VIP Interview With Isabelle Deslauriers President & Founder Of Désirables Expérience Design Inc

Isabelle Deslauriers From Désirables Expérience Design Inc

Désirables Expérience Design Inc is a design company founded by Isabelle Deslauriers in 2011 who create all their products with love, passion, inspiration and integrity. Désirables specialises in designing adult lifestyle products that are made from ceramic, which is an environmentally friendly material that is also body safe. The sex toys they design are made with the well-being of people in mind – each and every products is finely handcrafted with ergonomic designs that are incredibly functional. Their sex toys use the idea that you are able to control the precise amounts of pressure to stimulate your erogenous zones. This is a VIP Interview with Isabelle Deslauriers president and founder of Désirables Expérience Design Inc.

Tell me about yourself?

Hello, my name is Isabelle Deslauriers and I’m the president and founder of Désirables Expérience Design Inc, better known as “Désirables”. I’ve studied interior and industrial design and I have a certificate in business creation. I’m from Quebec City, a gorgeous French & historic city in Canada. Apart from Désirables, my passions revolves around lots of good food, yoga and gaming on my PS4 every now and then. My father founded his company at our house when I was very young so I’ve always been interested in starting my own company.

What did you learn about the adult lifestyle industry when you studied Industrial Design at the University of Montreal?

I must say, the adult lifestyle industry is NOT something that you usually learn in Industrial Design, though I think you have a special program in Australia focusing only on sex toys. I had to learn more about this industry because I chose this subject as my final year project: How to create a bridge between design, sexuality and intimacy.

The first thing I learned was that there is really a style, an aesthetic appeal for everything. The industry is so huge that you have products for everyone in terms of looks and feel. I had to dig a little deeper to find the problems that I try to resolve with Désirables. With such a diversity in terms of materials, I wanted to know which one is perfect for internal use. That’s when I discovered the issue around Phthalates and “toxic-toys”. I also discovered some possible issues with repeated usage of vibrations. If you study sexuality as a phenomenon larger than just the act itself, you understand pretty quickly that you could learn something new every day for the rest of your life, because sexuality includes notions of biology, sexology, intimacy, spirituality and even neurobiology.

Did you always know you were going to create sex toys?

Until my last year of University I never tough of creating a sex toys business. With that said, during all my years as an industrial design student, I always found myself criticizing sex toys that I saw in design newsletter. So in my third year, my friends dared me to create sex toys for my final year project, the project that would represent me in all the design community. I like to tackle challenges and I’ve always been very curious about everything surrounding sexuality, especially since we don’t have a lot of basic sexual education in Canada.

What inspired you to create your own business?

The health issues that I found convinced me that I should use this project to start my own business, my solutions needed to be out there in order to give a healthier, more ethically responsible solution to everyone who would like a sex toy, especially people who needed to reconnect and rediscover their sexuality.

Adori By Desirables
Sex Toy: Adori
Massage Stones By Desirables
Sex Toy: ADORI

What was it like applying for grants?

I actually applied for grants while I was studying business creation, first because my teachers said that I could actually win this thing. But also because I’ve learn that if you don’t try the only reply you will receive is NO, but if you give it a shot there is a tiny possibility that you might receive a YES. Luckily enough, that year I received 3 grants that gave me the money and confidence to start my first production.

What was it like starring in Dragon’s Den? Was it scary? Would you do it again?

It’s definitely an experience I would recommend to any entrepreneur. I must admit that I wasn’t scared at all, after applying for grants and some contest I was already comfortable to do a pitch in front of potential investors. I think that what scared me the most was the reaction of the general public. The reaction was amazing and 3 years later, I still meet some people who recognize me from this show. Sex Toys Company presented by a young mid-twenty woman is definitely unusual. I would do it again, though we are actually thinking about starting a Crowd founding campaign for our next project revolving around pelvic floor health.

Sex Toy Pitch On Dragon Den
Photo: Isabelle at Dragon Dens

What is your design process like? What is your favourite part of the design process?

I love books and I love research, so the biggest part of my design process is research. I like to have a little information from every part of the “big picture” when I design. I must admit that at the time, I didn’t do enough research with actual people, I just asked everyone in my program what were their issues and what prototype they liked best. If I had to redo it, I would definitely talk to more people.

