As of today I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for over four months as he undertakes military service overseas. It is through my experience with my boyfriend and his many trips away, that I have been able to understand my customers and their needs in a long distance relationship. So, today I thought I would talk about some things that could keep your long distance relationship flourishing.
Love Letters
Today’s technology makes it so incredibly easy to communicate across long distances. However, it might be the hopeless romantic in me, but there is nothing like receiving a hand written love letter in the mail.
While there’s distance between you and your partner, you could take it old school and become pen pals. Although there’s definitely still a place for phone calls and Skype sessions, letters create a more intimate form of communication that can be kept, and serve as precious memories from the past to look back on.
When my boyfriend first went away I wrote 32 envelopes for him to open – one for each week he’s away. For example, I wrote on the front “Open when you’re sick” and had a tissue, a nice letter for him and his favourite, and butter menthols. On another, I wrote, “Open when you’re wanting some sexy time”, and I think you can just imagine what I had in that letter.
Create a Countdown
It’s crazy, in today’s modern world there are so many ways to stay in touch and on the same page as your partner. You can both download apps on your phones that can count down the days until you reunite once again. Or you can do it the old fashioned way, and create a countdown with a physical calendar. I find the time goes much quicker when you’re counting down the days until you get to see your lover again, and it’s also something you can do together and talk about.
For me, I count down in percentages – I’ve always been a math geek. As of today, I have endured through 55% of the total time that my partner is away (woohoo!).
Date Night
Date nights aren’t just for when you’re physically together. You can have a nice little Skype session where you watch the same movie and drink some wine together, and just catch up on what you’ve both been up to. After the movie you could also surprise your partner with some sexy lingerie, or show them that new toy you bought the other day at one of our stores – the possibilities are endless.
A new sex toy that would be great for this, and that has been highly spoken about, both throughout our blog and pretty much everywhere else in the adult world, is the We-Vibe Sync. I won’t go into too much detail, but this toy could take those sexy Skype conversations up a notch, and ultimately transform the way you and your partner interact in your long distance relationship – you can also use it together once you and your significant other reunite.
Send Your Partner Your Fragrance
We all have a different type of fragrance that we wear. When another person is able to smell the fragrance they are able to reconnect with the memories of their partner. This can help each partner remember their true feelings of love and connection. Fragrances can also help people fall to sleep easier as they can bring feelings of calmness. You can buy fragrances with added pheromones to make them really want you.
Leave a Voice Mail Message
Leave a voicemail on their mobile with a love message, words of encouragement and other hidden gems that are just between the two of you. Give your long distance relationship something to play back to them when they need to hear words of encouragement or to remind them that someone is there for them.
Explore Your Independence
If you’re in a long distance relationship, chances are, it has an end date. Take this time to work on yourself both professionally, physically and mentally – become the best version of yourself for when your partner comes home. Not only that though, take this time to travel or do something that you enjoy. Eat that whole pizza and follow it up with some doughnuts. Or better yet, create that hot booty you’ve always dreamed of. Do something for you that makes you happy.
No one wants to be in a long distance relationship, but through coincidence, responsibilities or opportunities, sometimes we can find ourselves in this predicament. I’m not saying that long distances are horrible. I believe that the distance between my partner and I has ironically brought us closer than ever.
If you find yourself in a long distance relationship, just remind your significant other that you care, because ultimately it’s the little things that make your relationship exciting.
About the Author: Ebony is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres
Jennifer is a marketer at Adultsmart! Embracing a non-judgmental stance, she believes in pleasure without limits—if it feels good and right, why not?