If you haven’t read any of my reviews before and know nothing about me, I am a 24-year-old lesbian who owns a lot of sex toys. A lot of them being strap-on related products. Today I am going to be telling you all about my experiences with lesbian sex toys and strap-ons, which ones I recommend. And which ones I think shouldn’t even be allowed to be on the market.
Over the past 2 and a half years I’ve been working at Adultsmart I have learned a lot about the different types of adult products that are available to us. I can’t even tell you how many there were that I never even knew existed. There still is for me to learn.
Double Ender Strap On Story
We all need to start somewhere I guess. It all began when my first girlfriend took me to the Gold Coast for my 20th birthday. We decided on the plane that we would go straight to condom kingdom and pick out our first strapon together.
I can’t quite remember our thought process and how we ended up with the grossest double ended strapon in the shop. But this is what we ended up wasting our money on.
I remember us getting to the hotel, opening the box and taking out this jelly looking double-ended penis with stretchy straps.
It Didn’t Look Safe
Within 5 minutes of looking at it, the girlfriend made me run across the road to the closest convenience store to purchase some condoms to throw over the top of it. Because she didn’t trust the material.
She already owned a few vibrators and I had 0 experience. So I trusted that she knew what she was doing and I let her take control of the night. She then told me to put it on so we could give it a go.
Here came the next problem of the night….
Damn straps wouldn’t fit me!! In the end, it ended up being super uncomfortable for the both of us. The straps didn’t fit me at all and were flimsy for her so there was no support.
Dildos didn’t feel that good for either of us so we gave up.
A few months had passed, we were going to give the ugly purple thing another go. But when I pulled it out of the drawer that we had hidden it in I noticed the toy was no longer purple.. it was brown.
Straight into the bin, it went.
That was the only toy I had used before working in an adult shop
Honestly it made me never want to use one again. If I hadn’t started working here I don’t think I would have tried again. This is the reason I’ll usually warn first-time sex toy users, if you want to buy a cheap toy because you want to see if you’ll like it first.
DON’T. Because then you will most likely hate it!
You are so much better off spending that little bit of extra money on a toy that you are more likely going to enjoy. And that you won’t have to replace after a few months.
Do Your Research
Read reviews and look into brands before deciding on buying a toy instead of buying cheap rubbish that turns into poo after a few months… Trust me!
I personally have a checklist of 5 things that need to be ticked off before I purchase a toy.
- High-grade silicone, glass or steel.
- 100% Waterproof.
- Rechargeable.
- Warranty.
- Quiet.
Lesbian Sex Toys: Strap Ons for Girls
I will be completely honest though, I personally hate all types of double ended strapons because they have all failed in different ways for me.
Within the first few months of working here, I decided to give the Fun Factory strapless strapon a chance. It ticked all the boxes. But it still just wasn’t right for me.
It was uncomfortable. Every time I used it I ended up with a bacterial infection because of the crossing of bacteria between me and my partner. I couldn’t hold it in for the life of me. It would fall out at least 5+ times during play because my pelvic floor wasn’t strong enough.
BUT you need to get through a storm to get to a rainbow.
I now only purchase straps and dildos separately because usually when they come together either the straps suck or the dildo isn’t good quality. When I want me and my partner to both have internal stimulation I will wear my We-Vibe Sync. Then I will put my straps and dildo on.
I have owned the Fun Factory sex toy harness for about 2 years now.
They have been the straps that get the most use. I bought the rodeo underwear harness because it was everything I wanted and more in a harness (looks wise). But as a harness it was terrible, there is absolutely no dildo support. Now they are just the most expensive pair of underwear I own.
Being Comfortable is Important
When I wear my Fun Factory straps I also wear a pair of male underwear underneath. Because that’s what makes me feel comfortable. I totally recommend you do the same if you are into the more masculine harnesses.
They are machine washable which makes it easy to keep them clean all the time and they are adjustable around the legs and waist. So even if I eat a few too many McNuggets that week they still fit!!
Fun Factory is one of those great sex toy companies who are getting it right.
Recommended hardness brands (masculine & feminine)
- Fun Factory Harness.
- Liberator Harnesses.