DALIA by Desirables
Image: DALIA Sex Toy Manufacturing Process

The design process for me was this:

  • State the issue that you want to tackle, do research to see if this is really the issue that people have (At the beginning I thought that the aesthetic of sex toys was the biggest issue).
  • Research.
  • Redefine the problematic with the new information we gathered.
  • Propose 3-4 different solutions for the problematic.
  • Choose 1 that inspires you the most, today I would use the Value Proposition Canva to help me choose what solution is the best to solve my customer problem.
  • A lot of sketches, then you select between 5 and 10 that you like the most.
  • Clay prototypes, because ergonomics in small scales objects is really essential. We wanted to create product that could be used by everyone at every age so we had to think about arthritis.
  • After that I would choose my final form and print it with a 3D printer to see the final details. You can also more easily validate the product once it is in this form.
  • We’re always in the design process even after a product is produce, for example, the Dalia that we are selling now is the fourth version since our launch. We take into account all our clients reviews and new technologies available.
  • In the end, I didn’t have to do a lot of back and forth with my initial designs because the research was so thorough that every seemingly aesthetic decision I made was based on research.
Adori by Desirables
Image: ADORI Sex Toy Manufacturing Process

For all our projects, for example every time we have to create a new packaging for the product, we print them in order to compare them and make our final selection. Never stay with your first idea folks; this is not how you can create real change/value.

What quote/s inspire you?

For Desirables, a quotes from Charles & Ray Eames always comes to mind:

“Take your pleasure seriously.”

Personally… I love the sarcasm of Oscar Wild:

“Be yourself, everyone else is taken.”

They inspire me because it is sometimes hard to stand by your ideas when these decisions are hard. We chose to make all our production here in Canada with local ceramist, most business advisor would tell us to go product in China in order to make more profit. In the entrepreneurial life, you definitely need some quotes to help you keep your authenticity because it’s easy to make a decision based on the money over the quality of life, ethics are hard to visualize in an excel sheet.

What materials are your products made from?

Our products are made in… PORCELAIN! This material is really underestimated in the sex toy industry. It has every feature you would like in a great toy: heat transfer capabilities (you can cool it or warm it), super easy to clean, non-porous (It’s been cooked twice between 1000 and 1400°C), hypoallergenic, body-compatible, it gives a gorgeous and luxurious look, and most of all…It can last a lifetime (and more).

Most people think that porcelain is very breakable, it’s only partly true. Porcelain is fragile to “shocks”, if you drop it on the ground it will shatter. But, in use it’s one of the strongest materials out there. That’s actually what dentist uses for replacing teeth, and now they even use it to replace bones because the body doesn’t reject is as much as the one made of medical stainless steel. Because we are such big believers in the power of porcelain and because we know that an accident can happen with your toys, we offer a 5 years warranty, no questions asked, on all our porcelain products.

Désirables Expérience Design Inc products are vibration free – Why is it important to use toys that do not have vibrations?

We discovered that excess vibrations can create problems for the user, gradual desensitization that create what it’s called a “Plateau” effect.  This means that with time, if you use vibrations regularly, you need to increase the strength of the vibrations in order to experience de same amount of pleasure. This is cause by the over stimulation of the nerves ending at the end of the clitoris. Vibrations are not inherently bad, it’s just the lack of information surrounding the use of vibrators that can cause harm in the long term. The mission of Désirables is to create tools to help people discover their body and take more time to experience pleasure. For me, vibrations carries a “performance issue” that place the achievement of orgasm above the pleasure of sexual encounters.

There are multiple benefits:

  • Firstly, for G-spot stimulation there is no nerve endings that could be stimulated by the vibrations. To orgasm from the G-spot, pressure is the key.
  • The absence of vibrations means that you will actually take the time to discover what brings you pleasure. Your partner cannot satisfy you if you don’t even know what you like.
  • You don’t have to upgrade to a new toy after a few months because the original one isn’t strong enough anymore.

What are your best sellers?

Our best seller is definitely the Dalia, our porcelain dildo. When I started, I was sure that our massage stones would be the biggest seller because it’s such an innovation. We discovered that it’s so far from what people are used to see that they don’t understand at first glance what their function is. In stores, our massage oil is definitely a big seller too, its fragrance is so complex and delicate that some people actually want to buy it as perfume! The texture is pretty amazing too. Like our porcelain product, our massage products are design to be hypoallergenic, without any additive.

