is boring. Let’s see what else there is. The adult baby is a very old phenomenon and many bABies are asexual. Therefore, I would not necessarily speak of a fetish in the context of an adult baby.

Superliquid has a range of Kinky Diapers, what are the benefits of wearing Kinky Diapers?

Due to the fused (glued) seams, our rubber pants offer a high level of protection against leaks from saturated diaper pads in comparison with under-garments put together with stitched seams. An optimal protection to prevent leaking around the upper thighs can only be provided by well-designed rubber pants.

All our pants are available in custom-made sizes according to the wearer’s measurements. Our diaper covers are durable to allow extended usage, do not contain any hazardous chemical softeners and are offered in many different colours.

What are your best sellers?

Our best sellers are definitely our lockable pants and in our category for adult baby clothes it is the Latex Playsuit.

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Servicing Mz Cherry With Leather Restraints

Brunette On Bed With Handcuffs

I​ ​couldn’t​ ​begin​ ​to​ ​relay​ ​how​ ​everything​ ​changed​ ​that​ ​night.​ ​As​ ​I​ ​surveyed​ ​my​ ​surroundings​ ​with ease,​ ​there​ ​was​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​calm​ ​in​ ​the​ ​night​ ​and​ ​nothing​ ​but​ ​the​ ​gentle​ ​hum​ ​of​ ​the​ ​central​ ​air conditioning​ ​broke​ ​the​ ​silence.​ ​It​ ​was​ ​almost​ ​palpable;​ ​the​ ​stillness​ ​was​ ​eerie,​ ​even.​ ​It​ ​was​ ​in that​ ​moment​ ​that​ ​the​ ​alarm​ ​sounded,​ ​and​ ​a​ ​man​ ​-​ ​wait,​ ​no,​ ​was​ ​it​ ​a​ ​woman?​ ​Entered​ ​through the​ ​doors.

He​ ​-​ ​She​ ​-​ ​came​ ​up​ ​to​ ​me,​ ​with​ ​long​ ​curly​ ​brown​ ​hair​ ​and​ ​feminine​ ​yet​ ​somehow​ ​masculine​ ​blue eyes​ ​and​ ​spoke​ ​softly;​ ​“Do​ ​you​ ​know​ ​anything​ ​about​ ​BDSM?”​ ​He​ ​-​ ​She​ ​-​ ​They,​ ​cocked​ ​a​ ​hand on​ ​their​ ​hip​ ​and​ ​tilted​ ​their​ ​head​ ​to​ ​the​ ​side,​ ​quizzically.

I,​ ​completely​ ​taken​ ​aback​ ​by​ ​the​ ​abruptness​ ​of​ ​the​ ​situation,​ ​somewhat​ ​bemused,​ ​simply answered​ ​“Yes.​ ​What​ ​would​ ​you​ ​like​ ​to​ ​know?”

It​ ​was​ ​those​ ​two​ ​questions​ ​that​ ​set​ ​the​ ​tone​ ​for​ ​the​ ​night​ ​and​ ​a​ ​journey​ ​into​ ​self-exploration, boundaries​ ​and​ ​knowledge​ ​were​ ​about​ ​to​ ​take​ ​place.

“Well,​ ​first​ ​things​ ​first,​ ​my​ ​name​ ​is​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry,​ ​that’s​ ​right.​ ​Mz​ ​with​ ​a​ ​M​ ​and​ ​a​ ​Z​ ​“,​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry said,​ ​as​ ​he​ ​-​ ​she,​ ​held​ ​out​ ​a​ ​limp​ ​but​ ​surprisingly​ ​large​ ​hand.​ ​I​ ​shook​ ​the​ ​hand​ ​and​ ​said​ ​“I’m Andre.​ ​Usually​ ​you​ ​put​ ​a​ ​little​ ​hyphen​ ​on​ ​the​ ​E​ ​but​ ​my​ ​mom​ ​was​ ​lazy.”

