Everyone wants to experience intense, orgasmic, sexual pleasure but sometimes we just need something much more than just sex. This article will look into 7 Effortless Ways to Have Mind-Blowing Sex how you’ve always wanted to. It will help you to focus on something more sexual then just physical pleasure.
Begin foreplay before you reach the bedroom: Foreplay can start much earlier before you even reach the bedroom. You can hint towards something a little more sexually fulfilling through text messages and by sounding sexy when you talk to them.
- Send your lover a passionate message: Send your lover a passionate message that will leave them thinking that their might be something more. For example “I am looking forward to seeing you tonight xoxo” or “I can’t wait to hold you in my arms.” It will make them feel sexy and wanted in all the right ways.
- Call them on the phone and talk sultry: Make your lover fantasies and think about sex all day by giving unexpected attention throughout the day. Talk in the sexiest voice possible to let them know you are up to no good.
Massage their whole body: When you are touching their whole body in an intimate massage, take your time to explore each and every single inch. During the massage you can passionately kiss different areas of their body as you go. Take this time to learn everything about how their body responds and you will be able to find all the areas that they will gain the greatest pleasure from. Use this to your advantage and stimulate these areas. If you are able to completely understand your lover’s body, you are also able to develop strong and meaningful feelings of trust which helps to bond the two of you together.
Give your lover your undivided attention and go slow: Ensure that during sex there are no unwanted distractions like TVs, radios and mobile phones. Play music that sets the mood. Take your time to be fully conscious of your thoughts, if you find yourself thinking about the past or the future take a deep breath and focus on the present experience. If you begin to worry about expectations or have negative judgements, try to clear your mind. Pay attention to every pleasurable sensation you feel during sex and how they affect you. Try having sex at a much slower pace so you can pay attention to every detail of pleasure.
Look directly into your lovers eyes with confidence: The eyes are often referred to being the “windows to the soul”. You can tell a lot about a person by their eyes. When you are having sex gently hold your partners face and directly look into their eyes, don’t look away. This experience may feel quite intense. Here are some reasons why maintaining eye contact helps produce incredibly deep feelings of connection and passion:
- Allows our bodies to pick up on natural responses: Our bodies can naturally pick up that someone likes us through noticing the dilation of their pupils. The bigger the dilation the more they may like you or the more they find you deeply attractive.
- Produces a natural chemical attraction: If you spend a long time looking into someone’s eyes, your body will produce a chemical named phenylethylamine (PEA). It is known as the “falling in love” chemical as it enhances the feelings of attraction.
- Establishes an emotional connection: Looking at a person’s face is more likely to produce feelings of emotional connection whilst looking at their body produces more feelings of physical desire. Art Aron a Behavioural Psychologist at the State University of New York found that when you pair two people who had never met and ask them to look into each other’s eyes without talking for two minutes, the pair gained feelings of bonding and closeness.
- People in love maintain longer eye connection: Harvard social psychologist Zick Rubin studied couples who are in love and found that they maintain eye contact 75 percent of the time. He found the more eye contact they made the more they had feelings of love. When someone else joined the conversation, he found the couple took a longer time to look away from each other.
Make it hard to look away: When you do wish to look away, take your time to slowly draw your eyes away almost as if you are stuck to their eye contact. This will make both of you, notice the emotional pull within the moment. When you attempt to look back into their eyes, it will thoroughly turn your lover on even more.
Take away your partners senses: If you take one of your partner’s sense away they will be able to focus more attention to the sensations that are available to them. This will in turn heighten their sensation to feel stronger. For example, if you blindfold your partner it will take away their sight their sense of pleasure will be increased.
Delay their orgasm: Spend longer amounts of time providing them with foreplay until they beg for more. You can bring them to the point where they almost orgasm and slow back down which will prevent them from reaching orgasm. The more time you spend delaying their orgasm the more sexually intense the experience will become when they do. Foreplay can be made much easier with the use of couples sex toys.
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