Personal Massagers By Desirables
Buy Now | Sex Toy Store That’s Online

Désirables Expérience Design Inc had founded the Design & Intimacy Project – What is this project? How would you recommend couples communicate and use tools to explore their bodies for a better sexual lifestyle and relationship?

Actually this project is my Final Year project in Industrial Design, the project that started Désirables. You can find most of our findings in our booklets which are in every porcelain product box. In those, we give information about intimacy, sharing fantasies, the importance of using your 5 senses and even some yoga poses to help you release tension in your pelvic area.

What is your favourite moment from running Désirables Expérience Design Inc?

My favourite moment are definitely when I meet a customer in an event and they tell me how much my products helped them with their problems. From new moms to recently divorcees, I even had an older lady who just recently lost her husband and wanted to rediscover her sexuality. When I started this project I could never have imagine how much good design and a caring attention to details could really make a person’s life better.

Adultsmart would love to thank Isabelle Deslauriers for this amazing interview who is such a passionate inventor and entrepreneur. If you would like to find out more information about their company, be sure to check out Désirables Expérience Design Inc’s blog.ThankSave

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The Mystery Behind The G-Spot Revealed!

Women With Red Nails And Black Lingerie

While the G-Spot has always been there it is only in recent years that attention is finally being paid to this area of the female body. This article will explain the what, where and why of the G-Spot and will also recommend some specific toys that will pay special attention to this sometimes elusive erogenous zone.

What Is The G-spot?

The G-spot (also called the Grafenberg spot- named after German gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg) is a particular position within a woman’s vagina with increased sensitivity that reacts when rubbed, touched, penetrated etc.

There has been much debate (since around the 1940’s) as to whether the G-spot is real or not. Scientists have had difficulty defining the G-spots structure and make up as well as what it could be connected or linked too. Many say the g-spot could be linked to the clitoris while others say it is a female prostate.  Another issue is the ability to “test” and “prove” the g-spots existence. Most “proof” available is known as anecdotal (meaning that it is individual stories and accounts not a scientific study that can be recreated to prove results.) This doesn’t mean that the G-spot isn’t real, it just means that scientists aren’t able with the current technologies to confirm its existence.

Side Note: Some studies using ultra sound have found physical evidence of the g-spot in women who can achieve orgasms through vaginal intercourse.

Now while it may only be anecdotal evidence I can say that the sheer number of women who came into our stores looking for products that focus on the g-spot an claiming not only its existence but how it has changed their sex life, is well… a lot, and that’s all I need to know. When it doubt I always trust the person who owns the equipment to best know how to use it.

Where Is The G-Spot?

This is the million dollar question that has everyone wondering. Generally (and I mean generally it may be different for you) the G-Spot is located about 50-80mm inside the front wall of the vagina. For those of us who don’t want to get a ruler out during sex that is roughly the length of a female middle or index finger (yes I did measure my finger to double check.)

If you are unsure where it is, the best advice is, with clean hands do some personal investigation. It is very important you become familiar with your vagina, vulva and where your G-spot is. If you don’t know how can you give directions to anyone else? Once you have located your g-spot find what is pleasurable for you, is it tapping and penetration? Is it gentle massage? Or is it something completely different? Take the time to learn what your G-Spot likes so you know where it is, so you can pick toys that work for you and give partners direction.

Why The G-Spot?

So you’ve read all this and are thinking “OK but what is the point of all this?” The short answer is it will make your sex life better. The stimulation of the G-spot can increase sexual arousal, give you more powerful orgasms and may even allow women to ejaculate (squirt). Now as we discussed earlier there is varying scientific proof but the anecdotal (stories from people who have experienced it) it is overwhelming and most people who have experienced G-spot stimulation agree that all this can happen when the G-spot is used.

Where the G-Spot is Located
Diagram: Showing the G-Spot

A case study in 1981 reported “that stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall (where the G-Spot is located) made the area “grow” by up to 50% and that self-reported levels of arousal and orgasm were “deeper” when the G-spot was simulated.” What this suggests is that stimulation of the G-spot increases blood flow to the area and the increased blood flow heightens sensitivity resulting in a more powerful sexual experience.

Side note: I do want to take a moment to say that some women are unable to find or claim not to have a G-spot. Without understanding the G-Spot completely it is hard to understand why this may be. However I do believe that every woman owes it herself to at least investigate your g-spot.