As​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​laughed​ ​I​ ​noticed​ ​that​ ​he​ ​-​ ​she​ ​-​ ​nay,​ ​he,​ ​had​ ​a​ ​sizeable​ ​Adam’s​ ​apple.​ ​My​ ​initial curiosity​ ​returned​ ​to​ ​what​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry,​ ​a​ ​frail​ ​but​ ​very​ ​tall​ ​and​ ​lanky​ ​man,​ ​could​ ​have​ ​to​ ​say​ ​about BDSM.

“Well​ ​I’m​ ​a​ ​submissive,​ ​you​ ​see,​ ​and​ ​I​ ​have​ ​a​ ​regular​ ​partner​ ​that​ ​I​ ​play​ ​with​ ​-​ ​oh,​ ​he’s​ ​just​ ​such a​ ​doll,​ ​and​ ​I​ ​wanted​ ​to​ ​get​ ​him​ ​something​ ​for​ ​his​ ​birthday​ ​that​ ​says,​ ​I’m​ ​his​ ​property​ ​and​ ​he​ ​-” Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​bent​ ​down​ ​at​ ​this​ ​part​ ​and​ ​whispered​ ​“owns​ me.”

I​ ​knew​ ​then,​ ​exactly​ ​what​ ​to​ ​give​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry.​ ​I​ ​led​ ​her​ ​to​ ​the​ ​BDSM​ ​wall​ ​and​ ​pointed​ ​out​ ​a​ ​dog collar​ ​and​ ​leash.​ ​“Nothing​ ​says​ ​ownership​ ​like​ ​a​ ​Dominatrix​ ​and​ ​his​ ​dog”​ ​I​ ​remarked.

“It’s​ ​just​ ​too​ ​mainstream”,​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​pulled​ ​a​ ​face.​ ​“​ ​Why,​ ​every​ ​Tom,​ ​Dick​ ​and​ ​Harry​ ​is​ ​out there​ ​walking​ ​their​ ​submissive​ ​on​ ​a​ ​dog​ ​collar​ ​and​ ​leash.​ ​I’m​ ​his​ ​and​ ​only​ ​his​ ​and​ ​I​ ​need​ ​him​ ​to know​ ​that.”

I​ ​knew​ ​that​ ​belonging,​ ​and​ ​feeling​ ​like​ ​you​ ​belong,​ ​or​ ​that​ ​you’re​ ​someone’s​ ​property​ ​was​ ​one​ ​of the​ ​main​ ​kinks​ ​of​ ​BDSM.​ ​I​ ​picked​ ​up​ ​a​ ​leather​ ​pair​ ​of​ ​hand-cuffs​ ​with​ ​little​ ​padlocks​ ​on​ ​them.​ ​I held​ ​them​ ​up​ ​to​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​triumphantly.​ ​“This​ ​is​ ​what​ ​you​ ​need.​ ​He​ ​can​ ​lock​ ​your​ ​hand​ ​cuffs and​ ​keep​ ​the​ ​key​ ​with​ ​him,​ ​and​ ​he’s​ ​the​ ​only​ ​one​ ​with​ ​keys.”

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Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​beamed.​ ​He​ ​flicked​ ​his​ ​hair​ ​and​ ​held​ ​onto​ ​the​ ​hand-cuffs​ ​with​ ​his​ ​red​ ​press-on​ ​nails. Then​ ​he​ ​pined​ ​“But​ ​I​ ​want​ ​something​ ​extra!”

“And​ ​why​ ​shouldn’t​ ​you?”​ ​I​ ​asked.​ ​I​ ​held​ ​up​ ​a​ ​whip​ ​from​ ​Hell’s​ ​Couture,​ ​60cm​ ​in​ ​length​ ​with​ ​a metal​ ​handle.​ ​“This”​ ​I​ ​said​ ​“So​ ​he​ ​can​ ​punish​ ​you​ ​when​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​be​ ​punished”.​ ​At​ ​this​ ​point Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​was​ ​positively​ ​ecstatic.

“Just​ ​be​ ​careful”​ ​I​ ​said​ ​“These​ ​whips​ ​can​ ​hurt​ ​quite​ ​a​ ​bit.”

