Guide To Finding A Mistress Online

Are you looking for a mistress, but don’t know where to start your search? Though Fifty Shades of Grey made it seem like a walk in the park, it takes a lot of work to find and attract a mistress who suits you. Even finding a good vanilla woman can be a challenge, so if you want to meet a mistress, you’ll have to put in some work. Most likely you’ll encounter a domme you’d like to be your mistress, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to become a reality.


Right now, dommes are in high demand. That being said, if you want to find a domme you connect with and will allow you to serve her, you’re going to have to put in work. Going online to find a mistress will undoubtedly help you expand your search for a domme who may be outside of your social circle. If you’ve decided to try finding a mistress online, good for you. But before you do, there are things you need to know about the online BDSM world that will help you find the right dominant woman.


Lose the assumptions

Whether you’re a submissive or not, we all have preconceived notions of how a domme looks and acts like. However, you need to lose the stereotypes you have in your head. Not every domme is wearing a corset and latex boots to work. Dommes come in a variety of shapes and sizes; some are dentists, others are stay-at-home moms. If you stick to your stereotypes, you’ll struggle to find a domme.


Be active

If you’re taking the search for a mistress seriously, then you’re going to have to put in some effort. You need to connect to BDSM and femdom dating sites which will help narrow down your search for the right domme. Going online cannot be a once-in-a-while event; you need to be social. Think of the online world as you would the real world. If you’re not going out to meet people, you won’t meet anyone. In the beginning, you may feel discouraged, but finding the right domme for you will take time.


What do you want?

This is an important question you need to ask yourself. If you’re new to BDSM, then you may not know exactly what you’re looking for. And that’s okay as long as you express this to your domme. However, there are some basic things you need to know. For example, are you looking for something just in the bedroom? Something on weekends? Do you want a casual relationship? A full-time partner? What are your sexual limits (if you know them)? By having the answer to these questions, there won’t be any disappointment later on.


Stand out

As we said, dommes are in high demand. Most dommes receive hundreds of messages a week from potential submissives. You need to focus on standing out from the rest. If a domme’s inbox is full of messages, why would she choose to read and reply to yours? Before writing a domme, check out her profile and get an idea of what she’s looking for, etc. When you write her, always be respectful. Yes, she’s a mistress, but she’s also a human being. If you’re opening line is, “you’re so sexy, I can’t wait for you to be my mistress,” chances are she’s not going to give you any attention.


Do your needs match hers?

If you’ve read her profile, you have an understanding of what she’s looking for. But, if her needs aren’t in line with your needs, there’s no point contacting her. Do not choose a domme simply because you want one. When it comes to a dominant/submissive relationship, there needs to be mutual understanding and a connection. If you’re aiming for a domme who doesn’t share the same desires, you’re not going to have an enjoyable experience.

Invest getting to know her

When you’re online, it’s easy to forget the person you’re talking to is actually a person. But a potential domme is someone who’s going to see you in your most intimate moments. After finding out what she’s looking for in the relationship, it’s important to know who she is. Think of this as you would any new relationship; you need to take some time to get to know her. If you don’t, you’ll lose a valuable part of the dom/sub relationship. Connection plays a significant role, and if you don’t nurture that area of the relationship, you won’t get the most from it.


Though the competition is high when it comes to finding a domme, it doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Take your time, be honest, and put in the effort. If you follow these tips, you’ll be well on your way to finding a domme who suits your needs.

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