Toys That Love Your G-Spot

OK now we know the what where and why of the G-Spot it is time to talk about some of the toys that will help you further explore this pleasure zone.

Nu Sensuelle G Massager Sex Toy Photo
Sex Toy: Nu Sensuelle G Massager

Brand: Nu- Toys for adults

Name: Sensuelle G

G-Spot Function: As well as being a vibe this toy has a rolling ball massager that creates intense G-Spot stimulation. With 3 speeds and 10 different functions this is a great toy for G-Spot beginners.

Svakom Trysta Sex Toy Photo
Sex Toy: Svakom Trysta

Brand: Svakom

Name: Trysta

G-Spot Function: A beautiful toy that also employs the rolling ball massager function. The Trysta is a compact little gem that also has a clitoral stimulator and is waterproof. Great for those who know what they have and how to use it.

Gigi 2 By LELO
Buy Now | G-Spot Vibrators Sex Toy Store

Brand: Lelo

Name: Gigi 2

G-Spot Function: The Gigi has a flattened tip which is perfect for exploring the G-Spot. It is waterproof and can be taken in the bath or shower. The Gigi is for the G-Spot that likes some focused vibrations.

Lelo Mona Wave Photo
Sex Toy: Lelo Mona Wave

Brand: Lelo

Name: Mona Wave

G-Spot Function: Where the Gigi brings the vibrations the Mona brings the “wave” function. This function simulates penetration and is designed to rise and plunge like “lovers fingers.” The Mona is for the G-Spot who doesn’t mind a bit of pressure.

ShareVibe By Fun Factory
Sex Toy: Fun Factory ShareVibe

Brand: Fun Factory

Name: Sharevibe Couple Toy

G-Spot Function: Amazingly shaped and flexible the Sharevibe isn’t specially made as a G-Spot toy (nor is it specifically made as any kind of toy) but it will do the job. The beautiful silicone toy has the ability to work on many different spots and on many different people. The Sharevibe is for the couple who knows the value of the G-spot but doesn’t want to ignore anywhere else either.

Loki Wave By LELO
Sex Toy: LELO Loki Wave

Brand: Lelo

Name: Loki Wave

G-Spot Function: OK hear me out! This is technically a prostate massager but just looking at this thing you know any G-Spot would love it. The Loki has the same “wave” motion as the Mona but also has a smaller vibrating shaft that would provide amazing clitoral stimulation. The Loki with a little imagination could be a great HIS AND HERS toy for those who want a little more luxury in their lives.

About the author: Jamie is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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JoyDivision BIOglide Making Love Naturally – A Different Type of Review!

Water Based Lube

Chapter One – The Stitch Up!

Thanks JoyDivision for sending this product for review – somehow I got wrangled into receiving it as a bit of a stitch up.  Yesterday morning I walked into my office to see a cute little tube of BIO Glide on my desk with a post it note attached ‘Product to Review – Minimum 800 words’.  Heck I write a lot, I write articles for other blogs, I write content for websites, I write product descriptions and I send out products to our reviewers who will then look, feel, see the product and write an instructive review.  Up until now though, I have never been given or taken a product.

As I picked up the cute little tube I could see across my desk Stephen having a bit of a chuckle – possibly at my expense!

I said, ‘Stephen who put this on my desk this morning?’

He said, “Your wife.”

I said, “But Stephen this is not my wife’s writing.”

He said, “Oh Yeah, it was Belinda and Maria.  They were laughing whilst they were doing it.”

I said, “Right, Ok then.  I had a bit of an argument with Maria last night.  Hmmm.”

He said, “I thought it was something like that the way they were laughing.”

Hmmm, I thought!  As I picked up and looked at the bottle.  My eyesight is not that great anymore and I could not read the smaller writing so I asked, “Is this a personal lubricant or a massage lotion or both.  I can see it is water-based but if I am to do a review of the product, I guess I should know where to use it.”

Stephen took the bottle from me, examined it and said, “It’s a personal lube.”

I thanked Stephen and carried on with my work until the early afternoon when Belinda entered our office with a big smile on her face – making a surprising impression of a Cheshire cat.

I said, after picking up the BIO glide, “Did you leave this on my desk?”