“Oh,​ ​honey​ ​child,​ ​I​ ​like​ ​to​ ​get​ ​rough!”​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​exclaimed​ ​as​ ​he​ ​lifted​ ​up​ ​his​ ​sleeves​ ​to​ ​reveal welts​ ​and​ ​bruises​ ​along​ ​his​ ​arms,​ ​including​ ​several​ ​scratch​ ​marks.

“Wow,​ ​you​ ​certainly​ ​do.​ ​I​ ​just​ ​hope​ ​you​ ​guys​ ​have​ ​a​ ​safe​ ​word,​ ​while​ ​it’s​ ​important​ ​to​ ​push​ ​limits and​ ​boundaries​ ​in​ ​BDSM​ ​play,​ ​it’s​ ​also​ ​important​ ​to​ ​make​ ​sure​ ​the​ ​acts​ ​are​ consensual​ ​and safe​ ​for​ ​the​ ​couple.”​ ​I​ ​said.

“My​ ​safe​ ​word​ ​is​ ​‘peaches’”​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​said​ ​as​ ​he​ ​giggled.​ ​Satisfied​ ​that​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​was​ ​safe,​ ​I led​ ​him​ ​to​ ​the​ ​piece​ ​de​ ​resistance.​ ​I​ ​picked​ ​up​ ​a​ ​white​ ​box​ ​and​ ​showed​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry​ ​the​ ​label.

“This,​ ​is​ ​our​ ​Fetish​ ​Fantasy​ ​Series​ ​Rope​ ​Cuff​ ​&​ ​Tether​ ​Set.​ ​It​ ​comes​ ​with​ ​wrist​ ​cuffs,​ ​ankle​ ​cuffs and​ ​four​ ​rope​ ​tethers.​ ​It​ ​also​ ​has​ ​a​ ​free​ ​mask​ ​inside​ ​so​ ​you​ ​can​ ​feel​ ​absolutely​ ​helpless​ ​to​ ​your dominatrix,​ ​and​ ​give​ ​in​ ​to​ ​your​ ​sensations.”

Mz​ ​Cherry’s​ ​eyes​ ​lit​ ​up​ ​like​ ​when​ ​you​ ​hit​ ​three​ ​cherries​ ​at​ ​the​ ​pokies.​ ​“I​ ​love​ ​this!”​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry exclaimed.​ ​“And​ ​I​ ​know​ ​he’ll​ ​love​ ​this​ ​too.”

I​ ​knew​ ​then​ ​that​ ​we​ ​had​ ​satisfied​ ​three​ ​separate​ ​sexual​ ​themes​ ​of​ ​BDSM:​ ​giving​ ​and​ ​receiving pain,​ ​physical​ ​restriction​ ​and​ ​psychological​ ​humiliation.​ ​It​ ​was​ ​interesting​ ​to​ ​note​ ​that​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry himself​ ​was​ ​representative​ ​of​ ​BDSM​ ​sub-culture​ ​by​ ​resisting​ ​gender​ ​conformity.​ ​BDSM practitioners​ ​can​ ​often​ ​gender​ ​switch,​ ​take​ ​on​ ​a​ ​different​ ​gendered​ ​style​ ​depending​ ​of​ ​the gender​ ​of​ ​their​ ​partner​ ​and​ ​resist​ ​the​ ​idea​ ​that​ ​gender​ ​matters​ ​in​ ​their​ ​play​ ​partner.

As​ ​I​ ​packed​ ​away​ ​Mz​ ​Cherry’s​ ​items​ ​for​ ​him,​ ​I​ ​reflected​ ​on​ ​what​ ​had​ ​taken​ ​place​ ​that​ ​night.​ ​A coming​ ​together​ ​of​ ​knowledge,​ ​sub-cultures,​ ​so-called​ ​perversions​ ​and​ ​the​ ​idea​ ​that​ ​sex​ ​has boundaries​ ​and​ ​limits​ ​that​ ​can​ ​be​ ​pushed​ ​all​ ​under​ ​safe​ ​and​ ​consensual​ ​situations.

About the author: Isaac is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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