- Calexotics Harnesses.
- Sportsheets Harnesses.
Recommended dildo brands
- Fun Factory.
- BS Atelier.
- Tantus.
- Evolved.
Many customers tell me that they throw away their dildos after breaking up with different partners. Look, I definitely understand it if it’s an emotional thing. But if it’s a hygiene thing then please don’t if it was an expensive dildo!
High-grade silicone can be boiled to sanitize.
So just boil away those bad vibes and put your dildos back in their hiding spot!
How To Make A Lesbian MOAN!!
Firstly, a quick shout out to Stephen for all the blog ideas! I’ve been trying to come up with something new to write about other than my usual toy reviews.
I know it is every straight man’s dream to be taught how to make a girl orgasm by a lesbian. Seriously though, if this post gets your penis in a twist and you feel less like a man after reading this. Then honestly you should know I don’t really care and you should probably grow up.
So, my friends get your notepads ready
Because I am about to give you all the tips and tricks on how to make your queen orgasm without a penis. I know for some men this might come as a shock to you as I have heard a lot of you think that the only way is to stick it in and go…
Well, that definitely is not the case.
Before I start though I just need to quickly clarify that I’m not going to sit here and tell you a list of all the stuff I personally like. Because we all get off to different things. What I will do though is tell you all the things you definitely shouldn’t do…
^^^ Just in case you forgot what a vagina looks like.
Oral Sex
I understand when people watch porn to teach themselves how to give a good blowjob or handjob.
Obviously, a lot of men watch porn and get off to the facial expressions the person’s making while they’re giving head and whatever it is that they’re doing with their hands or mouth. But honestly, it doesn’t matter if I am watching straight or lesbian porn, I usually skip past the scene where the girl is receiving oral because it makes me cringe!
Usually, you can see what the persons tongue is doing and the facial expressions that they’re pulling while they’re doing it. Most of the time it looks horrible.
If someone did that to me down there I would probably just laugh. I also know some tv shows and magazines tell you to do the alphabet… DON’T! Unless you really want to look like a clueless twat.
Build-up is key.
Tease your girl and take it slow. Show her that you’re there because you want to be and that you’re prepared to be there all night if she wants you to be.
No one should feel rushed and under pressure when they’re most vulnerable.. Unless it’s a quickly before work or something like that. If you make her feel pressured then you’re most likely not going to have her relaxed enough to orgasm.
Plus, when you build up an orgasm it makes it a much stronger and enjoyable one at the end.
G-spot
As you can see in the image above the G-spot is located at the top of the vaginal wall. It only takes about half a finger length to find it. Once you have inserted your fingers, do the come here motion to push up against the G-spot.
G-spot will feel like a rough bit of skin whereas the rest of the area feels quite smooth so this should make it a lot easier for you to find it.
On that note, I never want hear someone complaining about dick sizes ever again. It’s not about the size, it is about how it is used. I usually ask the woman who complain that their partners of 20+ years haven’t made them orgasm. If they’ve ever made themselves orgasm and the answer is usually no.
I’m sorry but if you don’t even know how to please yourself, then how do expect someone else to?
My favorite part about the beginning of any of my relationships has been the first few months of learning each other’s bodies. Teaching each other how we like to be pleased.
Listen and observe how your sexual partner is reacting to the different things that you are doing. Try and remember the things you did that she liked. Damn it if she tells you to go harder, faster or to continue doing that exact thing you’re doing, don’t think it’s a great idea to change it up or stop!!
Learning/teaching stage might be a little awkward at first
But at least you’ll have a laugh together.
Honestly, this ends up helping you in the long run when it comes to feeling completely comfortable with each other. This will help quiet down that little voice inside your head that likes to scream all your deepest, most painful insecurities at you while you’re trying to cum!
Extra tips
- Labia stimulation.
- Urethral stimulation.
- Arch her back for easier access to the G-spot.
- G-spot and clitoral stimulation at the same time (the G-spot and clitoris are connected).
- Use toys during foreplay to add to the fun.
- Make her wet before penetration.
- Don’t bite unless she asks!
One last tip…
A blessing in disguise that most people don’t take advantage of… LUBE!
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