She said, chuckling, “Mrs. V asked me too.  She said it is something that she would really like as it is made organically”

I said, “I have no problem doing a product review and will make sure it is over 800 words but obviously you are aware that Mrs. V and I had a bit of a spat last night so I am not sure if this is the right product that either you or she wants reviewed at this particular time”.

Belinda laughed and we discussed issues relating to business.

My wife is a lover of all things natural, organic and holistic – however those words to me often mean more expensive, deceptive and no better.  That is not to say that some products that are produced in their purest sense do not have health or other benefits but generally there is little oR no difference.  The body naturally produces toxins that will kill you.  There are over 75 chemicals that are approved to use on certified organic foods and eaten by free range animals.  Of all the certified organically produced there are basically none that have not been in contact with pesticides or chemicals, however these pesticides and chemicals are restricted to a standards list both in Australia and the United States.  Organic foods generally will not be processed using irradiation, industrial solvents or synthetic food additives.

Sorry I went off on a tangent then – but basically as far as foods are concerned there is little evidence to suggest that eating organic is better for you in fact Associate Professor Samir Samman, from the School of Molecular Bioscience at the University of Sydney, says

“there is little evidence to suggest that organic food is nutritionally better than conventional food, especially in relation to fresh fruit and vegetables.”

In a major study that has been accepted for publication in the international scientific journal Critical Reviews In Food Science And Nutrition, Professor Samman and his team

“surveyed the international literature and critically evaluated the results”

and they aren’t heartening FACTS that the organics industry wants to hear.

In fact reviews and tests have shown that many non-organic and even synthesized products contain more vitamins, are more nutritious than their ‘organic’ counterparts.

Ethical lube
Natural lube

Chapter Two – BIOGlide Lubricant

So after Belinda left and with the word organic running through my mind I decided to do a bit of research on BIO Glide.  This product is made by JoyDivision, not the English Rock/Pop Band of the 70’s, but the German sex toy company that has been around for over 20 years producing products for great sensuality.  JoyDivisioin takes the manufacture of their products seriously and dermatologically and clinically test all their products before release to ensure they are body-safe and skin friendly which is good to know.

Presently they have over 250 premium products in their brand that are sold in over 60 Countries worldwide.  Positive social and environmental impact is at the forefront of their mission statement and they are official members of Unicef, Aidshilfe and Terre Des Hommes all organizations that ethically try to better the planet.

So the first thing I noticed on the bottle was a label saying CO2 Neutral sticker.  Mmmm, this is one I had not seen before so a quick bit of research informs me that this is a voluntary commitment by a manufacturer that due to unavoidable CO2 emissions made in the manufacture of this product that they will compensate by supporting a climate protection project in Bolivia.

-Rick thinks to himself!!!- (you gave this product to the wrong person Mrs V and Belinda).

So I research this further and the only reference to this project I can find is on the JoyDivision website from which I quote –

“Sustainable trading and a voluntary commitment to preservation of the climate are a matter of course for JOYDIVISION. Unavoidable CO2 emissions from manufacturing and transport are compensated by a climate protection project in Bolivia.
JOYDIVISION is investing there in the reforestation of native species of trees with an added social and ecological benefit. This benefits not only the climate, but also the biodiversity and the local people.”

So the CO2 sticker basically means that the manufacturer voluntarily is sending an undisclosed amount of money, or resources to reforesting Bolivia.  OK, I guess that’s nice!

BIO products are said to be made of the highest standard being a 100% natural vegan lubricant suitable for vaginal and oral intercourse (am not sure why it cannot be used for anal sex?).  It is safe to use with all sex toys and condoms and is highly effect – the catch phrase of 90% of all lubricants –

“with a little going a long way”.

What is interesting is that it is naturally certified by the BDIH.  To give you a bit of a background there were all sorts of certifications going around for sex toys and lubricants but in 2014 the German Institute of Dietary Supplements and Cosmetics developed the ‘Natural Product Standard’.  This certification offers the consumer a guarantee that the product is natural and also makes BioGlide the first lubricant classified as a ‘natural medical device’.

Additional information about BIOglide lubricant is that it is pH-optimized, developed with no animal testing, has no synthetics or chemicals in it.   It has supposedly won first place in Men’s Health magazine but I could not find out what the competition it won or anything related to BIOglide’s win online and a search on the Men’s Health site for bioglide came up with no results.

