Lingerie Confidence

My partner always knows when I’m not feeling well or life is getting me down. Why? Well, I go on a shopping spree and I buy new underwear. I buy everyday underwear, sexy underwear such as jock straps and cock socks to show off what I have. Some people buy jewellery or shoes, some people buy clothes, others buy food or new games or something to make us feel better. Underwear to me is important, it makes me feel desirable, hot, sex and confident. Subsequently, I feel that lingerie in a relationship is important and I’m not alone in this thought.

Suzie, self-described as a love strategist, writes in her article ‘Why Lingerie is important in a relationship’ that wearing lingerie shouldn’t be a special occasion thing. It should be an everyday thing. She writes that when she saved lingerie for special occasions in her marriage, due to the various issues that they’d have that special moment, wouldn’t materialize. After her marriage, she decided to wear the lingerie everyday as she had drawers full of unused pieces. She writes that she discovered new parts about herself, that she felt more confident, became more flirtatious and subsequently she began to project a new image and personality into the world.

Charles J.Orlando suggests that lingerie is an excellent spice up to the bedroom for couples. It provides a sense of empowerment and confidence and it makes a delightful gift. I like to call this “Lingerie Confidence“. Have you been the airport recently? Did you know that there is a Victoria’s Secret in both the Domestic and International Sydney Airports? This trend is continued in Melbourne, Perth, Brisbane, Gatwick (London), Heathrow, JFK Airport, Dubai, Paris, Auckland, Rome. . . it is thus clear how important a place lingerie can be in our lives


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At Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres especially in Kogarah and Caringbah we have tens of thousands of pieces of lingerie for both men and women with new styles coming in regularly. It is the warehouse for our online lingerie shop. Rather than putting everything out, which can be both confusing and space limiting, we provide our clients with a digital catalogue which they can look through and we can locate the pieces for them in our warehouse. Because shopping for lingerie can be confusing, and you don’t want to go home with the wrong piece here’s some helpful hints when it comes to lingerie shopping for both men and women. Get some Lingerie Confidence! We have brands like Fantasy Lingerie, Leg Avenue, Baci Inimates and Andrew Christian just to name a few.

  1. Size: Know the size you’re buying for. Time and time again i’m forced to open up some lingerie and their partner will guess the size, i’ve even had to resort to picking other people in the store and comparing body sizes! Go too small and you’ll make them think they’re fat, go to large and it makes you look like you think they’re fat. Plain and simple, get the right size. Look through your partners clothes and get an idea as to their size. For men’s stuff look at the jeans sizes and underwear sizes, for women look through their bra sizes and other lingerie pieces.
  2. Assets: Emphasize their best assets. If he has the best ass, go for a jock strap, if he has a great cock, go for something sheer/netted in the front or get something, like Andrew Christian which favourably lifts and pushes. For women, if she has amazing breasts go for something plunging with an under wire, or if she has long luscious legs go for high cut underwear, or a low cut piece. By highlighting their best assets you are bringing enormous confidence to the table. You’re saying, i love your ass, lets show it off. Wearing lingerie is only half of it, if they feel sexy in what they have bought or what you have bought for them, then both of you will be well rewarded.
  3. Be Comfortable: In the same token, if they’re sensitive about a particular body part then you need to accommodate for that. If he doesn’t like his dick, then something sheer isn’t going to give him confidence. If she has scarring from a caesarean, or feels that she has a big ass, then a two piece set with a thong isn’t going to work, regardless of whatever you think, you need to be mindful as to how they feel. For tummy scarring go a sheer loose fitting chemise or a lace body stocking if it’s only the scarring that they are concerned about and not tummy size.
  4. Colour: Consider their favourite colour and what looks best. If they’re pale and white, yellow is probably not the best option. Have a look in their wardrobe and what they’re comfortable with. If you’re considering something a little risque and out there, consider their confidence levels and whether they’re going to trust what you’ve picked. When in doubt, get two; the out there option and the safe option.

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Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

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