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About The Author: Emily is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Free Daily Masturbation Challenge

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I’m starting back with a classic article on a “July Challenge” that I set myself for fun, but thought it would make a great challenge for all! (and a decent article!). I realize we’re 11 days into July but if you’re really keen you can just go 11 days into August…
Challenge: Masturbate your way through the month
Are you finding that you have to do the same things every time in order to orgasm? Or maybe it’s easier to just do the same things every time because it works? Maybe it’s time to get to know yourself or your partner better with a little July Challenge… We’re all guilty of it – the usual, the standard, the routine, doing the same things… Whether it be during masturbation, during sex with a partner or friend, or even in less sexual aspects of life – we are all guilty of at some point doing the same things every time. Granted, it’s because we know that they work.  Maybe you know that if you put your We-Vibe tango vibrator flat side down, just above your clit you can have an orgasm in less than 3 minutes EVERY time, or if you manipulate your Chrome Curve at that particular angle, and thrust as fast as your poor little arms can thrust you’ll be done in 30 seconds… but what about those of us who’re feeling like we should mix up our routine, or try something different It’s time to set yourself a challenge, and what better time to start than the beginning of a new month. Open your mind to the possibility of trying new sex things whether it be with a partner, friend or by yourself. Challenge yourself to masturbate faster or maybe even slower. Get yourself out of that rut!
Here is an example of a weekly sex challenge that makes sex a little bit more interesting:
Weekly Sex Challenge
Challenge: Daily Sex for A Week
Below you will find a list of things to try to get yourself out of your Masturbation routine:
  • First and foremost: Switch up the kind of orgasms that you typically enjoy. Do you find that you can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation? Or maybe only from G Spot stimulation? Maybe you need both simultaneously – either way, change it up. Spend some time getting to know your body and practice, (yes practice), stimulating other parts of your body. Most likely, at first you will find it hard to orgasm, if at all. This is most likely a mental obstacle so make sure you’re really relaxed and have enough time to really get to know yourself. Try having multiple orgasms, or a prostate orgasm (for males). Try having an orgasm from thought only, trust me – it’s a thing to experience <— definitely worth a read.
  • Change your environment: get out of your bedroom and try masturbating in a different environment. Start with the bathroom, or the living room, then try getting more adventurous like in the garden or in your car. Trust me, there’s no better thrill than the slight chance that you might get caught!
  • Find a new ‘turn on’: What do you normally do to get yourself in the mood? Watch porn? Read erotica? Or maybe even nothing at all. Switch it up and find something new that you’ve never even thought of using as stimulus before. Pay attention to how it affects your sexual response and be surprised when you aren’t a one trick pony!
  • Go back to basics: We’re all guilty of using the same tools every time to get ourselves off. Go back to the basics. Use your hands and trust the fact that people have been using the same method for centuries – be patient… if you’re a tango gal, don’t be surprised when your fingers don’t start vibrating at the touch of the button. Refer to tip number 1 and be patient. If you ONLY use your hands, do the opposite of what I said and get your ass into your closest Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres and grab yourself a versatile toy like the Mona 2 and experiment with what feels right.
These are just a few ideas to get you started… If you don’t do anything halfheartedly (guilty as charged!) get yourself a calendar and set daily challenges, or even weekly challenges to overcome. Or if you’re a little too busy for that, set yourself mental challenges to overcome. HAVE FUN, and don’t be surprised when you realise there are so many more ways to masturbate than you originally thought.

About the Author: Chloe is a consultant at the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Sexual Perversion or Satisfaction?

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I recently read an article about a young lad who was most confused. He had discovered that his slightly older and more experienced girlfriend enjoyed tying him up to a chair, and using various tools and toys to either torture him, tease or tantalise. He was confused because he enjoyed it, but also because he wasn’t sure if it counted as sex. He was also confused because he was conflicted, he enjoyed the play, but he felt that it was perverted, dirty, weird and that in some way it was going to change him and how he experienced pleasure.

The idea of sex is something that confuses a lot of people. If you cross-interview sections of the population and ask them what they consider to be sex, you’ll get a myriad of different answers and opinions. These could range from penetrative sex, PiV sex, oral stimulation, Over the Sweater action, Bondage play and scenes and everything in between. Some people rationalize their sex life by insisting that anal intercourse is not sex, likewise there are many people that don’t necessarily view a BDSM scene as a form of sex. This article is not necessarily designed to settle that debate, to do so would be limiting, and would be detrimental to how some people view the idea of sex.

Regardless of whether you view the lads question as sex or sexual play, It is concerning to hear him suggest that he was worried that the enjoyment of this type of play was going to change him and that he saw it as perverted. We could assume that he has had a sheltered upbringing, and since his girlfriend was slightly older than him that she was trying to broaden his horizons, and introduce forms of play that she enjoyed. Firstly, let’s consider the idea of perversion; which a quick google search reveals that the definition is;

‘A sexual behaviour that is considered abnormal and unacceptable.

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It is therefore safe to assume that perversion is an individual opinion. Why? Because people, as demonstrated above, have varying degrees of sexual practices, experiences, likes and dislikes. An individual who thinks that anything other than Penis In Vagina play is abnormal is certainly going to have a mini heart attack if they were to witness a BDSM Tit torture scene with no sexual penetration. The thing is that sexual behaviour is so broad and whilst I personally believe that sexual behaviour should not be considered abnormal unless it deliberately and without thought places someone in danger, involves animals or children, or does not involve consent as in rape, many others will not see it as that. In other words, perversion is generally going to be considered when the sexual play is deemed as outside the personal comfort boundaries of the person considering it. The reason why our young lad is confused is because it is clear that it is outside his normal boundaries, however, he enjoys it.

It could be argued that he enjoys the relinquishing of control, that he enjoys the focus being on him and that his girlfriend enjoys that shift in focus, or it could be that he enjoys the challenge. Regardless of what specifically it is about this type of play that he enjoys, it is his journey and whilst he seems conflicted now. I can guarantee that his sexual pleasure will diminish his conflict and he will chase what he enjoys. It is a pivotal moment in his sexual development.  

So what’s the point? My point is that it is can be potentially dangerous and limiting to consider forms of sexual play as perverse. It is limiting in the way that if you view perverse as anything outside your normal boundaries then you in all probability won’t challenge them. Engaging in play that pushes your boundaries is not perverse, it’s not damaging, and the only thing it’ll change is your sexual play as you seek new forms of pleasure. In a way it’s broadening, you’ll find greater satisfaction both within sexual pleasure but also within life as it will balance things out. It’ll help you gain an understanding of what makes you, you, and it will exemplify both your individuality and cause you to be more in tune with yourself and your desires. Sexual play is an outlet of ourselves, and denying what gives you pleasure out of fear of having others think it is perverse will cause more disruption to your individuality than you think.

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