Best Glycerin
Why glycerin

So let’s get to the ingredients of BIOglide.  All water-based lubricants main ingredient is glycerin which is made from animal or vegetable fats.  This is the main ingredient of BIOgllide and the others are

Aqua – Water

Sodium Lactate – Saline

Xanthan Gum – Food Additive and Thickening Agent

Levulinic Acid – is an organic compound with the formula CH₃CCH₂CH₂CO₂H. It is classified as a keto acid. This white crystalline solid is soluble in water and polar organic solvents.

Sodium Levulinate – Is the salt produced by Levulinic Acid and used as a preservative and for skin care.

Lactic Acid – is an organic compound with the formula CH₃CHCOOH. In its solid state, it is white and water-soluble. In its liquid state, it is colorless. It is produced both naturally and synthetically.

So now I had researched the product and the claims that the manufacturer it was time to do the touch taste so I removed the seal and placed the lubricant between my thumb and other fingers.  It was soft and silky the way a personal lubricant should be.  Having worked in the adult industry for close to 30 years now I have tested a few and this one felt really good.  Then I dabbed a little on my tongue and it was slightly sweet – not sickly so – and certainly not unpleasant.

 

The next test I find the most important and that is rubbing it away with a paper towel.  If it is a good lubricant there still should be a residue and surely enough the residue remained so it certainly ticks the boxes in those three tests.  So there I was looking forward to going home and as soon as we put the kids to bed taking BIOglide on a road test with Mrs. V.

Chapter Three – The Train Wreck

Getting home at 6.30pm I made a bit of an event in asking my wife how her day had been and letting her know that I had taken home the product that I had been told to review.  Intimating how exciting it would be to road test a new lubricant.  We had dear friends and their family over and it was Pizza night.  They left about 8.20pm and we then powered through ‘The Block’ having pre-recorded it -for those readers not in Australia it is a type of home renovation series and by 9.40pm the kids were doing zzz’s in bed.

Excitedly I reminded Mrs. V about the product for review and she replied, “I’m too tired. Going to bed!”

Train Crash
Train Wrecked

With a quick peck goodnight, I poured myself another drink and watched the idiot box for another hour or so and then went to be as well.

 

So unfortunately Belinda and Mrs. V I am unable to present you with a full product review at this stage but await in anticipation to be allowed the avenue to fully test it.  That will make Chapter Four of the BIOglide review for the adultsmart blog.

Chapter Four – The Pre Test

So the following night – having presented Belinda and Mrs. V with my half-completed review via email I returned home after work at about 6.15pm in the evening.  Dinner had been prepared and was awaiting serving in the oven,  Mrs. V was with a friend on the balcony and I said ‘hello’ to them both giving my wife a quick peck on the lips.

I began walking back to the lounge-room when Mrs. V called out, ‘I have been getting phone calls from people telling me to read your review.”

I said, “Well you would have received a phone call from only one person as I only emailed the non-complete review to Belinda and you.  So what did Belinda have to say?”

She said, “That I have to read it!  I haven’t had the chance as I have had people with, all day.”

I said, “No drama.”

I played with the kids, and then we had dinner about 7pm. Just for some irrelevant information it was oven baked Chicken and baked lemon potatoes.  Actually quite yummy.

After dinner and washing up Mrs. V said, “I read your review. ”

I said,  “Did you like it?”

She said, “Sure, I guess we better road test the product so you can complete your review!”

I said, “That sounds like a plan.”

Chapter Five – The Road Test

After we put the kids to bed we lay on the couch and watched a mind numbing movie that Mrs V for some reason enjoyed.  It was called Due Date with Robert Downey Junior and the guy from Hangover.  I was not a great fan of the hangover series of movies and found this one even less impressive, but the wife liked it, so I tolerated it as it gave her some joy and laughs.  It finished at 10.30am and we then sat on the balcony and chewed the fat for about 30 minutes and then went to bed with my trusty container of BIOglide by my side.

 

After doing the mandatory brushing of teeth and other functions for hygiene and the body we went to bed and I asked, “Have you got one of your friends handy”.

lube test
testing lubricant

Look, I am a firm believe in sensual foreplay, giving a gentle erotic massage, some passionate kissing, exploring each others bodies so that both our desires are raised when the actual act takes place.   However, this we do when we have an hour (or a couple) to spare and explore each other to become more connected.  Sorry, after 11pm, and after a hard days work I am not that romantic person and will call in the big guns to help in the foreplay department.

