The difference between a straight man and a gay man is that a gay man feels interested in other men sexually but often will accept a woman whilst the straight man feels interested in women only. But sometimes it is seen that the man who claims to be a straight man is actually closeting his true sexuality and may turn to other men some day. This has happened mainly because of homophobia, companies, friends or family not accepting the gay lifestyle. Due to the past discrimination people have felt that they could progress in companies by having a conservative family with two kids, a dog or cat and a loving wife and husband as it showed “commitment”. Gay people have also protected themselves from being assaulted, abused or looked down on due to their lifestyle choices but this has led to gay people getting married to women. Although sometimes, gay people don’t realise they are gay, until it is to late to change their wedding vows. Thankfully, we now have an open society that is built upon respect of society and cultural understanding of other people’s sexual lifestyle choices.
Inexplicably, they become true to themselves and come out that they are in fact gay and do not feel any interest in women any more having led a life’s lie. This often occurs with middle aged men who are married and then leave their wives and kids. They do not have a happy sexual life with their wife and are unfulfilled. They fail to fulfill the sexual want of their wives or themselves. It is actually a huge problem for the woman if her husband suddenly comes out gay man as for many years she has been misled and participated in an untrue life. The men do not mean to hurt their wives, they have just realised rather late what their sexual orientation is.
A gay man often has little sexual interest in the body of a woman but they can think like and also like the mind of woman. But married life needs the combination of mind as well as sex. So in any case when a supposed straight man comes out as a gay man, the wife of that man will feel the ultimate betrayal and deception.
If you are a married woman or a young girl and if feel that your husband or your boyfriend suddenly is acting strangely or making excuses to be apart from you then try to understand him and talk to him. Do not force him to love you as this is not the answer and will never work. It will make him feel trapped and disappointed and he may leave you sooner without giving it a chance. Never give him that chance if you want to get him back. Try to motivate him to open up to you slowly giving him the memories of your most lovely moments together. Give him enough time to understand that there is no turning back and slowly try to see that the life of a gay man can never be the same as with you. You can also try to bring the romance back into your relationship by going out for a romantic walk or both of you can watch romantic movies together.
If he is truly gay he will leave anyway and you are better off without him than living with someone and being with someone who is always fantasizing about someone of the opposite sex. Even so if a gay man and a straight woman sleep in the same room the whole night, there is no guarantee that nothing will happen between them. So there cannot be any kinds of sexual relationship between a gay man and a woman and only accept the relationship being of the friendship. But if your own loving person suddenly comes out gay because of hormonal imbalance or any other reason then you must take the necessary steps to either try to salvage the relationship quickly or end it permanently. The faster you can take that necessary step, the chances of his and your recovery will be increased. So do not delay if you notice any kind of gay characteristics or different interest in your male partner!