Incorporating sex toys into our foreplay and love making techniques allows us to have fast sex without it feeling like a

‘wham bam, thank you ma’am’!

So Mrs. V grabbed one of her favorite Romant toys.  I grabbed the BIOglide and liberally applied it to the toy and gently lubricated her.  Maria likes mostly to use sex toys externally and is not big on inserting them, so my mate Romant went to work whilst I enjoyed the show.  After she was suitably turned on I applied the BIOglide to myself and we were intimate with each other.

Personally I am not a big fan of water based lubricants and I will tell you why.  Recently I read the results of a survey – it revealed that men that orgasmed during sex in under 4 minutes are said to have premature ejaculation problems.  Those that lasted between 4-12 minutes are considered normal.  Personally, I very rarely ejaculate in under 12 minutes and when we have time (and are not tired) enjoy have marathon sessions.

That being the case most water based lubricants dry up within a ten minute period and need re-application frequently thereafter.  As you reapply it dries quicker and becomes sticky, a feeling I find a total turn-off and to be quite honest quite disgusting.  We tend you use silicone lubricants as they

“last and last, and a little goes a long way”

as most lube product claim to – silicone actually does. But I have digressed again.

On application, like my previous test it was silky smooth – and to be quite honest was almost as good in feeling as a silicone lubricant.  It felt good and natural on the skin and it was all thumbs up from the starting point.  Unfortunately come around the 8 minute mark it began to become sticky and glammy and by the 10 minute mark we were re-applying.

This is a perfect lubricant for those that want to be intimate for 10 minutes or under.  For anybody that likes longer sessions I rate it 3 out of 5 because of the initial feeling and it is what I have come to expect from the majority of water based lubes on the market..

Mrs. V comments were, ‘It was really sticky – I don’t rate it.”  So I guess she is a harsher critic than me – or she has been spoiled too long with the use of Silicone lubricants.  Surprising though as it was ORGANIC!

Water Bottle Douching Techniques!

A heat wave had struck the city. Down in the streets below, t-shirts clung to the backs of the people passing by, an old man stood by a telephone booth fanning himself with a newspaper and a car honked as it almost slammed into an unruly cyclist trying to escape the heat.

Upstairs a barrage of deep tonal beats played throughout the air and an alarm sound resounded deep within the store; a young man with short cropped black hair, baggy jean shorts and a white singlet walked through the door.

He seemed very calm, serene like a drop of water dissipating deep within an ivory well. Beneath the surface there was curiosity, tumultously crashing over a perspicacious disposition. I approached him and asked if there was anything specific he was looking for, to which he replied; “Yeah mate, I need a douche you got one of ‘em?”

“Yes, right this way”, I mandated demurely. As I lead him to our douche stand, I pondered the intricacies of the young man’s situation. “Is this douche for yourself?” I asked him.

“Aw yeah mate, yeah I’m a bottom and I’ve got a partner like, he’s a top and so what that means in the gay community, like, is that during anal play, the top is usually the giver, and the bottom is the receiver so-to-speak. D’you know what I mean?”

“Yes, absolutely. And before any session of hot anal play it can be an absolute necessity to douche, to make sure that the sex is hygienic and that all flows smoothly and according to plan.” I replied.

“Too right, mate”, he grinned. “Poop and sex don’t mix for me, but hey, I don’t judge.”

“I’m glad you don’t judge, as this is a judgement free zone, as well as an Oh-zone.” I chided and we laughed boisterously.

I bent down to pick up some of the latest douches we had in store, packaged in clean, crisp white boxes with smooth designs and grooves. “Here we have the Adam & Eve EZ Anal Douche. It has a typical Anal Douche design, a bulbous lower section and a tube attached to the top with a fine nozzle. I believe it’s a 0.5” flexible and detachable plastic tip so you can remove it when you’re sucking water into the lower body of the douche, and reattach it when you need to insert the nozzle into your ass.”

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“Well, mate, the problem is I’m on the dole and I can’t afford to spend all my dollarydoos on a douche, like, I’ve got maybe 20 bucks to spend.” He said, scratching his chin.

“Ah”, I sighed. “When they say you pay for quality, and what you get is what you pay for, they couldn’t be closer to the truth. You could spend a decent $45 on this douche, have the maximum comfort possible for an otherwise discomfortable task or you could do what some of my friends have done in the past – And I really shouldn’t be telling you this – But in an emergency, a plastic water bottle works adequately as a douche. You’d fill up the bottle with water, place the bottle neck to your anus and …” I trailed off.

He winced sympathetically at the idea of placing a ridged bottle neck in or near a sensitive area like his anus. “Mate, y’ave convinced me, I’m gonna buy that douche but ya owe me a VB for what I’m dishing out.”

“I can’t promise anything, but I can promise that you’ll love this Adam and Eve EZ Anal Douche, and your partner will love you even more for it.” I winked. He laughed and as I packed away his douche for him, a soft fog rolled in from downstairs, lazily creeping up the stairs, signaling that night had arrived and the heat of the day had passed.

He waved goodbye to me and as the alarm sounded to signify his leaving, the deep tonal beats within the shop changed to a soft tempo jazz, saxophones blaring into the foggy ambience. I wiped clean the counter in front of me, slowly, precisely and the soft warbling of siren-song from the speakers shrouded me, superfluous and subdued.

About the author: Isaac is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Using Penis Plugs Safely!

Penis Plug Safety

Surfing the Net For Urethral Inserts

Browsing through internet sites for urethral plugs you will come across a multitude of styles, lengths and diameters and it can be quite daunting trying choose one – especially if you are a newbie.  Is it best to get a solid plug or a  hollow one that will allow you to pee thru it or cum whilst wearing it.  Perhaps the desired result is the exact opposite and you want a cum stopper plug that will impede the ability to ejaculate.  Each man is going to desire a different sensation and there is a insert that will help in achieving it.

 

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A tiny scratch or metal shard could have devastating effects when inserted into the urethra.  Start at the tip which is the first portion that will be inserted and work your way fully along the whole insertable shaft.  Take your time and do this each time you use them, it really is important.

When used correctly these providers of urethral sensations can give you great joy and sexual satisfaction but when used incorrectly can also provide extreme pain and suffering.  I know which one I choose so before using any Penis Plug, you should take time and read through some penis plug resource and information sites. This is very important especially because you will understand what should and shouldn’t be done. You should take this seriously especially if it is the first time you are using the device.

When you read these guides a lot of it will be common sense but trust me, you want to make sure that there is nothing you have missed out on about how to use them, how to care for them and what you may expect to experience.   The last thing you want is make a dramatic trip to the Emergency Room instead of experiencing the fabled ‘inside out’ cumming experience.

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So you have read up on how to use the plug and what to expect.  Next thing on the agenda is to sterilize it.  As it is going into the Urethra the plug must be completely free of any germs or bacteria and the best way to do this is place it in a pot of boiling water for 3-5 minutes.  This will ensure that your plug will come out squeaky clean.  Allow it to cool down and before use add some antibacterial personal lubricant.

If you do not happen to have a pot of boiling water available antibacterial sex toy wipes should do the trick or a liquid sterilizer like Methylated Spirit will suffice.  DO NOT use bleach or other cleanser that will cause you paid or discomfort.  Remember the urethra will absorb liquids and, seriously, you don’t want bleach going into your system.

After sterilization of your plug penis, it is recommended that the plug is wiped with alcohol swabs. Note that alcohol swabs alone might not guarantee the highest level of sterilization. You should not only pay attention to the plug, but also the penis. Using water and an anti-bacterial soap, wash your penis and hands. For extra caution, you may want to use gloves just to safeguard yourself. Don’t be in a rush, take your time and be cautious because it is very important.

To protect your organ from any injuries, use a sterile lubricant to smooth the walls so that the plug penis can slide in smoothly. While the lubricant helps in ensuring that the plug slides into place with ease and comfort, there a sterile formula ensures that you are guarded from any germs during this process. Be warned that non sterile lubricants should never be used, neither should you use saliva. It is just a matter of caution and ensuring that you don’t mess up your moment of joy by picking up an infection.

Finally, after use the penis plug, take time to sterilize the plug before storage. Keep it in a locked cabinet, free from children access. Resist the temptation of using the plug without having to sterilize it in future, assuming that they are still safe for use. Finally, don’t ever share a penis plug with anyone unless you are ready to share the infections as well.

So hopefully this has helped you out in your urethral sex toy journey!

 

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